About this podcast
Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.
About this podcast
Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.
- Season 2
LOVE AIN'T ENOUGH PEOPLE
Happy Tuesday Lifers! This is our last episode for a few weeks because it is time for Laura to go and birth a small human! And we can't wait to see the little cherub once it is earth side!! ( We will also see if our recent psychic medium David was correct in his prediction of boy or girl) But we will be back before you know it talking all about Lauras birth story! Ok, so let's talk love! We are brought up being told that "Love is all you need", but the older we get we have to wonder, is it? Now don't get us wrong, you're looking at two of the biggest lovers this side of the border (no, literally, we went on a dating show to find love (successful for one, always too soon for the other) and started a relationships and love podcast because, well, we love love. But we are firm believers that love just isn't enough on its own. In our society and culture, most of us idealise and romanticise relationships and love. We see it as the be all and end all. We are raised with the idea that life involves growing up, getting a job and falling in love. Full stop. It is portrayed in fairytales, books and movies as part of achieving success. The thing that makes everything better. That heals the pain and makes life easy. In the words of John Lennon, “Love is all we need” But is it!? If we do walk around with our head in the clouds like Lennon did, we’re more likely to ignore the fundamental values that are crucial to the success and health of a relationship, things such as honesty, trust, respect, humility, support and commitment towards the person we love. Jump on in as we deep dive into why we think relationships needs more than just those four little letters. If you're still one of those slippery little suckers that have been with us for a long time and haven't left a review, well, why you do us dirty like that!? Please hit subscribe, 5 stars, and share the love, because, well, we love love x Keep your questions rolling in for Ask Uncut and keep delivering those Accidentally Unfiltered's! SEE YOU SOON LOVERS WE MISS YOU ALREADY x
ASK UNCUT - A Matty J special
Happy Friday Lifers! This episode is a day behind because we recorded an entire episode without realising a microphone wasn’t plugged in. Yep, it finally happened. But to be fair it took 18 months and over 100 episodes before it happened so really we think we’ve done pretty darn well! Anyhow it’s here now so get it in your ears. We have special guest host Matty J recoding with Britt today answering all your deep and burning questions because, well, Laura basically has an arm hanging out of her and the birth of her next child is imminent so we’ve cut her some slack and put her on bed rest and we hope you can cut her some slack too! Besides, you get Matty! On the menu today; What do guys really mean when they say “It’s not you it’s just timing. The timing is wrong” do they really mean that or is that a lame ask excuse and a load of bulls*it? I’m 25 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend is not feeling comfortable being romantic with me in the bedroom. Aka, he doesn’t want any sexy time. This is making me feel pretty bad about myself. Should I let it and should I be worried? Is it just me? Or is this a normal thing for men to feel? Why do so many guys not reply on dating apps!? Why do they leave you on matched or just not respond when you write to them!? It’s really starting to get to me. My partner and I have been together for 6 years, we still love each other and we want to stay together but the spark is just gone. How do we bring it back and get some spice back into life? Matt- Why do some males just pound you during sex - literally pound town from start to end. Curious, does that actually feel good for you guys? We hope you love having Matty J on as much as we love having him visit! (From the lounge room to the studio haha ) Keep the questions coming in guys! Slide on in to our Instagram DM’s @lifeuncutpodcast and title the message “ask uncut” If you loved the ep please hit subscribe, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x
IVF, COMING OUT & BODY POSITIVITY - Uncut with Fiona Falkiner & Hayley Willis.
