Do you feel like the behaviour of the people in your life has the power to make you feel TERRIBLE about yourself or AMAZING? Do you find yourself feeling very insecure in your relationships and wishing people would change so you could feel better? When we base our self worth on the way others think, feel and act towards us - we naturally end up using them as validation vending machines... wanting them to spit out validation and make us feel 'good enough' whenever we want them to. Listen to this episode for how to overcome this. And here's the 'Self Esteem Building Kit' freebie mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit

Do you ever reflect on the past things you've done and said and feel immense shame? Do you feel scared of making decisions because of how mean you're going to be to yourself if you make the 'wrong' one? Improving your relationship with your past self is a great way to create a more loving and compassionate relationship with your present and future self.

Do you constantly feel on red alert for signs something might go wrong in your relationship? Do you tell yourself its important you spot all the red flags and look out for signs your partner might be 'bad' so that you can protect yourself from future pain? Then this podcast is for you. Get my free 25 minute training on '5 steps for when you're spiralling' here. And to sign up to my email list, click here.

Do you find yourself often feeling jealous in your relationships? And does it result in you showing up in ways you don't like? This episode is going to look at what jealousy is, the 3 thought errors that create it, and how to deal with it. Don't forget to sign up to my email list for more support <3 You can do this via the link below: www.rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you feel a little resistant to the idea of taking responsibility for your own emotions? As if that means letting the people in your life 'off the hook'? Do you feel a little resentful that YOU'RE doing this work on your own brain, and they're not changing anything at all? Then this episode is for YOU. Model example [as mentioned in episode] C: Partner says 'I will be late home' T: They don't care about spending time with me F: Upset A: Withdraw, don't ask them how their day was when they get home, make passive aggressive comments, don't be curious or loving towards them R: I don't act like I care about them

Do you tend to assume the worst of other people? And maybe expect them to behave in ways you aren't always perfect at doing yourself? Do you ever get called out on your double standards? Then this podcast is for you!

This two part episode looks into the expectations we have of our partners and how to manage our minds around them. AND how to manage our minds if we're single and having A LOT of thoughts about that as the 14th approaches. Whichever camp you're in... you're going to learn: The real source of your negative emotion How to take back responsibility How to feel the way you want to feel NO MATTER WHAT

Looking to increase the number of friendships or relationships in your life? But feel like the mean voice in your head always stands in your way? This episode is for you. I'm going to share 7 tips for how to approach creating your dream connections. As mentioned in the episode, here is the link to my Self Esteem Building Kit freebie: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when you want to do something you know someone else won't be happy about? Do you feel like you're constantly trying to 'keep everyone happy' at the expense of what you really want? Then this episode is for YOU! Click here to join my email list: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/subscribetoemaillist

Are you constantly finding yourself debating whether your partner or friends care ENOUGH. If so, tune into this episode! We'll be discussing the anxiety behind this question and more empowering questions we can ask instead.

Do you often hear people say 'Don't take it personally'... but struggle to take it anything BUT personally? Do you find yourself feeling insecure about a lot of things - things people say, do, and perhaps the things they don't say or do? This podcast episode is for YOU. Mentioned in the episode: 1) Self Esteem Building Kit: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit 2) Thoughts to practise about this teaching: Other people’s behaviour is a reflection of their own inner worlds I am a neutral circumstance in other people’s models A hundred people would have a hundred different responses to me I actually have no idea what’s going on in their brain What might be going on for them that my brain’s not considering? How is this nothing to do with me? 3) Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - Group coaching programme: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoaching

Does your brain often offer you terrifying WHAT IF thoughts that leave you spiralling for hours? And does trying to convince yourself that thing won't happen never really work? If so - this episode is for you!

Did you know that voice in your head is actually not YOU? And did you know that a lot of the time it's actually full of sh*t? In this episode, we talk about the nature of our minds and how being aware of the unreliableness of your brain's constant chattering could help create a different experience of your relationships. At the end of the episode, I talk about my group coaching programme - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama. Here's the links to find out more about the programme, and to sign up to the FREE taster session on January 5th. Course info: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoaching Free taster session sign up page: https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/zvrdry60ey

Arguments in relationships happen. But often our primitive brains can create SO much unnecessary drama and disconnection - preventing us from reconnecting and moving forward after a disagreement. In this episode, we'll talk about how our ego and desire to be 'right' can prevent recovering after arguments and how we can begin to argue and mend after arguments in a more productive way.

Do you find yourself getting stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others? Are they prettier? Richer? Funnier? Is there relationship 'better'? Is there partner more romantic? Whatever it is - this episode will help you understand WHY we feel the need to compare and how we can break out of the habit. To join my email list for even more relationship tips and support, visit: www.rebeccaorecoaching.com

Once we learn that other people don't exist to 'make' us feel good and validate us, some clients tend to ask... 'so if my partner isn't supposed to make me feel secure and validate me, what's the point of relationships?' If you wonder this yourself, you're in luck! This episode talks about the way we're socialised to think about relationships, validation, and the reasons you may or may not choose to be in a romantic relationship.

In this episode - I look at some of the common errors we make when trying to set boundaries, what a boundary actually is, and why it doesn't require anything from anybody else for it to be a huge success. Struggled upholding boundaries in the past? This episode is YOU!

Do you often find yourself feeling anxious if you sense a change in mood in your partner, friends, co-workers, or family members? This was probably one of my biggest struggles that I’ve really worked on during my own coaching journey. I would feel like in my relationships I was just constantly on red alert, monitoring if other people were ‘okay’ with me so that I could feel safe and secure. Listen to this episode to find out how you can start overcoming this today!

Do the things that happen in your life just constantly throw you and leave you feeling like an emotional boomerang? Feeling like you need things to change... Your partner to change Your job to change Your weight to change The world to change!! .... so that you can start feeling BETTER. Then this podcast is for you.

Find yourself feeling angry about the way other people act? Or maybe you feel rejected, hurt or disconnected when people don't behave in the ways you thought they would. Our brains naturally make assumptions about what other people's behaviour means - snap judgements that we rarely pause to question, and that cause so much havoc and disconnection in our relationships. In this episode - we're going to talk about how curiosity is the secret weapon that will help you create more connection in your relationships.