Betrayal, Hurt, and Anger: You Can Let It Go
Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Florida State Qualified Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy. In addition, she is also a Certified Professional Life Coach. Being a Therapist and a Life Coach gives her the unique ability to help clients heal from the past and live their best life today. In this episode, Dr. Crystal discusses what happens when a betrayed partner feels so angry and can’t seem to forgive. Is there ever a way out of this hurt? The answer is yes. Listen in for more.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:40] A little bit about Dr. Crystal.
[2:50] When someone has been deeply betrayed/hurt, how does anger show up?
[6:00] Anger and pain shows up at different times.
[10:00] Despite all the pain, you have to take responsibility for when you are upset.
[12:50] Dr. Crystal shares her lego principal.
[15:45] What happens in the brain when someone gets better from depression?
[16:55] What is abusive behavior?
[19:50] What happens if you want to let go of your anger but you’re nowhere near forgiveness?
[25:45] You don’t need to let go of the anger, you just need to process it.
[27:45] If you’ve been betrayed, please consider therapy.
[33:10] What do you do if your family members get angry for you?
[37:05] Dr. Crystal likes to use the CBT Therapy method to help her clients through their pain.
[40:45] Does betrayal affect same-sex couples differently?
RESOURCES:
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
QUOTES:
- “It’s normal to be angry, but you can’t hurt yourself for somebody else when you are angry.”
- “Sometimes anger can be very non-productive.”
- “No matter how much you’ve hurt him back, it’s not going to make him understand how much he’s hurt you.”
- “Forgiving doesn’t have to mean forgetting.”
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