Hosted by sex therapists Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, Safeword is sex therapy, unhinged! Because instead of being a blankslate that’s just here to support you, we are telling you the details on our own sex lives, relationships, identities and more. Each week we tackle a theme related to sex, gender, and relationships. Safeword is produced by The Expansive Group and launched following the success of @queersextherapy on Instagram and TikTok.
Queer dating! The greatest activity on earth? Or the most intimidating? On Episode 19 of Safeword, Kamil Lewis and Casey Tanner are here for all your queer dating quandaries. We hope these tips help you slow down, release some queer imposter syndrome and realize you got this! As always thank you listeners for these amazing questions!
Everyone is always talking about org-sms. And while Kamil and Casey are big fans, they know through our work, and through their personal experiences that org-sms can be complicated and hard too. In Episode 17 of @safewordpod: they celebrate the pleasure that *comes* with org-sms; validate the challenges; and normalize all of the desires and styles of relating to org-sms.
*CW: Episode 15 contains themes of religious trauma, s-xual trauma, child abuse. Please take care of yourself in whatever way makes sense, whether that’s pausing and seeking support or sitting this episode out. In Episode 15 of @safeword, we are talking about Religious Trauma. Casey shares about their journey from studying to be an evangelical minister to today where they proselytize their love of queerness every day. Kamil shared a more nuanced experience, growing up in the Black Baptist church, and then later, run-ins with misogyny, and s-xual shaming with former religious partners. Once again, thank you listeners, for your beautiful questions. We are honored by your vulnerability and healing work.
In Episode 14, Casey and Kamil had the tremendous honor of speaking with s-xuality doulah, sensualist and author @evyan.whitney. The trio discussed gender and answered all of your amazing questions, addressing topics like gender dysphoria in the bedroom, the construct of straightness, the power of breath and much more! Hit the bio link @queers-xtherapy or @safeword on IG to send in your own questions and listen to our latest episodes.
Kamil and Casey dive into all of your quandaries about bis-xuality. Get ready! This is Kamil’s playground. They reflect on, what Kamil calls, “Casey's powerful bis-xual era.” It is still a challenging world for people with bis-xual identities, and we get real about that. We also celebrate all of the ways bi folks are thriving! Check us out at @safewordpod on IG and Instagram.
Kamil and Casey discover that they both have been watching Gilmore Girls on repeat since high school! Amazing timing! Lorelei and Luke provide the perfect archetypal case study of avoidant and anxiously attached partners and the common conflicts that arise in this dynamic. As always, your fearless hosts answer your amazing questions on Relationship Conflict. They share tips on conflict avoidance, healthy conflict, conflict as a turn on and share their own wild adventures with conflict.
In this live recording, Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, answer all your questions on your secret turn ons and turn offs. They talk you through ways to tell a partner what's on your yes/no/maybe pleasure lists. They answer other questions on solo kinkiness, the secret turn ons of a s-x therapist, the relationship between our fantasies and what we want in reality, and so much more.
In this episode, Casey and Kamil address your thoughtful questions on trauma and sex, and share pieces of their own survivor stories. This episode addresses the pain and grief of sexual trauma, as well as the discomfort, hope and pleasure found in healing. Please engage with this episode at a pace that feels safe for your system, pausing or stopping when you need to.
Kamil and Casey help us navigate the wild rollercoaster we call NRE a.k.a. New Relationship Energy, and the very different by also wild LRE a.k.a Longterm Relationship Energy. The transition from from one to the other can be bumpy and daunting. That's why your hosts are here to tell you their own messy times and also what has worked for them. This episode is not actually sponsored by Costar ;)
To kickoff Season 2, Casey and Kamil answer your questions on breaking up, getting back together and everything in between. They address the pain of breakups, the lure of break-up s-x and how to address resurfacing issues with a partner. Also they share about their own experiences with messy break-ups, loving more than one person, and non-monogamy.
For the Season 1 Finale, Casey and Kamil take on your questions about cheating. They let themselves get more real and messy than before and open up about their cheating experiences. Turns out your sex therapist is human too! They also educate on how cheating is often the distraction from another issue in the room... Check out the rest of Season 1! We'll be back in September 2022 with Season 2.
Casey and Kamil therapize their first guest, Alex Lui, about his quest to recover from a trash sex education. We learn that Casey went to a Handmaids Tale summer camp, Kamil used to walk down the block to throw out her empty Birth Control packets, and Alex's mom thinks he's a sloppy masterbater. Best of all, Casey, Kamil and Alex celebrate that in spite of a homophobic, biphobic, sex-negative world, they made it!
Masturbation is a go-to client topic for Kamil and Casey rewatches Brookback Mountain for the first time since being a teenager. This week, we talk about how self pleasure is always a vibe! Unless it's not. Which is more than okay. What does masturbation with a partner look like? Is masturbation ever a waste of time? Should parents buy a sex toy for their tween? All this, plus kegals, and more in our fifth episode.
From dating app burnout to the ethics of having Tinder while monogamous, Casey and Kamil swipe through all your dating app dilemmas quicker than it takes to type out “hey there!”. It’s brutal out there, from choosing an app to wondering if you'll ever meet up in person - but misery loves company, so tune into our fourth episode where we talk it all through.
Casey and Kamil reveal their first impressions of one another and discover they both had childhood lisps. They tackle questions about first queer experiences, first partnered orgasms, whether or not to disclose when it’s your first time trying something, and the first time having sex after trauma.
On this episode of Safeword, Kamil is making hot use of office space and Casey gives the gift of being told what to do over Zoom. This week’s theme is fantasies, so ~imagine~ a dreamy conversation about your favorite type of bedtime stories. Can you fantasize about something you’d never do IRL? Are any fantasies ever “wrong”? Will we have a tangent about anal? Plug in and find out!
In our pilot episode of Safeword… Kamil names her vibrators after Disney princesses and Casey is having the best sex of their life. Our theme this week is better sex, and we talk about orgasming, sexual spectatorship, shame around fantasies, and more. Trust us, you’re in for a ride.