Happy Tuesday Lifers! We’ve done some big episodes of late regarding egg freezing, fertility and IVF, so we decided it was the perfect time to get someone in that can talk about it first hand. So this week we are chatting to Fiona Falkiner and her fiancé Hayley Willis! Australia first fell in love with Fiona when she graced our screens many moons ago as a contestant on the biggest loser. She then went in to host the show and to forge a very successful career as a model both locally and internationally. Fiona is now in her third trimester after undergoing IVF (but not before they had a few attempts at home on their own ;) ) Hayley is a very well respected sports journalist working in a male dominated industry. We chat all things life before they met, career highlights and lowlights, how body image has changed in the industry, the moment Fiona realised she in fact was more interested in women than men, navigating coming out to their friends, family and Australia, dating in the public eye and of course their fertility journey. You can find the girls @fionafalkiner @hayley__willis If you loved the episode please hit subscribe, 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, be love love x
ASK UNCUT - Two weddings and hopefully a relationship funeral
Therapy Thursday is here with Ask Uncut! We love giving you guys our unqualified but passionate yet questionable advice! We randomly had so many wedding questions this week ! Something must be in the air! ( What is it? Seriously, tell me, asking for a friend) So we decided to tackle two common wedding questions and then of course a relationship/family problem. "What are the rules at a wedding with gifts.... ie my friends didn't give me one, does this mean I can get away with not giving them one? What is the acceptable amount to give?" "Halppppppppppp I hate my brothers girlfriend. She is mean and rude and he deserves better. Can I and should I tell him what I really think? Or just sit back and watch him burn" "Do I have to go to my friends hens party and wedding? I don't really want to but how can I say no!? Also she didn't even invite my boyfriend!?" What do you guys think about inviting your friends partners to weddings? Yay nor Nay? Find out what we think on todays episode. Keep those questions rolling in guys to our insta @lifeuncutpodcast and share the love, because, well, we love love x
HOW TO BREAK UP WITH FRIENDS with Neuropsychologist Dr Hannah Korrel
Let's be real. We are all going to go through a period in our lives where we come across some sort of hurdle with a friend. Be it a disagreement, growing apart, having emotionally draining and toxic friendships to full blown friendship breakups. It's all part of this crazy thing we call life. Every week we receive multiple questions about navigating friendships and hot dam we do our darndest to give you the advice you need. But because of the good humans we are we decided to go above and beyond this week and have a professional weigh in to give you some much needed and very qualified advice. Enter Dr Hannah Korell. Hannah is both a Clinical Neuropsychologist and a Registered Psychologist. She completed her university training and PhD in neuropsychology at the University of Melbourne. Hannah has spent over a decade becoming an expert in why the brain makes us do the things we do (and sometimes the things we don't want to do!) Fierce mental health advocate, Hannah brings and psychology together to explain common life dilemmas, minus the BS. Part of this no BS approach was releasing her book HOW TO BREAK UP WITH FRIENDS. She get into the nitty gritty on what makes a real friend, toxic friendships, how to attract good friends, the effect is has on your health and navigating a breakup. You can find Hannah at @nobullpsych If you loved the episode please hit subscribe, 5 stars and join in the discussion on our Insta page @lifeuncutpodcast.... and share the love, because well, we love love. x
Inside sex cult NXIVM - UNCUT WITH India Oxenberg
This podcast episode discusses sexual assault, coercive control and living in a cult, This may be triggering to victim survivors. If you need help or someone to talk to, you can call 1800 RESPECT or visit respect.gov.au. “My name is India Oxenberg. I was in a cult for seven years. I didn't want to be saved," This is the harrowing opening line to Stan's four-part docuseries that explores the NXIVM cult. The cult started as a US-based self-improvement group, led by Keith Raniere, but in the end the group was exposed for the dark and disturbing cult that it was. For 20 years from 1998 and 2018, Raniere recruited thousands of people under the guise of personal development seminars and self improvement sessions even luring in several celebrities and socialites with the most prolific being Smallville star Allison Mack. Over a long period of time, NXIVM faced a multitude of accusations of systemic sexual abuse of female members by Raniere and members of his inner circle. India was a part of this cult, without knowledge that it was a cult, for 7 years. The last two of which she was a part of a secret sub group within the cult called DOS, which is a Latin phrase that translates to "Master over Slave Women," It was at this point India was expected to engage in sex acts with Keith Raniere, to act as a slave to Smallville star Allison Mack and to be a master to her own two slaves. It was also here that she was held down naked and branded with Keiths initials on her stomach without anaesthetic and while being filmed. We are so grateful to have India join us today to personally tell us her story. How she got involved with the group, what life was life inside, the perpetual yet slow grooming, the coercive control, the manipulation and brain washing, the things she was made to do, the collateral she was forced to put down to ensure her silence. She speaks candidly about when things turned sexual, her inhumane branding and eventually how she found her way out and her life after the cult. You can follow India @indiaoxenberg Follow us @lifeuncutpodcast @brittany_hockley @ladyandacat If you're one of our scallywags that loves the podcast but hasn't left 5 stars or a review yet, well, we wont hold it against you but also, like, why you do us dirty. Please, subscribe and tell your friends, tell your mum, your cousin and your dog and share the love, because, well, we love love. x
ASK UNCUT - Circumcision...to snip or not to snip?
