This year has been stretching for our marriage. We’ve had some really hard and spark-less days. In fact, at the beginning of the summer, I looked into Jesse’s eyes and said: “This isn’t working. Something needs to change.” We talked about how we felt like we’d been running on empty in our marriage, that we’d been trying to tap into any reserves we had but we were now hitting the bottom of the barrel. Maybe some of you who have walked through challenging seasons can relate? It wasn’t any one thing. We still loved each other. We just were tired and worn down and our marriage was getting the leftovers — and truthfully it felt like there really hadn’t even been many leftovers to spare in recent months. We knew something needed to change, so here were two things we did: HONESTY: we said out loud what we were feeling. We didn’t blame the other person. We took personal responsibility. It’s sometimes easy to stuff down our feelings — but that only makes things worse over time as they eventually explode out in dysfunctional responses (and usually in anger). We also got honest with God — asking for His help and wisdom — and with few trusted friends in our life. We listened to their wise counsel and took their advice. PRIORITY: we started prioritizing our marriage again — even when it was super challenging to do with 3 teens and 3-4 younger ones. I realized that I’d been putting the kids’ needs above Jesse. I would always view their needs as more urgent and put him on the back burner. I didn’t mean to do this, but it just sort of started happening — and it hurt our relationship. So I began asking them to wait sometimes so that I could talk to him/kiss him/greet him first. We committed to look into each others’ eyes more. To kiss more. To look for little ways to express our love throughout the day. And to make time for dates by ourselves — even if it was just 45 minutes. Love is often built and nurtured in the little tiny choices day in and day out. We’d lost sight of that this year and the impact was significant. But little bit, by little bit, in our choosing to make each other the most important priority next to God again, the sparks are coming back! In this week's episode of the podcast, Jesse and I share more about this year, the challenges our marriage has faced, and how we're fighting through and fighting for each other... and learning from our mistakes. I hope this honest and vulnerable conversation encourages you. Plus, like usual, we share some family updates and I talk about a sweatshirt I'm loving and an audiobook I've been listening to! In This Episode [3:19] - We're getting honest about marriage today! [6:22] - I have been listening to Three Sisters by Heather Morris. [11:32] - A sweatshirt I've been loving and a free Christmas gift guide! [13:52] - Reflecting on almost 21 years of marriage. [17:02] - Both of us felt like there was not enough space in our lives to handle everything. [19:29] - In the midst of a lot of unknown, unexpected, and interruptions, this year’s emotional toll strained our marriage. [25:51] - We eventually admitted the need for change in our marriage, emphasizing honesty and shared responsibility without blame. [29:07] - Confronting the danger of drifting apart, committing to creative solutions and honest communication. [32:37] - Prioritizing each other, teaching our kids patience, and planning intentional dates. [36:46] - Jesse adds that recognizing issues and being open to honest communication is crucial for marital understanding. Links & Resources Crystal Paine FREE Homemade Gift Guide Oversized Sweatshirt Episode: Why I'm Saying No Three Sisters: A Novel by Heather Morris 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I try not to have favorite podcast episodes, but I just really, really loved this episode and can't wait for you to hear it. I hope it inspires and warms your heart as much as it did mine! This week, I got to sit down with Ginny Yurich, the founder of 1000 Hours Outside, to delve into her impactful work and discuss her latest book, Until the Streetlights Come On: How a Return to Play Brightens Our Present and Prepares Kids for an Uncertain Future! Ginny has deeply inspired me through her work and I share more about how the concept of 1000 Hours Outside has changed my life this past year. I share a little about this during this conversation and then Ginny shares how this idea first came about for her. You will fall in love with Ginny (if you don't already follow her online!) as she shares her heartfelt story and passion for families spending more time outdoors. From practical tips for busy moms to anecdotes about navigating outdoor adventures with teenagers, we explore the multifaceted benefits of outdoor play and the positive impact it has on our mental and emotional well-being. I think you will be so inspired and blessed by listening to this episode! In This Episode [0:35] - I am thrilled to welcome Ginny Yurich to the podcast! [3:18] - Ginny shares her transformative experience that first launched the idea of 1000 Hours Outside. [6:24] - Hear how Ginny discovers the joys of unstructured outdoor time, realizing its profound impact on child development and emotional enrichment. [11:12] - Ginny offers advice on spending more time outdoors, such as finding a friend, choosing a safe space, packing essentials, and starting with easy outings. [14:04] - Spending a few hours per day outdoors doesn't have to be as complicated to make happen as it might seem at first. [15:35] - Ginny touches upon how incorporating outdoor rhythms transforms parenting. [18:51] - Outdoor adventures foster lasting memories, boost cognition, and defy screen-centric teen stereotypes. [21:23] - Ginny shares how encouraging teens in diverse activities fosters lifelong development. [25:26] - Setting a 1000-hour outdoor goal ensures accountability, balancing learning with flexible and efficient educational opportunities. [27:19] - Ginny points out that morning outdoor time boosts mood and energy and sets a healthy day-night cycle. [29:27] - I, in closing, point out that the thousand hours outside concept invites a balance, not a strict choice; embracing nature is a gift for both parents and kids. Links & Resources Crystal Paine 1000 Hours Outside Until the Streetlights Come On: How a Return to Play Brightens Our Present and Prepares Kids for an Uncertain Future by Ginny Yurich MEd 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jesse and I did something we've never done before for this episode: we recorded it twice! Not because of technical issues, either. Listen in for why (and you can laugh!) In this week's podcast, we share a candid glimpse into some struggles we've experienced in recent months that prompted a conversation that led to a change in our daily lives. We talk about some of the hurdles that come with working from home and how these have impacted us recently. We also talk about how to be honest when you feel stuck, how to assess and acknowledge your challenges, and