Episodes

• 2021

• Girl, get your spoons - Imposter Syndrome 2.0

  Toxic Positivity has a sister and her name is Imposter Syndrome. In 2019 we discussed what Imposter Syndrome is and how it effects our lives. Within the last 2 months, more people have shared and messaged us about this topic than anything else. To be honest- we forgot a lot of what we said. After re-listening to the episode, we decided that it was time for an update. In today's episode, we discuss how we feel about the versions of ourselves who recorded Imposter 1.0 and if we still identify with them. It shouldn't come as a surprise that times have changed and 2020, the year of forced reflection, has taught us more lessons than we realized. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/ladies-and-tangents/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
  April 13, 2021

  70 min

• Society tells us so many things and it’s like, shut up - Hey Ladies

  It's time for the second installment of our series where we channel our inner "Dear Abby's" and give you the unqualified, yet completely solicited advice that you've been waiting for. Covering topics like transitioning to college, long distance relationships and battling the ever persistent imposter syndrome. If there's one thing we love to do, it's tell other people what to do, but we must remind you that we are not professionals. We are just two ladies with the internet, so take any and all advice with a huge spoonful of salt. Also don't eat salt. I did that once and I was finding it in my pores for weeks like the salted rim of a margarita. Cheers! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
  April 6, 2021

  86 min

• You've won life now retire and die or whatever - Toxic Positivity

  *TW/CW anxiety, self harm, panic attacks, depression, toxic relationships Have you ever thought that maybe Debbie Downer is down for a reason? Has she ever tried to tell you that reason? Did you listen? Have you ever stopped to ask “Debbie, why so down?” or did the usual “stop being such a downer” roll right off the tongue? It’s funny! It’s helpful to just remind people that the sun came up again and the world is....the world and that happiness is state of mind- right? Not really. Today we’re talking all about Toxic Positivity and how the “good vibes only” movement has left little room for any other vibes at all. It’s a recipe for shame, guilt, self hatred and isolation for so many people- including Debbie. We hope you listen with an open mind and leave the conversation feeling like all vibes are good vibes. FOLLOW ALONG WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA- @ladiesandtangents Videos referenced- @Vanessa Van Edwards ( https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCj9QBB4bNTv29f4oFIreNmw ) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BcURXP-q21M @Cinema Therapy ( https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCCYX4s1DCn51Hpf1peHS30Q ) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTVQtsIfoo8 @Kati Morton ( https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw ) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Let36RIVwjg @Dr. Allison Answers ( https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCNeGX5lRh3T_IHu1DLPq5OA ) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2kAkbdS2S4 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
  March 30, 2021

  80 min

• Congressman please, I need less jello - Secrets of the Founding Fathers

  It's no secret that we're obsessed with Hamilton. We've been waiting for the perfect topic to allow ourselves to become completely immersed in the world of a new nation. The time has come- we have found it in an article about the secret sex lives of our founding fathers & mothers (hell yeah, ladies.) We're sharing letters between lovers and allegedly debunking the myth that only straight men have inhabited the white house. We love this for us- all of us.
  March 23, 2021

  63 min

• You are valuable outside of your body - Self Love w/ Rachel Rosche

  CONTENT WARNING- *We are not professionals* We are sharing our journeys with self love, body image, disordered eating and recovery. If you are triggered by sexual trauma, disordered eating, body dysmorphia, self harm or toxic relationships- please feel free to skip this episode. If you are suffering, please seek out help. We have linked some resources below. We love you and we cherish you. On this week's episode we ask Rachel Rosche from @forbetterandworsepodcast your questions about Self Love & Body Positivity. From COVID weight gain- to feeling confident in your style- to healing from trauma, we're discussing it all. We're all on this journey together, learning to accept ourselves one day at a time. Be f*cking patient with yourself and remember to be in constant pursuit to find the value you have outside of your body. SELF HELP RESOURCES- https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/body-image-0 https://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/infosheet/body-image-self-esteem-and-mental-health https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/self-harm/ https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Common-with-Mental-Illness/Self-harm https://stopthehurt.org/issues/domestic-dating-violence/ https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/
  March 16, 2021

  96 min

• Hope you like cheese cuz' these toes hot - Sharing Your Scandals

  500 points to whoever creates a mash-up of all the *GASPs* in this episode. When we keep things in, they can take hold of us and cause us to stay in a panic loop, but we know how hard it can be to share some of the ugly things that happen at the workplace or in school. This week, we gave you the opportunity to share those stories in anonymity and take your power back. Thank you for sharing these with the world. Please enjoy the personalized middle fingers we have to offer the people who harmed you.
  March 9, 2021

  62 min

• Everything was blue at the dance - Why I Left Teaching

  Ask and you shall receive. A request came into our DM’s for Jeri to share the story of how & why she left teaching. In this episode we discuss the struggle of staying in a job that doesn’t bring you joy, identity loss & ptsd. If you are triggered by the topic of active shooters/school shootings- skip this episode and we’ll see you next week!
  March 2, 2021

  66 min

• We'll threaten your mental illnesses - Emotional Intelligence

  This is that type of episode where our emotions get too emotion-y. Getting back to what we love to talk about this week & weeding our mind gardens. We know we’re all people who struggle being people and in this episode we enter the world of Emotional Intelligence. We’re learning that by being able to recognize, label and regulate our emotions, we can take back control of the things that feel like they’re controlling us. If you are able- please consider donating to organizations that are providing aide to our friends in the south- https://secure.actblue.com/donate/aoc-social-20210219?refcode=tw20210219 Check out Khadija’s video that inspired this week’s topic and while you’re there- binge everything she’s ever made- https://youtu.be/obgwD2CzOsk Also check out: Permission to Feel - Dr. Marc Brackett
  February 23, 2021

