Unsolicited advice is something I've been personally noodling for a bit, especially in regards to personal boundaries and ethics.

Welcome back to me! I guess I kind of just disappeared. And I didn't mean to. I meant to say something, do something, let people know... But I didn't. And I apologize for that.

To "do relationships" well, there are two factors that must be considered: 1. The individuals involved. 2. The relationships.

Or, do you punish the lack of perfection? I'll admit, I do both. It's hard, sometimes, to recognize that things are getting better when they are frustrating AF, and maybe even something you take personally.

I've covered priorities, openness and respect in communication. Today, I'm tackling compassion.

Not sure where this came from, except from the heart today. I wish all of this for all of you.

I've always thought Meatloaf had it backwards. He sang, "I want you. I need you, but there ain't no way I'm ever going to love you..."

When you have power exchange relationship with romance, you actually have two relationships: Power exchange dynamic + Romantic

One thing I've noticed in kink—versus the swinging world or nearly any other passion/hobby communities I've been in—kinksters as a whole do not believe the value of kink.

And you know what else? It's encouraged by many.

I began to realize that while I didn't need another human to make my way through the world, especially one specific other human, the way love stories always suggested, I did want that partner.

I'm not the only one who has said that sex has gotten better as we've walked over that hill. And it's not just for women, either.

Whether you feel respect will play a big part in whether or not they feel respected. A lack of respect bleeds through into everything you communicate.

And I don't find that all the people in kink (or dating, or whatever) are creepy. Not even most of them. Not even most of the (gasp) men.

If you really love someone, the LAST thing you want to do is to cause them hurt.

A large and loud truck went by our outdoor gathering of kinky folk. Cue the usual jokes about masculine size compensation. I stopped them. Because consensual SPH is NOT acceptable. But consensual? Well, that's another story.

A big part of CNC is developing the trust that you both ultimately want the same sorts of things from your kink and personal lives.

Some may be born with a predisposition to pleasure. But since we can’t know what potential we are born with, it’s up to us to try new things, practice our exercises, and see where we can go and what we can feel.

One of the questions I get repeatedly: "Is 24/7 right for me?" It's an easy answer, once you have all the moving parts in place: Definitions, Negotiations, Expectations

Are you open enough? Are you authentic with your words and feelings? Do you offer what you need to offer to make your priorities happen?