how to move forward from stuck to solutions. Throughout the conversation, listen in as we emphasize the importance of recognizing that you're never truly stuck, and we encourage listeners to be open to new perspectives and approaches. Join us as we share our journey of embracing change, finding solutions, and discovering the transformative power of a fresh perspective! In This Episode [1:37] - RSV, stomach bugs, and surgery... it's not been dull around here! [10:37] - I just finished listening to a really fascinating novel! [15:19] - What has been saving my life? [16:10] - Car seat covers have been so helpful! [20:24] - We are talking about a little tweak that has made a big difference in our lives! [22:51] - Learn about the four As to tweak your life! [24:57] - I felt resistance to Jesse's idea at first. [29:46] - I detail how this tweak brought unexpected benefits. [34:56] - Jesse adds not to dismiss possibilities based on perceived impracticality. [35:52] - I emphasize the importance of not believing that you’re stuck; there’s always a solution. Links & Resources Car Seat Covers The Crystal Paine Show - 230. Why I’m Saying No A Night Divided by Jennifer A. Nielsen Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Do you miss a title you used to have, a role you used to have, or a person or thing that used to be a big part of your life? If so, today's podcast episode will encourage your heart -- especially if letting go of what your life used to look like has been hard. Chuck and Ashley Elliott joined me in-studio recently to talk about their brand new book I Used to Be ___ : How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward-- a book that pretty much all of us can relate to! Chuck and Ashley have been married for sixteen years and have served as marriage educators, in addition to Chuck being a pastor and Ashley being a therapist. They are also deeply familiar with grief and loss and they share some of what they've walked through in this episode. In this episode, we discuss the process of grief, the dangers of belittling our pain or comparing it to others, how to determine if we have unprocessed grief, how anger can actually be such a valuable warning flag, and why so often what we think we are frustrated about isn't actually what is frustrating us. They also talk about the three A's to change: awareness, assessment, and action and how we can use these as tools to move to a healthier, more wholehearted and healed place -- so that we can live with more joy and less stress and anger. In This Episode [0:35] - Today’s show features Chuck and Ashley Elliott -- marriage educators as well as a pastor and therapist. [3:18] - Ashley shares some of the grief and losses that she and Chuck have experienced. [4:56] - Where does the concept behind the title of the book come from? [7:37] - Everyone likely feels that they’ve lost a part of what they once were. [11:44] - How can we identify a loss that we aren’t properly processing? [14:31] - Chuck shares how anger is sometimes a mask for other feelings. [17:12] - Ashley discusses the three A's to change. [19:47] - What do you do if it feels like nothing is working and you're just stuck? [24:33] - Ashley shares openly about their miscarriages and speaks to parents who have walked through the grief of infertility or losing a baby. [28:54] - We end this episode talking about the power of your presence and how sometimes that is the greatest gift we can give to another. Links & Resources Crystal Paine ChuckandAshley.com I Used to Be ___ by Chuck Elliott & Ashley Elliott 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This podcast episode is one I'd been looking forward to recording -- because it is always so special to get to talk to a mom who also has a child with Down syndrome. Author of The Gift of the Unexpected: Discovering Who You Were Meant to Be When Life Goes Off Plan, Jillian Benfield joins me today to share her heartfelt story of getting the very unexpected diagnosis of Down syndrome for her second child, Anderson. In this conversation, Jillian and I dive into the depths of her experience, beginning with the earth-shattering phone call that changed her life's trajectory. Jillian recounts the initial shock, the fear, and the grief she felt upon learning about her son's diagnosis. What follows is a candid conversation about the unlearning and re-earning process she underwent, navigating the unexpected, and the beautiful, inspirational transformation that emerged. Jillian also shares powerful insights about worthiness and the societal pressures that define what it means to be successful. We explore the misconceptions surrounding Down Syndrome and how her son, Anderson, reshaped her perspective. Jillian's advocacy for inclusive education shines through as she discusses the importance of embracing differences in both schools and churches, and together, we reflect on the beauty of embracing the unexpected, finding hope in the midst of despair, and discovering the gifts that emerge from life's unexpected turns. In This Episode [0:35] - I have Jillian Benfield, author of The Gift of the Unexpected, on the show today! [3:09] - Jillian shares how a surprising move to Alamogordo and then a pregnancy test completely disrupted her plans for her life. [5:47] - In the face of a Down syndrome diagnosis, she re-examined life's meaning. [10:40] - Jillian reflects on how society usually links worth to success. [13:46] - Learn how the unexpected deeply connected Jillian to a vulnerable, suffering Jesus. [17:23] - Jillian and I discuss how acceptance transforms perceptions; disabilities don't define worth. [20:29] - Anderson is thriving in inclusive school, embracing happiness and sibling love. [21:59] - How her other children have grown with empathy, learning from their brother's unique journey. [24:09] - Inclusive education is vital for fully embracing people with disabilities. [26:45] - We talk about church inclusion, highlighting mutual benefits for all members. [28:31] - Jillian reflects on the white sands behind her house in New Mexico, emphasizing that new life can emerge from unexpected challenges. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Gift of the Unexpected: Discovering Who You Were Meant to Be When Life Goes Off Plan by Jillian Benfield Jillian Benfield 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Buckle up because we are diving into a pretty controversial topic this week on the podcast: ​​why we don't think parents should pay for everything for their kids and why we expect our kids to get a job by 15. In this podcast episode, I share the story of a simple Instagram post that sparked a heated debate and led me to discuss why we have this requirement in our family. We explore the reasons behind this decision, how it plays out in our home, and the valuable life skills our teens learn through this experience. Listen in as Jesse and I discuss how our teens having jobs and learning to manage their own money has been so valuable and provided such fulfillment and real world experience. We also discuss the benefits of having our kids manage their earnings, learn to balance responsibilities, and understand the connection between work, money, and their future stability. We also talk about how to navigate jobs when your kids have very full schedules with school and sports. We hope this episode inspires you to empower your children to more successfully manage their time and money as they get older and have more confidence in many different situations. In This Episode [0:35] - We are talking today about why we require our kids to have jobs by the time they’re 15. [1:34] - We've got some travel stories for you today! I hope they can make you laugh! :) [18:36] - Lessons learned: stay calm, spread kindness, and look to make the most of every opportunity. [22:01] - Why do we require our kids to get jobs by the time that they're 15? [24:49] - I strongly believe that paying for everything for our kids does them a disservice. [26:16] - I talk about how it's crucial to teach our children about time management. [28:19] - We teach our kids fulfillment through hard work, encouraging independence. [30:04] - It can be difficult for a 14-year-old to get a job, but there are ways around the challenge. [33:35] - Jesse reminds us that we aren't talking about full-time jobs here when they are teenagers. [36:26] - The benefits we experienced from getting jobs and managing money as teens. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Image RESTored: Tear Down Shame and Insecurity to Experience a Body Image Renovation by Rachael Gilbert 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Welcome back to the show, everyone! This week, I am discussing a Real talk: I’ve struggled with body image much of my life. I’ve used food and exercise as a reward and punishment. I’ve obsessed over what I ate or didn’t eat, how much I exercised or didn’t exercise, how my clothes fit or didn’t fit, and what the number on the scales. I’ve beat myself up when the jeans didn’t fit, felt frustrated and discouraged when the scale didn’t say the number I wanted it to, and spent way too much mental energy thinking about what I see when I look in the mirror. I’ve always gained 30+ pounds with each pregnancy and losing it has always been a challenge. But I felt like getting back to “pre-pregnancy size” was super important — so I’ve expended so much thought and effort and unhealthy pursuits to hit that. I don’t share this so that people will leave comments saying, “But you look great!” I share this because I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this. As women, we can invest so much time, thought, and money in the pursuit of what we think is the ideal body image… all the while missing that we are made in the image of God, thinness doesn’t define our value and worth, and that the Enemy loves to hijack our focus from Jesus to an obsession over our size. And that’s why I’m so grateful for this week’s podcast episode with @rachaeljgilbert where we talk openly about what it looks like to have a healthy body image and practical ways to get there. Yes, pursuing health and fitness so that we can have energy to do what God has called us to do and honor the body God has given us is a good thing. But the number on the scale or size on the tag of our jeans is not what defines us: Jesus does! And I’ve learned firsthand that you can hit your goal weight and still be incredibly unhealthy mentally, emotionally, and physically. Because health isn’t just about what we put into our bodies or what we see in the mirror; it’s also about what we allow to take up residence in our minds and hearts and what we believe about ourselves and about God. In this episode, Rachael Gilbert, the author of Image RESTored: Tear Down Shame and Insecurity to Experience a Body Image Renovation, shares powerful insights and personal journey shed light on the often unspoken struggles many face. We delve into the impact of trauma on body image and how addressing both big and small traumas is crucial for healing. Rachael's expertise as a therapist guides us through the process, offering practical tools and a fresh perspective on finding freedom. Rachael reveals the significance of addressing both big and small traumas that impact how we view ourselves. She explains how these experiences create barriers and impact our lives, and she shares her own transformative journey, emphasizing the power of processing trauma. Her insights provide keys to unlock a new way of thinking and living, so I hope you will join us as we explore the layers of healing, embracing your identity in Christ, and discovering the path towards body image restoration. In This Episode [0:35] - Today’s guest is Rachael Gilbert, author of the book Image RESTored! [1:17] - Rachael shares her personal body image struggles and healing journey. [2:25] - Blending fitness expertise and therapy, Rachael guides body image challenges. [4:33] - I ask Rachael to share some of her personal journey. [7:11] - Rachael shares how she began to seek help and embrace change. [9:32] - It starts with recognizing the desire for change, then embracing tools. [10:42] - Rachael advocates for identifying core beliefs and challenging them. [13:50] - Challenge lies with God's truth, reshaping thought patterns for healing. [16:01] - Rachael argues for creating a safe, empathetic space for girls' body image struggles. [19:57] - It was so important to Rachael to address her trauma, a key topic in her book. [23:29] - Embrace insecurities, and confront them with tools for lasting freedom. [25:20] - I add that we should recognize insecurities and find truth in God's love. [26:46] - A secure attachment to God improves body image struggles. [28:59] - Rachael advises us to open our hearts to Jesus; He heals even the most broken parts. [30:26] - I explain why I love the title of Rachael's book. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Image RESTored: Tear Down Shame and Insecurity to Experience a Body Image Renovation by Rachael Gilbert 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

