Martha Kauppi has rejoined us today to talk about coming out of the closet and how it relates in particular to the intersection of our professional and personal lives. For those who are just meeting her, Martha is a therapist, author, speaker, and educator specializing in complex relational therapy, sex issues, and alternative family structures. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with a broad range of sex issues, and with clients who are in open relationships. She is the author of the groundbreaking new book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients). Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYGet 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're joined by a very special guest, Frank Arthur Smith, a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston, Massachusetts. His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, Open To It, in which he stars, writes, directs, and Executive Produces, was an Official Selection of festivals including: Outfest, where it received two special encore screenings; Rio LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it was the opening night film; Wicked Queer: Boston’s LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award for Best Comedy Short; as well as the inaugural Gay Binge Film Festival, where it won the Special Jury Prize for Best Performance.Today, Frank discusses normalizing non-monogamy, sex positivity, and the creation of his queer comedy web series, Open To It, which you can learn more about at www.opentoitseries.com. Get a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld Get better sleep with a Helix mattress customized for you. Try it for 100 nights, risk-free, get 2 free pillows and $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/multiGet 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're joined by Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi, PhD. She is a queer, polyamorous, entrepreneurial rabbi who brings expertise in queer theory and belonging to Jewish teaching and ritual. She holds a BA in Women’s and Gender Studies from Harvard University, an MA and a PhD in Performance Studies from New York University, and an MA in Hebrew Language and Letters and rabbinic ordination from the Hebrew Union College - Jewish Institute of Religion. Throughout this episode, Rabbi Nikki discusses polyamory in Judaism, her article published in The Reform Jewish Quarterly Fall 2022 “The Family Issue,” her own lifecycle and ritual work, religious texts from a Jewish perspective, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiQuality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we're talking about annoyances and deal breakers in terms of relationships. We're exploring the possibility that in this age of online dating, maybe we've all become a little too picky about our potential partnerships, and that could be causing us to miss out on or prematurely cast aside some really wonderful connections! We'll be discussing deal breakers, perpetual problems, and the concept of "the price of admission." Try Calm, the #1 mental wellness app and save 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at calm.com/multi. New content every week!Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After four years of work, our book is available for pre-order on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and wherever books are sold! Help us get this book on the mainstream charts by pre-ordering and telling your friends: multiamory.com/book The book is a collection of our most popular communication tools, compiled with new insights, real-world examples, worksheets, discussion questions, and more. If you've ever wanted to be able to reference, highlight, or gift our podcast to someone, this is it! We've worked hard to create a resource that is as accessible as possible: whether you're non-monogamous or monogamous, whether you've never heard of the podcast, or if you've binged every episode. To all of our incredible listeners, we couldn’t have done this without your encouragement and support over the years. The book comes out on May 23rd, 2023! Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships is available for preorder now! Check it out at multiamory.com/book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join us for another Q&A episode where we answer some listener questions and discuss post-breakup friendships, fading NRE, creative ways to satisfy touch needs in long-distance relationships, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYGet a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as humans we love novelty, and when our relationships become complacent and repetitive, it can negatively affect them. However, we also crave stability and predictability in our lives and in our relationships, and feeling safe is important. It's because of this duality that we're looking at how rituals can be a benefit to your relationships, exploring some of the research, and discussing some ways that you can incorporate them into your life in a way that is the most beneficial to your relationship health and wellbeing. Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYGet better sleep with a Helix mattress customized for you. Try it for 100 nights, risk-free, get 2 free pillows and $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/multiTreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're talking about work, and how your relationship with work can affect your relationship with others, whether you have similar or different views on it. We're also going to be looking at some of the most recent research about workaholic behaviors, as well as how to talk to your partner when you're both having difficulty concerning each other's work habits or schedules. Try Calm, the #1 mental wellness app and save 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at calm.com/multi. New content every week!Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love bombing has become a hot topic both in psychology and on social media these days, and so during this episode, we're exploring what love bombing is, what the research says about it, and if it's actually a helpful concept. What does it mean for the future of the relationship, for example? What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of it? We're going to discuss all of this, as well as some actionable steps to take if you've been love bombed by a loved one. Get a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're having our first Q&A episode in the new year with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova! During this episode, we learn a little about Dr. Zhana's work and answer some questions posed by our Patreon supporters. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova is a relationship scientist, consultant, and NYU adjunct professor of human sexuality. She’s a world-renowned expert in nonmonogamy and the creator of Open Smarter™, an online course that guides couples and individuals to identify and navigate the relationship type best suited for their unique personality and life circumstances.She holds a PhD in Developmental Psychology from Cornell University, and her scholarly work on nontraditional relationship styles has been published in several peer-reviewed journals. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @drzhana, and join her FREE Training on Open Relationships to discover your ideal relationship style. Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the most searched relationship questions online is "Is it normal to have doubts about my relationship?" On today's episode, we're exploring that topic, asking is it normal? Why do we have doubts about our relationships? How can we tell the difference between doubts that stem from insecurities versus doubts that are a sign of more serious issues? We're going to discuss some research, and as always, some actionable tools to help when you're having these types of doubts. To learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTIThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Try Calm, the #1 mental wellness app and save 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at calm.com/multi. New content every week!Order a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For today's episode, we're joined by Damona Hoffman to talk about a variety of topics, including dating and modern dating culture, and she also answers some of our Patreon community's questions. Damona is the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just started airing its 10th Season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the Washington Post. Damona can frequently be seen on Access Daily sharing the latest dating news. Get better sleep with a Helix mattress customized for you. Try it for 100 nights, risk-free, get 2 free pillows and $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/multiTreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We talk a lot about handling breakups in romantic relationships, but we haven't talked much about friendship breakups. In this episode, we're discussing some reasons why friendships end, research and statistics on friendship breakups, whether or not reconciliation is appropriate or possible, and of course, how to get through the difficult experience of you and a friend parting ways. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYGet hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiTo learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTIOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Glen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels, authors of the book "Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement," join us for a deep discussion about their book, the history of polyamory, influences from literature and the idea of a utopian society, and more.Glen Olson is an author and historian of polyamory communities in America. He is a retired fire captain, paramedic, and technical writer. Over the years he has made presentations to colleges and science fiction conventions on the subject of open relationships and polyamory. Find more about Glen at glenolson.org.Terry Lee Brussel-Rogers is an author and hypnotherapist, helping clients with everything from intimacy without jealousy to spiritual growth and poly relationship coaching. Terry co-founded Live the Dream, an education and support group for people interested in alternative lifestyles, cooperative living, open relationships and group marriage. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiTo learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTIOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kathy Labriola is back to discuss her most recent book with us, "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships," some of the inspiration that drove her to write about aging in polyamory, cultural narratives that affect how we perceive polyamorous elders, and more. Kathy Labriola is a nurse, counselor and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. Her mission is providing affordable mental health services to alternative communities. She has been a card-carrying bisexual and polyamorist for fifty years. She is a political activist and community organizer. As you can guess, she is extra crunchy and lives in a housing co-op, rides a bike, and raises chickens and organic vegetables. She is the author of four books on consensually nonmonogamous relationships: Love in Abundance, The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Get better sleep with a Helix mattress customized for you. Try it for 100 nights, risk-free, get 2 free pillows and $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/multiGet 20% off a physician-reviewed at-home lab test by at Everlywell.com/multi.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYTo learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTI Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our 400th episode! Join us for a conversation where we talk about how Multiamory is produced, all the people, money, and costs involved, and how the show has grown and changed over the years. We also discuss some of the best parts about doing this podcast, some positive AND negative stories, and finally, we wrap up this monumental episode with some discussion about the future of Multiamory. We want to thank all of our listeners and supporters so much for making this show possible and accessible. We could never have gotten this far without you all, and we look forward to many, many more years of Multiamory! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld Order a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the principle themes in it. She goes into detail about questioning the relationship between happiness and love, eudaimonic love, "lovecrafting," and more.Carrie Jenkins is an author and philosophy professor who lives and works on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Tsleil-Waututh, and Musqueam First Nations. Carrie’s first novel, Victoria Sees It, was published in 2021 by Penguin Random House Canada, and shortlisted for the Frye Academy Award XIII and the Ethel Wilson Fiction Prize. Her non-fiction books include What Love Is and What It Could Be (Basic Books, 2017) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search For Meaning (Polity, 2022). If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiQuality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYOrder a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Get a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? We'll be looking at some of the core components of relationship anarchy and how they can be applied in order to improve our relationships and work against the various normative systems that cause so many to be hurt, disenfranchised, or disempowered.For some more background and a deeper dive into relationship anarchy, check out Episode 150: Relationship Anarchy 101, and Episode 339: The Smorgasbord of Relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiGet 20% off a physician-reviewed at-home lab test by at Everlywell.com/multi.Order a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back again with another Q&A episode to answer some of our listeners' questions! Today we're tackling the difficult topics of different nesting styles, different communication styles and discussing the future, discovering community in non-monogamy, unintentional impressions of hierarchy, navigating sex after a prolonged period of not having it, and polysaturation signs.Want your question answered on a future Q&A episode? Join our Patreon community! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYGet better sleep with a Helix mattress customized for you. Try it for 100 nights, risk-free, get 2 free pillows and $200 off your order at helixsleep.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're joined by Michael Kaye, head of communications at OKCupid! We're thrilled to have Michael join us to discuss online dating, how it has changed over the years and over the course of the pandemic, give some specific online dating advice and insight about dating trends, and answer some questions from our listeners about non-monogamous dating on OkCupid. Find more of Michael at @MichaelKayePR and @OkCupid on Instagram and Twitter respectively.OKCupid has also been generous enough to offer free premier subscriptions to Multiamory listeners! Listen to the end of the episode to find out how to get access to your free premier membership! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! To learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTITreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices