The Aware Parenting Podcast
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My new book is out! It's called 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' and is for parents of 1-8 year olds. In this episode, I read the first couple of chapters of the book. The audiobook won't be available for a few months, so I thought I would give you an audio taster! The paperback of 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' became an immediate best seller – reaching number 1 in the Child Development and the Emotions and Feelings categories (both Best Sellers and Hot New Releases) and number 66 in all books in Australia! I am so willing for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' to continue to be a best seller, and to reach the hands, hearts and minds of many many thousands of parents. If you'd like to support me with that, are you willing to share about the book, such as on social media? If you have been thinking of buying it, are you willing to buy it now or really soon, to support it to continue being a best seller? You can buy the paperback on Amazon by searching for 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' on the Amazon store in your country! Or the direct links are here: AU: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/0645998524 US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0645998524 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0645998524 CA: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0645998524 DE: https://www.amazon.de/dp/0645998524 FR: https://www.amazon.fr/dp/0645998524 ES: https://www.amazon.es/dp/0645998524 IT: https://www.amazon.it/dp/0645998524 NL: https://www.amazon.nl/dp/0645998524 PL: https://www.amazon.pl/dp/0645998524 SE: https://www.amazon.se/dp/0645998524 JP: https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/0645998524 Lots of love, Marion xoxox
Welcome back after the festive season! This episode is informed by Aware Parenting, but includes a lot of The Marion Method in terms of our reparenting and reculturing journey. I talk about what may be getting in the way of our deep connection with our innate body wisdom in relation to food: Our thoughts and beliefs and understanding about food and eating; Needs we may be meeting with food; Ways we might be suppressing or dissociating with food. I share about why judging ourselves and coercing ourselves to 'give up' certain foods often backfires, and what we can do instead, for example when we notice ourselves eating or drinking to suppress feelings. I offer some practical suggestions, and how replacing self-judgment with compassion and coercion with willingness can make a profound difference in our relationship with food. My new book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' is coming out very soon and includes a big chapter on food and eating in parenting and reparenting! I still have a couple of mentoring sessions left. Message me for details! I invite you to sign up for earlybird information about my offerings and my new book here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can learn out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD
Hello again! This is a pause in the food, feelings and trust series for a festive season special, all about the opposite of overwhelm. I share about: The importance of connection with yourself and your values; How to prevent overwhelm in the first place (saying no is a big factor here); How you can recognise overwhelm in yourself and your baby/child/teen; How to release overwhelm. I'm sending you so much love this festive season and I'm so willing for you to have plenty of connection, ease, community and rest. I've opened up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024. You can find out more on my social media. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new book – 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD
In this episode, I talk about how to help children who have learnt to eat to suppress their feelings. This follows on from the last episode about helping babies who have learnt to suppress their feelings, and the one before that, about how babies and children learn to feed and eat to suppress their feelings in the first place. If you haven't already listened to episode 160, I recommend listening to that one first. And as always, I want to remind you that it's so understandable if your child/ren have learnt to suppress their feelings with food, for all the reasons I shared in episode 160. I invite you to drop any guilt or self-judgment sticks and be deeply compassionate with yourself. I talked about: Why our own inner work is vital, so we can be more present with our child/ren; How presence and connection are the antidotes to suppression and dissociation; How to help children know they're unconditionally loved when they're eating to suppress feelings; Why it's important not to use attachment play to get children to eat what we think is healthy; What types of attachment play can be helpful if food is used to suppress feelings; Why it's important not to use loving limits with food, apart from in two scenarios; Which other aspects of Aware Parenting are important to help children express their feelings more and suppress them with food less. I'm opening up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024 very soon. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD
In this episode, I share about what you can do if your baby has learnt to suppress their feelings with feeding. If you haven't already, I invite you to listen to the previous episode, where I talked about how babies and children learn to suppress their feelings with food. I said I was going to talk about babies and children in this episode, but I'm separating them into two episodes - so the next episode will be about helping children who have learnt to suppress their feelings with food. I talk about breastfeeding because that's what I'm familiar with, but most of this is also transferrable to a baby having a bottle to suppress feelings. And you're so welcome here if you bottle feed. As with that last episode, I invite you to drop any guilt sticks (a Marion Method term) if you have often fed your baby when they had healing-feelings to express to you. I talk about: Why it's so understandable that we would feed our baby when they have healing-feelings to express; A recap on how we can tell if a baby has learnt to suppress their feelings with feeding; What can happen if a baby continues to suppress their feelings with feeding and food; Why having information is so important; Why having our own feelings heard it so vital too!; How we can observe what's going on for our baby; How to notice patterns and make sense of their cues; How we can offer loving limits; and The power of attachment play. I highly recommend The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter, and reading and re-reading chapter 3 on feeding, where she clearly explains how to differentiate between hunger and healing-feelings, and The Emotional Life of Babies, where I talk a lot about feeding, control patterns and observation. I'm opening up the doors for 6 and 12 months mentoring in 2024 very soon. Doors for the Aware Parenting Virtual Village are also opening soon. Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD
