In concluding my series on exploring Black Love in the lifestyle I was saving the best for last. In part four I have a conversation with the ladies, the wives, the Vixens. I so enjoyed talking to these ladies as they shared their most personal thoughts and feelings as it pertains to being a hotwife. It’s always a pleasure to hear how women evolve and grow as they move through this lifestyle and their stories do not disappoint. If you enjoy hearing from women who have embraced their sexual power, then this episode will certainly make you smile. 

For part 3 of my series I talked to the husbands and got their perspective on being Stags in this lifestyle. It was cool talking to Chad and Dee and hearing that while sharing some similarities, they are both different in their approach and perspective. I enjoyed hearing their response when posed with the question “how do you handle your wife having real feelings for another man?” Some really interesting insights there. And please make sure you listen for Dee’s views on setting rules vs. building trust. It is certainly not to be missed and will surely make you think. I thoroughly enjoyed talking to these brothers and I’m sure you will enjoy listening to them.

I’m happy to bring you Pt.2 in my ongoing series where I shine the light on couples of color within the lifestyle. This episode introduces you to Chad and Vee, a couple who have been together since college. I have a great time talking to this couple and they are hilarious. This is an episode that will definitely have you laughing. Chad is a husband who is the true epitome of what it means to experience compersion. If you want to hear from a man who truly wants to see his wife living her best life, then you will certainly enjoy their story.

We all know that black men are very well represented in this lifestyle but I’ve always been struck at how underrepresented women and couples of color are. With this in mind I have been wanting to shine more light on these couples. I recently had the pleasure of meeting 2 couples who were kind enough to join me on the podcast. I decided to present these conversations in four parts: Pt 1 - D and Kee Pt 2 - Chad and Vee Pt 3 - The Stags, Chad and D Pt 4 - The Wives, Kee and Vee For this episode I’m happy to introduce you all to D and Kee. Theirs is a story of coming to grips with their feelings, being open with one another and truly embracing all that comes with this wonderful lifestyle. I hope you enjoy hearing their story as much as I did talking to them. His Twitter - https://twitter.com/dasecretlifeof Her Twitter - https://twitter.com/herstaghisvixen

I chose Raw and Exposed as the name of this episode because when you listen to it, that is exactly what R and L are…Raw and Exposed. Their emotions, pain and past traumas are on full display in this riveting conversation. I’ve talked to dozens of couples over the years on my podcast and I don’t think I can recall 2 people who were so willing to bear it all quite the way that these 2 did. Theirs is a journey of acceptance, self discovery, healing and an enduring love for one another. When people talk about the healing potential of cuckold relationships, this is the episode I will forever point them to. So sit back and enjoy as these two bring us all into their world, their struggle and their rebirth.

It’s no secret how much I am fascinated by cuckolding dynamics and the level of mind fucking that is often at play within them. I wanted to dive deeper into one of these aspects, the idea that husbands are (basically) pussy free within their own marriages. For those of you who may not be aware, pussy free is exactly what it sounds like. Husbands who are cuckolds who rarely, if ever, have sexual intercourse with their wives. This is a fascinating subject that I wanted to explore and share with my listeners and help to shed some light on the practice because so much of what you read about it online is pure fantasy. I created a questionnaire and had a group of cuckold husbands respond. In this episode I will share with you some of the responses I received to those questions so that you can hear from these special gentlemen in their own words. This was a fun episode to put together and if you are intrigued by cuckolding dynamics, this will be one you will surely enjoy. 

The China Shop episodes are some of my favorite segments because I’m given the opportunity to have these deep conversations with other Bulls in the lifestyle to learn more about their journey as well as their approach to the lifestyle. Goliath is a brother who I have been trying to have on the program for some time now. He is a fixture at Splash Mocha and is never without that ever present smile of his. During this conversation he goes into detail about how he was first introduced to the lifestyle, what kept him coming back and if he ever plans on going back to being vanilla. If you enjoy hearing about the path that Bulls walk then this is definitely an episode for you.

Whenever I get a chance to talk to couples in this lifestyle, one of the things that I enjoy hearing about is how they first met. Over the years I have heard a wide variety of scenarios but none quite like how Cindy and her husband Pat got together.It’s like something out of an 80s romantic comedy (you will see what I mean when you hear it). Theirs is a dynamic that has burned pretty hot since the beginning and it was no surprise that they found themselves in the hotwife space. That’s not to say they haven’t had their bumps in the road as you will hear them go into detail about. An important takeaway is Cindy realizing the power and responsibility that comes with being a sexually empowered woman in a hotwife marriage. This episode will have you chuckling as well as thinking.

In this episode I discuss a forum post I came across on Fetlife. The OP asked if other couples had dealt with guys who had little understanding of the cuckold dynamic. I just wanted to bring my point of view and give people something to think about. If you are a cuckold couple or a Bull wanting to learn more then you will find this episode highly informative.

Abigail and Dustin have the type of story that I hope to hear more often as this lifestyle continues to grow. One person knowing that this lifestyle was what they wanted and the other person not even knowing that this lifestyle was a thing. Listen as she talks about the doubt that she felt about him being serious about wanting to be in this lifestyle with her and how she finally came around to understanding that he was indeed serious. The thing that I really enjoyed about talking to her is her overall enthusiasm for her relationship and this lifestyle. You can tell that it all means a great deal to her. I’m definitely rooting for this couple and I look forward to having them back.

May 2018 is when I first launched the Keys and Anklets Podcast and it’s been quite a journey. Normally I’ve done something more celebratory, like have a Q and A with a guest host. This time I wanted to do something different. I wanted to just have a conversation with my listeners about what these past 5 years have been like for me. It’s not hyperbole to say that hosting the podcast has changed my life. Thank you all for the past 5 years and I look forward to bringing you more in the future.

Wendy and Judd are a very unique couple within this lifestyle. What makes them unique is that EVERYONE they know knows that they are in the lifestyle (except their kids). This made for some very interesting conversations between us. Take a listen and see how being so forthcoming about their situation has affected their relationships with family and friends. I believe that there are people out there who will be inspired to make a similar change in their own lives just as I’m sure there are some of you out there who say, “I could never”. Whichever side you are on, I’m sure you will enjoy this one.

Suzanne and Dirk are a stag/vixen couple that I’ve been wanting to have on for quite some time. I was finally able to set something up during my last splash event and they were definitely worth the wait. I love talking to husbands who are able to articulate exactly what they were feeling and struggling with during their journey. I know that there are many husbands out there with similar struggles and hearing how someone is able to process his thoughts and feelings is something that can truly help others. Theirs is a story of jumping in pretty blindly and figuring it out as it goes along. This couple really opens up and lets you inside of their particular dynamic.

I was recently at splash mocha in Atlanta and I got to do something that I haven’t done before. I did a China Shop episode with 2 fellas at the same time, Mike and Craig. These are 2 guys that I have known for some time and it was really cool to hear their different responses to the questions I posed to them simultaneously. It was definitely a nice change of pace from the way I normally conduct my China Shop episodes.. There are moments of laughter as well as being introspective. This was a lot of fun to do and I hope all you enjoy it as well.

This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to discuss but for some reason it has always remained on the back burner. Thanks to a recent conversation I had with a cuckoldress, it was finally brought to the forefront. I’ve had 100’s of conversations over the years with husbands who struggle with the idea of being a cuckold and how these struggles affect their wives. My hope is that this episode sparks a discussion between couples and provides them with the tools to work through and overcome these struggles. The last thing I want to see is another couple crumble under the weight of these issues.  Side note…..if you are a couple who has personally dealt with these issues, I’d love to hear from you.

My brother Mr. Mocha of Ofacez Podcast invited me on to discuss the topic of how guys and couples can get out of their own way and get together. Sometimes it can be a little difficult for people to go from the small talk phase to actually getting physical with one another. With this in mind Mr. Mocha and I have tried to offer some real world advice that can be helpful to both couples and single men.

As many of you know, Demitri is one of my closest friends and it’s always a pleasure having him sit down at the mic with me. It’s rare that he and I get to kick it solo on the podcast so when he told me that he wanted to come back and speak on a few things I was more than happy to have him. So in this episode we just catch up as I bring my listeners up to speed on what makes my brother tick, what Splash Mocha means to him and what types of ladies catch his attention. So sit back, listen and enjoy.

I never take for granted the opportunities that I get to chill with all 3 of my brothers in person. Doing these Bull Roundtable episodes with the 3 of them is always the highlight of my splash weekend. When you listen you can hear just how much fun we’re all having together. The topics really don’t matter, I just like to get them to talk.This time was special because in addition to the 3 of us, we also had several women sitting in with us and they were able to bring something special to the conversation as you will hear for yourself. So sit back, listen and be prepared to laugh a lot because we definitely act up when we get together.

I will never cease to be fascinated by the dynamic that exists in a cuckold dynamic. Listening to Annabell and C talk about their journey from HS sweethearts to married couple to cuckold couple is a study in what this lifestyle is all about. From their awkward beginning, to his struggles with accepting himself and his desires, to her growing confidence in herself and his unrelenting desire to do anything to make his Queen happy. If you enjoy hearing stories of what couples go through to make it to being a successful cuckold couple, then this is an episode you will definitely enjoy.

This is an episode I’ve been waiting a long time to do. 2 People who were already in the lifestyle when they met each other. Jason wanted a hotwife and found her. Casey wanted to be a hotwife and found her man. Theirs is a story of patience, perseverance, love, and learning to get out of one’s way. It will make you laugh, it’ll make you think. And mostly it will make you happy that these 2 people found each other when they did. Especially when you hear how close Casy was to just throwing in the towel and settling. I was struck by just how honest Casey was about what she was feeling through her journey and hopefully others out there will find her honesty inspiring. Enjoy