Honey You're Ruining Our Kid
Honey You're Ruining Our Kid
About Honey You're Ruining Our Kid
The first ever zero judgement parenting podcast from the team behind An Irishman Abroad. Join funny man Jarlath and child behaviouralist Tina Regan as they tackle the questions, the worries and the day-to-day hilarity that comes with modern parenting. Jarlath collects anonymous questions from frazzled and exhausted parents, while Tina shares more than 20 years of experience working in early childhood intellectual, behavioural and social development. With genuine problems from real parents it’s anyone’s guess what the questions will be but the pair will gamely tackle anything that’s thrown their way. Expect all manner of queries including: - "My young lad eats like a caveman and is mortifying me everywhere we go" - "If I ask my kid to come off her iPad she acts like her world is caving in" - "My toddler refuses to wear clothes” - “My kid won’t poo at school” - “My kid refuses to let me leave the house, what should I do? No problem is too big or small. Tina promises to help parents help themselves, with zero judgement. Raising kids is so fecking hard we all need help to do it.
Let’s talk about sex baby! Tina and Jarlath chat about the "We Consent" campaign that they helped to launch this week. They are both on a mission to help parents get conversations going that on the surface appear to be difficult. So rather than one big chat, they argue for a series of on-going small chats where nothing off limits. Is your teenager out of control? Do you feel like you don’t understand or recognise the person they are becoming? Is there a way to reach them. Are you afraid of your own child? Listen in and give them your thoughts as Tina and Jarlath give two very worn down parents a bit of a steer. Toilet training is exhausting, but to get through it and then see your child regress is heartbreaking to watch. What do you do when your child doesn’t care about pooping in their pants. Is there a way to get that poop to go back in the toilet? Tina and Jarlath try and help this mum get her child to start caring about using the toilet again. Biting is never good. If you have a biter you know the stress of never being fully able to relax when your little vampire is socialising. Tina arms the listeners with the tools and well researched methods to stop kids biting. And there's more for our members over on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad you can hear what happened to last week's stage fright email and a deeper conversation on building toughness and confidence in your kids. Join the conversation. Submit your questions, stories, observations and ideas to the show directly: email@example.com
(Trigger Warning - The third and final question on today’s episode relates to the issue of suicide and how to speak to our children about the subject.) Question 1: No Dramas Stage fright is no fun at any point but when you’re five it’s a hard feeling to understand and push through. How do you arm your child with the confidence they need to be able to enjoy performing again. Question 2: Motivation How can you motivate a child who has lost their drive. Is there any reaching them? Can reward charts work with older kids? Not wanting to study for your leaving cert or care about having to repeat is alarming. How can you get your child back on track and get them excited about their future. Tina helps this mother find a way to ignite her child’s interests and get her to enjoy investing in her future again. Question 3: Life & Death This week Tina and Jarlath deal with their toughest question yet. A Mom gets in touch, extremely concerned for her 16 year old son who has recently lost a friend to suicide. Tina and Jarlath try their best to navigate this extremely sensitive subject while helping the mother become aware of the signs to watch out for, the places and resources available to help her through this time. If you have any advice that would also be helpful please get in touch by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you've ever felt sleep deprived and narky Tina and Jarlath are right there with you this week. A week of vomiting bugs, sinus infections, sleep deprivation and flight delays, beat them down this week. But Honey, You’re Ruining Our kid must go on because parenting never stops! Question 1: It’s hard to raise a gracious winner, realising your child is a sore loser can be a hard pill to swallow. Is there any way back? Are they reachable? Tina has a range of strategies to help your child both win with grace and lose with dignity (without throwing the toys out of the pram!). Question 2: Let’s talk about sex baby. When your child starts asking questions what is the best way to respond. Firstly, always start with what is comfortable for you. Secondly here at Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid we believe that the children deserve facts and truth. Greet their questions as honestly and age appropriately as you can. Question 3: Screen time! A subject that is making life difficult for teachers and parents alike all over the world. Tina goes off on this one. She has seen the desperate consequences too much iPad is having on today's children. Her insights on this will have your jaw on the floor. But is there a way back once you've started giving you kid a screen while you're out and about. Of course there is, no kid is ever ruined! Email email@example.com to submit your questions and issues for TIna. She replies to every single email personally.
