Are the certain topics in your relationship that just keep causing you pain? Frustration? Anxiety? All you want is for reality to be different than it is... because YOU ARE RIGHT. Your thought is true. And reality is just not playing along. In this week's episode, we talk about hugging the cactus. Something all humans do in their lives. But our capacity to let go of the cactus and take a step back will directly determine how much pain and frustration we live with on a daily basis. How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

This is a guided coaching episode that I recommend you listen to if you have been triggered by something in your relationship. The goal of processing a trigger like this is to flush the fight or flight response out of your system so you can access your intelligent brain again. We don't want to trust and act on our perception of reality when our emotions are heightened and our nervous system is entirely shot. Always acting on your triggers and urges is not healthy for any relationship. How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Have you ever thought that your partner is the problem in your relationship? That their behavior is the problem that needs to be solved? Then this is the episode for you. We are never more disempowered than when we give someone or something else in our lives credit for being the "problem"... because that also makes them the solution. In this week's episode, I share what needs to happen in order for you to be able to solve the problem in YOUR life! How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Do you ever feel obsessed with your partner? Does it feel good... or not so much? Could it even become unhealthy if it goes on for too long? A while back I got a question from a girlfriend who struggled to differentiate between her feelings of love and what felt like an unhealthy obsession. So let's figure it out together! In this week's episode, I am joined by Daniel Penner Cline and Ron Cecil from the Cutting for Sign podcast. We discuss obsession in relationships and in true Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast fashion, we break down exactly what love and obsession mean and take it from there. My episode on Cutting for Sign: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0gabUiyPgX0B9D0W6jFQgw?si=cbf95c1eb5024e1b Find Ron and Daniel: https://www.instagram.com/dpennercline/ https://www.instagram.com/roncecil_/ Cutting for Sign: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cutting-for-sign-with-ron-cecil-and-daniel-penner-cline/id1544882464 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Wd3kmJZIS0jCB46AbtiET?si=dd59a8461d994f9d

You've heard of people pleasing... saying yes to things you don't want to say yes to in order to manipulate people's thoughts and feelings about you. But what about retrospective people pleasing? In this week's episode, I dive into one of the biggest grumpy girlfriend red flags that I see when working with my clients. The "after all I've done for you" entitlement that shows up after reality doesn't turn out the way you thought it would (or should). How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

No one has missed the importance of setting boundaries in life in order to stay safe and sound. But for a lot of grumpy girlfriends, this is an area of confusion, frustration, and trouble. Is it possible to set too many boundaries? Tune in to this week's episode to learn about what boundaries are, the most common boundary struggles for grumpy girlfriends, and how to make sure you're not giving your partner responsibility for managing your emotional life. Other episodes to check out: 26. For Couples: “I get to do whatever I want” explained 32. Am I putting up with too much? 47. Am I overreacting? 55. When your partner’s behavior goes against your values 60. When your partner IS doing something wrong with Karilyn Ivers 68. The Manual 91. Wanting something vs. having a manual for someone How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible way? Then this episode is for you. How to Stop Being Grumpy: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh? If you are struggling to make a decision in your relationship right now, try creating a decision container and go all in on any decision within a set period of time. This will help you actually get the ball rolling and start seeing some results. 3-Part Video Series You HAVE TO Watch: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe. Here are 23 thoughts for you to practice believing and finding evidence for in order to make this year your least grumpy year yet! Let's go! 3-Part Video Series You HAVE TO Watch: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with. To celebrate episode 100, I invited my boyfriend Sonny to join me and answer your most burning questions about his grumpy girlfriend-boyfriend experience. Enjoy! 3-Part Video Series You HAVE TO Watch: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking. In today's episode, I share with you the thought exercise or the tool that I used to manage my overthinking and eventually overcome my intense anxiety. WWNPD? 3-Part Video Series You HAVE TO Watch: https://www.katrinberndt.com/video-series Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work! There are certain situations where you actually want to hold on to the way you think and feel, and just change the circumstance instead. Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys. If I'm feeling this way and I'm not even struggling in my relationship, I can just imagine how it must feel for you. You're at risk of getting whiplash from all the back-and-forth advice ranging from one extreme to the other. I hope you like this episode even though it wasn't 100% structured or planned out in advance. Sometimes we just need to get stuff off our chests. :) Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you. Without being fully aware of it, other people's opinions play a huge role in our relationships, what we are okay with, and what we argue about. And this fear of judgment is something that is a lot more present for women than men. Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your relationship anxiety. How many of these 7 "truths" do you subconsciously believe to be true? Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work. In this week's episode, I share my take on the "problem" with "intrusive" thoughts and offer you an alternative solution that doesn't give all your power away to a neutral sentence in your mind. Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens. A lot of girlfriends ruin their good relationships because of the fear they feel about getting lied to and cheated on. So what better way to stop fearing it than to put yourself in that situation and show your own brain that you are capable of handling it. Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening. Listen to this episode to learn how I would coach Christine through this situation and what I recommend that she do instead. This week, we are trying something new on the podcast. I have already shared this fictional coaching concept on my blog and it received terrific feedback. Let's see if it translates into the audio format as well! Read the written version of Movie Night at Jack & Christine's: https://katrinberndt.com/2022/10/25/fictional-coaching-movie-night-at-jack-and-christines/ Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do. What exactly is the difference? In this week's episode, we dive deeper into Wants vs. Manuals and define the key difference between two concepts that often come up here on the podcast. Enjoy! Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt

Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago. In this week's episode, I share the concept I call "fast forward and let it go", which helps you question if something is a problem or if it's just based on unrealistic assumptions and fantasies. Work with me: https://www.katrinberndt.com/coaching Contact: https://www.katrinberndt.com/contact https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt