The Empowered Wife Podcast
About The Empowered Wife Podcast
Guests share how they fixed their marriages to men with anger issues, narcissism, alcohol abuse, verbal abuse, midlife crisis, affairs, physical abuse and more using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills.
Every show highlights the worst relationship advice of the week, reveals the very common mistakes that everybody seems to be making and shows you exactly what to do instead to have a playful, passionate relationship--like over 15,000 women who have already transformed their relationships and become Empowered Wives.
Listen and subscribe to the Empowered Wife podcast with New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle, the world's most trusted relationship expert, so you can stop feeling lonely, exhausted and unloved and start feeling desired, taken care of and special again.
Okay, I don’t have much to say about outlaws. I just love that joke, that the difference between outlaws and in-laws is that outlaws are wanted. That’s because in-laws can be annoying and get on your very last nerve! They might be nosy, overbearing, or passive-aggressive, but you can’t get rid of them, as much as you might like to sometimes. Or is that me I’m thinking of? Well, not anymore. Now I genuinely like all my in-laws. I used to find fault with them like it was buried treasure, but it turns out they’re a great bunch. Maybe your in-laws are not so great though, and it’s putting stress on your marriage. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to make his family members more tolerable. Plus, my guest Jessica was sure the only way her marriage would get fixed was if her husband would finally open his eyes and start treating her better! But she did some experiments herself, and her prayers were answered in an unexpected way. Now he writes her love notes that make her heart sing. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
It feels really bad when the man who promised to love honor and cherish you sneers at you when you’re talking, takes sides with the kids, doesn’t bother to answer you when you’re saying something important, makes demands or criticizes you. It’s so hurtful and insulting. You start to feel like you’re always on guard to protect yourself, which is tiring too. How is it ever going to improve if he’s just getting ruder and more dismissive? It’s scary to think about spending the rest of your life with someone so disrespectful! We talk a lot about how to be respectful on this podcast, but what about how to get respect? Here’s a powerful way to break out of the cycle of feeling disrespected by your husband and create a new culture at your house. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re unpacking what to do when your husband doesn't respect you. Plus, after big fights about parenting their blended family, Faith’s husband started confiding in a female “friend.” Faith decided to experiment with the 6 Intimacy Skills™ even though her friends told her that wouldn’t work. Today she says her marriage is the best it’s EVER been and they are both so in love. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
First of all, I don’t even have kids to disrespect me, so this could be a really short podcast because what do I know?! Sure, I know what it’s like to be disrespected by exceedingly short people. It is so frustrating because I can just pick them up and drop them on the bed while they giggle relentlessly like bedtime is some big game instead of the end of my childcare shift, which can’t come fast enough. I am the person in charge of them, the boss, and everyone knows you have to respect your boss—everyone but kids, that is. Food has to be consumed, bodies washed, pajamas put on, teeth brushed, stories read and lights turned off. And kids don’t seem to respect my authority about these things. Nagging, begging, pleading, and even bribing don’t work very well. I can’t make them obedient, which is very stressful. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re unpacking what to do when your kids don’t respect you. Plus, there was no joy or laughter in my guest Julia’s marriage, but there were plenty of arguments. Then she did a bunch of experiments and they worked! Today she feels a weight has been lifted and her marriage feels intimate and fun. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
If you suspect your man is just a little too emotionally intimate with another woman, it feels terrible. It’s threatening because emotional intimacy was a big part of how you two fell in love to begin with. It could signal that he’s falling for someone else, which is not right. You shouldn’t have to fear that some other woman is having the connection with him that you want or that she might have bigger plans for his future. But where’s the line on emotional cheating? If he were clearly over the line, you could use the law to confront him. Then he would have to admit he is cheating and he’d realize that’s not the man he wants to be. He’d keep his distance and blow her off, like he should, and go back to being emotionally intimate with you and only you. But what if it’s not over the line? What if he’s just being friendly and there’s nothing to worry about? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re unpacking exactly what emotional cheating is. Plus, my guest Maxine was grouchy and resentful that her husband wouldn’t do things for her no matter how creatively she nagged him. But she made some changes, and today her marriage feels really good. She knows he just wants to make her happy and that she has the key. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
