The Mel Robbins Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
About The Mel Robbins Podcast
Mel Robbins is one of the world’s most widely booked and followed podcast hosts and authors. She’s trusted by the world’s leading brands and medical professionals who use her research-backed tools and strategies in clinical and corporate settings. She’s amassed millions of followers online, with her videos going viral almost daily.
143 Studios Inc., her female-led media company, produces provocative and award-winning content with unprecedented results: millions of books sold, billions of video views, seven #1 audiobooks, and original courses and programming for clients like Starbucks, JP Morgan Chase, LinkedIn, Spotify, Headspace, and Audible.
Mel’s work has been translated into 41 languages, her podcast is syndicated in 194 countries, and her TEDx Talk is one of the most viewed of all time. A New York Times bestselling author and self-publishing phenom, Mel’s work includes The High 5 Habit and The 5 Second Rule. Most importantly, her science-backed tools and relatable advice have changed the lives of millions of people worldwide.
Despite all this, Mel is one of the most down-to-earth and caring people you’ll ever meet. The person you see every day online is exactly the same in real life. Probably because she learned everything she teaches the hard way: by first screwing up her own life, and out of necessity, discovering the tools and research that transformed her life and got her to where she is today.
In The Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel gets more personal than ever, welcoming you into her life and taking you behind the scenes in real time. Every episode is packed with deeply relatable topics, tactical advice, hilarious screwups, compelling conversations, and the tools and inspiration you need to create a better life.
Tune in and buckle up – your life is about to change. New episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast drop every Monday and Thursday.
To learn more about Mel, go deeper into every episode, find the resources and research she mentions, or submit a topic or question, check out https://www.melrobbins.com.
Want to know the hack that will make you more successful in 2024? Today, Mel is offering you a masterclass in business at zero cost. By walking you through her learnings and lessons, you will receive the coaching you need to uplevel in business and in life. Topics discussed include: One thing you need to stop doing today to stay motivated. The 3 most important aspects of business. How to overcome “slow” times in your business. Mel’s 4-part framework to help you decide whether to quit or keep going. How to upgrade your business. Why your marketing strategy isn’t working. How to keep motivation and focus. One important hack to help you stop procrastinating. 3 questions to ask yourself if you’re thinking of starting a business. The ONE question you should ask yourself when feeling lost or stuck. How to identify when you do your most productive work. Mel’s biggest career strategy that will help you launch yours. How to reach more people with your business. 3 words that BUILD confidence. The 3 science-backed ways to build your confidence, starting today. 2 myths and 2 mistakes to avoid when launching your business. How to know when to go into your business full-time. The #1 investment in your business that will surprise you. Mel’s daily routine for success. How to balance being a parent and an entrepreneur. What to do with moments of hesitation. Follow The Entrepreneur's Studio here: theentrepreneurs.studio/ Listen to The Entrepreneur's Studio here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-entrepreneurs-studio Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow Mel: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Want to learn how to be a happier and more successful version of yourself… from the psychiatrist that Lady Gaga says “saved her life?” Mel sits down with Stanford-trained psychiatrist, trauma expert, and best-selling author Dr. Paul Conti to help you improve your mental health and be happier in 2024. Topics discussed: Toxic self-talk starts in childhood. Cotard’s Syndrome: The extreme side of negative self-talk. Your thoughts become your reality. What to do when you feel like a failure or doomed to bad luck. Feel happier when you say THIS to yourself. 5 strategies for changing your inner dialogue. The one area where computers are better than the human brain. Why you HAVE to process your childhood trauma. What to do with a panic attack. The ONE thing you need to know about change. What an umbrella has to do with how you think about yourself. Purchase Dr. Conti’s book, Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic, here: https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Invisible-Epidemic-Works-Heal/dp/1683647351 Check out his website here: https://drpaulconti.com/ Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Do you want to reset your health? Are you ready for more energy and better overall health? Do you want to start seeing results in 5 days (or less)? In today’s episode, Mel is joined by double-board certified Dr. Amy Shah for Part 2 of her masterclass on how to optimize your gut health. Dr. Amy, a medical doctor