Justin looks at how 2023 has been for him, both personally and professionally, and shares insights and ideas that will inspire you to improve family living in your own home. It will be Kylie's turn for reflection next Tuesday! What has gone well? What hasn't gone so well? Lessons learned in 2023. What can be done better, moving forward? You Don't Just Lose Someone Once – Donna Ashworth “You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely as small as what you allow to annoy you.” ― Robert Anton Wilson Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's almost the end of the year so we thought we'd look back at the top 5 Happy Families episodes that you listened to in 2023. Here's how it played out: #721 - Defusing Explosive Children #679 - Managing Fatigue as a Parent #674 - The Power of Habit #673 - Family Goal Setting #706 - Gentle Parenting: Is It a Fad or Fabulous? We're so glad that so many people are listening to the podcast and finding value in the information that's being provided! Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Controversial parenting, a growing problem with school attendance (or lack thereof!), a video game the whole family can get excited about, and why every new dad should be taking parental leave. In this episode: Story 1: 60 Minutes Australia: Hidden anxiety epidemic jeopardising ‘a generation’ of Australian schoolchildren School refusal/anxiety - also referred to as "school can't" THE LITTLE BOY By Helen E. Buckley Story 2: ‘I put coal in my kids’ Christmas stockings to teach them a lesson’ | Townsville Bulletin Controversial parenting techniques Punishing kids at Christmas "Every child needs..." (Bronfenbrenner quote) Happy Families | Facebook Be your child's safe place and provide them with unconditional love Story 3: How Paternity Leave Helps Dads’ Brains Adapt to Parenting Paternity leave is a gift to families. Improving father-baby bonding, baby development, relationship between parents Story 4: The creators of Bluey: The Videogame on making a kids’ game that’s also about parenting | The Guardian Playing video games as a family The right kind of screen time (Connecting and/or Creating vs Consuming) Story 5: Four in five parents turn to social media for parenting advice Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether family life feels messy and hard right now or you are in a season of smooth sailing, there's one thing that matters more than anything: loving your kids - and making sure they know it! In this episode we cover: Struggles and challenges with food Picky eating Autonomy, structure, and competence Conversations to have with children about what they eat Supporting and loving our kids - No Matter What Wet towels, empty fridge, dirty dishes, messy rooms Empty nesters and change in family dynamics Connection - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Problematic screen-use spans from toddlers through to teenagers (especially when love is in the air!) and can affect mental health, sleep, wellbeing and behaviour. There are some simple steps parents can take to ensure your child lives a healthy, balanced life - without having to confiscate the screen! Topics from 'The Doctor's Desk': The effects of screens on teenagers Teens as consumers of content Mental health and mental illness are two different things - see "dual continuum of mental wellbeing" diagram Boredom The importance of strong parent-child relationship Toddlers and screens Screen limits and being intentional Love in the teenage years Delaying romantic relationships Study 1: How Parenting and Self-control Mediate the Link Between Social Media Use and Youth Mental Health Study 2: Toddlers and Tablets: Being Purposeful About Your Child’s Technology Use Study 3: Romantic relationships linked to disturbed sleep patterns in adolescents Helping your child through their first big breakup - a Happy Families article 3 Simple Tips for Managing Screen Time for the Whole Family - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kristen Jenson (founder of Defend Young Minds) shares how, when and why to talk to your child about pornography. [Replay] Topics in this episode: Educating children to reject pornography The ways that pornography harms children 3 basic steps to having this conversation: 1. Define 2. Warn 3. Plan Advice for parents who have found their child viewing pornography Love your child No Matter What Good Pictures Bad Pictures | Books | Defend Young Minds™️ Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. | Books | Defend Young Minds™️ Defend Young Minds - free guide "How to Talk to Kids About Pornography" Curriculum for children aged 8-12 - Brain Defense Digital Safety Step-by-step SMART plan- "My Kid Saw Porn - Now What?" Bringing Up Boys Summit - Happy Families Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Navigating the complexities of tween and teen friendships can be challenging, especially in the age of social media. Here are some insights and tips to help your child run towards wonderful friendships rather than living in fear of exclusion. Topics in this episode: Sleepovers Bulling and teasing Snapchat and social media Structured activities and finite time for teenage get-togethers Miss Connection: Why your teenage daughter "hates" you, expects the world, and needs to talk by Dr Justin Coulson What teenage girls worry about most Conversations to have with your