85: The New Uncoupling. Eve Eurydice w Human Connection’s Kara B on the Gift of Conscious Separation

Eve Eurydice speaks with Kara Baruzzini, a Conscious event leader, who teaches Human Connection & intuitive yoga about Not Suffering. @eveeurydice speaks with @kara.makingwaves on the Power of the Rising Feminine Not to Suffer Patriarchy’s Dramas of Separation & Loss in Uncoupling. Emotional language is the language of the rising feminine, of what patriarchy calls instinct. When we let our past conditioning tell the story of what we are experiencing to our brain, we get stuck in repeating behaviors that are not our own choices, nor are within our logic. But our Emotion can be rewritten. We can repeat the language we have seen our families use or we can create our own language. Love is a leap of faith. Separation is a leap of faith too. A leap of faith is also the choice of our heart to accept and support the ending (the completion) of a relationship as another version of our empowerment. Scars incl psychic scars and ancestral traumas are the vocabulary of therapy and they imply illness. Breakups are normal. 50% of marriages 60% of second marriages 70% of third marriages ‘fail.’ Practically speaking, the system has lied to our brains. Our brains expect relationship success must be everlasting. Rather than seasonal and cyclical. Nature goes through the annual season of beginning & ending, of birth & death & then rebirth. So do humans in nature. The darkness is nurturing. Hearts don’t break. The ego, the identity, breaks. That’s what hurts. It’s not humanly possible to sustain one couple per lifetime without outside enforcement, legal requirement, and authoritarian control. We have evolved legally, socially, morally, but not emotionally. We still speak in terms of the inherited drama modeled for us by TV & movies, by our ancestors & peers. The weight of our cultural inheritance pulls us in the direction of pain, the narrative of recrimination & victimization & revenge. We as individuals & as a society must rewrite the narrative of love & celebrate the courage that it takes to move on. We must resist the mass weight of the past. We must take up the work of resisting the pull of the previous millennia in order to hear our own new voice. We complete the relationship. We journal. We open healthy space. We hold emotion containers to be sad or angry in. We create an altar in nature. We Build ritual around our agency to fortify it. We exchange completion & consolation words. We hold a business meeting. We agree on how we will behave next. We find what we are grateful for. We give affirmations & thanks. There is no love greater than the strength to say goodbye. The new you is not the old you. The Patriarchy is Old Earth. On the other side of all that, the Feminine is Rising. Find her at https://karaBaruzzini.com @karamakingwaves @speaksexpodcast For more on Speak Sex, go to https://Speaksexpodcast.com https://www.facebook.com/Speaksexpodcast For totes, books, art go to https://Eurydice.net. ⚡️ on Apple, subscribe to https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-sex-with-eve/id1448261953 ⚡️For video, subscribe to https://YouTube.com/SpeakSexwithEveEurydice #speaksexpodcast #uncoupling #therisingfeminine #divorcedrama #powerbreakup #separationhowto --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/speaksex/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/speaksex/support