trained at Harvard, Cornell, and Columbia University, is an immunologist and leading expert in women’s hormonal health and nutrition. She’s giving you her proven 5-step method to heal inflammation, reset your natural hormone balance, and heal food sensitivities. Learn how to use the power of your gut microbes to help digestion, gain mental clarity, and decrease your stress levels. In this episode, Dr. Amy discusses topics like: What a gut microbiome is. Why science says your gut microbiome is the key to better mental and physical health. The scientific link between gut health and depression, cancer, and heart diseases. What the brain-gut connection is and why it’s essential to your health. What to do after your overindulgence in holiday food and drinks. The reason you can’t properly digest food. What makes your gut bacteria “upset” and what keeps them "happy"? How healthy aging is directly connected to your gut biome. Why stress can make you bloated. The reason 1 in 7 people experience bloating once a week. How gut health impacts a woman's hormone health. The difference between fiber and insoluble fiber. Which natural fiber do you need in your diet for improved digestion? The only type of bread that heals your gut. What intermittent fasting is and why it improves gut health. The one thing you should know about your circadian rhythm. Dr. Shah's 5-day reset protocol and why you need it to reset your gut health. 3 things you should do every day for optimal gut health. What the best probiotic for your body is. The foods your gut bacteria love to digest. Why bonding with someone is a love language for your gut health. What an elimination diet is and why you need to do it. 3 foods you should consider removing from your diet for 7 days. How many days it really takes to reset your gut. Why crazy diets are not working to “reset” your gut. Why your daily probiotic pill isn’t really working. You can purchase Dr. Shah’s book, ‘I'm So Effing Hungry: Why We Crave What We Crave – and What to Do About It’, here: https://a.co/d/7mTXT2F Follow Dr. Shah: Instagram: instagram.com/fastingmd Webpage: amymdwellness.com Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
What is bloating, and why don’t your pants fit after just one meal? What are the 10 foods to avoid when you feel bloated? What is gut health, and how can you improve yours? Today Mel is joined by double-board certified Dr. Amy Shah, who is here to explain bloating and optimal gut health in a way that you can understand and easily apply to your life. Dr. Shah, a medical doctor trained at Harvard, Cornell, and Columbia University, is an immunologist and leading expert in women’s hormonal health and nutrition. She is giving you all the tools you need, including her 3-step plan to get long-term relief from bloating. In this episode, Dr. Amy discusses: What bloating is; why and when it happens. 3 symptoms of being bloated. 10 foods notorious for causing bloating. The one food that bloats everyone. Why bloating can be worse during menopause or menstruation. How to tell if you are bloated vs. gaining weight. What “water weight” is and how to avoid it. What a “distended belly” is and where it comes from. 2 everyday (non-food) things that cause bloating and how to avoid them. 3 foods you should not eat when you are bloated. The pill you are taking that surprisingly may make you bloated. One type of food that 68% of the world is intolerant of and doesn’t know. Why alcohol bloats most of us. Why you shouldn’t take Advil after a night of drinking. Why sleep is so essential for reducing bloating. What gut bacteria are and how to know when they’re upset. What a food elimination diet is, why you need one, and how to safely try it. Why fasting for 12 hours is essential for a gut reset. Dr. Shah’s 3-F plan and why you should start your day this way to reduce bloating. What the best probiotic is. (Hint: you can’t buy it.) The surprising experience Mel’s daughter had with “bad” gut bacteria. How anxiety and depression can be tied to gut health. You can purchase Dr. Shah’s book, ‘I'm So Effing Hungry: Why We Crave What We Crave – and What to Do About It’, here: https://a.co/d/7mTXT2F Follow Dr. Shah: Instagram: instagram.com/fastingmd Webpage: amymdwellness.com Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
How do you have a “healthy” fight with your family? How do you repair a relationship with someone you love? Today Mel is joined by her husband Chris, their daughter Kendall, and their son Oakley to answer listener questions about all kinds of relationships. This is the perfect episode to listen to with your family. You’ll hear the Robbins’ insightful, powerful, fun, and sometimes hilarious advice on how to get along with and love everyone in your family. Hear Mel unpack the 4 important lessons she learned from a silly fight she had that morning with her daughter, Kendall (note: there is some cursing). In this conversation, Mel, Chris, Oakley, and Kendall discuss: The 4 important life lessons Mel learned from her fight with Kendall. How to use the Let Them Theory to diffuse fights with family. A smart relationship “trick” from a therapist that Mel and Chris love. Mel’s funny story of how she ran into Reese Witherspoon. How to repair a damaged relationship with your child. When