Love Sober Podcast
Love Sober Podcast
About Love Sober Podcast
Two friends, mums and sober sisters, who became Authors and Coaches having the chat about reasons to love sober.
In this episode I talk to bestselling author of We Are the Luckiest and founder of the international recovery community The Luckiest Club Laura McKowen about her new book Push off From Here. The stories and advice McKowen shares are specific to alcohol addiction, but the tenets are universal in their application and useful no matter what challenge you face. With profound honesty and boundless compassion, Push Off from Here provides an actionable framework for healing what pains us and proves that a life of sobriety can be synonymous with a life of magic, peace, and freedom. When Laura McKowen was two years sober, she received an email from a woman whose sister was struggling with alcohol addiction. McKowen had barely climbed out from the dark place the woman’s sister was in, but she made a list of the things she most needed to hear when she was deep in her own battle. No matter how far astray you’ve gone or how many times you’ve tried and failed before, as long as you’re still sitting here, breathing, and reading these words, freedom and joy are still possible. In this episode we explore her Nine Truths. 1. It is not your fault. 2. It is your responsibility. 3. It is unfair that this is your thing. 4. This is your thing. 5. This will never stop being your thing until you face it. 6. You cannot do it alone. 7. Only you can do it. 8. You are loved. 9. We will never stop reminding you of these things. In Push Off from Here, McKowen delves deeply into each of her nine points: what they mean, how they work, and how every person can live them. She addresses topics such as the correlation between trauma and addiction, the importance of radical honesty, letting go of the illusion of control, the value of community, a reminder that healing is a continual process, and that the process is a gift. Whether you’re just starting out or have been sober for decades, McKowen instructs us to be kind to ourselves: Change is messy and progress is rarely linear, but we can always push off from here. It's a gem so grab a cuppa and let's chat. Love Kate x Buy the book: Connect with Laura at The Luckiest Club
In this episode I look at the subject of hope and how to practically cultivate a hope practice. "an optimistic mindset based on the expectation of positive outcomes.'' It's one of those tools that can be a bit overlooked, easily mistaken for a lofty virtue or a whimsical fancy or naivety but it is in fact a badass resilience tool. In this episode I am taking the chapter from our book Love Your Sober Year and delving into hope and actionable steps to cultivate hope and why it's such an important part of the sober toolkit. As I always say, mental health tools, are life tools, are sober tools. In the words of my first and most enduring girl crush, the wonderful Kate Bush in Cloudbusting, ' Oooooh... I just know that something good is gonna happen, and just saying it could even make it happen...' YEAH BABY. 'Love Your Sober Year' is a seasonal guide to sustainable alcohol free living. It starts in Spring so it's the perfect time to grab your copy and start or continue your holistic sober journey. And a wee favour - If you liked the book please could you leave a review on Amazon? It really helps. Thanks so much x So grab a cuppa and let's chat. Love Kate xxx
In this episode I chat with Janet Gourand, founder of Tribe Sober, an international membership program which connects and supports people wanting to quit alcohol and then go on to learn how to thrive in their sobriety. Now 71, Janet got sober in her 60s and is a true inspiration showing just how choosing an alcohol free life later on in our lives can be done, happy, fulfilling and rewarding - by reframing and by reclaiming our lives and choices as women, we can boss this sober game, the getting older game and call BS on the limiting cultural narratives of both that we are quite frankly, OVER. Janet has had many years of experience of corporate life in both Europe and South Africa. When she decided to stop drinking alcohol, she could find very little available support in South Africa. Janet got sober by her own efforts and by attending a workshop in London. As her journey continued, she decided to use her professional background in training and development to design and facilitate her own Tribe Sober workshop in order to help others to do what she had done. She is married with one son and a chihuahua called June. Originally from London Janet relocated to Cape Town in 2001. Website is tribesober.com and all social media and weekly podcast is "Tribe Sober"