child BMX - Be More Exceptional Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's that time of year when school awards nights are in full swing, celebrating academic and sporting prowess. But are awards nights actually helpful? And how can you help your child cope with the disappointment of missing out on recognition? Some of the things discussed in this episode: Awards by their nature are exclusive, so they can be a punishment for the majority. Relationships between kids, parents and teachers being damaged. Rewards and awards are ignoring reasons. Is it OK to acknowledge excellence? Should parents care more about grades or character? Teaching your kids to sit with disappointment. Reminding kids that everyone has different talents, and schools recognise only a few of those talents. Status and recognition. Check out the Happy Families Mega Sale | Black Friday to Cyber Monday Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Build stronger and lasting connections with those you love. Three game-changing ideas to help you focus on what really matters most in life. Topics in this episode: William Martin - 'The Wonders of an Ordinary Life' Household chaos in a time of grief and upheaval Expecting immediate compliance from children Force creates resistance Autonomy The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson (currently 25% off + free course!) People vs 'stuff' Investing in extended family relationships Black Friday Sales start today - Happy Families Mega Sale | Black Friday to Cyber Monday Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Three conversations you really need to be having with your teens BEFORE they head off to Schoolies. Topics in this episode: Parents - it's ok to say no to Schoolies Creative and healthier alternatives Rite of passages Peer pressure, drugs and alcohol, fights, unsafe/risky behaviour Safe and healthy beats right and wrong Understanding consent Ensure your kids know you will always have their back #886 Get Set for Schoolies with Paul Dillon - a Happy Families podcast Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dive into the enchanting land of 'Mine!' and the intricate world of kiddie diplomacy. Justin and Kylie unpack the challenges of sharing, with some big ideas to unlock the magic of cooperation - one shared toy at a time! Topics in today's episode: Special toys Sharing with siblings Learning cooperation, negotiation, and fairness through sharing Scarcity mentality vs abundance mentality Three basic psychological needs Self-determination / regulation Theory of Mind Power dynamics Developmental Milestones - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 2 of a conversation on perfectionism with Professor Thomas Curran from the London School of Economics. Rather than expecting perfection from your child try modelling making mistakes - embrace failure and setbacks when they arise. This (not perfectionism) is what leads to success! Topics in this episode: Feeling that you are not enough The rise of perfectionism – and the harm it’s doing us all | Mental health | The Guardian Link between perfectionism and psychological distress Parental/societal expectations Increased competition and excessive pressure "Doing your best" - is this helpful? Self-sabotage, procrastination and avoidance of failure What is success? The Perfection Trap Thomas Curran's new book Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Professor Thomas Curran is (among many impressive titles) a 'perfectionist expert'. He unpacks the 'what, why, where, who, and how' of perfectionism in part 1 of this compelling discussion with Dr Justin Coulson. Part 2 of this conversation can be found here. Today's conversation covers: What is perfectionism? The link between mental health challenges and perfectionism Perfectionism in children - genetics or environmental? The 3 types of perfectionism Intergenerational transmission of perfectionistic tendencies The challenging cycle of self-defeat The Perfection Trap Thomas Curran's new book TEDMED - Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are some simple yet profound ways to let your family know that they are loved, irreversibly and unconditionally. "How do you feel loved?" Being together as a family The power of names Joy and gratitude Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning: mature themes - listener discretion advised* How do you talk to your kids when they are touched by the profound loss of a loved one through a suicide? These hard conversations must be had openly with your children - with kindness, compassion, and empathy. Your job is NOT to tell them everything, but to answer their questions honestly, in an age-appropriate way. Topics in this episode: Protecting children from pain Limited evidence for how to have these conversations Keep your reactions level National Centre for Childhood Grief Keep the conversation age/developmentally appropriate Young Children and Middle Childhood: Keep it simple Operate on the principle of 'the fire hose' Answer questions honestly (to the degree with which they are curious) - the more general you can be, the more protected your child will be Offer empathy Talking helps to dispel misinformation and stigma and creates a safe space to ask questions Encourage questions about anything, and at any time Ensure they understand what "dead" means. Give concrete answers, not idioms or