Therapy Thursday is backkkkkk! We missed giving you our unqualified but ridiculously enthusiastic and passionate advice! Today we chat age gaps. Is it an issue? Can you date older? Can you date younger? As one listener says “I really liked him until I found out his age” Next is something a little different, we chat circumcision. Should you circumcise your child!? What are the pros and cons? Obviously we don’t have penis’ so can’t speak from experience lol. But we come armed with plenty of facts and opinions. HELP! I can’t stop catching feelings! Every time I sleep with someone my feelings come rolling in! I feel like I’m setting myself up for disaster. (Spoiler - you probably are) Guys you know the drill! Tell your mum, tell your dad, your friends and your dog and share the love, because, well, we love love xx
CHEERS TO THE FUTURE - UNCUT with David the medium
Lifers! We are back! It is our first episode back for the year and we wanted to kick it off with something fun, different and a little weird! So we decided to chat with a very highly recommended psychic medium - aptly named David the Medium - and see what the future holds for us and well, basically if Brittany will ever find love. Lolz. As a medium David connects with people that have passed over to the other side, meaning he can deliver messages and communicate on our behalf with those that have passed. You’ll have to tune in to see if we had any luck connecting with and loved ones. He also predicts the sex of Laura’s baby and well, we can’t wait to see how that one plays out!! This chat is full of tears, laughter, predictions and inappropriate jokes, all in all it was an eye opening experience so strap on in. If you want to check out David on Instagram and book in a reading for yourself you can find him @davidthemedium Don’t forget to join our Facebook discussion group and follow us on Instagram @lifeuncutpodcast If you love listening to us you can hit 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x --
Walk down memory lane - GAS LIT CITY BABY!
HAPPY FREAKING NEW YEARS EVE LIFERS! On todays little stroll down memory lane we are bringing fireworks... well, less fire works and more gaslighting, but this is one heated little episode. This is episode 29 from season 3 and it is one of our favourite episodes as so many people have experienced this behaviour or been guilty of it themselves and it is so very relatable. Pop some champas and settle back for this recap episode - Big love to you all.
SO I DATED A SOCIOPATH - Walk down memory lane 2 - episode 3
Wandering down Memory lane day 2! Today on "Britt and Laura are taking a mini Christmas break but didn't want to leave you hanging so rehashed some of our older and favourite episodes" we are rolling alllll the way back to Season 1, episode 3. Back when we were brand new little podcast virgins and still working out what buttons did what, but we were determined to share stories and content that would in some way help and change peoples life, even if it was just one person. As this was one of the more popular episodes and was aired so long ago we thought it was time to re share it with all our new listeners! This episode is called "So I dated a sociopath" and it's an episode we often refer back to in our current episodes as it had such a huge impact on Britts life. It also had such an amazing response at the time from listeners saying it helped them through their own tough and toxic times and made them realise that; A) They are not alone and there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of and B) That this is no way is a reflection on them and there is light at the end of the tunnel, It shaped Britt into who she is today and knowing it is shedding light on situations that aren't often spoken about makes sharing it all the more important. See you soon you big bunch of legends! Remember, If you loved the episode please hit subscribe, 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love. x If you haven't joined our facebook group, well what on earth have you been doing!? Join the conversation at Life Uncut Podcast group and swing by @lifeuncutpodcast on instagram to ride the lollercoaster with us. xx
Walk down memory lane - With Girls Gotta Eat episode 13
Lifers take a walk with us down memory lane! This week while we are holidaying with our martinis (Brittany) and soda waters (Laura) we are rehashing some of our favourite episodes. The last episode we released before taking a wee Christmas break was episode 100, and we can't believe how far this little podcast has come over the past 18 months. Todays episode is freaking WILD and not for the faint of heart. We are taking you all the way back to episode 13 from February this year, where we interviewed the hilariously inappropriate comedy duo Ashley and Rayna from Girls Gotta Eat an American podcast that covers all the things we here at Life Uncut love. Girls Gotta Eat is a powerhouse in the USA and receives over 2.5 million monthly downloads. it's raunchy, it's wild and its a lolacoaster with a side of panalol. We hope you love the ride! If you haven't joined our facebook group get in on the conversation Life Uncut Podcast Group and instagram is the @lifeuncutpodcast.... follow along xx
That's a wrap! See ya later 2020 you steaming pile of.....