What could be worse than knowing that your husband loves someone else when he should be devoted to you and only you? This should not be happening. It’s so wrong! And a terrible rejection to know he finds someone else so alluring that he’s willing to put everything he has with you at risk. I mean, is she younger than you? Prettier? What is it about her that’s worth making a fuss about? He is your husband and this is not part of the agreement you made. It’s so hurtful and disappointing when the time, attention and affection he’s giving her is taking away from what he should be giving you. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when your husband is in love with someone else. Plus, my guest Cindy’s husband was having an affair for three years, which she never thought would happen to her! Saving her marriage seemed completely hopeless because he wouldn’t end it. Then she started experimenting with the Intimacy Skills, and today she has the marriage she always wanted. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
Going from feeling desired and sexy to getting rejected by your own husband is a terrible feeling. Is there something wrong with him? With you? Is it because you’re not as attractive as you used to be? Either way, it’s scary to think about a dreary future with little to no passion. You might wonder what you can even do about it if the problem is his lack of drive. Are you going to be on a starvation schedule in the bedroom or even involuntarily celibate when you’re still a sensuous being? That’s an awful life sentence to serve ’til death do us part. But fortunately, that doesn’t have to be your story. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what it means when your husband rejects you sexually—and what to do about it. I’ll share two ways you can turn this around and skyrocket the passion in your marriage. Plus, my guest Erin’s marriage was doing okay, so she was blindsided when her husband announced that he was moving out. There was another woman. But in just a few months of using the 6 Intimacy Skills™ and the Connection Framework, miracles happened in her marriage. Wait until you hear what she did! I think you’re going to want to do it too.
Not only will this phrase help make your marriage last a lifetime, it will also help your marriage stay shiny and amazing. Because it’s not just the words coming out of your mouth and your husband hearing them that make them powerful. Although that’s certainly part of it, and he will respond to you better. This phrase is also going to change your heart. It does double duty that way. That’s why I consider it the most powerful Intimacy Skill of all. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about a phrase to say every day for a long-lasting marriage. The intimacy at my guest Nicole’s house had grown COLD. She was doing everything yet not feeling appreciated. But six months ago something happened, a big something, and now her husband can’t stop taking her on romantic date nights. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!
We’ve discovered four things that are pivotal for wives fixing their marriage. But one in particular helps you make quantum leaps in your marriage because it helps the 6 Intimacy Skills stick. It’s when I started practicing this piece that I got my miracle of feeling loved, desired, taken care of and special every day—more than ever over 20 years later. I’m excited to share how I got a breakthrough with being able to implement the Intimacy Skills myself when I was terrible at them! So you'll know the missing link if you’re struggling, like I was, to implement the Skills or wondering why you can’t remember to use them. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about the Connection Framework and how you can pay it forward. Plus, even though she knew she was a good wife, my guest Steph felt lonely and hopeless. She could feel her marriage slipping through her hands. Through that pain came an insight that set her in a new direction. Today her marriage feels loving, respectful and safe. She’s going to share what she did so you can do it too.
It’s so dreary to find out you're married to someone with bouts of exhaustion and depression interspersed with manic behavior. It feels like bait and switch. How are you ever going to have a great partnership when there are just those two extremes and nothing in the middle, no normal husband behavior? It’s scary because not only are you married to someone who can’t always be a good partner to you, it sucks up your time and energy trying to care for him. Instead of a playful, passionate marriage, you’re left with a stressful burden. Ugh! But it doesn’t have to be that way. You too can be a ridiculously happy wife, even if your husband is bonafide bipolar. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to fix a marriage to a husband who has bipolar disorder. My guest Joanne was desperate to avoid the pain of another divorce at any cost but didn’t know where to start since the breakdown was mostly her husband’s fault. She had some unpleasant realizations and started to do a few things differently, and he responded beautifully. Today her marriage is calm, peaceful, and respectful on both sides. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!