In this episode I 'soul dive' with the gorgeous Sarah Levine, who is an holistic mindset coach for women in recovery and a writer working on her memoir. We met through the process of doing best selling author of 'Drink', Ann Dowsett Johnston's course ' Writing your Recovery' and share our experiences of how writing in recovery and writing our recovery has been a therapeutic foundational piece of The Journey. We talk writing, Internal Family Systems and why we as women need to reclaim our story telling and connect with each other. Smart Recovery advocates having a VACI as part of the sober toolkit - (Vital Absorbing Creative Interest) and psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi conducted extensive research into states of Flow and how creativity boosts resilience and helps post-traumatic growth and healing. So let's grab a cuppa and chat Kate x Links and resourses: Ann Dowsett Johnston Course - Writing Your Recovery (starting 18th Jan 2023) https://writingyourrecovery.com/register/ How to find Sarah: Web: https://sarahlevinecoaching.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/sarahlevinecoaching/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahlevinecoaching
In this episode I explore bringing 2022 to a close by sharing some reflective practices and welcoming in the new year with intention setting & having a think about the Word of the Year (WOTY). I am also drawing inspiration from Mandy's and my new book 'Love Your Sober Year' and offering journaling prompts to cultivate awareness of slowing down and building patience as part of our sober toolkits. Working with the cycles and seasons for sustainable sobriety has become foundational in the way approach my life and sobriety and I am delighted to share this and the sober journey with you. Sobriety and recovery is creative and as we expand our toolkits life gets richer and more colourful. Reflective practice from the beautiful https://www.tarynstrong.com/ Intention practice from the legendary https://www.bernadetterussell.com/ Journaling prompts from my book Love Your Sober Year Grab a cuppa and let's chat.
This week Kate talks to Nancy Evans about tools for long-term sobriety, maintenance and staying in love with sober. Nancy interviews Kate about Love Sober Life school, the flagship 12 week Self-development Group Coaching Program for busy women who want to stay sober & make it stick. Our tools need to evolve and grow as we do through seasons, life challenges and getting older and we need to be on our stress management, routines, socialising, mindset as well as keeping up those sober treats and keeping motivation and resilience when the going gets tough, as sometimes is just does. This course is the toolkit. Written by: Kate Baily, who is a trauma-informed, ICF Sobriety Coach and habit change coach & author specialising in stress, midlife and addictive behaviours. Also by Mandy Manners - who is a trauma informed life and recovery coach & author. Sessions are facilitated by Kate & Nancy Evans, who is a certifices Life & Addictive Behaviours Coach and a trainee Compassionate Enquiry Practitioner, training with Dr. Gabor Mate. Course Starts November 13th - Feb 5th. Calls at 5pm GMT Sundays. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. KX You can sign up here or find out more : https://www.lovesober.com/offers/jpkUZhVi/checkout https://www.lovesober.com/love-sober-life-school-copy-2 Any qs: email me at email@example.com For more information about Nancy or to get in touch with her it's: https://www.nancyevanscoaching.co.uk/
Kate talks sober menopause & perimenopause with Ellie Crowe of Pump up the Present and Sober & Present podcast in honour of World Menopause Day 18th October 2022. Ellie Crowe is a Senior Certified This Naked Mind Coach, a Certified Gray Area Drinking Coach and co-host of the Present & Sober Podcast. Her coaching practice helps overwhelmed and sleep-deprived mums parent peacefully and happily, without needing alcohol to escape at the end of the day. Focusing on both mind and body aspects, Ellie works with mums who want to drink less and be able to manage stress without drinking. She teaches how to make alcohol small and irrelevant in your life, whilst showing how to get in control and build emotional strength and resilience. Running both 1:1 and group programs, Ellie has a curiosity-driven approach, knowing the power of understanding ‘why’ in sparking transformative change and expanding life potential. Ellie lives with her husband, three young kids and three hounds in a very old pub in Cambridge, England. She’s a passionate yogi, Wim Hof-fer and gymnast (back in training!). You can find out more about Ellie at www.pumpupthepresent.com and follow her at @pumpupthepresent on Instagram and Facebook. https://podcast.presentandsober.com(Apple podcast link here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/present-and-sober/id1569061067) This is the link to our Facebook community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/presentandsoberpodcast/