and how to apologize to your family. What to do when someone you love is always angry at you. The real reason you treat your family worse than you treat strangers. What strengthens most parent-kid relationships? What happened when guilt made Kendall do something she didn’t want to? What to do when your kids don’t talk to you. The reason family members start a fight. The right moment to bite your tongue in an argument. The one thing that will stop you from “advice vomiting” on your kids. The phrase you need to repeat to yourself when you feel left out of your friend group. (Or when you just miss your friends.) What you need to know that will help you feel more confident after a move to a new home or school. What happens the moment you meet your idol. (It’s not what you think.) Watch the episode on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Is it possible to be around narcissistic people and not lose your power? Especially when it's your mom, dad, ex, or boss who’s acting toxic? Today, Mel is joined by Rebecca Zung, an expert on narcissism and a globally recognized high-conflict negotiator. Rebecca is also a top-ranked trial lawyer who has studied narcissism so that she could win against them in the courtroom. She’s written the playbook, SLAY the Bully: How to Negotiate with A Narcissist and Win. She is here to make the case that you CAN stay in power no matter how toxic the people are around you. And by following her 4-part plan, you can even win when dealing with narcissism. In this conversation, Rebecca discusses topics like: Narcissism: what is it? The 3 types of narcissism. What a covert passive-aggressive narcissist is. What a malignant narcissist is. What a grandiose narcissist is. The link between narcissism and divorce. The exact phrases that can change the dynamic between you and a narcissist. The top 3 sentences to disarm a narcissist without causing rage. Why “cutting off” a narcissist won’t work. The physical symptoms you can have when dealing with a narcissist. Why being “the victim” is keeping you trapped. What narcissistic supply is and why it is so important. The 2 ways a narcissist gets their “narcissistic supply". What happens in a narcissistic brain in childhood that flips a switch. The tie between trauma and narcissism. What the 4 non-verbal triggers for any narcissist are. Why a narcissist is just an 8-year-old throwing a tantrum. The reason why a narcissist actually fears you. The definition of love bombing and why it’s so addictive. What the 3 phases of a narcissistic relationship are. How you can be physiologically addicted to a ‘love bomber’ (it’s as addictive as cocaine). What narcissistic rage is and why it happens. What your 3 options are in a relationship with a narcissist. What happens when you become the focus of narcissistic rage. What those passive-aggressive or back-handed comments mean to a narcissist. What triangulation is, and how to protect yourself. The biggest myth about narcissists. The real reason why narcissists string you along. The 4-step process to getting your power back from a narcissist. The $2M apology. What to do when a narcissist is raging at you. When it's okay to tell a narcissist what they need to hear. The 3 things to stop doing now in a narcissistic relationship. How to respond to an accusatory email at work. What you need to know about negotiating with a narcissist. Why saying “I’m anticipating…” disarms any narcissist. The first boundary you need to create with a narcissist. What to look for as signs that you are dating, engaged to, or married to a narcissist. You can purchase Rebecca’s book, ‘SLAY the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win’, here: https://a.co/d/bLWp5YZ Follow Rebecca Zung: Instagram: instagram.com/rebeccazung Webpage: rebeccazung.com Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Does this doctor have the health secret you’ve been looking for? Does people-pleasing really make you sick? Dr. Neha Sangwan is an internal medicine physician, bestselling author, and accomplished researcher. Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Sangwan to learn the truth about people-pleasing. Topics discussed include: People-pleasing: What it is. Are you a “yes” person? The difference between “going with the flow” and people pleasing. Why avoiding conflict makes you a people-pleaser. What your “childhood blueprint” is and how it shapes adulthood. People pleasing and the link to illness. What your parents did or said to turn you into a people-pleaser. Why people-pleasing is a coping mechanism. Why you can’t deal with other people’s discomfort. How to trace your people pleasing back to a single moment in time. Why being stressed, irritated, and tired is a sign that you are a people-pleaser. Why being a control freak may be a sign of people pleasing. How to unlearn people pleasing. How every conflict in your life traces back to childhood trauma. What happens, from a medical perspective, when you have an unresolved conflict? The secret reason you’re an overachiever. How to stop your people-pleasing behavior at work and set better boundaries. What it really means when you resent the people you love. Why people-pleasing is a “protection tool” you learn to use in childhood. The link between chronic worry and people