Trying to raise your kids not to be gobshites is flipping hard. Thankfully we have our in-house expert, Tina, on hand to answer some of the toughest parenting situations imaginable. With more than 20 years of experience in the business of child behaviour, her advice has helped so many people to find the joy in having kids again. We also hear back from a mother who applied a "Tina strategy" and had major breakthrough this week (Patreon bonus content). Did you ever have an imaginary friend? This week Tina helps a mom whose little boy is using his imaginary friend to engineer some pretty funny stories. How do you get your child to reign it in when you know they're not telling the truth. Independent little ladies are our favourite kind of people but what do you do when they just won’t listen and their behaviour is upsetting the whole house. Listen in and hear how Tina helps a very busy mom get her mornings back on track. What do you do if your child still isn’t talking? When should you start to worry. What tools can you use to help. Can you frighten your child into talking? Does this sound ridiculous? Desperation will take you to strange places as a parent. There are some great language techniques that may help any parent out there who is going through this. Email us firstname.lastname@example.org Support us on Patreon and receive bigger episodes each week with even more craic and content. www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad
Messy kids, anxious kids and kids that won't sleep in their own bed! This week we go around the world answering emails from people peppered all over the globe. Do you adore your children? Of course we all do - most of the time. But is there something that they are doing that is driving you around the twist. This week Tina helps a lovely mum organise her kids' messy habits. Children flipping love rules and boundaries - right? Surprisingly yes, they do! Nothing is more calming to a child than knowing what is expected of them. Realising your child hasn’t just been complaining and is actually struggling with anxiety is a tough pill to swallow. Lucky is the child whose parents realised this when listening to an episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid. Getting in touch, reaching out for help is the right thing to do. This podcast is here to help. The Colour Monster gets another shout out. An incredible book that helps children understand their feelings. Helping our children know that all feelings are valid is important. Normalising all feelings is imperative to our kids' development. Does your child refuse to stay in their own bed? This is a common problem for all sleep deprived parents. Tina helps a listener feel empowered to get their sleep back on track in their house. Extra juicy bit - A follow up with the shoe dilemma child (the kid that refused to wear shoes) is up on Patreon this week. Join us on An Irishman abroad Patreon platform to listen to the bonus Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid content. www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad
The triple whammy this week - refusal, breastfeeding and bedwetting. Midterm is over but before the reality of school lunches and school runs kicks in, join us for this fun chat about some very serious problems and Jarlath getting it all wrong again on Valentine's Day! Episode 21 of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid is a belter. On this week's episode we deal with perhaps the cutest (while head melting) question yet. Tina devises a plan to get a tiny early walker wearing her shoes. Are you ready to stop breastfeeding? Is the don’t offer, don’t refuse technique not working? What can you do? Well listen in and hear what methods Tina has to convince your child to drop their addiction to the boob. Are you living with a chronic bedwetter? What is fair to expect if your child seems to lack any control of their bladder. Is there ever a situation where toilet training is a waste of time? Tina has seen it all but this one might need your help. Email email@example.com to contact the show or pose a question to Tina. Find us on Patreon to support the show or follow us on Instagram for updates and fun posts that can help you find the laughter in parenting these little darlings.
Smelly willies! What do we do about them? How do we get our boys to wash their junk without mortifying them completely. In this week’s episode Jar opens up about his entanglement at 11 and how best to get your instantly embarrassed boy to take in this essential hygiene info. Periods suck. Every single woman knows this. In an age where our children actually find out what’s about to happen to their bodies how do we prepare them and take away the fear? Tina and Jarlath discuss the different resources out there to help arm our girls and prepare them for this next step. Can we feel empowered by our periods rather than exhausted by them? Are you struggling to get your child to control their temper? Are they manipulating you and using language you find triggering. Is this leaving you feeling out of control and utterly disrespected. We can help. All is not lost. Let’s reframe how we address this behaviour. Tune in to hear Jarlath and Tina’s different approaches to help extinguish these behaviours. To submit your question to Tina simply email firstname.lastname@example.org - all emailers remain anonymous of course. Tina replies to every single email personally. Find us on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad
Want to know the parenting life hack that allows you to cook one dinner for the whole family, makes mealtimes fun again and won't cost you an extra penny. "Tina's Tapas" are perfect for those kids that won't eat what's put on their plate no matter how hard you try to make it special for them. This week Tina revisits the core ideas behind letting your kid create their dinner from the ingredients on the table. It's "facepalmingly" simple but effective stuff. Another topic gets a second look this week in tantrums. When is the naughty step useless? Is there an age when a child is too young for this measure. One emailer needs Tina to settle a bet! Does your partner wake up angry with you for something you did in their dreams? Well Jarlath feels your pain. When is subconscious cheating not cheating, when it's Tina doing it!
On this week's episode Tina helps with a child that feels unsafe in their own room at night. What do you do when your child has had an awful fright and is now too afraid to sleep on their own? Tina supports a mother through this with some helpful advice and workable tips that might be useful to anyone having issues with their child feeling settled. Have your kids gone from cute to rude over night? Have they stopped listening and you feel completely dismayed by their disrespectful behaviour? Is there any way back? Tina and Jarlath think there is light at the end of the tunnel. Together they try their best to help a mom of four year old twins get her boys back on track. Be sure to stay tuned to the end and laugh along with some of the really strange things Tina had been getting wrong for most to get adult life. Jarlath tries to help her feel better by sharing some of our listeners mistakes too. We can’t believe that we are at episode 19 already! Thank you again for subscribing, sharing and supporting our show. To reach us email email@example.com or support the continuation of the series financially by supporting us on Patreon. There's heaps of bonus content there for you to enjoy in return.