euphemisms Expect and accept a range of emotions (and behaviours!) from your child, which will change daily. Let them feel safe to let it all out Picture Books for Helping Children Navigate Grief Elergy for an Elephant by Ryan Abramowitz Death Is Stupid by Anastasia Higginbotham Luna's Red Hat by Emmi Smid Red Chocolate Elephants by Diana C. Sands Forever Connected by Jessica Correnti For help: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 987 Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Standby - Support After Suicide 1300 727 247 In Memory of Logan - Happy Families Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning: mature themes - listener discretion advised* When someone is grieving the death of a loved one, it can be difficult to know how to approach them and what to say. How do you convey your compassion, your awareness of their enormous loss? What words and actions are helpful to the person grieving, and what is unhelpful or perhaps even harmful? Colin Campbell, author of 'Finding the words', shares a practical and helpful approach to supporting someone in their grief, how to move through sorrow and profound loss with hope and purpose, and why there is a vital need for community during the grieving process. Topics in this episode: The loss of a child Suicide How to support someone in their deep sorrow - what to say, what not to say "I have no words" ends any chance of a dialogue about grief. Find the words. The evolution of grief, and of the grieving person's identity within that sorrow The importance of engaging with and accepting grief, rather than avoiding it Grief as a sensitive, taboo subject further isolates those in mourning Why trying to comfort a grieving person is not helpful Different societal/religious responses to grief, traditional mourning processes, and cultural tools and rules for managing grief in community. Of particular note: Jewish mourning traditions: Mourning Kaddish, Shiva ,and Ending Shiva Māori mourning ceremony - Tangihanga What Losing My Two Children Taught Me About Grief - The Atlantic Viktor Frankl 'Mans Search for Meaning' Adoption (and the trauma and grief that can accompany it) In Memory of Logan For help: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 987 Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Standby - Support After Suicide 1300 727 247 Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As many of you would be aware, Justin's nephew Logan died at the age of 20 after taking his own life. Craig Bruce is the executive producer of the Happy Families Podcast, and provides a quick update on Justin and Kylie and what the podcast will look like over the next few days. Justin and Kylie will be taking a break to spend time with family, before we return on Wednesday, November 15th with a timely conversation with Colin Campbell. After the death of his two teenage children in a car accident, Colin wrote the book 'Finding the Words', a powerful account of how he navigated through unimaginable grief. From everyone at Happy Families, thank you so much for all of your comments, thoughts and messages at this difficult time, If you or anyone you know needs help, reach out to the following services: Lifeline on 13 11 14, Suicide Callback Service on 1300 659 467, Mensline Australia on 1300 789 987or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - parental discretion advised* Detective Superintendent Jayne Crossling from ACCCE outlines the critical role parents and carers play in keeping children safe online. Learn how to have important conversations with your children - education is the key to prevention! Topics in this episode: What is capping? The work of ACCCE Teenagers at risk How in-game chat functions move to encrypted environments or video chat Red flags that are often missed The role of parents and carers in keeping children safe online Supervision and rules for screens Teaching children how to respond Laws regarding child self-generated material Advice for parents Some previous interviews with Detective Superintendent Jayne Crossling from ACCCE: #699 Jayne Crossling on Safe Photo Sharing #731 Kids and Grooming - What You Need to Know #748 Are Paedophiles Really Looking at Your Kids Online? Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Justin speaks to Paul Dillon from Drug and Alcohol Research Training Australia about getting ready for the schoolies season. Find out more about Paul Dillon at the Drug and Alcohol Research Training Australia website. Topics discussed in this episode: The cons of letting your kids celebrate schoolies abroad How safe are organised schoolies events? Why schoolies is the last opportunity for parents to talk safety with their kids before they are legally adults Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With the silly season just around the corner we share some simple tips to help navigate (or avoid entirely!) a meaty "Christmas Conundrum" - when disappointed children and disgruntled gift-givers collide. Topics in this episode: Justin's history of dodgy gift giving Being disappointed AND grateful The thought is important Having conversations before Christmas events How to do difficult conversations with extended family Forewarned is forearmed If you have a Christmas Conundrum you would like Justin and Kylie to solve, you can email your question to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.