pleasing. The simple 3-part framework Dr. Sangwan uses to say "no" when you mean "no". How 80% of all illnesses are caused by stress. The 5 questions you should ask yourself to understand what your body is really trying to signal to you. You can purchase Dr. Sangwan’s book, ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: https://a.co/d/iaVNwiL Download a FREE audio chapter from ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: intuitiveintelligenceinc.com/mel Follow Dr. Sangwan: Instagram: instagram.com/doctorneha Webpage: intuitiveintelligenceinc.com Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a way to not get so annoyed or frustrated with the people that you love? There is. It’s called the “Let Them” theory. Mel discovered it while arguing with her son about a taco stand, and she hasn’t stopped using it since. She first explained the “Let Them” theory in a 60-second reel on Instagram. 63 million views later. The verdict is in. Everyone loves the “let them” theory. Today, Mel is in the studio, taking your calls live and teaching you 6 ways to improve any relationship with the “Let Them” theory. In this episode, you hear Mel cover topics like: How to handle a mother-in-law who is not supportive. Feeling left out? Good. You need better friends. Why moving in with your parents is better than living with an ex. What to say when your sibling wants to gossip about your mom. Why being the family peacekeeper creates a war inside you. How to stop being the “fixer” in your relationships. The truth about addiction in a family and the role you need to play. Why your dad’s gambling problem isn’t yours to fix. How rescuing people robs them of the problems they need to face. What to do when your parents’ marriage is in crisis. How to tell a friend you are sick of hearing about their relationship drama. Why you shouldn’t be the “therapist” for your friend group. Why it's normal for friends to drop you when you start drawing boundaries. The art of putting yourself first: “Let me” be happy for a change. Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr My book! The High 5 Habit here: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP Linkedin: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Want to know what it really takes to launch, build, and sell a $255 million-dollar business in ten years flat? Do you have a good idea, but you think you “have no business being in business”? In this new episode, Mel sits down with the founder of Drybar, Alli Webb, and takes you on a riveting tour of how a stay-at-home mom who had ‘no business being in business’ made $255 million in 10 years. You’ll hear the entire messy truth and all the hard-won advice, from the exciting start of her business to the disastrous ending of her second marriage. Alli is a NYT bestselling author, badass businesswoman, co-founder of the iconic brand Drybar, and two other successful companies. Learn about the immense sacrifices she made in her relationships, the shaky financial situations she navigated, and the specific decisions she made as a businesswoman that accelerated the growth of this iconic brand. In this conversation, you’ll learn: Why your childhood dream job is probably the key to success. How your big idea is right in front of your face. Starting a business starts with you: your idea, your skill set, your purpose, and your gut instinct. All amazing business ideas share this ONE thing. Her parents' business advice for her: find a good man. How to juggle kids while having a side hustle. Why starting a business with your spouse is a bad idea. Why she didn’t call off the wedding (and probably should have). Why she jumped into her second marriage too soon. The HARSH dating advice Mel delivers to Alli. Why she trusted her business instincts but not in her relationships. How being a hairdresser prepared her to be a CEO. Why she’s sharing the messy truth now. The text she sent Mel at her lowest point. The part of the interview that she “wanted to cut". Why she names the hairstyles at Drybar after drinks. Her take on imposter syndrome. How to face your fear of failure. How to say ‘f*** it’ and try something new. How to double your productivity and leverage your time. What passion is and why it’s so personal. What she learned from her mistakes. How a business owner is only as good as her team. What not to do when creating a blended family. How she lost herself in her last marriage. How she handles a “no” in business. And a big shoutout to Alli. It’s very easy to talk about your wins; Alli is giving you a huge gift by sharing her personal losses too. You can get Alli’s book ‘The Messy Truth: How I Sold My Business for Millions but Almost Lost Myself’ here: https://a.co/d/cuYHOGv Follow Alli Webb: Instagram: instagram.com/alliwebb Webpage: ALLI WEBB Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr My book! The High 5 Habit here: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP Linkedin: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Are you tired of feeling anxious? Want to know a simple way to boost your confidence? Do you need better boundaries with your family? Buckling under the pressure of college applications, a job search, or other big life decisions? Listeners from around the world have been writing in about