Is your child super clingy? If you're wondering how you can you survive this super dependent stage, today's episode is for you. This week Tina calls upon all of her experience working with extreme childhood behaviours to help our emailers who feel overwhelmed by what their kids are throwing at them. Clinging to you is hard to manage but what do you do if your child is clinging to their clothes? We hear about a child that refuses to get dressed? Are you pulling your hair out while trying to pull their clothes off? How can you tackle the getting dressed battle and preserve your sanity? Jar and Tina have an exciting announcement to make and we hear from a Mom who can't get her child to stop biting. Tina knows how to help and provides a set of steps for anyone in this situation. If you live in fear of when your child might use their teeth to hurt someone, you will need to hear this. Is there hope for your little biting cutie pie? Of course there is. You are not alone, this is a common behaviour and easily helped. Listen in to hear how you can help your child no longer feel the need to bite! Make sure to email us on firstname.lastname@example.org or find us on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad.
Welcome back, Happy New Year and congratulations on surviving your kids this Christmas. In today's episode Tina and Jarlath dive into the secret struggle of most parents after the holiday season. How can we "unspoil" our children. Can we get them back to some kind of normal or has the Santa fever sent them round the twist? Is your child a runner? Do they just not listen to you? Do you worry about leaving the house so much that it’s just easier to just stay home? Tina has seen it all before and has a great strategy that will definitely help. Listen in to hear her solution and get your life outside of the house back. WARNING: In this week's episode we are reminded how tough being a Mom can be. Do you feel on your own in finding it tough? More than likely. Are you actually on your own in feeling that way? Absolutely not. Your feelings are important and your feelings are never wrong. Asking for help is essential. Taking care of yourself is a necessity. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Contact Tina on email@example.com today with whatever is happening in your parenting life. Find us on Patreon and gain excess to exclusive extra content www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad
Worried about relatives who interfere in your parenting at Christmas? Concerned your kid will go off the rails the second Santa comes? You need to hear this week's episode. Tina gives us her number one life hack for defusing those awkward Christmas moments in front of your family and friends. We get an email from a Mom whose kid won't stop pooing in her sink! He refuses to poo anywhere else and this Mom needs help. Thankfully Tina has an answer and strategy for extreme toilet behaviours that seem never ending. Finally we hear from a parent whose child is living for screen time. Is there a way around this addiction or has the horse bolted. Tina thinks there's a way to make your screen time part of the answer. Over in the extended Patreon cut of this episode we hear from a parent who can't get her twins to play together unless the female of the two presents herself as a male! There's also parenting news featuring a famous Mom who refuses to buy her kids Christmas presents. (www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad) Don't forget to email your questions, stories and situations to firstname.lastname@example.org. All emailers remain anonymous and we reply to every single message personally.
What do you do when you trust another family with your child and they show them a film they aren’t ready for? What do you do if your child has been traumatised by something they saw on screen? Is your child in a troubling WhatsApp group? Have you seen something worrying being shared within the group. What is your parental responsibility? Tina tries to help a parent who can't unsee what her daughter is saying in her friend group. And finally, is your child completely obsessed with dressing up? When does it stop being adorable and start being a problem. We also hear from one a mother who followed Tina's advice and is experiencing great success in resolving unnecessary roughness between siblings. The email address to send your questions to is email@example.com (The Richie Sadlier book mentioned on the show is available here. https://www.easons.com/Lets-Talk-Richie-Sadlier-9780717191901?gclid=Cj0KCQiAnNacBhDvARIsABnDa69oqnYr3lGC8TPA0asXZY3pmIfRhJpctrfV3rgu72k8sfR61MiYQ1YaAqx9EALw_wcB You can find more Irishman Abroad Podcasts on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad)
Kids walking in on couples in the middle of "sexy times" is apparently a lot more common than you'd think. Today on the show Tina and Jar puzzle out what's the best approach when coping with the aftermath. Do you deny, deny, deny or go full frontal honesty? In a completely separate question, Tina gets asked what to do if your kid says, "I know you don't love me." Is ignoring these words the only way forward or do you need to make time for a child who is highly sensitive or even a little paranoid that they are being forgotten? We are living in very strange days. How do you prepare your kids for not getting exactly what they asked for from Santa? Don't forget to submit your questions and feedback to firstname.lastname@example.org - We love hearing from you. Your emails are the life blood of this show. No problem too big or small. Tina is here to help.