Part of why you decided to go all in and commit to your man is because he made you feel special. So when you see your husband checking out other women, it’s not only disappointing, it can be threatening. That’s not the agreement you had when he said you were the most wonderful, amazing woman in the world. It can make you angry if he’s looking at another woman in an obvious way. It can be embarrassing and make you feel insignificant. You shouldn’t have to feel that way with your man! So what gives? Why is it so difficult for a man to just be respectful and only look at you and not at other women? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about why men look at other women. Plus, my guest Krystin was devastated when her husband moved out without even telling her. That’s when she found the Intimacy Skills and had an unexpected twist on her journey to becoming a ridiculously happy wife. She’ll tell us what she did so you can do it too.
If you miss snuggling on the couch, dreaming about your future together, and spontaneous dance grooves in the hallway, it’s disappointing when that goes missing. Without love, there’s just work and chores and sleep. It’s lonely and sad when all the joy is sucked out of your marriage. But if you want to feel desired again, get pats on the butt just because, and see his face light up when you walk in, you can get it all back. You can have deep conversations and silly ones too. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’ll reveal 3 steps that will fix your relationship so that it’s loving instead of loveless. Plus, even though my guest Margaret’s household was miserable and explosive, she was incredibly hurt when her husband moved out then said he wanted a divorce. But she made some changes and today she feels secure and happy with her best friend in their now peaceful home! She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
This is the 200th episode of the Empowered Wife Podcast, so first of all, let’s have some confetti! Yay! It’s because of you listening to this podcast every week, many of you more than once, that it’s been so successful. So thank you for listening, for thinking marriage is important enough to learn about and work on, because it is, and for the glowing ratings and reviews, and for sharing the podcast with your friends and family! I’m so grateful. I want to celebrate with you that we’ve been together for all these years, working on making our marriages stronger, staying inspired, and changing the world by changing our own families, making them strong. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re going to reveal 5 lessons from 200 empowered wife podcasts. I’ll take you behind the curtain to introduce you to my podcast team and share their aha moments. My guests today are two master relationship coaches and two husbands, one of them mine! They’ll talk about the top 5 lessons we’ve learned from doing 200 Empowered Wife Podcasts.
It's annoying when you’re trying to have a conversation and your man either clams up and gets cold or raises his voice or starts arguing with you. It seems mysterious why he’s so riled up. If only he’d relax so you could have a normal conversation! I used to be so confused about why my husband would look exasperated when I’d made an innocent comment. It turns out that, without meaning to or even realizing it, I was offending him. I didn’t think he should be offended! But now that I understand how, it’s not surprising he was reacting so badly. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re going to answer the question “Why is my husband so defensive?” I’ll share 3 embarrassing ways I unintentionally made my husband feel he had to protect himself from me. My guest Rachel studied the 6 Intimacy Skills™ before her relationship even started but found that practicing them in theory was very different from practicing them in marriage. Here are the adjustments she made so she now says she’s married to the best husband in the world!
Lacking emotional and physical intimacy in my marriage was miserable. With no deep conversations, flirting, or laughing together, I felt rejected and neglected, NOT desired, which is something really important to me. What’s the point of even being married?! After the connection and playfulness we used to have, I knew what I was missing, which made it even worse! Thinking this is just what happens when you’ve been married a while didn’t stop me from wanting the intimacy back. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when there’s a lack of intimacy in your marriage. Plus, my guest Joanne was heading for another divorce. When she changed her approach to her marriage, her husband seemed suspicious. But now she feels secure about the future of her peaceful marriage. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!