In this episode, I talk about how babies and children learn to suppress their feelings with food and how we can prevent that or lessen those effects. I share about: The importance of self-compassion; Reassurance that this is one of the most common ways that babies and children suppress feelings; Whatever age your baby or child is, it's possible to help them relearn how to distinguish between hunger and upset feelings; Inviting you to connect in with yourself to see if this resonates; How eating to suppress feelings is often passed down in families; Understanding the two types of feelings - needs-feelings and healing-feelings; Why being able to differentiate true relaxation from dissociation is vital here; The spectrum of stress and trauma for babies; How common it is to feed a baby when we think they're hungry when they actually have healing-feelings; How they learn to interpret that the sensation of upset is hunger; Seeing things from the perspective of the baby; How and why control patterns develop early on; How babies learn to interpret healing-feelings as hunger; How we can tell if a baby is suppressing feelings through feeding; How to differentiate between hunger and healing-feelings; How we might distract children with food when they are toddlers or children; How can we tell that a child may be eating to suppress feelings; How we can prevent or lessen the likelihood a baby learns to suppress their feelings with food. In the next episode, I'll talk about what we can do to help a child who has already learnt to suppress their feelings with food. If you want to learn more, I recommend 'The Aware Baby' by Aletha Solter and 'The Emotional Life of Babies' by me! In my upcoming book,' I'm Here and I'm Listening', which is for parents of 1-8 year olds, I also talk a lot about this! You can find out about my work here: www.marionrose.net The Aware Parenting Virtual Village 2.0 is opening soon too! Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird and my new books here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD
I'm so delighted that Carly Facius is back again! Carly is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. Carly has already been on two episodes of The Aware Parenting Podcast: Episode 149 on Communicating with babies and Episode 154 on Reclaiming our power through birth. I absolutely loved this conversation! We are sending so much love to any woman who gave up breastfeeding before they were ready. We discussed: How birth affects breastfeeding; What we can do in the hours after birth to support breastfeeding; The centrality of observing our baby; The research triangle of observation, information and listening to ourselves as parents; Why the parent is the expert; The importance of listening in to ourselves when we are given information about breastfeeding; Learning to trust yourself and trust your baby; How Aware Parenting is based on trusting a baby's innate wisdom; The de-conditioning process in Aware Parenting to unlearn all the ways we learnt to not trust ourselves and our innate wisdom and the wisdom of babies and children; How women often stop breastfeeding sooner than they want to because there is a lack of information or support; Doing what feels right for you in terms of breastfeeding; How any amount of continued breastfeeding benefits both baby and mother; The incredible intelligence of the human body and how breastmilk adapts to protect babies' health; Why mothers might worry that they don't have enough milk; The size of babies' stomachs as they get older; How I helped my son heal from the effects of his fast posterior birth as a newborn so that I could breastfeed him comfortably; How a lot of confusion about why babies come on and off the breast can be clarified when a mother understands Aware Parenting; What's really going on if a parent thinks that their baby is hungry but doesn't want to feed; How understanding Aware Parenting can prevent people from offering solids earlier than recommended; How the goal of introducing solids is building a healthy relationship with food; What parents can do in terms of Aware Parenting it they're thinking of introducing solids early to help their baby sleep more at night; How our culture likes to see babies as faulty or immature and Aware Parenting seens their innate wisdom that they are trying to help us understand; How instead, we can focus on observing our baby to see what they're really communicating; How important it is for us to have our feelings heard so we can actually see our baby's behaviour more clearly; How natural it is for our own feelings related to food from when we were babies will come up when our babies are feeding; How Aware Parenting can support mothers to continue breastfeeding for longer; How Aware Parenting can create more ease and enjoyment in every stage of the breastfeeding journey; Using limits and loving limits with breastfeeding; What happens if a mother is saying yes when she has a no to breastfeeding; How we do offer loving limits with breastfeeding but not solid foods; Supporting mothers to say yes to continuing breastfeeding if they want to, when they might be coerced to stop or not ready to stop; And to say no to a breastfeed their toddler if they have a no, either because of their own needs, or the toddler's; How the journey of breastfeeding invites mothers to connect with our yeses and noes and our innate wisdom and to support our babies to be deeply connected with their innate wisdom with food; Carly normally offers 1:1 sessions on breastfeeding and birth preparation and Aware Parenting but is 35 weeks pregnant and not working until next year. However, you can find Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/ If you want to find out more about breastfeeding and Aware Parenting, I recommend The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter and The Emotional Life of Babies by me!