“Pretend you’re standing on the edge of a huge cliff and someone is going to push you off if you don’t let go of 2-3 things you’re carrying. What are you going to let go of?” I was at the end of my first coaching session with @alliworthington a few months ago and she’d ask me to describe my life and responsibilities. She told me I needed to find some things to let go, scale back on, get help with, or delegate. I pretty quickly said, “I don’t know that I really can.” And I was prepared to back up my answer with lots of solid reasons why I needed to be carrying everything I was carrying. Instead of me having an opportunity to do just that, she gave me the cliff analogy above and told me I had two weeks to ponder the question and come back to her with some ideas of what I was going to let go of. I love that she did this because it was exactly what my stubborn, do-it-myself, don’t-ask-for-help personality needed to be challenged with. And — to my great surprise! — in the next few weeks, I found three big ongoing responsibilities that I could let go of — and I did!! In this week’s episode of the podcast, I share what those three responsibilities were and how it looked and felt to hand them off and what I’m learning from this. I hope my journey and story really encourages those of you who might need the gentle nudge — or a strong kick in the backside — to release some of what you’re clinging onto thinking you’re the only one who can do it, the only one who is willing/stepping up to say yes, or the only one who can do it as well as you can. This journey of letting go, praying for God to bring help, receiving the offers of help, and letting others help has been SO hard and humbling and so, so good for my soul. Plus, I’m starting to feel a lot more breathing room in my life again — which has been a huge gift! In This Episode [0:35] - We are talking about the importance of saying no today. [2:32] - Hear about a potential water leak we discovered in Kathrynne’s house. [6:38] - It turned out that it was just a reading error because the meter was broken! [9:57] - Jesse’s passion for weather. [12:41] - A funny story about our recent trip and a "stream". [16:52] - What has been saving my life lately? [19:36] - Our little ones have been loving chalkboards and dry-erase boards. [21:37] - I recently read Don’t Hold Back by David Platt! [25:09] - Saying no. [29:54] - On callings and also balancing that with a sustainable life. [32:17] - Letting go of a role I've held for the past few years. [36:06] - Two more responsibilities I let go of. [37:38] - Saying no can make space for others to say yes. Links & Resources Crystal Paine BOB Gear Revolution Flex 3.0 Duallie Double Jogging Stroller, Graphite Black Chalk Full of Design The Crystal Paine Show - 223. Love is Worth the Risk Books Three Felonies a Day: How the Feds Target the Innocent by Henry Silverglate Don’t Hold Back: Leaving Behind the American Gospel to Follow Jesus Fully by David Platt 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Prepare to dive into a topic that might make some of you a bit uncomfortable but is incredibly important for the health of your marriage - secrets of sex and marriage. My friend Shaunti Feldhahn is the author of the book Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference, and she and I are excited to discuss this because it's a topic that many couples struggle with but often don't openly address. We explore the surprises teased in her book title, from understanding what's normal to the different types of desire, and most importantly, effective communication. One of the key takeaways from our discussion is that intimacy isn't just about physical connection; it's about knowing your spouse in the deepest, most vulnerable way possible. When you can truly understand your partner's fears, desires, and needs, you can build a stronger emotional and physical connection. Shanti has also created a workbook, "Unlocking an Intimate Marriage," to complement the book and guide couples in fostering profound connections beyond just the bedroom, so whether you're in a thriving marriage or facing challenges, this episode has something valuable to offer, and I encourage you to join us on this journey of discovery and connection! In This Episode [0:35] - Today’s episode is with returning guest Shaunti Feldhahn! [1:57] - Shaunti shares some background information about herself with us. [2:58] - Frequent sexual intimacy is a vital factor in marriages, impacting overall happiness. [5:53] - Shaunti's research included aspects such as anonymous interviews. [8:01] - Understanding the wide range of normal in intimacy is crucial. [11:45] - Most couples experience a desire mismatch due to different types of desire, not just differing libido levels. [13:51] - Understanding two types of desire, initiating and receptive, helps couples effectively work together. [16:23] - I stress the importance of communication in intimacy. [17:32] - Shaunti shares how her book helps couples discuss sensitive topics comfortably. [20:12] - Learn about Shaunti's workbook! [22:21] - Open communication about this topic leads to improved overall marital satisfaction. [24:32] - How does Shaunti define an intimate marriage? [27:19] - Hopelessness in relationships often stems from miscommunication and misunderstanding. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - 86. How to Talk to Your Spouse About Money (with Shaunti Feldhahn) Books Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am beyond excited about today's guest! Bri McCoy is here, and we are diving into her brand new book The Cook’s Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniques to Master Everyday Cooking! It's not just the delicious recipes that make this book special but also the joy and confidence it brings to the kitchen. If you have ever felt overwhelmed in the kitchen, struggled to find joy in cooking, or simply want to simplify your mealtime, this episode is definitely a must-listen for you! Bri shares her story of transitioning from someone who avoided cooking to embracing it with enthusiasm, and she talks about the importance of learning cooking skills and techniques and how they unlocked her joy in the kitchen. Bri's book is all about teaching these skills and complementing them with easy-to-follow recipes, and she emphasizes that cooking doesn't have to be about perfection; rather, it's about confidence and enjoying flavorful meals. She also discusses the challenges of building community when moving frequently due to her husband's military service and shares her experiences and how she prioritizes connection despite the inevitable goodbyes. Again, if you have ever felt daunted by the kitchen or wondered how to build deeper connections with others, join us for this episode as we explore the joy of cooking and the power of community. Bri's journey and her book offer hope and practical tips for anyone seeking to bring more joy and connection into their lives through cooking and shared meals. Get ready to be inspired and discover a newfound love for the kitchen! In This Episode [0:35] - Today’s episode is a conversation with Bri McCoy, author of The Cook’s Book! [1:04] - Bri shares a little bit of insight about herself. [3:38] - How did Bri go so long without learning how to cook? [4:47] - Bri explains that she wrote her book as an ultimate kitchen resource for beginners. [5:31] - Learn how Bri came to fall in love with cooking. [7:48] - Bri recommends beginning with simple recipes. [9:11] - Bri discusses how sharing a meal helped reveal vulnerabilities and foster connections. [10:44] - Moving every three years forces Bri to build a community very quickly. [13:19] - Bri emphasizes teaching and reinforcing cooking skills via her recipes. [14:33] - Bri acknowledges the difference between simple and bland. [16:20] - Bri values deep friendships despite relocating every three years. [18:41] - Hear about how Bri really hates goodbyes. [20:27] - Bri discusses realizing the importance of cherishing friendships before distance. [22:35] - Bri reveals what she most hopes people will get out of her book. [24:00] - Cooking confidence grew for Bri when she rescued her burning chicken. [25:26] - What would Bri say to her younger self if she could? [28:09] - I agree with Bri that we should own our abilities without needing to be the best at them. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books The Cook’s Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniques to Master Everyday Cooking by Bri McCoy Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to welcome Paul Angone back to the show, who was first on back in episode 127! Paul joins me today to talk about his book Listen to Your Day, delving into the concept of paying attention in the digital age and sharing how he’s transformed and improved his own relationship with his phone. We discuss the challenges of maintaining healthy relationships with loved ones and strangers in a digital world full of distractions, highlighting how parents are often juggling the demands of family and work. We touch upon the growing concern around the relationship between children and social media, and we talk about the importance of being present and attentive to loved ones. Paul also shares some practical tips for doing so, such as asking meaningful questions, starting the day with intention, and making eye contact with people rather than constantly looking down at our phones. Paul encourages us to build deeper connections with people, not just with loved ones but with strangers that we come across in the grocery store as well, and he suggests starting the day off with a simple question: “What do I want to focus on today?” This, he argues, can really help set the tone for a more intentional approach to life. This was such a wonderful conversation, and I strongly encourage you to read Paul’s book titled Listen to Your Day! I love it so much that I have had to limit how many pages I read each day so that I don’t tear through it too quickly! Between listening to this captivating conversation with him and reading his book, you’re sure to walk away with a much deeper understanding of how to cultivate a more meaningful life! In This Episode [0:35] - Today’s conversation is with Paul Angone, author of Listen to Your Day! [2:18] - Paul discusses the origin of the book. [4:33] - Paul navigates parenting and work while avoiding smartphone distractions. [7:09] - I question the impact of phones, acknowledging their problems despite their usefulness. [8:05] - Paul highlights parallels between his creative journey and the duality of smartphones. [10:54] - Paul emphasizes the need for intentionality in managing phone usage. [13:31] - I discuss my own personal experience with social media addiction. [15:23] - We must address social media's impact and model healthy phone use for kids. [18:07] - Paul argues for promoting presence, modeling healthy habits, and engaging with kids. [19:53] - I point out how social media can fill a void in our hearts sometimes, offering validation. [21:40] - Paul emphasizes the importance of paying attention to relationships in our daily lives. [23:42] - Building connections through questions and engagement fosters trust and love. [26:06] - Maintaining eye contact and meaningful interactions for just seven seconds matters. [27:28] - Paul points out that we should avoid missing out on “not so chance encounters.” [29:20] - Noticing small details in conversations can lead to deeper connections. [30:35] - Learn how Paul has improved his relationship with his phone. [34:06] - Paul’s book provides a framework to discover priorities and start the day with intention. [35:37] - Start your day off by asking yourself what you want to focus on that day. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - 127. Living Out Your Calling (instead of being limited by lies) Books Listen to Your Day by Paul Angone Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

We are talking all about transitions this week on the podcast because we have experienced many of them recently just in the last week alone! Listen as we dive into a whirlwind week of transitions in our lives. From Kathrynne embarking on her college journey and stepping into adulthood to David starting preschool, it has truly been a rollercoaster of emotions! We share the joys and challenges of these significant life changes and how we are adapting our family schedule to accommodate these shifts. Join us as we discuss the importance of embracing transitions, the power of community, and the unexpected blessings that come with watching our children take flight into new adventures! I also reveal how a simple question from Jesse saved my sanity during this hectic week. You won’t want to miss this episode full of real-life stories and insights into navigating transitions with grace and hope! In This Episode [0:35] – It has been one really full week! [1:27] – Learn why recording this podcast was delayed so many times. [4:06] – Another fiasco this week was Kierstyn cutting her own hair! [11:14] – Hear about yet another delay that happened this morning. [12:41] – I have been reading The Worry-Free Parent by Sissy Goff. [14:07] – Learn what has been saving my life this week! [15:37] – Thinking about time management, I saved a lot of time by ordering groceries online. [17:40] – The first of four big transitions is Kathrynne starting college! [21:59] – Live in the present and don’t fear the future. [22:47] – Jesse also emphasizes the joy of celebrating Kathrynne’s transition into adulthood. [23:59] – Kathrynne was worried about not knowing anyone at college but has been very social. [25:36] – It’s so important to prioritize community over household projects when transitioning. [27:55] – Another transition this week was David starting preschool! [30:52] – Hear how our lives have changed because of David being in preschool. [33:18] – I am excited to homeschool our kids, spending mornings offline, and prioritizing family. [35:19] – We have also been getting up much earlier, even on weekends! Links & Resources The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Step into a very candid conversation today as I am so thrilled to welcome Tricia Goyer to the show! Tricia is an accomplished author who's been a part of my life for a long time, and our talk delves into her journey as an author, her unique family dynamics, and the importance of nurturing healthy relationships with our children. We reminisce about our past experiences speaking on adoption and foster care, which deeply influenced my path. Tricia shares some incredibly valuable insights from her latest book, Before You Meet Your Future Husband: 30 Questions to Ask Yourself and 30 Heartfelt Prayers, co-authored with Robin Jones Gunn, and if you’re thinking, Well, I am already married, so I don’t need this book, I strongly