The silent treatment can make you feel really bad and make you desperate to end the tension. It’s scary and takes up a lot of energy wondering how long it’s going to last, if it’s still on, and if there’s something you should be doing differently to fix it. It feels horribly rejecting when someone you love won’t speak to you, answer you, or look at you—like a punishment with no end to the sentence. So what can you do when you’re being shut out? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to handle the silent treatment with dignity. I’ll share 3 experiments to try if what you’re doing doesn’t feel so dignified and you want to shorten or stop the silent treatment. Plus, my guest Deanna’s marriage was hurting from betrayal on both sides when she stumbled on The Surrendered Wife book and this podcast. She started applying the 6 Intimacy Skills™ right away and was amazed at what happened after only a few days. Today she feels loving and loved. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
Being pregnant is vulnerable. When you’re getting ready to welcome a baby, you want to feel secure about your future, to know that you’re loved and desired, that you’ll be protected and taken care of. So it’s an especially scary time to feel rejected. Pregnancy messes with your body so much that it can also feel like you’re not very attractive. Then if he’s less physically affectionate, you could assume it’s because you don’t look hot anymore in your maternity pants. Or someone might tell you that you just feel rejected because your hormones are making you crazy. So now you’re not just rejected, you're also unattractive and crazy!—and it’s all out of your control. But is that what’s really happening? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do if you’re feeling rejected by your husband during pregnancy. Plus, Sue had a breakdown in her marriage even though she’s a well-loved relationship coach who has been practicing the Intimacy Skills for many years. She decided to get coaching herself and manifested some big desires, including making her marriage hot again in more ways than one. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
A coach recently shared with me that she decided to become a coach even though she didn’t love her husband because she wanted to be kinder. She was actually guarded against falling back in love. Then she spent a year becoming an expert on the 6 Intimacy Skills, practicing them at the highest level with her classmates. She surprised herself and did start to notice what a great man she had married decades ago. And she came to a coaches’ call recently to admit that, despite her best efforts to just leave him out of this, she was in love with her husband. So, if you don’t want to fall back in love with your husband, do not practice the 6 Intimacy Skills with a supportive community and structure or you’ll end up excited and happy to be with him. You’ll end up with a romance instead of a roommate and co-parent. He’ll seem sexy to you again. It’s crazy, I know! On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to fall back in love with your husband. Plus, my guest Julie wanted her husband to change, and he just wasn’t! With life throwing them some big curveballs, their connection was very strained. Then Julie started experimenting with the 6 Intimacy Skills™, and today her marriage is just what she wanted all along: a peaceful, fun and strong union.
It feels terrible when the guy who used to trip over himself trying to help you is now interested only in staring at his phone or staying at work all the time. What a disappointment. Especially when you have so much to do and so many responsibilities because you set out to be partners but now he isn’t doing much to contribute. Why isn’t he supporting you and what can you do about it? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about 3 signs he’s not supportive. I’ll share what to do if he doesn’t listen to you, appreciate what you do, or do what you ask. Plus, my guest Jill was so unhappy that she left her 30-year marriage twice. There were lots of arguments, and her husband made her feel guilty when she spent money. But when he introduced her to the audiobook The Empowered Wife, she decided to experiment. Today they have a closeness they’ve never had. She’ll tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when you find yourself thinking, “Hey, my husband and I have nothing to talk about.” Because nothing feels lonelier than being married and just eating together in silence or living under the same roof but never having the deep conversations you’re craving. I’ll share 3 doable ways you can both become great conversationalists so you get those deep talks. My guest Diane’s relationship lacked connection. She felt like she and her husband barely knew each other. Having conversations was like pulling teeth, and there was barely any physical intimacy. When she started some new practices though, in just a few weeks things became different at her house. Her husband pulled her close at night and the resentment dissipated. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
It feels so rejecting when you find out your guy doesn’t love you back, like you’ve been let down in the worst way when you least expected it. Your head races with terrible thoughts about how this could have happened, whether it’s hopeless, and what it means for your future, which can seem so dark. Does it mean you’re not lovable? I have proof it does not. And if what you want is for him to respond like you’re an irresistible magnet so you feel desired, let’s bust some myths that could hurt your relationship. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when he doesn't love you back. Even after all the fighting in my guest Julia’s blended family, when her husband decided to move away it was a terrible wake-up call. She started practicing the 6 Intimacy Skills™, and a year later he still wasn’t coming back. But today her marriage is so connected and strong, she knows they’re soulmates. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.