Why You Can't MAKE Your Spouse Happy

Most of us were given the advice when we got married, “Do everything you can to make your spouse happy.” This sounds like such lovely and good advice. I agree that we should be loving and kind and sacrificing. But when we do these things with the expectation that it will make our spouse happy, very often we undermine our happiness and the happiness of our spouse. In other words when we do this we are people pleasing—doing something in order to manipulate someone’s response. There is a much healthier and much more fun way of cultivating happiness in your marriage. This whole month we’re focusing in on marriage and how to improve it!

What you’ll learn on the podcast

• Why sometimes our spouse doesn’t feel happy even when we’re trying our best
• Why trying to make our spouse happy can cause us to feel miserable
• How trying to make our spouse happy can actually cause disconnection in our marriage
• Why your spouse my not WANT us to try to make them happy
• How to cultivate happiness in your marriage in a healthier way
• How to create connection even when you don’t honor your spouse’s wishes
• How to hold space for your spouse’s disappointment

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Schedule

One-Minute Wisdom
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