  66 min

• Newlywed Game! - *BONUS* Valentines Day Episode

  For Valentine's Day, we gently encouraged our significant others to be on the podcast with us. We played the Newlywed Game and still have no idea if there were really any winners at all. You'll have to tell us!
  February 19, 2021

  37 min

• Hun, you're the cat's mom - Bad First Dates

  Happy Valentine's Day, friends! This week Jeri & Ciara deep dive into Reddit's finest first date stories. We're talking mushrooms, we're talking, sociopathic behavior, we're talking cock...roaches. There's also a pretty decently long tangent about how we don't understand how wood works. Feel free to let us know what's up with that in the comments!
  February 16, 2021

  77 min

• Artist, Criminal - Sharing Your Judgements

  You guys sent in your judgements and we reacted to them! We talked last episode about how the first thought we have about something or someone isn't our fault. What we consume in the media coupled with the societal normals that are drilled into our heads since the moment we open our tiny, gooey eyes shape the way we view the world around us. Our second thought? THAT IS our responsibility. It is important to attack these thoughts. It is important to challenge our assumptions. It is important not to let stereotypes dictate our perception of others. By acknowledging that we have implicit bias, preconceived notions and judgments we can start to chip away at the source and re-train our brains to see the world through more compassionate, understanding and empathetic eyes. All these big words and we still somehow ended up talking about butts.
  February 9, 2021

  78 min

• Some serious mental gymnastics - Counterproductive Habits of Mind

  In this episode we apply some college writing wisdom to our everyday lives. We discuss how implicit bias and judgements can impact the way we interact with people and view world around us. Reading this makes it sound like we're going to be more well spoken than we actually are...we definitely still talked about poop in this one.
  February 2, 2021

  57 min

• Our money comes from your success, no pressure - Fixed vs Growth Mindsets

  On today's episode we talk about how just a few little words can change the entire course of someones motivation, determination, resilience and self worth. Little heavy for a Tuesday morning? Oh well- chances are, if you're like us, you've experienced the crippling anxiety of feeling like a failure or fear of not reaching your potential and we're going to tell you how this type of thinking isn't your fault and can be changed! Just a little shift in thinking and approaching problems more like a ball and less like an egg. Speaking of eggs…Jeri also eats dinner and gives a little asmr somewhere along the way. People gotta eat, we’re all friends here.
  January 26, 2021

  88 min

• I saved that goat's life - Weird Work Stories

  You sent in your weird work stories and we reacted to them! From sperm, to shampoo bottles, to punches- you shared the bizarre and memorable moments you have experienced on the job. We want to thank everyone for submitting your stories for this episode. We love these opportunities to connect with you!
  January 19, 2021

  81 min

• Go to school, go to church, & help somebody - Stacey Abrams & Voter Suppression

  2 years after losing the Governor’s race in Georgia, Stacey Abrams made it her mission to educate people about free and fair elections, registering 800,000 new voters in the state of Georgia. Her grass roots efforts to share the message of voter suppression and mobilize a new age of informed, confident voters turned Georgia blue for the first time in decades. In this episode we share about Stacey’s message of the importance of voting and making your voice heard in every election. We summarized her documentary, All In: The Fight for Democracy, but to get the full impact, we really encourage you to watch it yourself. Just because the election has been certified, the job isn’t done and we can all do more to help move towards free & fair elections with laws that protect the actual integrity of our democracy and ensure equal representation and opportunity for all.
  January 12, 2021

  85 min

• I like to put snail slime on my face - Superstitions

  How we went through 50 superstitions and never mentioned black cats is truly a mystery. This week we dive into superstitions from around the world and are slightly afraid that we started off 2021 on an unlucky foot. We were just trying to give you guys tips on what to avoid to make sure your 2021 is smooth sailing. Speaking of feet- you’re gonna want to get yourself a rabbits foot.
  January 5, 2021

  78 min
• 2020

• One could argue this was my year - 2020 Reflection

  Bringing you 2020 reflections from your favorite dirty-b*tch soothsayers. We originally recorded our 2020 New Years episode with the hopes of revisiting our resolutions on the episode entering 2021. Upon listening back, we realized we may have accidentally manifested some chaos and we’d like to formally apologize. Please enjoy us listening to ourselves be big, dumb idiots for half an hour, followed by some *hopefully* better forecasting for 2021. Thank you guys for being with us during the most wild year of our lives- we love you like family! Happy New Year!
  December 29, 2020

  68 min

• Tangents & True Crime - The 12 Murders of Christmas

  On this episode of Tangents & True Crime, we are diving into some Holiday Horror with the 12 Murders of Christmas. ‘Tis the Season to be suspicious of your family and deck the halls to 12 aggressively punned summaries of some gruesome Christmas crimes. Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays!
  December 22, 2020

  84 min

• That's a crotch burp- The Pink Tax

  If you’re going to make feminine products more expensive, could you make sure you close the wage gap first? On this weeks episode, we dive into the absolute bogus phenomenon know as The Pink Tax, where products that are made for ladies cost more for virtually no reason. In addition to this literal tax, we highlight some metaphorical pink taxes. Big shoutout to Scotland for making feminine hygiene products free, because we out here and we bleedin’.
  December 15, 2020

  61 min

• I’m like 90/80% that’s how it works - Mansplaining

  If you’ve ever wondered, “why are colors?” -wonder know more. This is 2 parts educational and 1 part roast. Eternal good sport and Jeri’s life partner, Shane comes on this week’s episode to entertain some of our curiosities in an episode we like to call- Mansplaining. We cover everything from airplanes, to the reproductive systems of plants, to coding and sprinkle in lots of interrupting queries in between.
  December 8, 2020

  83 min