Today's episode is a special bonus episode with Britt's sister Sheri! We put a call out a little while ago and Sheri was one of the most requested guests so we thought it was time to get a bit of a life update! Since we last had Sheri on the podcast, her and her husband have moved over to Scotland and had their first baby Maya. Maya was born 5-7 weeks premature. We asked Sheri: How are you going wearing hearing aids now? Do you feel stigma about being so young? How does Sheri feel about Britt's long distance relationship and pending marriage? What made you want to move overseas and did you feel guilty being so far away from family? Their pregnancy journey Maya's birth story What was the best gift you were given after birth? Have you lost much of your identity since becoming a mum? How did you navigate getting 'back' nutrition and exercise?  You can find Sheri's Instagram and Strive here. You can listen to Sheri's previous episodes with us: Talking Diet Culture and Nutrition with Sheri Hockley You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Today’s special ask uncut comes from our favourite fiances Britt and Ben! First up, they answer a few questions about how it’s been seeing each other again, wedding plans, kids in the future etc!  Then they jump into your questions! MY HUSBAND DOESN’T APPRECIATE MY COOKING My husband & I have a 6 month old baby. I’m a stay at home mum and he works full time. I make dinner every night which is always hard cooking with a baby as my husband doesn’t get home until 6.30 when we’re about to eat. Last night I made dinner like usual and in conversation I said do you like it? He responded ‘ahh it’s alright’ but said it in a way that he wasn’t impressed. This offended me as I put a lot of effort in, while juggling our baby. I would’ve been happy with just toast for dinner but I put in the effort just for him. He thinks it’s ok to be honest and that he thought the dinner was just ok. My question is.. if someone makes you something such as dinner.. is it ok to be honest and say you didn’t really like it? Or be appreciative that someone put in the effort and just say it was good! I asked him if he was at our friends house would he say something they made was just ok? He said no but because this is his home he thinks it’s ok to be honest MY FRIEND HASN’T TOLD HER NEW BOYFRIEND THAT SHE CHEATED ON HER EX Should my friend tell her new boyfriend the reason that her and her ex husband split was because she cheated? They’ve been together 6 months and she still hasn’t told him and is doubting she will but I think she’s crazy because he will eventually find out (shit gets around) and I think he will be pissed off that she wasn’t honest with him. I’VE FALLEN FOR HIM BUT HE SAID HE SEES ME LIKE A SISTER I have known this guy for 5 years + and he's been there through breakups, graduation, my mum’s cancer and as of recent my mum’s passing/ funeral! My mum loved him and he promised her he would protect me. He's always so active in my life and helping everywhere possible - since all this has happened I now think I'm falling for him but he says he sees me as nothing but a sister. He's 30, l'm 24. Am I just wasting my time or is there something I can do? Also Brit how do I get rid of the feeling as I feel the guy should always pursue you, not the other way around? I KISSED ANOTHER GUY. DO I TELL MY LONG DISTANCE BOYFRIEND? I’ve been with my partner for about 3 years, like Britt and Ben we are long distance with him living overseas. We have a great relationship but I haven't seen him for 3-4 months. I made a huge mistake and kissed someone recently on a night out. It meant nothing and I immediately regretted it and felt so guilty. I know it will never happen again. I worry if I tell him it will ruin everything and he may break up with me. Knowing I will never do it again and it was a mistake, do I tell him or can I just keep it to myself and pretend it didn't happen? SHOULD I COMMIT TO HIM WHEN HE’S 8 YEARS YOUNGER? So I have been seeing this guy off and on for a year and last night he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I’ve been searching for love for years now so this should have made me the happiest girl ever. He’s very into me and has told me and shown me as such. The thing is, he’s 8 years younger than me. I’ve reached an age where I hope my next partner is my last (I want to have kids and time is ticking). I like him and we get along great and have similar goals and values but I guess my question is, how do you know? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!! Merry Christmas you wonderful things! Can we start by saying that if you’re able to watch this on youtube instead, we highly recommend it because we have videos of the entire year and you’ll witness about 17 different hair styles from Britt in 2024 alone! Laura really wanted us to sing some Christmas carols and she…kinda got her way. We might have discovered one of the weird audio duality sounds where ‘pumpkin pie’ can sound like something else! Here are some of our favourite bits from the year, and you can listen to the whole episodes by clicking on the links! Funny bits  Britt eating someone else’s calamari  Laura checking a nappy like a dipstick Britt’s wedding dress code Laura welfare check Britt’s Engagement  Surprise  Britt and Ben share their engagement details  Interviews Elizabeth Gilbert Tones and I Angela White Ask Uncut Does your partner greet you at the end of the day? Is it okay to wank at work? She Cheated With Her Second Cousin We hope you have the BEST Christmas imaginable. We love and appreciate you! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! We are coming to you cross continental! Britt is in Romania and has met her brand new niece! We get some updates on how her reunion has been and whether meeting her dream, unicorn niece has shifted the needle on her decision around having a baby herself.  