After the last episode, I felt called to share more details about how things get in the way of children's innate body wisdom. If our aim is wanting our child to make the most optimal food choices based on their bodily sensations as well as information from us and from their own prior experience about whether they enjoyed the food and how they felt afterwards, then knowing what can get in the way of that can be helpful, whilst also being compassionate with ourselves that we live in a culture that is set against us being deeply connected with our bodies and that it's hard not to be part of that. I talk about a number of different things, such as shaming, food as rewards, advertising, family stress around meals, shoulding, using food to suppress feelings, past trauma, powerlessness and lots more, and each case, I include suggestions for how we can ameliorate these effects. I also offer parents to practice lots of self-compassion, attachment play and presence. My next book, 'I'm Here and I'm Listening' is coming out soon, and The Aware Parenting Virtual Village 2.0 is opening soon too! Keep an eye out on my socials or sign up for information about the early bird here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn
I absolutely love that Clare Louise Brumley, PhD, has returned to the podcast. She was on episode 135 about an evolutionary perspective on sleep. She is an Aware Parenting instructor as well as registered nutritionist and Integrative Medicine Practitioner and she did her PhD on this topic. We talk about: Why we are meant to feel a lot of feelings in relation to food; How an evolutionary perspective helps parents; How we can support children to use their sensory system to know what food is optimal for them; How the changes, particularly in the last 200 years, muddy the waters in sensing food; What we can do with Aware Parenting to clear the system to support our children's innate wisdom; The process of supporting children to listen in to what foods aren't a fit; Which foods take longer for children and adults to be able to sense is a no; Why Aware Parenting's centrality of connection and attunement is so vital here; How we are supporting children to be researchers; My favourite phrase of Clare Louise's – "information without judgment brings choice"; How this is an invitation for even more connection; Why children will tend to go for sweet foods and not bitter foods; What can be going on if children only want to eat a small variety of foods or to keep food types separate; Why children don't need a lot of leafy greens in the early years, especially if they've had a long breastfeeding journey; In a wild food model there is heaps of free choice but lots of natural limits; The protective mechanisms innate in the seasonal eating model; How we can generally feel if our body doesn't want a natural food more quickly than a food combined manufactured food; We would love to hear any questions you have and Clare-Louise will come back for a Q and A follow-up of this! Please come to The Aware Parenting Podcast on Instagram or FB to share your questions! You can find out about Clare Louise and her work on my website: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/
In this episode, I talk about the self-connected approach to eating, which is officially called the self-demand approach to food or self-regulated eating in Aware Parenting. I talk about children's innate body wisdom in relation to food, and the interplay of that with them needing to learn about the place, family and culture they are born into. I share about what gets in the way of their connection with the sensations in their bodies, and specifically what we can do to help them stay connected with that intrinsic wisdom, or to reconnect back with it. I explain what can make that so hard for us, and what can help us with that. If you're wanting support with this, it's included in my Aware Parenting with Marion Course, https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/aware-parenting-with-marion-course/, and in my next book (I'm Here and I'm Listening) and in 1:1 mentoring. I also highly recommend reading Aletha Solter's book 'Cooperative and Connected' which has a chapter on eating and ailments.
Hello and a big warm welcome to the next series, this time about food, feelings and trust. In this episode, I offer an overview, sharing some information about trusting children's wisdom in relation to food and helping them stay connected with that, understanding how eating can become a way of suppressing feelings, and supporting children who already have control patterns in relation to food. I also reveal the title of my next book, which will be coming out fairly soon, as well as information about my children's books and the audiobook version of The Emotional Life of Babies. If you want support with Aware Parenting, including in relation to food and feelings, the live round of my Aware Parenting with Marion Course starts on the 4th of November (and it's available all year round). You can find information about it and my 1:1 mentoring on my website www.marionrose.net or on Instagram @_marion_rose_ or @awareparenting.
