This episode features Dr. Vecchione Finneran giving tips and a better understanding of what chronic toxic stress is. Ways to help yourself when burnt out.

This episode covers finding courage deep within and how to over come feeling defeated in the face of rejection and maltreatment. Ambivalence with feeling scared and loved and safe all at the same time from care takers and partners is also covered.

This episode covers development of grandiosity within a narcissistic personality. Signs of someone living in an “ideal” version of reality and why it’s impossible to have a healthy/ functional relationship with them. Education on NPD pathology helping partners to release responsibility for the painful dynamic they are experiencing.

This episode covers helpful ways to reframe distorted versions of holidays and memories we remember while we are sad and struggling. How to snap out of it and come back to your inner peace. Happy Fourth of July! ❤️

This episode discusses the neurobiological changes that happen in the brain after/ during trauma. How heightened emotional response develops over time and why. Feeling numb and under responsiveness is also covered.

This episode discusses the 3 phases of the narcissistic abuse cycle in depth. The psychological effects of being idealized by a partner suffering from NPD. The lasting self blame patterns we develop following idealization are explained.

This episode features Dr. Michelle Finneran discussing why abusive patterns are repeated through generational trauma and how the mother/ daughter dynamic effects us when our mom suffers from abuse in front of us growing up. Individualization from family origin and being the cycle breaker is also discussed. For K & M❤️

Dr. Finneran, psychotherapist drops in as guest speaker to talk about Stockholm Syndrome, trauma bonding, getting proper support, and healing after abuse. Avoiding re-engaging in another abusive dynamic is also discussed.

This episode focuses on the different stages of leaving an abuser. How to grow strength to get through withdrawals, things you’ll need within your support system, and learning how to love yourself again are discussed.

This episode focuses on gaining insight into how abusers use pity, guilt, and blame shifting to distract us from their hurtful behavior. Description of how we get to a point where we feel like we are the abusive partner, and chronically believe we are the cause and are responsible for the pain we experience with an abusive partner. How to trust yourself again, and the self forgiveness felt when you finally know for sure….It’s not me. It’s you.

This episode focuses on the trauma bond formed from triangulation. How continuous cheating creates intermittent wounding and the effects of the “reuniting” stage. Abuser’s tactics to keep the victim in the relationship, blame shifting, and gas lighting are also discussed.

This episode discusses what it feels like to leave psychologically when you’ve left an abuser physically. What it feels like to be completely done. What it feels like to be free. What it feels like to be me again.

This episode focuses on the long standing issue of abuse not being addressed in the world. Thoughts on how to respond to someone who doesn’t think you’ll be able to do anything about the silent issue that causes so many people to not fully live their life to full capacity. Contemplating pros and cons of taking legal action is also discussed.

This episode isn’t really about anything other than me providing explanation of how it feels to have to make a police report and ask for help. And the kind of people in the world who make things like this more bearable. For Tim and Jimmy.

This episode discusses codependency recovery, psychological make up of character, personal boundaries, coping skills for going no contact, and why courage in the face of fear prevails.

This episode focuses on taking ownership of one’s struggles and actions in the recovery process. Trying to stuff things down inside and drown out traumatic memories and feelings does not work. Being in the “I don’t know what else to try” stage.

This episode focuses on the progression of developing healthy self confidence, setting goals in healing, lowering anxiety and depression, and the 4 stages of healing from abuse: recognize, accept, rise above, model. How to reframe blame and navigate forgiveness safely. A crash course in how to feel better.

This episode covers what to do with the hope survivors carry that their abuser will change or “get better”. Getting back together is never an option in recovery, but a new chapter in forgiveness and being at peace can be. Where to place your hope and what the new version of a happy ending may look like. What to say when reconciliation is brought up.

This episode discusses the power of self validation, not needing outside validation from friends or partners, self worth, insight, and education on crazy making. How to take life inventory and make positive changes for yourself. Dating to learn and grow versus dating to fill a void is also discussed.

Depression, chronic stress, and feelings of worthlessness are discussed. Ways to develop body positivity and combat identifying with being “the fixer” within a dysfunctional relationship.