Adina is the founder of Stanford’s Resilience Project. She has worked with highly accomplished and ambitious students for years to help them learn, adapt, and excel. Adina and I engaged in this dialogue to discuss the dilemmas parents and their children face in this time of uncertainty. Some children are back home as colleges and dorms are closed, and others are in lockdowns elsewhere. For the first time, parents and children could be a potential threat to one another in a way that has never been experienced before. They struggle to find space and navigate their dynamic while being confined behind closed doors. As a result, children might feel the pressure of being judged for not doing enough and parents might be having a hard time navigating how to take care of their children while trying to keep their sanity intact.
Adina brings a positive light to this heavy conversation by inviting us to slow down and reminds us that everyone is impacted by these unforeseeable circumstances (not only you). Therefore you cannot possibly fall behind by being patient and just focusing to take care of yourself. She emphasizes that to learn, one needs to have perspective which seems to be an impossible way of coping in this era of uncertainty. She warns that with the current level of anxiety and rich resources that are out there one might feel pressured and confused. To untangle this confusion, she recommends that we look into resources that offer us validation of how we feel and where we want to be at this moment in time. She frees us from the misconception of seeking resilience while you are still in the midst of the crisis, and offers reassurance that it will come when the time is right.
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About Adina Glickman
Adina is a Certified Integral Coach who has helped thousands of students at large research universities, community and state colleges, and small liberal arts schools, achieve their academic and personal goals through her Resilient Learner coaching model. During her 18 years at Stanford University, she founded The Stanford Resilience Project and created The Duck Stops Here, an academic skills blog for Stanford students that is open to the public. She co-founded The Academic Resilience Consortium, an international collective of faculty and higher education professionals from 250+ schools in sixteen countries. Adina is the author of The Resilient Learner: Eight Pillars of Student Success (in press), and is the co-author of “Over the Influence: A Harm Reduction Guide to Managing Drugs and Alcohol” (Guilford, 2003). Adina received her BA in Music from Reed College and her Master’s degree in Social Work from New York University and worked in community mental health for ten years before moving into educational consulting and coaching. More about Adina here.