Laura confesses to rage baiting us all and she's high on the power. Will her house end up looking like Dr Seuss? Most likely! Vibes for the week: Laura: All in the mind. The design tricks brands use to get you to buy Keeshia: Search Engine - What if ayahuasca made you stop podcasting? Britt: Just Married. The Anthea Bradshaw Mystery Then we jump into your questions! HUSBAND DOESN'T LIKE ME WEARING G STRINGS Been together 12 years (since I was 17), married with 3 young kids. When I was younger, I never wore g-strings and thought they were uncomfortable. Fast forward to my late 20s, and in the past year I've started wearing them to the gym for comfort and more of a seamless style. My husband does not like this. He thinks I'm disrespecting his boundaries and that I'm not being a good wife because I'm 'parading' myself by wearing that kind of underwear with shorts/leggings running or to gym, while he is working hard to provide for our family. I think the request to control the type of underwear I wear is over the top, and it was a decision I made for my own comfort and not to parade to others. I don't want to disrespect him or his boundaries though. What should I do? SHOULD I BE OFFENDED THAT I WASN’T ASKED TO GO TO THE CHRISTMAS PARTY? My partner works in a professional job and is employed by the government. I’ve met only a few of his colleagues. For their work Christmas party, they were just going out for dinner to a restaurant that is about an hour away from where we actually live (it’s 20 minutes from their workplace). He initially said that he wasn’t sure if he was going to go but his colleague had said that he should. I asked if partners were also invited and his response was ‘yes’. I was a bit taken back because he did not ask me if I wanted to go. When I mentioned this he responded “well you wouldn’t want to go to that surely?” It’s true; it’s not my idea of a good time but I’m feeling upset that I wasn’t actually asked. Is it normal to not ask your partner to go to a Christmas party when there is the option for partners to be included? HUSBAND ISN'T HELPING WITH HOSTING CHRISTMAS FUNCTION Each year, my cousin, her husband and my husband do Christmas dinner. We plan it in January as December is hectic and we plant it a year out. This year my husband and I are hosting. The problem is that my husband has just been invited to a work mate’s bucks party and it falls on the same day as our Christmas tradition night. He has said yes to going to the bucks for bottomless lunch, but here I am having to clean, prepare the food, decorate and get everything sorted all on my own. On top of this, the day before is my husband’s work Christmas function. So I’m fully on my own riding this beast. I’m annoyed that I’ve been lumped with all of the responsibilities. What can I actually do about this? Do I just ‘suck it up’ and try to not allow the dates for next time to clash so much or do I cancel our Christmas dinner? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re all aware of the societal pressures and expectations put on us to have achieved certain things by the time we reach certain ages, but what about the questions we ask ourselves when a new decade looms? Whether you have or haven’t ticked off the traditional expectations of buying a house, getting married and starting a family, it seems as though we are all collectively asking ourselves more questions about who we are and what we want to be as we reach our 30s.  Joining the podcast today is Bridget Hustwaite. Bridget is a presenter, an author, a podcaster and a content creator. Going into 30, Bridget looked as though she had it all figured out: she was well established in her career, she was in a 5 year long relationship with aspirations to settle down, she was financially independent and had found purpose in her advocacy for endometriosis. And then shit hit the fan and the expectations of what Bridget thought her future would look like crumbled.  Bridget has a brand new book coming out called “figuring out 30” and chats with us about all of the unexpected lessons we learn when we question who we really are and what we are led to believe we ‘should’ want.  We speak about: The strange internal feelings we can get around milestones Going through a significant break up just before reaching 30  We all fear ‘starting over’. Is this the best it’s going to get?  Family dynamics and estrangement and how it shaped her understanding of herself The way people react when they find out that you aren’t in contact with your own family members vs how common it actually is Maternal desire. Figuring out the kid equation in your 30s How Bridget’s endometriosis affects fertility Can you be a feminist and support marriage?   What modern marriage means What it’s like reentering the dating world in your 30s You can find more from Bridget Hustwaite on instagram  You can pre order Bridget’s new book “Figuring Out 30” here!! Bridget previously joined the pod for an episode about endometriosis  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It's Laura and Keeshia today for the last Tuesday episode of the year (or maybe ever...)! Britt is over in Romania visiting Ben but she'll be back on Thursday for Ask Uncut. Christmas is really freaking soon and Laura is banking on the local RSL meat raffle to make up for her disorganised state! Laura and the family had a blast at the carols and met her new girl crush Emma Memma. If you’re an iPhone person, do you stick to even or odd numbered iPhones or are you just updating it whenever you feel you need?  We have some big changes coming to next year! We speak through the results of our last survey and how we are mixing things up next year!  There's a documentary that is going viral on youtube at the moment titled "I Slept With 100 Men In One Day". It follows Onlyfans star Lily Phillips and the aftermath of Lily's challenge where she is quite distraught after completing the challenge.  We speak about the complexity of these types of conversations when so much has been done to shift the narrative of sex work and highlight how platforms like onlyfans can be empowering, when the reality of this situation blurs those lines. We ask: Why is it that this documentary made us feel uncomfortable? Whether the stunts continue to become more and more outrageous to keep attention and subscribers? If the concern for her wellbeing is faux care/ shame dressed up in a different costume? You can watch us on Youtube If you have an ask uncut question or an accidentally unfiltered, send it to us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.  Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Mitch has learnt a something new late in life What did you eat Can you name your child a dog name? Our uber ratings exposed Marlie is breaking up with Laura You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your life dilemmas! Are you the partner who packs the dishwasher like a Scandinavian architect or a racoon on meth? The dishwasher is causing some problems in households but maybe we are a bit guilty of weaponised incompetence too! Britt is heading over to Romania tonight and Laura is hosting the Christmas Carols in Surfer's Paradise this weekend! Carols details here Vibes for the week: Britt Storyworth book  Keeshia Netflix Our Little Secret  Laura Netflix Killer Sally and Jumbled diaries Then we get into your questions! HUSBAND GOES ON LOTS OF BOYS TRIPS AND I'M RESENTFUL My husband is part of a boys punting club where they put in $20 every week and then use the pool of money to go on an annual boys weekend away. He also has an annual interstate golf trip with a different group of dads. Both these trips are expensive and mean that I am left home with our 3 kids under 4. Am I right to feel resentful that he has these boys trips or are my expectations too high that he should give them up during this stage of life? All my friends are mums to young kids/babies so it’s a lot harder to organise a girls trip and I’d feel guilty to leave the kids for a few nights. Also I would rather spend the time and money on a family holiday or a trip with my husband. My dad never had boys trips, is this just the new normal for our generation? PARTNER COMPLAINS ABOUT MY TOILET SKIDDIES Bit of a gross one but I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong here my partner constantly complains that I leave skid marks in the toilet. I’m not going out of my way to leave them there but we have a VERY clingy one year old so going to the toilet in itself is a bit of a challenge at the moment, let alone scrubbing the toilet when I’m done. My partner gets genuinely upset about it and has even gone so far as to call me 'an animal' because of it. Again, I’m not going out of my way to do this and when he brings it up (it comes up a lot), my response is, “it’s a fucking toilet”. Like that’s where the shit is meant to go, right?! Is it really that bad if I leave the odd skid mark on the toilet bowl?  BROKEN UP BUT CAN’T CUT TIES AND STILL HANGING OUT My partner and I split up 3 weeks ago. We dated for 5 1/2 years and had a house, a dog and a cat. It was a mutual breakup and it really came down to wanting different things and a lack of communication. Closer to the end we got quite distant which helped me come to terms with making the decision. After we broke up we started spending time together and talking through things and like we’re dating again. We know we have to cut ties but we’re just enjoying each others company. What do I do? How do I just leave? I’ve moved back with my parents but I’m spending a lot of time at his house now (my old house) I just can’t break ties and he isn’t the one to call it. NO CARD IN WISHING WELL. CAN I BRING THIS UP? We got married about a month ago. Like most weddings we had a wishing well for cards and well wishes. After opening all the cards we noticed there was no card from a couple that attended the wedding (reception and ceremony). Whilst we do not expect a monetary gift we’re a bit taken aback by there not even being a card. It seems somewhat out of character for the couple so we’re wondering if had somehow gone missing. Is there any polite way of bringing this up with the couple or do we just leave it to avoid any awkwardness? I just can not fathom ever attending a wedding and not bringing a card let alone gift. You can watch us on Youtube If you have an ask uncut question or an accidentally unfiltered, send it to us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered what life would be like living with not one but two partners? Joining the podcast today are the wonderful Alana, Kevin and Megan who are a throuple! Kevin and Alana were in a relationship for 3 years when Alana expressed that she was bi curious and had thought about experimenting with a woman. They met Megan on a dating app skewed towards non monogamy. Fast forward a few months and the three of them were in love and started their journey as a throuple! There’s so much curiosity around how relationships that don’t follow the traditional dynamics work and often a fear of the unknown or the unfamiliar. We spoke about: How other people in their life reacted to their relationship after they had kept it a secret for a year How their relationship is often over sexualised and viewed as a ‘kink’ How Megan adjusted to coming into an established relationship Navigating insecurities, communication, inside jokes and conflict Their unusual sleeping arrangement Finding out that some of their friends and family had been in polyamorous relationships in secret for a long time! Their advice for people interested in exploring being polyamorous You can find everything from Camp Throuple here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys! This time of the year feels like chaos and most of us are crawling to the finish line but today's episode matches the chaotic vibes! We chat: Hair loss, transplants and visiting Türkiye Alternative therapies using placentas What's in store for Christmas & Christmas traditions Having very 'curious' 5 year old asking about Santa Your best talent quest memories There's an Aussie comedian named Steph Broadbridge who created a musical parody 'Raygun the Musical' and was going to launch the show over the weekend. However, Steph was forced to cancel the show after Raygun's lawyers sent a cease and desist letter saying that Raygun owned the dance moves and that they were committed to protecting her intellectual property and ensuring that her brand remained strong and respected. There are a lot of opinions online (and within our team) about who is in the right and the wrong in this scenario. We speak about the optics, owning your brand, being tired of being mocked and cultural appropriation. You can watch us on Youtube If you have an ask uncut question or an accidentally unfiltered, send it to us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Mitch has learnt a something new late in life What did you eat Can you name your child a dog name? Our uber ratings exposed Marlie is breaking up with Laura You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions with our best but technically unqualified advice. Britt is nudging for an honorary doctorate! Laura can have orgasms in her sleep. We're aware that this is likely a unicorn and very fortunate skill but have you ever had one in your sleep? Britt has an unfortunate injury and somehow zooper doopers have entered the chat. Vibes for the week: Keeshia The Later Daters on Netflix Britt Meet Cutes NYC Instagram Laura Pink Santa by Tanya Hennessy Then we jump into your questions! BUY XMAS GIFT FOR NEW BOYFRIEND OR TOO SOON? I’ve been dating this guy for about 9 weeks now, it’s going great, amazing communication, sex etc etc. From the get go we’ve been straight about not dating anyone else, pausing the apps etc. With Christmas coming up, I’m wondering do you think it would be too full on to get him a small gift? It will have been ~3 months of dating by then, he’s really easy to buy for and I know what I’d get him but also am aware of him being spooked in the past when he hasn’t felt 100% sure. He’s said numerous times how much he’s enjoying this and wanting to continue seeing me and see where things go. I’m worried if I get him a Christmas gift he might freak out? I don’t expect one in return but have seen a few small things I know he’d love. Too much too soon? Or okay? IS IT NORMAL FOR BF TO SAY HE WOULD SLEEP WITH FRIENDS IF SINGLE? My boyfriend has been talking to a girl who he met online. He said she is only a friend but he would sleep with her if he was single. He tried to justify this by saying he would sleep with any of his friends if he was single and they wanted to as it is just sex. He said that all men think like this. My question is… is this true that all men think like this and he is just being honest, or is it a strange comment? KEEPING PHOTO ALBUM OF EX My fiancé recently got some of his old belongings from his parent’s home as they’re currently going through a move. In the items was a photo album of him and his long term ex who we happen to have had issues over in the past. I found the photo album hidden in a wardrobe after he told me “yuck, they can go in the bin”. My question is, do you think keeping photos of an ex is a red flag and why do you think he’d want to keep them? SIBLING WANTS TO USE SAME MIDDLE NAME AS MY KID So I had my baby in May and he’s the first grandchild of the family. His middle name is my dad’s first name. My brother‘s wife is having a baby in January and he told me he wants to give their baby the same middle name - after my dad. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if everything you think you know about addiction is wrong? Johann Hari's personal journey into the heart of the war on drugs led him to ask this question and to write the book that gave rise to his viral TED talk, viewed more than 62 million times. Johann Hari is a best selling author of many books like Chasing the Scream, the War on Drugs, Lost Connections, Stolen Focus, and Magic Pill - The extraordinary benefits and disturbing risks of new weight loss drugs.” We previously released an episode with Kate DeAraugo about her personal experiences with addiction and today we wanted to look at addiction a bit more broadly and unpack how it comes about and why so many of our loved ones are battling with addiction or substance abuse issues. We spoke about: The difficult narrative of loving an addict and not knowing what to do to help The story of what causes addiction isn’t accurate Why blaming it all on biology isn’t helpful, nor is blaming it all on personal choices Policies based on shame and punishment make addiction worse How much control we actually have over our own willpower People with ‘addictive’ personalities The money-happiness trap; the hedonic effect You can find all of Johann’s books and further information at his website. You can follow Johann on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Did you ever compete in the school talent competition? Britt and Laura share the talents that they were proud enough to share with their friends and family. They were subsequently mocked for them! Have you ever accidentally posted something to social media that was meant for close friends or a group chat? British actress Betsy Blue English 'called out' Tammy Hembrow for copying her wedding cake; except she didn't mean to call her out, she meant to share it on her close friends story! We read out some of the funniest accidents that you have caused yourself. A few days ago, Tones and I shared a heartbreaking