Guyssss it’s our last episode of the year!! And what a crazy year it has been! Ok so what’s on the menu today. We certainly cover some ground! We take a look back on the year that was, reflect on our last years resolutions - did we achieve them? How do we feel about them? Of course we have accidentally unfiltered for you, but first we dissect a fb discussion question on whether it’s ok to ignore men who approach you to chat, or is that just plain rude. Do we owe them anything? Should we be polite if we feel uncomfortable? Do you owe it to a man to be nice? Britt has a very out of character run in with a man on her first and last night out for the year because #2020 is finishing the year a sly dog. We recognise that being alone at this time of year can be hard, but we want you to know you are never completely alone. There is always someone to talk to and someone that cares.. even if you jump on our fb group to join the chats with some likeminded and beautiful humans! We thought what better way to wrap up the last episode than with an Ask uncut regarding a girl who embarrasses herself at her work Christmas party. Fitting. We can’t THANKK YOU enough for all of you love and support this year. We ADORE each and every one of you. We read all your emails and messages and we are So grateful for the amazing community that has been created. We couldn’t and wouldn’t be able to do this without you. You’ve all supported and helped us so much and we can only hope you have felt supported and loved too. If it weren’t for you guys we never would have won the Listeners Choice at the Australian podcast awards, an award we are so chuffed with. We can’t wait for a bigger and better 2021. Until then, join the fun and join some healthy and usually hilarious conversation on the fb discussion group - Life Uncut Podcast. Have a safe and healthy Christmas and New Years and let’s roll in to the new year with good energy, great intentions and filled with love and optimism. Please, if you’ve gotten this far and you haven’t hit 5 stars or left a review yet, well you sly dog what are you waiting for. Please, share the love, because, well, we love love x
FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHT - Talking conflict resolution styles
Happppy Thursday lifers! Holy smokes it comes around quickly dunnit! Starting with some cracker accidentally unfiltered’s and ‘can’t believe they said that’s’ before jumping into a meaty and ever so insightful topic, conflict styles. We’ve spoken about love languages and attachment styles in the past and we think this is a really great way to complete the conversation and tie them all in together. The 5 conflict styles we discuss are -Conflict avoiders -volatile couples -validating couples -hostile couples -hostile-detached couples. These are so important to understand about yourself and your partner so you can work towards a happier, healthier relationship. So, which one are you!? You can do your own conflict style test here If you love the episode please hit subscribe, 5 starts, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x Oh, and join our Instagram and fb discussion group lifers, it’s where the magic (and lols) happen! @lifeuncutpodcast Peace x --
When their sex noises make you cringe - ASK UNCUT
Happy Tuesday lifers! We are doing another switcheroo this week and bringing you Ask uncut today, but we have good reason! You’ll have to listen to find out though. Some things just can’t be avoided! We have a great one for you with some very relatable questions and some good solid lols. But before we get into that, some jerk had the nerve to put a girls face through a “how pretty are you?” app before deciding if her would date her... then proceeded to give her her feedback before they had even met and WTF JERRY THERES A REASON YOU’RE SINGLE JERK OFF. As you can tell, we are not ok with this. Okies, into the episode; Firstly, what do you do if you can’t stand the noises your partner makes when he’s having sex!? Can you tell him? Do you just put up with it and hope for the best? What if your partner never told you he loved you. But showed you in other ways. Is that enough? This one related back to the good old love languages and we both have different ideas on it. Lastly, but definitely not least, we have one listener who’s bf keeps getting sent nudes in a group chat and she ain’t ok with it. How do you navigate that one!? We will be back with our big juicey episode on Thursday guys! Thanks for all your love recently, so many of you taking the time to leave reviews and have great meaningful discussions on the Facebook group! If you aren’t a member, where you at!? @lifeuncutpodcast Hit 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x
ASK UNCUT - THERAPY THURSDAY with Laura and Matty J
It's that time of the week again Lifers, it's Therapy Thursday and we have a very special one ready to serve up! Britt is away on a much deserved holiday - and today its Laura and Matty J taking the reins answering all your relationship questions! Here are the questions we tackle in todays episode : My partner is going to a bucks party where there are going to be strippers and I don't want him to go, am I over reacting? Are you always attracted to each other? My husband and I have different fighting styles, he avoids conflict and I need reassurance which ends in our fights escalating even if the original fight is over something inconsequential - how can we resolve this? I need to break up with my boyfriend.... should I do it before or after Christmas? Find us on Facebook at Life Uncut Podcast and on Instagram @Lifeuncutpodcast If you loved todays episode please hit 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love!
MY EX TRIED TO KILL ME - Talking coercive control with Dr Angela Jay
Lifers, today we have one of the most serious and most harrowing episodes we have ever done, but it is something we feel is so important to speak about. One in four will experience violence at the hands of an intimate partner and the most dangerous place for a women is in the house. This statistic unfortunately rang true for Dr Angela Jay when she was attacked in her own home by an ex partner. It was 2016 when Angela decided to download tinder and start dating again after ending things with her husband. That is where she met a funny, intelligent, tall dark and handsome man by the name of Paul Lambert. Things started off well, but went downhill rapidly, so Angela ended things. It wasn't long before he would try and kill her. Angela bravely talks us through what happened to her and discusses the signs she missed, life after the attack and where you can go for help if you are experiencing any form of domestic violence or if you need to exit a toxic relationship. If you haven't already join us on insta and our facebook discussion group @lifeuncutdiscussion Please, hit 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x If this conversation brings up any issues for you, or if you just feel like you need to speak to someone, please call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). This 24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line for any Australian who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault. It doesn’t matter where you live, they will take your call and, if need be, refer you to a service closer to home. If you are in immediate danger call 000.
