Raising Independent Children with Ferne van Zyl

Ferne van Zyl, owner of the Independent Child is sought after parenting coach.  She  has provided training and support for hundreds of families on setting up environments for independence, effective communication skills and practical strategies for dealing with challenging behaviour. In particular, her deep understanding, sense of humour, and ability to see opportunities and find solutions in just about any situation have seen her become highly sought after by parents who find themselves ‘stuck’ for ideas about how to deal with a particular issue. 

Today we are talking about how we implement everything the other guests have been talking about in terms of parenting.  How do we parent so our children can grow up authentically themselves and in touch with their emotions so they can be independent?  How do we create healthy boundaries so that we can have space and time ourselves and a role model to our children? Well, I honestly do think that Ferne has all the answers.

We talk about:

• What is an independent child?
• Good and Bad and Punish and Reward model
• Where does judgment come from?
• How do we instill intrinsic values and motivation as opposed to extrinsic rewards
• Teaching self regulation and looking after their body.
• Regulating our emotions especially anger and other “negative” emotions
• Why we have to stop asking why. 
• Dealing with tantrums
• How we usually act out of our emotions as opposed to responding with what is necessary
• How us authentically expressing our emotions to our children teaches them to be emotionally intelligent and resilient and how to do it
• How we should have authentic arguments with our partners for the sake of our children
• How freedom and limits lead to positive self discipline that in turn affects others

References

Maria Montessori and her Montessori Method

https://montessori.org.au/about-montessori

Ferne provides one on one coaching to families all over the world and also has online courses and forums for parents. 

Please go to: https://www.theindependentchild.com

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