At the end of this series on the effects of birth, I wanted to share an episode about how wonderful birth can be, and the effects of that on a family. In The Aware Baby, Aletha Solter talks about doing what we can to prepare for birth, and I wanted to offer some examples of that through this conversation with Carly Facius who is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. We both send you so much love and compassion to women who have had a traumatic birth and invite you to listen in to yourself and whether you might need to pause at any time. Please reach out for support if you do choose to listen and feelings come up for you. Carly shares her own background and the effects of that on seeing the beauty of birth – her mother is a midwife and was when she was a child, and actually was the only midwife in a very small country town. We talk about how we would all be seeing birth a lot if we lived in a healthy culture and what a difference that would make in this culture if we did. Carly shares about her experience of living in Bali and how birth there is an ordinary everyday event, and the cultural differences in terms of birth and how many people there often are with the birthing woman. She also shares about her own experience of giving birth, going in with the background and the positive imprints she had. She also talks about the power of being willing to receive support, and what an opportunty birthing can be for us in that. She shares about what it's like coming into parenting a newborn having had a powerful, transformative birthing experience. I share about my experience of birth and what a beautiful start it was to be practicing Aware Parenting. Carly shares about the expansion of capacity to tune in to your baby that can then happen and all the after effects of empowering births. We also talked about how important it is for parents who do have a stressful or traumatic birth to be so deeply compassionate with themselves when the whole process goes a bit awry. Carly explains that a lot of the common challenges in the early weeks and months often aren't as evident when people have an empowering birth experience. Birth can be a deeply transformative experience, both for women who give birth, but also to be alongside the birthing woman, or be an adoptive parent, there are so many ways for transformation to occur. Carly also talks about how she supports parents so they are more likely to have a powerful and transformative life experience, particularly in terms of undoing conditioning around knowing and asking for what they need and understanding how powerful they are. We also link this to Aware Parenting and helping children stay connected with their inner knowing and Carly talks about how we can model that to them while we're pregnant with them. I share about the birth video I watched hundreds of times before giving birth and Carly talks about inviting parents to focus on what they want and are willing for before birth. We finish talking about birth being an opportunity to see how powerful we are, to deeply reconnect with and trust our bodies. You can find out more about Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/
In this episode, Shelley Clarke returns to the podcast. Shelley is an Aware Parenting instructor, Hand in Hand Instructor, Marion Method Mentor and CranioSacral Therapist. Shelley was on the podcast in episode 146, talking about helping babies to heal from their birth. We talk about trusting that older children can heal from their birth experience and seeing through a different lens so we can recognise that this is what they are doing or trying to do. Shelley offers lots of examples of tangible ways you can see that your child is aiming to heal from their birth and what you can do as a parent to support and facilitate that process. We share about healing through crying and raging, and healing through attachment play. We discuss what a difference it makes both to children and their lives and to us as parents when we understand this information and are able to put it into practice. Shelly explains how important it is to have our own emotional support to be able to be with children in these ways, and we offer examples of how mothers healing from their birthing experiences often coincide with children healing from their birth. Shelley has a 3 hour workshop coming up for people who would like to understand this more deeply and have personalised support in helping their child heal from their birth. It's on Sunday 31st October from 2pm-5pm AEST. The link is here: https://shelleyclarke.newzenler.com/courses/birthtrauma YouYou can find Shelley and her work at: https://www.shelleyclarke.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/_shelleyclarke_/ and https://www.facebook.com/shelleyclarkemindbodyparenting Her podcast is The Mind-Body Parenting Podcast.
