My inbox collects a lot of stories and questions... and I think they'd be put to better use anonymously shared with the whole crew. Let's dip into some listener feedback and questions today, asking "Do I have CPTSD?" "How do I understand my partner better?" and "How do I cope in this relationally destabilizing time?" Wanna get your own recorded feedback? Submit your message at t-mfrs.com or traumatizedmotherfxckers@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

So you're doing your damndest to be "your best self." Maybe you're confident and comfortable in your identity these days. But, at the same time, you still find that self-condemnation is a big part of your day to day. Why?  Let's talk about self-judgment taking place on subconscious levels. How your identities mask the ongoing self-loathing that created them. And how to heal that shit, once and for all. Up for making big changes? Get started with us at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Today, sharing a mini essay I wrote for another platform, where controversial perspectives are the topic of conversation. In so much of this "trauma recovery game" we're inspired to hunker down against past patterns. But is that really healing? Want more Traumatized Motherfuckers? Join the Patreon to get hundreds of past episodes, weekly releases, and a part in supporting this DIY show. Or find more info on the project at t-mfrs.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Ever feel like you've got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that's normal.  Today, let's talk about Internal Family Systems and the roles cemented in your brain. Protectors, Exiles, Distractors, and their vicious cycles that leave us feeling out of control of our own noggins. Plus, how to work with them, instead of hosting raging battles inside forever. Looking for more deets or just want to help support this solo-DIY project? It's much needed and appreciated. Hit up patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to keep the knowledge spreading through diverse social systems.  Check t-mfrs.com for more info on the whole community healing project. 🍻 Cheers y'all Jess --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

When your brain is a spiralling hellhole of "not good enough, never have been"... sometimes you withdraw. When that shitscape is finally over, it's time to reconsider the hiding you've been doing.  Let's talk about what happened in those isolative times '21-22 and the sudden re-release of episodes from the beginning days of this accidental podcast.  Stoked to get better acquainted... and hail yer damn Self, Fuckers.  Cheers MFJess --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Surprise, we're back! Keeping up with the private stream's topic of the month, we're here to talk about Loneliness.  Let's discuss the varieties of loneliness, the trends that start in childhood and pervade a lifetime, and the separate condition known as Isolation. Plus, how being a relational castaway can actually benefit our post-traumatic growth (whaaat).  Looking for all the details and community reflections on these lifetimes of loneliness? Find em at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers - promise you'll feel less alone. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Let's talk about the opposition we face during trauma recovery - namely, from our social contacts who aren't ready to have their own histories and perspectives pulled into focus. And, let's discuss the reason why the battle is worth all the effort. Don't give up, brave Motherfucker. Remember that what you're doing matters. For everyone. ✊ Related eps: perspective series, filial obligaton series, brain programming series, family hijinx series, NC eps, refind yer Self series, inner and outer work series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

So we do this painful and energetically expensive inner work. And then what? Return to the same old lives? Naw, Fucker. That's the fastest way to hit "revert to draft." Once the integrative inner work starts, the outer labor has to keep up.  Let's talk about supporting our brain changes by building new lives, to enable further cognitive evolution as we keep stepping.  Related eps: inner and outer work series, refind & empower yer Self series, re-association eps, confronting common human fears ep, early season motivation eps --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Aiming for recovery, but finding that you never have the conditions to make progress? Let's talk about what it takes for a brain to heal. The basic mediums of life that most of us are unable to access in our traumatized society.  Related eps: time distortion series, "rat cage" societal trauma series, inner and outer work series, refind yer Self series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

A brain is busy with all those survival processes running in the background and the second-by-second management of triggers and symptoms. So what happens when that system gets overloaded? Today, we're talking about the pattern of symptom masking/ignorance, overcompensation, loss of functionality, and eventual collapse. And how does "resilience vs. resistance" change our perspective? Related eps: brain operations series, perspective series, inner and outer work series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Back to this self-limiting conversation... what happens when our "selves" are limited by incohesion? When we have inner wars over "the right thing," or oppositional memory and emotional responses confusing every issue? Let's talk about the battle that rages inside. Revisiting "parts" and how they're the crux of pulling your shit together for long-lasting recovery.  Related eps: fragmentation series, DID series, find and empower yer Self series, inner and outer work series, derealization and depersonalization eps --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

