For every ounce of passion and wisdom in this episode, there is an equal and opposite moment of mundanity and foolishness. It starts out like any other - checking in on how we've been feeling lately and questioning the utility of a perfectly harmless item (in this case, sleep pants). Things take a turn, though, when Caroline poses the question: "What would you do with your life if you made the amount of money you make today, guaranteed, without having to work?"  This launches us into one of the most personal and introspective conversations we've had on the podcast yet, as we each open up about our feelings on having kids. Hint: they're not the same, and they likely aren't the same as yours either. We both share how we've come to these realizations about ourselves, and explore the complexities of being completely clear on a topic like this given the weight of timelines and outside opinions. Caroline runs to Jess's rescue as she explains why she sometimes doubts herself on this issue, and it's just goddamn beautiful.  For an episode with such an important conversation at the crux of it, we then move on like it never happened, describing our most memorable drug experiences, offering a hack for sweaty feet, and revisiting Google Search History Shame for old time's sake. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Buckle up for the pure chaos of this episode after a more ~intentional~ one last week. Jess and Caroline talk about French class memories and calling their parents, before taking a sharp left turn into an analysis of the beloved Harry Styles. From there, it's celebrity sex lists, and to no one's surprise John Mayer is on Jess's and old turmoiled gentlemen are on Caroline's. A story about a fuckboy of yore turns into a discussion about putting up with subpar treatment in relationships, comparing your relationship to others, and, naturally, the risk of a forehead kiss. Why is it so difficult to mail out a package? What if stamps.com had its own podcast? Have you ever been hit on at the gym and did you respond like Santa Claus? How do you track down a stranger's full name and would you open a random airdrop from Caroline? These are the hard hitting question we explore as we sign off yet again with fun and power. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

We're back with another super personal topic deep-dive, this week talking all about careers. Shitty jobs, desperate times, quitting, moving, and chasing passion - we cover it all as Caroline and Jess have had very different, though thematically similar, career trajectories. So in this edition of the For You series, we share: Details on each of our job histories and the lessons we've taken from every phase so far Why buying yourself runway to pursue a passion is the only way to do it purely How to separate your identity from your job when it comes to productivity and reputation The power of keeping your nascent dreams to yourself How to chase fear and tap into your intuition This topic is so near and dear to us because it's so much of what brought us back together as friends and business partners today. So naturally, we overshare, we ramble, we scream, we want to hold hands... This conversation took us many places (much like our careers), but ultimately, fatefully, to each other. What a surreal feeling to create this episode - on the very day Caroline reached 400k YouTube subscribers! - with the hope of helping you. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

If you resonate with the "morning after going out" vibes that an Apple Podcasts reviewer recently bestowed upon us, then this episode is for you. Jess and Caroline start with a bang as Jess shares a dating app story from her library of bizarre experiences. We talk a little about the right and wrong times for sexting before shifting to an even more debated topic: green text bubbles. Don't fret, Android users, Jess has a special place in her heart for you. Then Caroline talks about a recent marathon date she had and why usually all the information is there in the beginning. Jess is perplexed by the toilet etiquette of putting the seat down, and while there's probably some cleanliness reasons for it, she'd rather young boys learn to be respectful in other facets of life. She also shares with Caroline some recent musings about her habit of saying things out loud to herself, and...dog sex appeal? __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And SEND US YOUR WHATADOS on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

It's the moment we've all been waiting for - the return of the WHATADO. This time, Jess and Caroline spend nearly an entire episode responding to listener submitted scenarios, from "whatado when your friend treats you like their therapist" to "whatado when you're not sexually attracted to the great guy you're dating" and more. We talk about setting boundaries, the elusive spark, then go into a rapid fire segment where Jess asks Caroline to respond to a few more whatados that she hadn't seen prior (spoiler: this was in no way rapid, but boy was it fiery).  We also lament the lifelong plight of whether or not to cut our hair, and Jess takes a page from the hater's book and shares a petty complaint from the week.  __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And SEND US YOUR WHATADOS on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Opening up with a bang (see what we did there), Caroline updates Jess on the recent end to her "celibacy" (now you see), which turns into an even more important update on the age-old question, "what is DJ?" After this lesson in music theory, we shift gears and talk about headspace - specifically Jess', and why it's never right. We muse on what it means to protect our energy, and how that may differ for introverts and extroverts. Either way, it's important to both of us to spend time alone to get in touch with the things we actually enjoy, so we share some tips for listeners on getting more comfortable with solitude. Caroline has a bone to pick with a certain type of jewelry, and also a certain type of dating profile. This leads to an ill-defined conversation on our ick lists - one much more reasonable than the other. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Jess and Caroline are at it again with an episode full of "segments" - starting with a Stranger Danger story from Jess of a recent dermatology appointment that turned into a therapy session. This conversation about unwanted and unboundaried connections with randos turns into a larger breakthrough about our shifting availability for other people as life get busier. Takeaways: This podcast is our baby, and diversified fulfillment has its downsides; namely, finding balance. Shifting gears, Caroline soft launches her new dating theory that "it doesn't have to be going well," and we insist that no singular moment is the deciding factor in most relationships. Even if it is, bring on the rejection. Especially if it has to do with judgment about music taste or museum appreciation. We're swine, we know. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

In this new deep dive series we're calling "For You", Caroline and Jess tackle the big daddy of all topics: breakups. 'Tis the season and it's not lost on us! So here's everything we could possibly fit into a reasonable length episode, including:  How to know when to leave a relationship Our approaches to healing from a breakup Whether "no contact" is the only option Situationships and why they're sometimes harder to get over We yell, we pontificate, we read from old journals and quote Ariana Grande and actually give a lot of real tips in terms of what to do to get through this. But if all else fails, you can always DM lover/ENFJ/BDE Jess. Caroline will be too busy getting herself off on psychedelics. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Production Credits: Abi Newhouse Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Jess and Caroline show up to this recording with different energies, so we turn to a listener DM and strike gold when Jess fumbles her words into a new segment called WHATADO. Whatado when you don't like your friend's partner? We don't know *what to do* but we certainly can list all the options of ~whatado~ Caroline also poses a genuine question, "what is DJ?" Jess talks about a recent #fleetingfixation that she'll be bored of next week, Caroline gives an update on "stupid ways she's growing" (hint: it has to do with her hatred of texting), and we wander through a number of other random thots before concluding that we've solved it all. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

It's a moist one! In this episode, Jess and Caroline slid from topic to topic, opening with some listener appreciation (and a new interactive segment #searchhistoryshame), then turning it way down with a discussion about disappointing people. We explore the pros and cons of codependence and have some breakthroughs that ultimately lead us to agree: we wouldn't date our families.  Is there room for jokes during sex? How did we segue into that? Are you offended? Guess what, it's legal. Science is a fact and everything else is an opinion and ours aren't for everyone the end..  __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Coming back from the holiday break, Jess and Caroline are bringing the energy for our first episode of 2023. We talk about the toxicity of hustle culture, then hear an update from Caroline on her relationship (or non-relationship) with "Steve" (or "non-Steve"). This sends us into a bigger conversation on being direct in dating vs. overthinking in fear of a negative response, and guess what! Turns out safe communication is kinky. Then Jess shares her working theory that everything is a projection, and talks about breaking out of the expectations others project onto her. The body keeps the score, and other books we'll never read, amiright? A few other pivots in the episode take us to the age-old question: "why are men's Instagram stories so boring?" and a new segment idea called "Squisitely." Likelihood of returning to that one still undetermined.  __ Share with a friend! Subscribe! Rate/review! And follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Allow us to re-introduce ourselves… or maybe introduce ourselves for the first time? Four episodes in, Caroline and Jess realize we haven’t even let the listeners in on why we’re here in the first place. So we open the curtain on our love story - how we know each other, and what brought us back together years later to start Not for Everyone. We also share the backstories of our AIM usernames from middle school, talk about our rejection of five year plans, dissect how we try to live by our values, and read from random lists we keep in our iPhone notes (because how else would Jess remember anything about herself). __ Follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Jess and Caroline are feeling much more at ease in the third installment of NFE...so it's no wonder their conversation moves from hot takes on weddings and showers, to breaking down Caroline's current dating conundrum, to Jess' fascination with stuck porn. Things devolve pretty quickly in this one, and it's exactly the vibe they've been craving these past couple of weeks.  This episode is definitely not for everyone - especially the kids in the car with you, and the haus of DeBakey, Winkler, and affiliates. Don't say we didn't warn ya. __ Follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

Jess and Caroline are back, this time taking a more free-flowing approach to the pod. With no episode theme prepped beforehand, they thot'n'bop through a number of different topics. Jess shares childhood memories of traumatic doctor's visits, and Caroline opens up about her history with an eating disorder* - which she would never feel as comfortable divulging on YouTube. They resolve that body positivity isn't the be-all-end-all, and wish for more authenticity in showing the ups and downs when these experiences are talked about in the media. Onto lighter things, they then confront (or are confronted BY) their recent Google searches, talk about their differing boundaries with their therapists, and plug various words that Jess has coined in her closest circles. *Warning* This episode makes high-level reference to eating disorders; if that is a trigger, feel free to skip. We hope you feel empowered to get the help you need <3  __ Follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support

In the first episode of Not For Everyone, Jess and Caroline explain why this is actually the second episode of Not For Everyone. It’s episode 1, and Jess and Caroline are already emotionally fried. Who’s surprised. They quickly remember why they love chatting in the first place: because no matter the topic, they always stumble upon a deeper realization. So this one ends up being a conversation about redefining stability, mastering nonchalance, and Caroline’s tried-and-true unofficial trademark “diversified fulfillment.” They also lament why people care so much about their boring ass jobs, and Jess shares a 7th grade story of so-called demise by 50 Cent’s Candy Shop. __ Follow us on Instagram: @not4everyonepod @jzdebakey @thegoodsitter __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/not4everyonepod/support