encourage you to still at least stick around for this conversation because there is so much value that can help people across generations! Tricia and I emphasize the significance of self-discovery, fostering personal growth, and building strong values before entering a relationship. We also explore the art of parenting teenagers, a journey that requires a balance of grace and guidance. Tricia’s stories reveal the transformation that comes from understanding and connecting with teens' emotional needs. Through shared experiences, Trisha and I emphasize the power of empathy, understanding, and focusing on positive connections, even amidst life's complexities, so join us in discovering how nurturing relationships with our children can truly make a difference! In This Episode [0:35] - Welcome Tricia Goyer to the podcast! [2:33] - Tricia provides us with some background information about herself. [4:13] - Tricia turned to foster care adoption, eventually expanding their family to seven children. [7:23] - Learn what inspired Tricia’s book Calming Angry Kids. [9:50] - Tricia reflects on doubt felt amidst directed trauma from adopted older girls. [11:40] - Tricia emphasizes the importance of self-discovery before getting into a relationship. [14:23] - Parents should start having these conversations with their kids around 12 or 13. [17:05] - Tricia argues that kids are listening even when it seems like they’re not engaged. [19:54] - ​​I point out the importance of engaging in children's interests. [21:19] - Tricia highlights the significance of recognizing hormones and emotions in teenagers. [23:05] - All behavior is a form of communication. [24:00] - The new book resonated with a diverse range of readers, which surprised Tricia. [26:19] - Tricia reflects on having been a teen mom herself. [29:11] - Tricia has written over 80 books! [30:15] - Tricia points out that her calling also benefits her kids. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Before You Meet Your Future Husband: 30 Questions to Ask Yourself and 30 Heartfelt Prayers by Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind by Tricia Goyer Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His by Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption by Katie Davis Majors Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Get ready for an episode of the show that I have been looking forward to for so long! I am joined today by the incredible Alli Worthington, author of the recently released book Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood. Believe me, if you're seeking empowerment and practical guidance in navigating the challenging waters of parenting, this episode is an absolute must-listen! In our conversation, Alli opens up about her journey as a mother to five boys and a stepdaughter, offering relatable stories that will resonate deeply with so many mothers. From tackling the pervasive grip of mom guilt to disassembling the myth of perfection that tends to be perpetuated by social media, we delve into many of the challenges and pressures that mothers face today, including the hesitation to ask for help when it's needed. We also explore Alli's refreshing concept of slacker parenting (which Jesse and I have discussed on the show before), encouraging us to focus on what truly matters and shed the unrealistic expectations that often weigh us down. Listen in to discover actionable steps to prioritize self-care, cultivate emotional health, and empower your children to become responsible adults! In This Episode [0:35] - I am chatting with Alli Worthington today! [1:44] - Alli gives us some background information about herself. [3:03] - Alli reveals why she was initially hesitant to write a book about family. [5:18] - I share a relatable experience about my own struggle with mom guilt. [7:13] - Alli emphasizes the importance of teaching kids self-sufficiency. [9:20] - Alli defines slacker parenting. [12:12] - Human connection matters most to kids, not perfect meals. [13:37] - Emotional health encompasses mental, spiritual, and relational well-being. [15:55] - I emphasize a part of Alli’s book about there being no such thing as perfect parenting. [16:55] - Alli points out what managing emotional health looks like for mothers. [18:33] - Alli argues that women often feel like they can’t ask for help. [21:30] - If someone can complete a task at 75% of your ability, it’s worth letting them help. [23:42] - How can moms find the balance between helping their kids without enabling them? [26:00] - Teenage responsibility requires fostering independence and avoiding over-parenting. [28:24] - I share how college orientation advised me to send my daughter with a medicine box. [30:13] - Alli wishes she’d known about self-care and rejecting unrealistic parenting sooner. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - 208. Slacker Parenting (AKA How to spend less time micromanaging and more time enjoying your kids) Books Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood by Alli Worthington Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I dive deep into the topic of how love is worth the risk. We share how recent experiences have challenged us to embrace the vulnerability of loving wholeheartedly. Whether it's fostering a child and facing the heart-wrenching goodbyes, navigating friendships with the potential for hurt, or parenting in a way that opens our hearts to the unknowns of the future, we've discovered that to truly love is to take a risk... but it is worth the risk. We also discuss the importance of living in the moment, savoring each day, and recognizing that the uncertainties of tomorrow shouldn't deter us from loving fully today. Join us as we explore the significance of opening our hearts, being vulnerable, and choosing to love in a way that echoes the unconditional love we receive from God. It's a reminder that even though love comes with its challenges, it's a risk that is absolutely always worth taking! In This Episode [0:35] - We’re talking today about how loving comes with risks but is still worth it! [1:49] - I reflect on recent events like our daughter's freshman year of college and a vacation. [4:00] - We talk about how baseball tryouts for Silas have been character-building for him. [6:37] - Despite relinquishing control as a parent, I still sometimes want control over outcomes. [7:19] - I reflect on changed perspectives from navigating travel baseball. [10:02] - Jesse has had more time to read and mentions two books he started. [11:16] - Hear how Mayhem Nation has been saving my life. [14:16] - Jesse highlights the difference between CrossFit Games and everyday activities. [15:28] - I give a personal example of love coming with risk. [17:05] - I elaborate upon the pain of having to say goodbye to a child -- twice. [21:41] - Fostering can be unpredictable, and foster parents have to be able to adapt to change. [22:31] - I reflect on the risk of opening my heart and how being vulnerable is worth the risk. [25:15] - God gives us beautiful opportunities to show love and receive love ourselves. [25:54] - Whatever your situation, I encourage you to open your hands and your heart. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - 213. Every Woman a Theologian (with Phylicia Masonheimer) Mayhem Nation Stop Calling Me Beautiful: Finding Soul-Deep Strength in a Skin-Deep World by Phylicia Masonheimer The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff Dead Fall: A Thriller (The Scot Harvath Series Book 22) by Brad Thor Three Felonies A Day: How the Feds Target the Innocent by Harvey Silvergate and Alan M. Dershowitz Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