You've decided to enact new behaviors to change your life... only to find you can't actually put them into practice. You stall out and revert to old programs to your own bewilderment. Something is stalling progress from the inside. Let's talk about self-limiting strategies for living spawned by trauma. And the ways they become "default modes" of daily existence.  Related eps: self-limitation series, the cages we create ourselves, refind yer Self series, inner & outer work series Ready to retrain your brain and behaviors? Talked a lot about these topics, and highly recommend diving deeper for reflection. Hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the full series on this subject.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

So we all have a penchant for fear, it's a foundational aspect of PTSD. But what happens when our brain relay system is wonky due to those adaptations?  Let's talk about the faulty DMN. How it throws us into disjointed memories, disables continuous autobiographical recall, explains poor sense of somatic (bodily) self, and interacts with those pesky sub-sensory threshold fear triggers. Reflect on this one, it'll explain a lot. Related eps: DMN ep, entrapment series, developmental biology and disassociation eps across seasons --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

We know, trauma brains create patterns that can stall us out and keep us stuck. This is especially true when talking "relationships" of all forms. Unfortunately, leading many to feel permanently socially-tethered, personally incapable, and suicidal, instead. Today, let's talk about how relationships often corrupt our lives, how to re-work them, and when it's time to say goodbye - all for recovery's sake.  Related eps: relationship obligation series, covert abuse series, brain patterning series, filial obligaton series, self-limitation series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

The time comes for all of us; the family call to duty. And then what. We know it's going to trigger unwanted trauma reactions. But resisting often feels futile, immoral, and socially-punishing. Let's talk about the dangers of family re-immersion for a healing trauma brain and what we can do to protect ourselves before the filial phonecalls start.  Related eps: filial obligation and entrapment series, family brain hijinx series, fawning series, brain operations series, social psychology ep --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Perspective; A word with many meanings, depending on who's speaking it. Namely, the bane of, "that's just ONE perspective." Let's talk about the real definition of the word, how it pertains to post-traumatic stress development, where attention vs. willful ignorance comes into play, and how no one can ever have your irreplicable perspective. Trust your guts, Fuckers. You know where you've been.  Related eps: perspective series, time distortions series, covert abuse series, family brain hijinx series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Have you been struggling to make meaningful progress? Well, these global events don't help. Especially when they feel so... family-iar... to our trauma brains.  Let's talk about the semi-accepted phases of trauma recovery - destabilization, processing, and integration. And how societal systems keep bringing us back to square one. Related eps: "the rat cage" societal trauma series, refind yer Self series, inner work series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Ever doubt that "it was significant enough to count as t-word"?  Well, the key word is significance.  Let's break this down simply and talk about what really creates PTSD; our brains' subjective experience of fear and the meaning we give events (and ourselves) in the aftermath.  Related eps: filial obligation and entrapment series, perspective series --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

We're back! Let's wrap up a year of in-depth trauma research and community insights with a new season.  Free holiday support Discord server: https://discord.gg/5AYuCuQRhn  Public holiday episodes (browse or search "holiday"): patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers Full episode guide: https://www.t-mfrs.com/epguide Ho-ho-ho, Motherfucker. I'll see you there.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message

Convinced you aren't individually damaged, doomed, or destitute yet? Sick. But that comfort doesn't do much good if your brain, behaviors, and life don't change along with the perspective.  Here are 10 steps for CPTSD recovery and your life redesign. Keeping in mind, "different strokes for different folks," "different gains for different brains." Let the experiment begin.  See you on the other side, Motherfucker.  For a lot more "moving forward" information and support... you know by now. Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the catalogue of podcast episodes so far, some videos, some worksheets, and access to the private Discord support community.  Submit your recovery or struggle story any time - just send your recording to traumatizedmotherfxckers@gmail.com. Reach a hand back for the Fuckers that follow.  Cheers y'all, and thanks for the time you've given your brain.  Jess --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message