Sleep. We all need more of it. Some of us are getting none of it. Some of us have decided that a "normal" sleep routine is beyond our children. Some of us are resigned to having our kids sleep in our beds until they are adults! Ciara Taylor of www.taylormadebabies.ie has been helping parents with every sleep issue imaginable for years. Today she joins us to answer the questions you submitted around the nocturnal turmoil you have found yourself in. This is a remarkable conversation that is bound to be helpful to any parent experiencing difficulty with their little one's habits in relation to naps and night time sleep. To contact us with your questions, please email email@example.com - Special thanks to Ciara Taylor and all our emailers. Don't forget you can support the show and find bonus episodes on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad. Honey, You're Ruining Our Kid is an Irishman Abroad Podcast produced in association with GoLoud.
Do you have problems with bedtimes, getting your kids to sleep in their own beds, naps or waking up too early? Get your questions in for sleep expert Ciara Taylor (https://www.taylormadebabies.ie). She changed the lives of thousands of parents with her innovative and ingenious methods. Next week Ciara will be our special guest and she will answer them all. In the meantime, today's episode focuses on one mother and her struggle to get her child in the door of the school each morning. Can Tina help? She's certainly seen this quite a bit during her 20 years in education and behavioural units. "I HATE YOU!" Maybe you shouted it at your parents when you were a kid. Regardless of whether you did or not, it cuts deep when it's said to you. But what do you do if it feels like your child really means it. And finally, the Dad who loses the rag with his kids. What do you do if your partner's temper is getting the better of them. Contact the show with your questions firstname.lastname@example.org - no problem to big - no situation too small. Massive thanks to all of our supporters on patreon.com/irishmanabroad and the team at GoLoud.
A Dad who has been spying on his kids with a BabyCam learns something truly shocking. A Mom who worries she is passing on her negative relationship with food to her four year old. And a kid that cannot stop whining for things they want. Tina has coping strategies that she has seen work for all of these parents. Jarlath introduces Dr Gabor Maté and his theory that all kids are raised by different parents - even those in the same family. Please don't hesitate to contact the show with your parenting situations and questions. All emailers will remain anonymous and Tina relies personal to all messages received. email@example.com is the email address. To support the show and gain access to hundreds of Irishman Abroad podcasts including bonus HYROK episodes visit patreon.com/irishmanabroad
After a well earned midterm break there's a lot to discuss on today's show. What do you do when you witness abuse in public? What did Tina and Jarlath do when they witnessed a Dad being abusive to his son while they were away this midterm? Is your child still wetting the bed? Do they still hold on to their poos? What do you do when your child is a "cot escape artist"? How do you teach your kid to stay in their bed? Tina has some methods to help anyone experiencing these problems. Methods she has seen work time and time again. Two years in a pandemic has made us all a little bit more anxious. Is your child showing signs of anxiety? Have you noticed they’ve started to develop tics? What do you do? Jar asks Tina to talk us through what you should and shouldn’t do to help your child cope with these new behaviours. Also, in a new segment entitled, "I left you alone for 1 minute!" we find out what damage can Jarlath do when left unattended. As always the email to contact the show with your stories, questions and "I left him for one minute" tales, is firstname.lastname@example.org. Head to www.patreon.com/irishmamabroad to support the show and get access to more episodes.
When does banter become bullying? How do you equip your child with a sense of humour, a thick skin and the courage to stand up and stand out? In this episode Tina talks about the fine lines that parents have to tread when dealing with their children and their first introductions to victim humour, piss-taking and below the belt remarks made in the name of "fun". A step Mom gets in touch about a child that will not stop begging for treats. Is there any way to get them to stop or eat healthier treats? This week's answer comes from an unusual source. Finally Jarlath outs Tina's worst eating habits from her childhood and we hear about a difficult situation of one child making another feel bad for liking supposedly "girly" toys and activities. How do you step in? Honey, You're Ruining Our Kid relies on your questions and your support. Simply email email@example.com to put a question to Tina or visit www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad to access bonus episodes and to support the show directly.
What should you do if your toilet training plan goes off the rails and your child regresses back to having accidents? Tina has the answer you have been looking for. What do you do when you kid's best friend seems to want them all for themselves? How do you step in without going down the path of challenging the parents of another child? Death has been all around us for the last two years but that doesn't mean it's any easier to talk to our little ones about it when they start asking questions. As always Tina applies her 20 years of experience in early learning and severe behaviour units to help the listeners with what they are facing this week. Jarlath opens up about the time he nearly decapitated his kid and finds a parenting news story from India that will blow your mind. A grown man suing his parents for giving birth to him! You couldn't write it. Honey, You're Ruining Our Kid is an Irishman Abroad Podcast made in conjunction with GoLoud. To contact Tina with your questions just email firstname.lastname@example.org
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