Domestic Violence - Intimate Partner

We meet someone, fall in love, and develop a relationship, but then something happens, and your partner hurts, manipulates or frightens you. Perhaps you address it, but it's denied, or it's somehow your fault, or they apologise and promise it won't happen again. And we all make mistakes, so you trust this person who has hitherto loved you to redeem themselves. But what happens when this becomes a pattern, and you slowly realise you are walking on eggshells and embroiled in a volatile or destructive relationship?

The host, Beth Armstrong, guides an in-depth discussion between three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their domestic violence stories with an intimate partner, how they escaped, and how it has affected their lives.

Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.

Topics include:

• impact of domestic violence / overt and covert abuse
• emotional, physical and sexual abuse
• stereotypes / cross-cultural and class
• family law court
• alcoholism
• online connections
• charming, manipulative and deceitful
• frog in boiling water analogy
• abusive childhood
• control - creating dependence/ jealousy
• preference for a boy baby / obsessed with perfection - “mini-me” child
• perpetrator playing the victim - accusations of affairs and deceit
• relationship models from childhood
• compassion - women brought up to fix things
• emotional investment for love, wanting the dream
• their hurt, wronged by past partners, comparisons
• friends who call out abusive behaviour as enemies, perpetrator criticising them
• isolation / managing safety for children
• guardian angel friends
• cycle of violence
• psychological abuse and coercive control/ physical intimidation
• perpetrators in the police force
• image-based abuse - fake profile - publishing intimate photos online
• navigating escape

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Sound production: Unison Sound.
Producer: Luke Mynott, Beth Armstrong
Host: Beth Armstrong
Editor: Tom Herdman, Mija Healey.
Sound Engineer: Micayla Laurence, Cihan Siral.
Composer: Biddy Connor
Artwork: wisebrownfox

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