these issues, asking specifically for both Mel’s advice and her 18-year-old son Oakley’s young adult perspective. This is a fantastic conversation to listen to as a family. It will give you amazing insight into issues you may be facing as well as eye-opening honesty about how the young adults in your life are thinking about these topics. In this conversation, Mel and Oakley discuss topics like: How to properly support someone you love with anxiety When to know if it’s time to break up with someone If it’s possible to stay friends with an ex How to create boundaries with your family When you should be worried someone is spending too much time alone A really interesting take on gaming Handling the pressure of college applications, divorce, job search, or finding your purpose How to talk to your kid about alcohol: surprising boundaries you can use to protect the ones you love What to do to get someone talking when they are not talking to you Specific advice on building confidence as a young adult Mistakes divorcing parents make How to have a tough conversation with your parents Calming words for someone going through a hard time A short visualization exercise to calm anxiety A fun and free way to get closer to your family A young adult perspective on hazing and bullying and why you should always get your parents involved Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr My book! The High 5 Habit here: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP Linkedin: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Are you getting the sleep you need? Do you wish you could improve your sleep, but you’re not sure how? Dr. Gina Poe is an accomplished researcher and trained neuroscientist with a PhD in basic sleep. Currently a professor at UCLA, Dr. Poe has been researching the functions of sleep for over 30 years and has authored nearly 200 publications on the topic. Today, Dr. Poe is here to answer your questions like, Why do you sleep? What is your brain doing as you sleep? What is REM sleep? What are sleep cycles? What are circadian rhythms? And perhaps most importantly, you’ll get 5 research-backed recommendations from Dr. Poe on how anyone, including you, can not only improve their sleep but also get a “perfect” night’s sleep, as defined by a neuroscientist. In this conversation, Dr. Poe discusses topics such as: What is the “perfect night's sleep”? How long are you supposed to sleep every night? What is a sleep cycle, and why should you care? What is N1 sleep? What is N2 sleep? What is N3 sleep? What is paradoxical sleep and how can you tell someone’s in that state? What REM sleep really is and how often we must be in it. The physiological and neurological difference between being awake and asleep. What a neurotransmitter is and how it changes composition when asleep. What the functions of our brain’s two hemispheres are. How sleep cleans the brain. The connection between sleep and neuroplasticity. The link between sleep and brain health. The scientific reason why they call it “falling” asleep. How sleep directly affects longevity and vitality. Why you don’t remember your dreams. How sleep impacts how we learn during the day. What happens to your body and brain when you close your eyes at night. The one phase of sleep you cannot miss. A neuroscientist's top 5 recommendations for better sleep. What the purpose of vasodilation is. Which hours of sleep are absolutely critical for memory processing. How many hours of sleep you really need for optimal functioning. Why a consistent bedtime is the start of the best sleep of your life. Follow Dr. Poe: Instagram: instagram.com/poe.gina Webpage: bri.ucla.edu/people/gina-poe-ph-d/ Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr My book! ‘High 5 Habit’, here: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP Linkedin: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Are you missing the one thing that would make all the difference in your effort to be healthier? I was. And the thing I was missing was weight training. In this episode, you will learn from Dr. Gabrielle Lyon, a medical doctor who is fellowship-trained in nutritional sciences and geriatrics. Dr. Lyon is a renowned researcher, pioneer, and founder of the Institute for Muscle Centric Medicine. She is the New York Times best-selling author of Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well and has decades of experience to share with you. In this conversation, Dr. Lyon discusses topics like: What the heck muscle-centric medicine is. How your muscles are the largest organ in your body and why that matters. The way muscles improve your brain and body health. The connection between your waistline measurement and brain output. The power of protein and what it does for your muscles. What type of protein counts and what doesn’t. How to get the right amount of protein if you are vegan or vegetarian. The amount of protein you need for better hormone balance. Dr. Lyon’s protein recommendations for every meal. The surprising cause of disease and obesity, according to research. How disease may begin in the skeletal muscle. Why building muscle helps you sleep better. The minimum amount of weight resistance that will still give you results. How to begin strength training if the gym intimidates you. Why yoga might not be making your muscles stronger. What leucine is and why you need it to build muscle. Why myokines are so important for muscles, energy, and immune function. You can purchase Dr. Lyon’s book, ‘Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well’, here: https://a.co/d/3zgEDLB Follow Dr. Lyon: Instagram: instagram.com/drgabriellelyon Webpage: drgabriellelyon.com Watch the episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow me: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter: https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