We don't have many repeat guests on the podcast, but I was so happy to have Lisa Whittle back in the studio to talk about her new book God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief! This book is all about finding rest and comfort in God, and I just really love how Lisa's heart points people to Jesus through her work. Lisa and I dive deep into her trilogy of books, Jesus Over Everything, The Hard Good, and now God Knows, which, together, offer a full picture of living a spiritual life. Lisa's insights on trust, faith, and finding rest in God are incredibly powerful and practical. They aren’t just theoretical; they give you actual ways to practice resting in God in your everyday life, and I strongly encourage you to grab copies of her books! The newest book especially will allow you to soak up what it means to live with those two simple words: God knows. In This Episode [00:35] - Welcome back to the show, Lisa Whittle! [3:04] - Lisa used to love giving opinions but has learned the value in pointing towards Jesus. [6:06] - Lisa discusses her trilogy of books. [8:48] – Getting priorities in order and working through personal issues can enhance rest. [10:22] - Why is rest so important, according to Lisa? [14:04] - Lisa addresses some of the things people look to for pain relief. [17:21] - Hear about what Lisa calls the “thin line” between healthy and unhealthy behaviors. [20:32] - I point out how I really appreciate how practical the book is. [21:29] - Lisa expresses the profound impact that writing the book has had on her life. [24:52] - Embracing the idea of "God knows" has transformed me for the better. [29:38] – Lisa offers advice to listeners, encouraging them to avoid complicating the process. [32:23] – I wrap up, emphasizing the importance of opening up our hands and releasing control. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - 138. How to Keep Going When Life Is Hard (with Lisa Whittle) Jesus Over Everything: Uncomplicating the Daily Struggle to Put Jesus First by Lisa Whittle The Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When You Want to Shut Down by Lisa Whittle God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief by Lisa Whittle Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I’m so honored to have Sissy Goff back in the studio to discuss her new book, The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too. When Sissy was here a couple years ago for her book Raising Worry Free Girls, the response was phenomenal, and to this day, I still hear from so many parents who were deeply impacted by that book! A counselor for over 30 years who helps families through her counseling practice, Sissy joins me today to discuss her new book, The Worry-Free Parent. I highly recommend this book if you have ever struggled with feeling like you aren’t doing enough as a parent or stressing over the present and the future for your kids. In this episode, Sissy shares how so many kids today are dealing with anxiety that actually stems from their parents’ own anxiety. She gives practical tools parents can implement immediately to help them feel less uptight, scared, or stressed about how they might be messing up their kids or missing the mark as a parent. I especially appreciated how honest she was about how trying to bubble wrap and protect our kids from struggle is actually a way we end up hurting our kids and making life harder for them in the long run. She shares how anxiety in both parents and kids can stem from intrusive thoughts becoming stuck in a “loop rollercoaster” in our minds. In our conversation, I ask her to walk us through calming techniques to help shift us out of that loop. We talk about what it looks like to get to the root of where our worry and fear is coming from and what to do about it. This is another powerful episode that you don’t want to miss! In This Episode [00:35] – Sissy Goff returns to the podcast today! [4:04] – A suggestion from Sissy’s editor prompted her to write two books. [8:55] – It’s normal for parents to worry, but anxiety is when intrusive thoughts become stuck and take control. [13:49] – Parents should realize that many times their anxiety stems from wanting the best for their kids. [15:04] – What it looks like to practice deep breathing and grounding techniques. [18:22] – My anxiety stemmed from caring too much about what others thought of my parenting. [19:50] – Sissy feels that mothers are too hard on themselves nowadays. [22:42] – The five different types of parenting. [25:49] – Letting your kids experience discomfort helps build character and resilience in them. [28:30] – How releasing my need for control to God helps alleviate my anxiety. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show – 100. Raising Worry-Free Girls (with Sissy Goff) Raising Boys & Girls Podcast The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World by Sissy Goff Braver, Stronger, Smarter: A Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety by Sissy Goff Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this podcast episode, Jesse and I discuss three unexpected life changes that I have made over this summer -- inspired by a blood test I took earlier this year. I share why I made them, how I'm tracking them (and an app that has worked so well!) and the unexpected impact they have made on my life. We also talk about how these have turned into some daily choices that are now habits that I do without thinking. While I don't expect you to make these same changes, I hope this episode can serve as inspiration and motivation that small consistent tweaks to our life can add up to big overall changes. I'd love to hear if you set any goals as a result of listening and I'd love to hear the accountability you set in place for your goals. In This Episode [00:35] – Today’s topic is about the three big changes that I’ve made to my routine this summer. [02:16] – Jesse had so much fun on his recent fishing trip with Silas. [07:18] – We just got back home last night from a trip to Branson, Missouri. [08:59] – Hear about the exciting events that happened before we left — and on the trip itself! [14:04] – We stayed in a condo on the trip instead of a hotel. [17:49] – We had a blast in Silver Dollar City, but it was definitely hot! [20:23] – Jesse and I started listening to The Fountains of Silence on the trip. [22:21] – I move into talking about my three unexpected life changes. [23:43] – Because I like alliteration, I called the goals: sun, steps, and sleep. [25:10] – The app I’m using is called Strides. [30:59] – Starting my day with sunlight and fresh air has been so good for me. [31:46] – Learn what I have learned about my sleep schedule. [33:18] – This has also encouraged our kids, too. [35:10] – My main objective has been a healthier lifestyle. What is your why? Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show – 218. 21 Days of No Sugar and the surprising lessons I’m learning The Crystal Paine Show – 212. How to Help Your Kids Have an Intentional Summer 1000 Hours Outside – Website 1000 Hours Outside – Instagram Page The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys Strides App 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I have really been looking forward to this topic and to having this guest on the show for weeks because a question that I frequently get asked on social media is regarding friendship and how I go about making friends. What do you do if you’re dealing with feeling like no one ever invites you to do anything and you are lonely? My guest today, Laura Tremaine is the perfect person to help me tackle this topic because she has written a whole book about it titled The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs! Laura joins me today to discuss friendship and community especially when it comes to women. She discusses how women struggle to make and then keep friends as adults and how the pandemic made the struggle even worse for some people, and then she recommends that we think of friends as a life council (hence the title of her book) of different types of people who each bring different strengths to our lives. We also talk about how unrealistic expectations of others and of friendships can be harmful because they can lead to disappointment. I love how she encourages us in practical ways to look around and see the gifts in people already in our lives. It's so easy to miss that and to take those already in our lives for granted. Laura also shares personally about recognizing her own weaknesses (not prioritizing returning texts promptly enough and more) and how she worked on being more intentional in these areas in order to show her friends love in ways that would be meaningful to them. She also leaves listeners with some helpful advice, encouraging lonely women to not give up, to keep trying with new friends but to get rid of the narrative that they tell themselves that they are unlikable. She challenges us to let go of holding too tightly to our idea of a perfect friendship to make space for appreciating the people already in our lives and being in a healthy space to allow new friendships to bloom. Laura helps us understand how to reframe friendships and think of them from a brand-new perspective. Many of the things she shared in this episode are things I've thought about time and time again since we recorded this. In This Episode [00:35] - Please welcome Laura Tremaine to the show today! [02:08] - Laura and I have known each other for years through blogging [03:35] - How blogging anchored Laura and gave her a voice. [04:32] - Why did Laura write her book? [06:50] - Laura shares why she thinks women struggle with friendships. [09:15] - I share how I relate to Laura’s struggle with maintaining friendships. [12:15] - The meaning behind the title of her book. [16:21] - I talk about some broken relationships in my life. [17:22] - How does Laura ensure that she’s bringing her best self into relationships? [23:12] - Hear about how Laura wanted to be sure that her feelings matched her actions. [28:26] - Laura argues that pop culture doesn’t always portray friendship accurately. [30:46] - What about those who feel lonely and want community but feel tired of trying and reaching out? Links & Resources Laura’s Instagram account Laura’s 10 Things to Tell You Podcast The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Is there something that you are relying on to give you joy, fulfillment, or that you just feel like you “have to have” or “can’t live without”? I was recently convicted about how much I was relying upon sugar… and it inspired me to try doing a three-week-long no sugar challenge. In this episode, we share why and how I went twenty-one days without sugar as well and what changes I experienced along the way. Don’t worry! The purpose of this episode is not to shame you for your sugar intake or even to try to convince you to give it up, but I hope it inspires you in some way to consider if there’s something you are relying upon in an unhealthy way. We start the episode by sharing some life updates, what books we have been reading, and an interesting drink I’ve been drinking recently and then we move into talking about how Natalie Runion inadvertently inspired me to this no-sugar challenge for twenty-one days. I share the reason why I have decided to do this, why I have not been extremely militant about the rules, what has surprised me about this challenge, and how it has made a difference in my life. As I said, though, the purpose of this episode is not to shame you for something like sugar consumption or to try to convince you to do what I have been doing. This is my own personal journey that I am choosing to share, and I don’t even have a plan yet for what I am doing after my twenty-one days are up! I just really want to encourage you to think about things that you might be mindlessly using to get through your day in a dysfunctional way. In This Episode [00:35] - Don't stop listening just because of today's topic! [01:34] - Jesse is about to go on a deep-sea fishing trip. [03:14] - Micah just turned a year old. [04:19] - Hear another exciting update we haven’t yet shared on the podcast. [07:54] - I read a book recently that I absolutely love! [11:53] - Jesse is just about finished reading Breaking History by Jared Kushner. [15:35] - Check out my What I’m Loving Wednesday series on Instagram. [19:00] - Pickleball Cocktail has been saving my life. [20:52] - Three weeks without sugar: why I'm doing this and what inspired it. [24:39] - What my parameters are for this challenge and how it has impacted me. [31:20] - Hear some closing wisdom from Jesse. Links & Resources Crystal Paine The Crystal Paine Show - “79. Our Craziest Travel Stories" The Crystal Paine Show - “131. A crazy travel story” The Crystal Paine Show - “186. A Crazy Travel Story” Margaret Barry’s Instagram Page Pickleball Cocktail The Crystal Paine Show - “215. Hope and Healing from Church Hurt & Disappointment” Books Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys Between Shades of Gray by Ruta Sepetys Breaking History: A White House Memoir by Jared Kushner Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com Our Sponsors: * Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/ * Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands