Big Fish with Spencer Matthews
Big Fish with Spencer Matthews
Om Big Fish with Spencer Matthews
I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD. At school I always felt different, but never knew why. In this episode, I talk to Chip about how I feel about my diagnosis, how it affects my relationships and what happens in the diagnostic test. This episode covers: 0’10 - What is ADHD? 1’20- Why I went for a diagnosis 3’30 - How ADHD affects me 6’00 - What happens in the diagnosis test 12’00 - How ADHD might impact relationships (wife, children and work) 23'00 - Why it's important to get an official diagnosis
This episode contains detailed discussion around mental health and self-harm. If you or someone you know has been affected by anything you hear in this episode please speak to your GP. Dame Kelly Holmes is a double Olympic Champion and one of the UK’s most popular athletes. She set the British records in the 800m and 1000m metres. Her memoir Unique has just been released - and it’s a beautifully brave and honest book; Kelly tells her story of coming out as gay in her 50s. This was one of my favourite interviews I've ever recorded. Kelly’s story is utterly inspirational. I know you will gain a lot from listening to this.
Grief - it’s something that we all will experience. In this episode Chip talks us through the grief cycle and I share my experiences of moving through each stage, including the painful denial I felt after losing my brother which lasted for a year. This episode covers: 1’00 - What’s the grief process? 2’45 - Stage 1: Denial 7'00 - Stage 2: Bargaining 9’00 - Why you should tell your loved ones how you feel 11’40 - Stage 3: Anger 16’00 - Stage 4: Depression 19’00 - Why I choose to use Mike’s death as a force for good 21’00 - Stage 5: Acceptance
Dean Forbes is one of the most successful black CEOs in the UK. He’s the chief executive of Forterro, a tech Unicorn - a company worth over £1bn. He goes into struggling tech businesses, turns them around and gets huge exists - often in the billions. He’s also just been named the UK’s second most influential black person in the Powerlist 2024. Dean’s story is incredible. He came from a working-class background, raised in Lewisham and his family were made homeless twice. He originally trained to become a professional footballer, but was forced to take a job in a call centre after being let go and amassing thousands in debt. I absolutely loved my conversation with Dean - he's an utter inspiration.
I'd find it difficult to admit I'm burnt out. But reading the list of commons signs of burnout made me reflect on whether it's something I've experienced when building CleanCo. This episode is all about stress and burnout; what's the difference and simple ways you can reduce your stress. In this episode: 1'00 - What is burnout? 4'00 - Why is it difficult to admit you're burnt out? 8'00 - How does stress manifest in different people? 10'00 - Ways to manage stress 11'00 - Why I now do Wim Hoff's breathing method 19'00 - Free ways to reduce stress if you're short of time
This episode contains detailed discussion around mental health. If you or someone you know has been affected by anything you hear in this episode please contact the Samaritans on 116 123 or speak to your GP. James McVey is a musician, best known as the lead guitarist and songwriter of The Vamps, the hit boy band, with two-number 1 albums, multiple arena tours and their music has been streamed 6 billion times. Now James has released his first solo music, which came as an immense challenge after being forced to remain silent following surgery on his vocal chords. In this powerfully honest interview we talk about how James’ childhood shaped him, including overcoming bullying in his teens to issues around his body image.
After my incredible interview with Roman Kemp last week, I wanted to spend this week's bonus episode talking about men and their mental health. Why do men struggle to talk about what's bothering us? This episode is essential listening for all men, plus any girlfriends, wives, mothers and friends who want to find out how to support someone in their life who is struggling. This episode covers: 1'20 - Why there's a stigma surrounding getting help 3'00 - Do all mental health issues stem from childhood trauma? 4'00 - Why are men reluctant to talk about their emotions? 6'20 - How does talking help? 10'10 - When is it time to go to therapy? 15'00 - Why do I parent my son differently to my daughter? 18'00 - Will the destigmatisation of ill-mental health lead to a weaker generation? 21'00 - How do you speak to someone who is struggling?
Holly Tucker is the Queen of small business. Over 20 years ago she co-founded Not On The High Street - one of the first online marketplaces to exist. She started the business in her 20s and she and her co-founder had to plead the local bank manager for a loan. Not On The High Street has since made over one billion pounds for small businesses on the platform. Holly stepped away from the company a few years back, and she's now launched Holly & Co - a marketplace founded by females, championing female founders and with female shoppers in mind. It's also an advice hub for entrepreneurs. I absolutely adored my conversation with Holly. We chatted about the importance of trusting your gut, how to find your purpose and the biggest mistakes entrepreneurs make when starting out.
Setting goals is absolutely crucial in achieving huge success in life and business. Comfort is 100% the biggest killer of your progress. This week we're discussing how to set goals and why finding your purpose is essential for staying committed. This episode covers: 1’50 - Why goals need to be set in a timeframe 3’00 - Why goals have to be achievable 4’40 - Why failure helps build resilience 7’30 - Spencer’s hairy business goal 9’20 - Goals have to be risky 11’30 - Comfort is the biggest killer of your success 13’00 - I mapped out the next 10 years of my life 16’00 - How important is having purpose?
This episode contains detailed discussion around mental health and suicide. If you or someone you know has been affected by anything you hear in this episode please contact the Samaritans on 116 123 or speak to your GP. Roman Kemp is a radio and TV presenter, best known as the host of Capital Breakfast. Roman’s become an almost accidental campaigner. Since he lost his best friend and producer to suicide, Roman’s been on a mission to shine a light on the mental health crisis facing young people in the UK today. His latest documentary, The Fight For Young Lives, is out tonight - where he explores what action is needed to support young people suffering with their mental health. I got a chance to watch this documentary before our interview, and it was truly amazing. It was honest, emotional and meaningful. Do watch it tonight. I also loved talking to Roman about his mindset - and his drive to be the best at everything he does.
Welcome to our second bonus episode of Big Fish - where each week I'm joined by my former therapist, Chip Somers, to unpack what's going on in my life and learn how we can all become the best versions of ourselves. This week we're tackling social media - and how damaging it is to our mental health and relationships. What we cover in this episode: 3’00 - Why negatives comments stick 5’00 - What’s the impact on young children? 8’00 - Are we now struggling to communicate our feelings? 12’45 - What’s the impact of technology addiction on society? 18'00 - Top tips on reducing your usage
For those of you who know the show Below Deck Mediterranean - you’ll know Captain Sandy. She’s one of the first female superyacht captains in the world - with over 30 years experience in the industry. As a teenager, her life spiralled out of control and she became addicted to drugs and alcohol, resulting in multiple arrests for drink-driving. She’s now been sober for 34 years, and completely turned her life around after she was given multiple second chances by those around her. It’s something which she never takes for granted, and pays forwards to those she meets. I know you’ll be utterly inspired by Sandy’s resilience and bravery - she’s even won awards for her bravery in facing pirates off the coast of Yemen, a shocking moment she talks about in this interview.
Welcome to our first bonus episode of Big Fish - Big Fish and Chip. Each week I'm going to be joined by my former therapist, Chip Somers, to unpack what's going on in my life and discuss how we can all become the best versions of ourselves. This episode covers: 1'00 - Our first meeting 4'55 - How Chip got me to stop drinking 8'30 - An introduction to Chip 11'50 - Is the word 'alcoholic' problematic? 14'30 - How do you know if you're a problem drinker? 16'50 - Can you ever drink again if you're a problem drinker? 17'40 - How my drinking got out of control 21'30 - How can you tell a loved one that they drink too much? 23'30 - What's the first step for someone who thinks they have a drinking problem? Please get in touch with us on Instagram @bigfish.pod if there are any topics you'd like us to cover.
Danny Cipriani is a former professional rugby player - but his name was on the front pages of the tabloids as often as the sports backpages. He was the youngest ever player in Premiership Rugby to make his international debut aged 20 and his undeniable talent captivated rugby fans worldwide. But off the pitch, Danny’s private life was heavily scrutinised in the press. His new book Who Am I? is his first memoir and he talks openly about his mental health challenges and brushes with the law. And in all honesty, I was taken back by how different Danny was in this interview, compared to the man I’d met over 10 years ago. You can tell he’s gone on such a journey of self-discovery and feels at peace with his past.
I am so excited to announce that next week I’m launching brand new bonus episodes of Big Fish. Each week I’m going to be joined by my former therapist, Chip Somers, to unpack what’s going on in my life and discuss how we can all become the best and most successful versions of ourselves. I’m going to talk about the challenges I’m facing - but also explore what my guests are going through and what we can learn from their resilience. If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to sit in on one of my therapy sessions - you’re in the right place.
I’m so excited to bring you season three of Big Fish on Wednesday, 18th October. Thank you so much for all the love from the previous two seasons, I absolutely love reading your reviews and I can’t tell you how happy it makes me that you enjoy this podcast as much as I enjoy doing it. I’m also excited to announce that we’re also launching brand new bonus episodes on Fridays - and more will be revealed next week, so please stay tuned for that.
Eton College is one of the most famous boarding schools in the UK. It's educated 20 of Britain’s 57 prime ministers and has churned out many successful people over its nearly 600 year history. Eton is an easy thing to judge, but I wonder if some of your preconceptions will be challenged after hearing this week’s episode. Simon Henderson has been headmaster at Eton’s since 2015 and this interview gives you a rare insight into how things are done at one of the country’s most prestigious schools. I guarantee you’ll learn something from this episode. Simon’s views - especially on testing and extra-curricular activities - may surprise you.
Caroline Hirons is a skincare guru and is described as the most powerful woman in the beauty industry. She started off on the shop floor, working on beauty counters at Harvey Nichols. Now she's the CEO of her own brand, Skin Rocks. She took the internet by storm after launching her blog over ten years ago, which has now been viewed more than 125 million times. That led to a Sunday Times bestselling book, which became the bestselling beauty book of all time.
Sadiq Khan is the Mayor of London, one of the top jobs in British politics. He is extremely ambitious and has achieved huge success in his career, previously working as a Labour MP and a human rights solicitor. But Sadiq came from humble beginnings. He grew up on a council estate in Tooting with 7 siblings. I absolutely loved my conversation with the Mayor. We discussed how to make tough decisions, whether sacrifices are necessary for a successful career, why more CEOs aren't in politics and his new campaign to make London safer for women.
Dan Carter is hailed as one of the most elite and successful rugby players in the world. His new book The Art of Winning is a manual for aspiring leaders everywhere. There is so much to learn from Dan on how discipline, mindset and drive can help you achieve huge success - in sport, business or life.