I was talking sh*t about my daughter and got caught red-handed. Talk about unnecessary drama. We've all been there. And according to today’s expert, this type of conflict is causing more stress than you think. Today, I am joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, a medical doctor, holistic psychologist, and renowned body-based trauma expert. He says there are 6 telltale signs that you’re addicted to stress. I never considered myself to be a person who is addicted to stress until this conversation. Dr. Lyons is certified in more healing modalities than you want me to list and has even created his own body-based trauma therapy called Somatic Stress Release™, taught in over 20 countries. You and I are digging into the fascinating science, research, and psychology of stress. And more importantly, you are going to get the tools you need to remove it from your life. Dr. Lyons will explain why we keep ourselves on edge, why we find ourselves picking fights, gossiping, zombie scrolling, and staying in relationships where drama is present. This is a cycle you need to break. It’s time you slow down and learn: The shocking ways you are addicted to stress. How to deal with drama-addicted friends and significant others. What zombie scrolling, zoning out in front of the TV, and always being on the go say about you. What it means when you always need to be the center of attention. What “revving” is and why you need to stop doing it today. The 3 ways to break free from a stress addiction. If you’ve read this far, it means you want to feel less stress. I want that for you, too. That’s why I can’t wait for you to listen and learn how to remove all the unnecessary drama from your life. Xo, Mel In this episode, you’ll learn: 3:28: What exactly does it mean to be ‘addicted to drama’? 4:56: Here are the 9 external signs you might be addicted to drama. 5:00: If you use these 6 words, you might be addicted to drama. 5:15: Do you feel these two emotions when things are calm? 5:30: Gossiping is a double-edged sword 8:23: How addicts feel inside vs. how they seem to others 10:26: What is a revving reflex? 11:10: Whoa. I had a major lightbulb moment here. 11:50: Addiction to drama is really an expression of trauma. 12:57: Mic drop: We chase our drama to avoid our traumas. 15:15: How we are reclaiming this word ‘drama’. 16:00: The 3 ways drama feels good. 16:12: What is drama exactly? 20:15: Dr. Scott begins to share his own vulnerable story. 21:20: Are you ‘drama bonding’? 23:50: This is why hurt people can’t let go of drama. 27:35: What is dissociation? 28:20: Do these signs feel familiar in your own life? 36:55: Examples of childhood traumas that can create drama addiction. 37:50: Here’s what we did so that our kids felt abandoned. 43:25: How to be in a healthy relationship with someone like this. 48:15: Do this so you don’t get involved in their drama cycle. 51:40: One surprising sign of dissociated tolerance I bet you’ll recognize. 54:00: How the heck does stress give you pain relief? 1:00:20: How do you create boundaries around controlling children? 1:06:22: Here are 4 ways to take control and end the drama addiction. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
Welcome to another round of your questions and my advice. I have a stack of your crazy, raw, and unbelievably direct questions, so we are going to have an unfiltered conversation about sex, competitive parents, getting over your ex, and this light and easy question... Is there a God? You are getting the coaching you need right now. The questions you asked are juicy: Why am I still obsessed with my ex? It’s been 7 years. My partner refuses to have sex with me. What do I do now? The parents of my kid’s friends are so competitive; how the hell do I get out of this rat race? Is there a God? Imposter syndrome is killing my career. What the hell do I do? What are the 4 new habits I can’t stop? (Because they are THAT GOOD.) Why do I feel so trapped in my life? What do I need to know to get out? Why can’t I fix myself after years of personal development courses? Get the tough love, “ah-ha” moments and laugh your ass off at some of the crazy stuff that goes down in this episode. You asked… and I can’t wait for you to hear my answers. Xo, Mel In this episode: 1:00: The 4 best tips I’ve learned in these first 100 podcasts. 4:25: How do you stop checking in on your ex’s social media? 7:50: 3 techniques to help you argue with your partner in a healthy way. 10:30: The “red light:green light” technique that’s worked for me and Chris. 14:15: What’s my astrological sign? 15:40: Here’s what I believe about faith and signs and a higher power. 22:30: What happens when we die? This is what I think. 24:20: How do you deal with difficult parents of your kids’ friends? 30:10: Husband is ready for sex months after his wife has a baby, but she’s not. 35:08: This is how I learned I was dyslexic. 35:35: Hard line advice on promoting your business without feeling egotistical. 37:30: Why all your personal development work doesn’t feel like it’s working. 41:50: Behind the scenes and blooper clips just for you. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
