Tough times are here and you may be recovering from a relationship with a narcissist. Double whammy!x! So how do you navigate these perilous waters? I have some tips for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

When the going gets tough, the tough put their tits up. It's all about being resilient and plucky. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Narcissist, another Cluster Beach, Disordered Center, visuals in fact, their partners, in a way that makes them sick. Even after they’re gone, the infection lives in the body like a chronic, inflammatory disease. Understanding this may give you an edge to heal effectively. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Continuous memory is an essential to emotional empathy, compassion, and reflection. Cluster B disordered people who do not have it are lacking a core quality that makes them human. When they leave, and they all leave sooner or later, they hit the delete button and you disappear as if you never existed. No memories, no regrets, not accountability, no sadness- just instant erasure and complete amnesia. What could be more soul-crushing to their partner than to be deleted and forgotten with absolutely no reflection or remorse? It is a fate worse than death. We remember the dead with respect and kindness. Not so with the narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. You disintegrate in a moment, and there is nothing to remember. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

I begin with 3 perspectives about what the narcissist is ranging back into the past 1902-1907. There was an awareness of "their kind" even 100+ years ago. But where do they fit into the picture of current change. Is that where we are headed? Into a collective consciousness of hollow remorseless callousness? Are they simply an adaptation that was necessary to survive the modern world? Or are they harbingers of decay, depravity, emptiness,  and soullessness that seem to increase every day? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Jung described a constellated self where the individual is ordered and everything works in taddem with everything else in a natuarl, organized and constant way. Narcissists and other Cluster B disordered people do not have this design. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Recovery from a relationship with a person within PDA is a complex and layered experience. You spend a vast amount of time, trying to figure out what just happened to you, what they are, and what made you susceptible to it in the first place. At some point, we will need to turn away from that, and begin to focus on yourself. It is only through introspection and self reflection that we can grow and mend and heal and become whole and happy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

The narcissist and psychopath use people because they are not real and human and unique- they are all just objects to play with for awhile then cast aside for the next new thing. I am not fungible, disposable, interchangeable, replaceable. I am one of a kind. Even in a world where everything is built for the here and the now with no long term commitment, even in the multiverse, even in the transactional society that is always searching for what best serves them. That is my manifesto. It should be yours , too. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Remember that Death Cab for Cutie song from 20 years ago? Well, my darkness is encroaching blindness which might frighten even the most average spouse. But mine was a covert narcissist, so sticking around to be there for a partner with a disability is simply not something they are capable of doing. If you are in a relationship with one, stay healthy and strong. They can't be there for you if you are in need. Let's launch into this dark matter and see if there is a helpful take-away. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

The world has changed over the past 10+ years. We have lost our souls in exchange for searching for things that "serve us" and throwing away anything that is inconvenient or boring. We have lost our moral compass and have become ethically bankrupt. The world has corrupted us with promises of wealth and power that never ever come as we ruthlessly compete in a landscape of scarcity and lack. The narcissist, sociopath, and psychopath have risen to power and are leading us off a cliff as they get richer and we get poorer. The result? Violence, perversion, despair, apathy, addiction, death. Let's step back and stop this madness. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Dreams of vengeance, justice, karma? Obsession with getting even, balancing the scales, teaching them a lesson? Refusing to accept being erased, forgotten, annihilated, deleted? Plotting and planning revenge fantasies and driven by rage?  But what if they are already dead? Takes the wind right out of your sails, doesn't it? How can you harm someone who is already the poster child for abuse? Someone so mentally delusional and sick? It's a tough situation. What do you do? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Limerence, experienced by both the narcissist and their partner, is not love and may not even be prerequisite for love. It is more of a middle school crush kind of thing only involving the neuro-chemicals of the brain and even peptide addiction. Loneliness is something many of us who are codependent or have problematic  attachment styles or abandonment issues fear worse than death. It is a "howling wilderness" that screams to be comforted.It helps to understand both iso you can move toward healthy emotional connections with yourself and others. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

Three categories are discussed: 1. The professionals, researchers, medical and mental health community 2. The narcissistic abuse recovery facilitators 3. The narcissists who are experts on their own disorder --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

What makes a person deelop narcissistic personality disorder? We all have a healthy dose of narcissism, but how is a malignant, pathological one made? One that has no remorse, accountability, morals, love, or attachment to anyone. One that creates a false persona and wears a mask 24/7 that could fool even the most brilliant expert. One that cannot create a decent or stable life, self-sabotages, is reckless and impulsive, and always plays the victim?  How do you make one of those? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

For most of my life, I have been a narcoholic. I am someone who chose a disordered, malignant, pathological narcissist 3 times in my life, marrying them, having children with them, and ultimately, being discarded by them. I am currently sober, living one day at a time, trying to maintain no contact, and promising myself to never fall prey to another narcissist. Many of you will feel the truth in my story. It will resonate with you because it is a common dynamic. We must heal ourselves, do the work, and get free. It is a matter of life or death. Please send questions or schedule 1:1 sessions at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com I am unable to respond to voice messages left here at this time. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

The relationship with the borderline and narcissist is powerful. By themselves, they are a tornado. Together, they are the perfect storm. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

The narcissist plays many roles in a relationship. Each one is so very real and convincing that it cannot be detected by even the most brilliant trained person. There is no other experience like it! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

For those who missed it, this is the part of the webinar where tips are offered to manage stress, anxiety, and depression during the holiday season. Licensed therapist Cathy Angi Brownell, trauma and PTSD trained art therapist and somatic interventionist joined me along with Myla Morningstar, writer and Quora content writer and married to a covert narcissist for nearly 30 years. The Q & A was not shared, but another free event will be available for the next big hurdle. . . Valentine's Day. Contact Cathy LPC at healingjourneys500@gmail.com Contact me at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

This colloquial phrase has two meanings, and we are going to take a look at both. Maybe it's is exactly what we need to do. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message

I practice an accent as I warn about the dangers of too much talk about narcissists and too much trust in the misinformation and disinformation provided by so many hacks on social media. Let's have a little fun, shall we? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pesqueda/message