In this episode, I talk with Kirsty Fernandes, an Aware Parenting instructor who focuses on postpartum care (or 4th trimester care) and who is mother to a 4 year old and a 6 year old. In the rest of the series on The Effects of Birth, we've looked at the effects on the baby. In this episode, we're talking more about the effects on the mother. If you experienced trauma while giving birth, please connect in with yourself as you listen to this episode and pause if you need to, and reach out for listening support if you have feelings bubbling up. Kirsty shares her experience of coming to Aware Parenting, and then why she chose to focus on supporting families after birth, including her passion for offering a space where people can have their stories heard. She talks about the three main reasons parents come to her for support. Kirsty deeply values honouring the whole process of fertility, pregnancy and birth and supporting parents in that whole experience. Kirsty shares a beautiful example of how she realised that something that happened in her son's birth was showing up in their interactions together in more recent times, and what a difference knowing this can make. Kirsty shares about birth trauma, and includes trauma that has been experienced during the whole fertility and pregnancy journey and what can support families to be less likely to experience trauma, and also talks about what she sees the effects can be when there has been trauma. She then explains the differences she sees in families when parents are able to reach out for support and heal from the traumatic experiences, and in particular, what can happen for the babies or children. She emphasises the importance of loving support and emotional safety for the healing to happen. You can find out more about Kirsty and her offerings at: https://www.honouringmama.com/ and on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/KirstyFernandesHonouringMama/ and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/kirstyfernandeshonouringmama
This is a very special episode, with a lot of laughter, where I talk with Belynda Smith, who is an Aware Parenting instructor and Hand in Hand Instructor and also copy editor. Belynda shares about her journey to Hand in Hand Parenting and then Aware Parenting, and how she came to be the copy editor of The Emotional Life of Babies, my book which is about to come out. Belynda shares about Listening Partnerships, and I explain why I often tell other parents about how many Listening Partnerships she has. We then go on to talk about the process of editing the book together, including the enjoyment and ease of it all. We talk about the length of it and the cover, as well as the nuanced approach of Aware Parenting with a baby that it describes. I share about the process of feeling called to write it and how and why that happened. We talk about all the parents' stories in the book and I talk about how delighted I was that most of them used their real names. I'm so grateful to everyone who has shared their stories, who has been a beta reader, to my Marion's Books Support Team, and to those who have shared a testimonial, and more. Belynda asks me about how I've sustained my excitement about this long, and I loved responding to that question, about how in our culture we often have not only our sadness and rage suppressed, but also our excitement and exuberance. I share about how much I've enjoyed all the steps and the collaborative process of finding the title and the subtitle and so on, including with the help of the father of my children. We also talked about the invitations throughout the book, including for self-compassion, and the research triangle that I talk about in it too. The book will be out any day now! You can find out more about Belynda and her work at: https://belyndasmith.com.au/ On her website, you can also sign up for her free ebook on book sharing for connected families. Her podcast is called Tales from The Toolbox. https://www.facebook.com/talesfromthetoolboxpodcast If you want to be notified when The Emotional Life of Babies is out, I'll be sharing about it on my main email list. If you're not on it, you can sign up here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn I'll also be sharing information about how you can support me and this book, both by email and social media. My website is www.marionrose.net
In today's episode I talk with Adrienne Harper-Pike, who is an Aware Parenting instructor who also works in the deaf/blind community as a social worker, works with queer people and their families, and works with families with multiples, including twins, triplets and higher order births. Please note that we discuss things that might help you connect with painful past experiences, including the journey to conceiving through IVF, pregnancy complications, birth and postnatal trauma and complications as well as early separation between parents and babies. Adrienne shares her story of coming to Aware Parenting, which began when her daughter asked her to heal some of her birth trauma through play. She also talks about her journey with IVF and the stressful and traumatic experiences during pregnancy and during and after the birth or her premature twins and how that affected her – including with postnatal anxiety and depression, and guilt, shame and worry – as well as the babies and her partner. Adrienne talks about the huge healing they have all done since then, and the hope this gives to other families about what is possible. She talks about how the system isn't set up to support parents to heal so that they can support their babies or children to heal. Adrienne goes on to share specific examples of how her children have indicated that they were healing from their experiences in utero, during birth and after birth, and what she and her partner did to support them. She talks about the information that her partner and she have given their twins about what happened to them and how that has built over time. She finishes by sharing about the wondrousness of the healing that is possible and what she would love to share with other families who might be in similar positions. You can find out more about Adrienne and her work at: www.alongsideparenting.com and on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/alongsideparenting and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/alongsideparenting/
In this episode about communicating with babies, I talk with Carly Facius who is a Registered Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and holds a Master of Primary Maternity Care and is an Aware Parenting instructor. Carly starts off sharing about how Aware Parenting supporting mothers to have an emotional intimacy with themselves and their needs, and then goes on to talk about the similarities between being with a birthing woman as a midwife and being with a baby or child who is expressing big feelings. She then shares about how aware and sentient babies are, right from in utero, and the experiences she's had which deeply confirmed that, particularly while working as a midwife in Bali. Babies communicating in utero, during the birth, and after birth. She talks about the ways in which parents can talk to their baby in utero and during birth and if they haven't done that, knowing that it is never too late to communicate in these ways. We also discuss the power for both parent and baby in the parent narrating about what is going on throughout the day. We also talk about guilt and how important it is to put down what I call the guilt sticks both during pregnancy and after birth, trusting that babies can heal from any stress they have experienced. Carly also shares some really interesting stories about families and babies and parents communicating before and during the birthing process. You can find out more about Carly and her work at www.seedpodfamilies.com or at https://www.instagram.com/seed_pod_/
As a preface I'd like to say two things about this episode: Firstly, this is about The Marion Method rather than Aware Parenting, although it is inspired and informed by Aware Parenting and I do talk about Aware Parenting in the episode. Secondly, if you have physical pain or symptoms, please consult with your health practitioner. Given those, let's continue! In this episode, I share two examples of where I healed from physical pain through connecting with feelings related to my birth experiences. The first was just before the Gabor Maté episode. I talk about how emotional and physical pain can share a related emotional tone. I talk about the importance of the balance of attention for us as adults just as it is for babies and children. I talk about how we have an inbuilt movement towards healing from trauma, whether we are babies, children or adults. Aware Parenting offers ways to support babies and children in those innate processes. As adults, we can still heal, and there are many modalities with which we can do that. This can be reassuring for us to know that whatever our children get to heal from, they will still be invited to move towards healing as adults. If you want to sign up to my list to be notified when The Emotional Life of Babies comes out, you can do that here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn You'll also receive a free intro. to The Marion Method if you do that!
In this short episode, I talk about birth themes - these are themes that we can experience during or soon after our birth and that can get repeated during our childhood and then during our adult life, each time being an opportunity to heal from the original event and receive reparative experiences. I share examples from my own life and my family's life. I also offer some bigger picture perspectives about the relationship between our early experiences and our callings (this part isn't Aware Parenting). I have two offerings if you're wanting support to help your baby heal from stress and trauma - The Aware Parenting Babies Course and The Aware Parenting Babies Q and A Vault. You can find them both on the Aware Parenting Courses page of my website: www.marionrose.net
In this episode, I talk with Shelley Clarke, who is an Aware Parenting instructor, CranioSacral Therapist and Marion Method Mentor. Please note that neither CranioSacral Therapy nor The Marion Method are Aware Parenting. Shelley shares about her experience of practicing Aware Parenting with her three children and how she first learnt about Hand in Hand Parenting when searching for gentle sleep solutions, and then heard about Aware Parenting too. She first found me and my work n 2017 by searching for 'parenting and Psychosynthesis' (I trained and worked as a Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist). She shares about the experience of starting Aware Parenting at different ages with her children, and starting from when her third child was born, as he shared his feelings about his birth. She also did more of her own healing process from her own experience as a baby. She talks about the power of listening to a baby's feelings when being lovingly supported with our own feelings, like she experienced and now offers to parents. From her first baby to her third baby, she became really comfortable with crying-in-arms. Shelley talks about her experience of learning about CranioSacral Therapy and training in it, and how a central part of it is somato-emotional release. As part of that, she has done many birth processes on her own experiences as a baby. She shares about what happens in her work as a CranioSacral Therapist when parents bring their babies with issues related to feeding, sleeping, tension, agitation and digestion. Often the babies will express feelings from their birth during the session. We discuss how Aware Parenting and CST both have a deep trust in the body's innate capacity to heal and return to homeostasis. Shelley shares lots of details about how to be with babies as they are healing from their birth and other experiences. I also reflect back on the time when my daughter was six and had some myofascial treatment and re-enacted her birth experience whilst expressing big feelings - and we discuss how children can also heal from their births, later on than in infancy - and how close to the surface those birth memories are for children as well as babies. Shelley shares an incredible experience of one of her children being a Messenger from Life - this is from The Marion Method, not Aware Parenting. We finish talking about our deep trust in the innate wisdom of human beings and our ability to heal and come back into homeostasis, and the importance of our own inner work as parents so that we can offer a calm presence to support our baby or child's innate wisdom. You can find Shelley and her work at: https://www.shelleyclarke.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/_shelleyclarke_/ and https://www.facebook.com/shelleyclarkemindbodyparenting Her podcast is The Mind-Body Parenting Podcsat.