In this episode, Kate talks to Relationship & Recovery Coach Dufflyn Lammers about Love addiction and how to spot it. Dufflyn Lammers, AKA “The cool aunt who took you to Rehab and Planned Parenthood but made you tell your mom,” is the go-to relationship expert for women in recovery. Lammers is the founder of www.rockrelationshipsinrecovery.com where she offers online courses, an online community, and one-to-one coaching for women who want to succeed at sex, love and dating without resorting to tequila, Ben & Jerry’s or *69. She combines a unique background in Tantra, Attachment Repair, Intervention and Coaching to help women create optimum relational wellbeing. She spent the first 12 years of her own recovery single until at last she met her match. It was a long, hard, painful road for her. But it doesn’t have to be for you! Her mission is to be the coach she would have wished for back then. Of course once she met her match she realized the relationship was not the destination, it was the beginning of a whole new journey. Listen, it takes courage to look deeply at ourselves and allow ourselves to show up fully. And, if we want true intimacy that is what it takes. Dufflyn's Free Talk IS IT LOVE OR IS IT ADDICTION? is available this weekend, Oct. 8th and 9th and also on the 19th. You can register here: https://dufflyn.newzenler.com/webinar/is-it-love-or-is-it-addiction/register She'll be breaking down a 4-part strategy for identifying the hallmarks of process addiction. She'll reveal the single most effective way to spot problem behavior. We'll share stories of women just like you who have struggled to love and be loved. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. Kate x
This week Kate talks with Sober Legend Claire Sweetman on her two year soberversary. Claire is a sober life advocate, a solo parent and is two years sober. She shares how she reclaimed socialising, how she manages her energy and sensory needs as a sober person and as a mum and how she managed to fall in love with partying again as a sober person. Claire has so many tips and tools about how to navigate all this stuff in the real world and how to keep it real while bossing her toolkit. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. KX
This week Kate talks to DJ Barroness and co-founder of The House of Happiness, Emma Barron. Emma has been DJing for roughly 4 years now. She is also a TV producer for C4. Emma always had a major interest in music and was a drummer in various bands, grew up on the clubbing scene in Manchester in the 90's and then London. She also spent many summers in Ibiza - so both old school house and Balearic sounds have influenced her music style today. After getting sober in 2017 Emma decided that she wanted to follow her passion so bought some decks, booked a DJ course at Hub16 in Dalston to hone her skills and then got involved in some sober DJ events. She has played gigs at various venues including House of Barnabus, Fugitive Bar Bethnal Green and more recently Ministry of Sound Members bar. One of her first gigs was doing warm up for Brandon Block on a boat party. She shares the joy and connection of learning to party sober and finder her way back to her first love of music. London's House of Happiness first event is just a few weeks away on Saturday 8th September 12 noon - 5pm. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. Love Kate x DEETS 🥳👇👇👇👇 Bringing you a FRESH & NEW ALCOHOL & DRUG FREE CLUBBING EXPERIENCE, The House of Happiness is swinging open its doors for the first time to serve banging tunes, a buzzing time and all the highs without the loooows. Whether you've given up alcohol for good, or just taking a booze snooze but still LUUUURVE to PARTY & DANCE... ... THIS. EVENT. IS. FOR. YOU. The roof we'll be raising for our first event is that of the ICONIC venue ELECTROWERKZ - one of London's coolest, most inclusive & alternative venues. You can find out more & grab your ticket over on Eventbrite: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-house-of-happiness-housewarming-tickets-349690944027
Welcome to A/W2022 Season of Love Sober Podcast! In this new season Kate focuses on Sober Stories and we kick off with a wonderful sober sister, mum of two, teacher and 'Cornish Girl, trying to acclimatise to Scotland', Maxine Billing Smith. Max has two sons and has been on the sober path for two and a half years and shares her story, her tools, her challenges and her wins. Each of us has a story to tell and in sharing our stories we know we are not alone. Love Sober Podcast brings you tips, tools and inspiration from the sober community to brighten your autumn days and Max is a brilliant and funny shining example of being a thoroughly good girl who always keeps it real - so grab a cuppa and let’s chat. Love Kate x If you would like to support the Love Sober Podcast you can become a Patreon supporter here or give a one of donation here: https://www.patreon.com/lovesoberpod https://www.gofundme.com/f/love-sober-podcast?utm_source=customer&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_campaign=p_cf+share-flow-1
In the episode I have the honour of speaking with Dr. Anna Lembke about why addiction is everyone's business and dive into the neuroscience of why this is the case and how we can tackle the dopamine response we all have give ourselves the best chance of avoiding and escaping addictive behaviours., be it alcohol, shopping, smartphone. Anna Lembke, MD is professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she is the author of more than a hundred peer-reviewed publications, has testified before the United States House of Representatives and Senate, has served as an expert witness in federal and state opioid litigation, and is an internationally recognized leader in addiction medicine treatment and education. In 2016, she published Drug Dealer, MD – How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2016), highlighted in the New York Times as one of the top five books to read to understand the opioid epidemic (Zuger, 2018). Dr. Lembke appeared in the Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, an unvarnished look at the impact of social media on our lives. Her latest book, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (Dutton/Penguin Random House, August 2021) was an instant New York Times bestseller and explores how to moderate compulsive overconsumption in a dopamine-overloaded world. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. Kate x
In this episode I have the wonderful opportunity to talk once again with Ann Dowsett Johnston. Ann is the bestselling author of Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, named one of the top 10 books of 2013 by the Washington Post. An award-winning journalist for many years, Ann is now a psychotherapist and the founder and leader of Writing Your Recovery, a popular online memoir-writing course for women. https://www.anndowsettjohnston.com/workshops Winner of seven National Magazine Awards, she is also the recipient of a Southam Journalism Fellowship and the Atkinson Fellowship in Public Policy. It was for the latter that she prepared a 14-part series on Women and Alcohol in the Toronto Star, looking at the closing gender gap on risky drinking. In 2013, she wrote Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, a book named one of the top 10 of the year by the Washington Post. We talk about why writing is such an important tool for women in recovery, how to look after yourself emotionally in the process and rules of self-disclosure. Ann also gives us her expert tips on how to get started as a writer. Ann has advised many authors including Holly Whittaker when she wrote 'Quit Like a Woman' and so I'm honoured to have her sharing her experience and passion on the podcast. What a treat! Grab a cuppa and let's chat Love Kate x
In this episode we talk about our experiences at the She Recovers Conference in Miami. The incredible speakers and the experience of being with 500 women in recovery, dancing, doing yoga, learning, swimming, chatting was an incredible experience. We met other She Recovers Coaches, old friends who have been on the pod, and made new friends. It felt like a global sisterhood moment for sure. There were so many highlights but for Kate, some of her top moments were Nadia Bolz Webber , who founded the Church for Sinners and Saints in Detroit and for Mandy, Shari Hampton and Jennifer Pastiloff There were so many wow and ahhh moments, dancing with Payton and yoga-ing with Taryn. Still holding on and processing and smiling. On another note... change being part of life and necessary for growth and health, Mandy talks about her decision to step back from Love Sober & the podcast, to honour health, wellbeing, family and transitions after much deliberation. Kate will continue to run Love Sober & they remain great friends and collaborate on their coach training and their second book which is out in September. For now a sacred pause to honour Mandy and her incredible contribution to the sober community in her work with Love Sober & her coaching and awareness raising - she's not going anywhere - you can find her at https://www.instagram.com/mandymannerscoach/ The best way to keep in touch with Kate and all things Love Sober & her coaching practice is at https://www.lovesober.com/ Sign up to the newsletter for all the monthly news and resources, courses and offerings and firstname.lastname@example.org to DM. Grab a cuppa your sober stars and let's chat. Love K&M X