TOXIC POSITIVITY - Take your good vibes and shove it
Hey Lifers! Yes it's Thursday but we are delivering you our big, juicy, meaty Tuesday episode today! (blame this weeks episode switcheroo on the fact we thought Laura was going in to labour - valid excuse 😂) but boy do we have a positively good one for you! After starting with some solid laughs and of course some accidentally unfiltered stories, Britt chats about the new journey she is going on and she is going to take us all on it with her, then we jump in 'Toxic positivity.' What is that you say? Well we are glad you asked! The phrase “toxic positivity” refers to the concept that keeping positive, happy and upbeat are the only feeling you should have and is the right way to live your life. It means only focusing on positive things and rejecting anything that may trigger negative emotions. We are currently seeing this everywhere in life. Sounds great right!? The fact is, when you deny or avoid unpleasant and negative emotions, you actually make them bigger . We unpack that and more so strap in folks. If you loved todays episode please hit 5 stars, leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love. And also that is what helps us grow so please and thank you we love you. x
SWITCHEROONIE! Thursday Therapy on a Tuesday - FEATURING MATTY J
Therapy Thursday is here!! Even though it’s only Tuesday! We very occasionally mix up our weeks programming when life throws us a curve ball annnnnd that’s exactly what happened. Laura’s needed a bit of R & R with this pregnancy, so Britt searched high and low for a special replacement but time was of the essence... sooooo we got Matt. Lolz. Naaa we love having Matt on to give his very wise male perspective on things! This week Britt and Matt chat about picking up in a bar, that is, how to do it and how to give the impression you’re open to it. One poor lass has already been through hell when her fiancé cheated and left her for her cousin (jerk) but now she’s expected to go to their wedding... sorry WHAT!? Talking about your exes on a first date. Is the first date etiquette!? Should it be avoided? Should you be offended if they choose not to talk about it? Christmas is just around the corner and we should be excited to be with loved ones! Unless of course your partner hasn’t invited you... is this as bad as it sounds or can couples do their own thing over the holidays? If you loved the episode please hit 5 starts, leave a review if you’re feeling extra generous and share the love, because, well, we love love x
ASK UNCUT - THERAPY THURSDAY!
It's that time of the week guys! Where you hit us with your deepest and most troubling problems and we give you our deepest and sometimes troubling answers. JOKES our answers are always very heartfelt, considered and come from a place of love and experience. Today we have an accidental message slip up. HELP! I sent a message to my friend saying that one of our other friends babies looked like a potato.... but I accidentally sent it to the mum! My boyfriend broke up with me because I told him I didn't want him to hand out with another girl... All my friends are getting married and having babies, how can I be happy for them without resenting my boyfriend as I want to get married too. My ex has intimate photos of me and I want him to delete them, what should I do? We absolutely LOVE ask uncut so please keep your questions rolling in! (literally any topic is welcome) And if you love the episode please share the love, because, well, we love love x
Sabrina Frederick Uncut - Talking resilience, SAS Australia, same sex relationships and BLM
Today we have the absolute powerhouse that is Sabrina Frederick joining us and we are so excited to bring you this episode!! Sabrina is not only an elite athlete paving the way for women in AFL, but she is also keeping us glued to our screens as we watch the highly addictive yet controversial reality TV show that is SAS Australia. Sabrina describes herself with the simple yet powerful statement 'I’m a Black woman in a same sex relationship working in a male dominated sport" and we talk about all of that. We chat all things AFL, how Sabrina got into the sport, she tells us all about her fiance, how they met and who proposed to whom. Then the scene that divided the nation, the boxing match between Sabrina and Nick "honey badger' Cummins, we find out what really went down, along with some other SAS goss of course! Like who she would take into battle if she could only choose one person, and it may not be who you think! Sabrina opens up and talks about her experiences and her thoughts on the Black Lives Matter movement and some of the issues she faced growing up. All in all this was such a beautiful conversation and we can all learn a lot from the inspiration that is Sabrina Frederick. You can follow Sabrina @sabzizzle If you loved the episode you know the drill! Leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x ps. Thank you so much to everyone that voted for us in the Australian podcast awards, thanks to you WE WON ahhhhhhh WE'RE NOT CRYING YOU'RE CRYING! We love you all for sharing the love! xx