post with a caption explaining that she had suffered a miscarriage during the rehearsal of her recent Melbourne show. Tones went on to perform the following night, with very few people knowing the pain and the loss that she was experiencing. Today we have a chat about miscarriage and discuss: The pressure women may feel to 'get back to it' and act as though nothing has happened. Laura's experiences of having multiple miscarriages. The feelings of loneliness that miscarriage can force you into feeling. Tones bravely sharing this to reduce the shame, guilt and stigma women feel around pregnancy loss. Whether we should re think 'not telling anyone' until 12 weeks of pregnancy. You can watch our whole chat with Tones and I on Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. There's a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her, so she took the urn that had his grandmother's ashes in it! Is this the ultimate bargaining tool or kind of cruel? We then asked you for some of the funny things you've taken during a break up. Vibes for the week: Keeshia Simple Interval Training app Laura Mco Beauty Instant Contour Cream Bronzer Britt Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix Then we jump into your questions! PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLING A couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members? GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGED I am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore. HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABY I am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession. This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places. Kate shares: After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19 The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse The toll it took on her family How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’ How addicts think and what happens inside their minds Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility You can find more from Kate at her website You can listen to Kate’s podcast Why Do I Feel This Way Laura mentioned a famous study about addiction that you can watch in Johann Hari’s Ted talk here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits". Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis. If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue. It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year. New Year, New Relationship! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have? Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem! Vibes for the week: Britt - Picking up a new hobby. Basketball Laura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning' Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER? My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We have a 7 year old child who we love. But our sex life is 0. We talked a few months ago about opening our relationship. We both agreed and didn't have many rules. A few weeks later, I slept with an old friend. My partner was unhappy to say the least. Since then he convinced me to let him keep sleeping around but I can only see people I don't know. Now my question is... I'm not comfortable with people I don't know. Sex to me is intimate and needs friendship. Do I start sleeping with strangers or just have no sex for the rest of my life? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT My husband recently gave me $400 in cash for my birthday present. For context, we have a joint account and each has a personal account and we get paid equal amounts in our personal accounts every week. We keep a money tin at home where we keep a bit of cash to the side to spend on joint expenses. The $400 birthday money came from our shared tin. At the time I was super grateful and thankful for the cash gift. He also took me out to dinner and paid for that with his personal money which was part of the gift. He said the money is to go towards getting a necklace made that I’ve been wanting for a long time. We aren’t huge on gift giving but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed that he didn’t put any time into thinking about a nice present for me that wasn’t just grabbing money out of the tin and putting it in a card. He did cook me breakfast and show me love in other ways on my birthday but I wish he put some thought into a gift for me. We do live very busy lives and are both self employed and work together so I don’t want to be too hard on him as life has been pretty hectic for both of us lately. How would you bring this up, if even at all? Or do I just move on and stop even thinking about it? Maybe I’m just being completely unreasonable. DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL? My partner & I were together for 2 years, lived together, were speaking of marriage & kids within the coming year. 8 months ago, something happened randomly and my partner started pulling away. He was so checked out. He said he wanted to go to Bali with a mate and when he returned home he dumped me 2 days later. Little did I know he found a new girlfriend over in Bali, made it official & hard launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks later. I was beyond heart broken. I moved back in with my parents & it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward 8 months, he’s called things off with the new girl & has said he can’t move on from me. He said that he’s realised what he’s lost, he has massive issues & is willing to do anything to fix things including couples counselling and deleting his social media in order to gain my trust back… My whole family & friends hate him & I don’t know what to do. Is it worth giving him another go & trust he won’t break my heart again? Or am I risking ending up back at square one and too much damage has been done? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.