Episode 97 This week we talk about losing our sh** then putting ourselves back together again! It happens... Sh** happens and that's ok. We talk about emotions and how to release our feelings, Mandy also has a giggle fit! A general round up of life through the sober lens so grab a cuppa and let's chat. Love K & M x Our book is now available from all bookshops such as amazon https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Yourself-Sober-Mandy-Manners/dp/1789561442/ If you would like to support the podcast and the lovesober community you can become a Patron (Matron!) https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod Please rate and review the podcast & book it helps people find us xxx
In this episode Kate talks to Intuitive Eating Coach Tiffany North about healing disordered eating, the neurobiology of stress & trauma and her long-term recovery. As an RN, Certified Intuitive Eating Professional, and creator of the Food Attachment Model ™, Tiffany helps people with disordered eating finally find freedom, balance, and satisfaction. She personally struggled with disordered eating and found a path to peace. It was so transformational that she dedicated her work to helping others do the same. Tiffany's passion is helping people stop wasting their precious energy drained by the food and body struggle so that they can use that energy to be powerful leaders in the world. She has also been alcohol and substance free since 1998 and feels that recovery has informed all areas of her life, especially her work as a nurse and a coach. When she isn’t coaching, speaking, and podcasting, she enjoys spending time with friends and family, being in nature and creating more fun, adventure, and play in life. Find Tiffany here: https://www.coachtiffanyrn.com/quiz.html Grab a Cuppa and let's chat. Kate & Mandy x
In this episode we discuss the load of carers & in our cases as mothers. We discuss the need for honesty, extra support and wider nexus for us to thrive. Our mental health journeys, our kids', how we walk the line of nurture and letting go and questions about why the obsession with productivity is BS are all topics for today. Resources mentioned: The Body is Not an Apology The Human Library at Copenhagen Co-Women group Sussex, UK.
In this episode we talk about people pleasing or fawning/ appeasing as it's sometimes referred to. This is actually an adaptive trauma response and a result of us having to fit in, play small and hide ourselves in order to fit in. We look at it's spectrum, how it can actually be a superpower when used wisely and how we can look after ourselves as we learn to connect with others healthily, set boundaries and stand our ground. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. Resources mentioned: Untamed Journal, Glennon Doyle Playing Big, Tara Mohr Love Kate & Mandy
In this episode Kate talks to dear friend and sober legend, Nana Treen, long term Soberista, occasional blogger, advocate for alcohol-free life and creator AF Loud and Proud. https://nanatreen.wordpress.com/ Treen got sober at 59 and in this episode we discuss the challenges of kicking the drink later in life and how to harness the power of 'Life's Third Trimester' to create a mindset for successful sobriety. Nana Treen is a truly inspiration woman, proud to consider herself an Elder and a Sober Sister. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. K&M X
In this episode we discuss our journeys in sobriety and our experiences as mums. We look at why it's so important for women to have the appropriate support, community and care as mothers to honour that rite of passage, protect our mental and physical well-being and to ask the real questions about care - not just be sold Mummy Wine Time. We revisit our first book Love Yourself Sober - a Self Care guide to Alcohol-Free Living for Busy Mothers. which was the book we REALLY needed to write and is a collection of all the things that helped us along the way. We also reference the Vision Boarding Workshop with Kate , this coming Sunday on Mother's Day in the UK at 5pm. This is an opportunity to engage your creativity in envisioning a life you love sober or bringing more of what you love into your sober life. Booking link here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/spring-vision-boarding-for-sobriety-tickets-291730663267 Grab a cuppa and let's chat K&M X
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