In this episode, you are going to learn how to have better sex. You have an appointment with a leading sex expert, Dr. Emily Morse. I will be the first to admit that I want to have better sex, but I don’t know how to achieve it. And I’m asking all the uncomfortable questions you want to ask. This conversation is going to make you think differently about this topic and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender. And if you are saying, “This doesn’t apply to me,” or as my friend just said, “I’m in way worse than a drought! At this point, I’m a born-again virgin." No, you’re not. And this episode is for you too, because our expert says improving your solo sex life is the first step. You may not want your little ones to listen because, when it comes to confessions about sex, I'm going first. Dr. Emily claims that everything you have been taught or observed about sex is WRONG. Wait. WHAT??... Dr. Emily is insightful, and this conversation is hilarious and actionable. You will learn: The 3 unexpected ways you are killing your sex drive. How to get out of your head when you’re in bed. Why meditation and sex might be the combo you need to orgasm. You are NOT alone if you cannot orgasm from penetration. How to tell time with your vulva (yes, it is a thing). Masturbation without shame and secrecy. Why skipping foreplay is ruining your chance of having great sex. The 5 ways your self-awareness ignites hot and steamy sex. Let’s stop faking orgasms. Know the four steps to how you can really get there. Grab your mirrors and vibrators, and leave your inhibitions and embarrassment at the door. And according to our expert, it’s amazing foreplay to talk about sex. So why don't you and your partner listen to this together? You’ll thank me later. Maybe we’ll call these sex episodes “Listen and Lube”? Xo, Mel In this episode: 2:40: Great sex starts here first. 5:20: Can you relate with these sex questions from our listeners? 9:00: The 3 elements that kill our desire to connect. 10:20: My ‘killer’ sex life right now, in the raw. 13:25: What partner are you? 17:30: Let’s unpack our lady parts. What exactly is a vulva? 20:20: One big reason why we are all being disserviced as young adults. 24:00: I love the empowering name Dr. Emily gives for masturbation. 24:30: The 3 reasons not to wait for someone else to give you pleasure. 28:00: It wasn’t until I got this from my friends that I learned to masturbate. 30:25: There are thousands more nerve endings in a clitoris than we thought! 33:00: Why are women so uncomfortable about asking for what we need? 35:30: The 3 T’s you need to start an awkward conversation with your partner. 37:40: Never talk about sex in this room. 38:40: Be prepared that your first awkward conversation will go this way. 43:05: 5 Pillars for having great sex. 46:06: Do this exercise with your partner to feel more relaxed and in control. 48:25: A technique to do on your own during sex to make you more present. 49:55: What happens in your body when you orgasm? 50:38: Is it healthy to have multiple orgasms? 52:55: What to do when you’re in a relationship that has become just friendly. 55:10: Learn to do this to increase your chances of having an orgasm. 57:00: How can vulva owners ask for what they need sexually? 59:20: It often takes between 20-40 minutes for this to happen. 1:01:40: How many times a week should we be having sex? 1:04:30: What to do when you’ve not had sex for a long time. 1:06:35: How is your current sex life tied to your childhood needs? 1:07:40: The difference between fantasy and fetish. 1:11:05: Jumping back into dating after divorce from 30 years of marriage. 1:11:58: Becoming intimate again after getting sober. 1:12:55: Why can’t I handle the intensity of pleasure? 1:13:45: How to have healthy intimacy when you’ve experienced trauma. 1:16:53: See a pelvic floor therapist if this happens when you have sex. 1:17:46: Is it possible for women to have sex and not get attached emotionally? 1:20:45: What is the “Yes-No-Maybe List”? 1:21:15: 5 steps to having the best sex of your life. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
I’m not even going to call our conversation today an episode because it is so much bigger. I am here with a soul-stirring and inspiring message that’s coming from my heart to yours. When the world feels dark, you and I need to bring the light. I was moved to share a deeply personal message with you today about the power you hold to make a difference right now. I hope that when you hear my words, they will inspire you to find your strength and that they will renew your spirit. And just know if you’re reading this, I’m sending you my love, and I hope you feel my light and the protection of my prayers. Xo Mel In this episode: 00:36: Ever met someone like this? 4:35: Sometimes the love you need will come from this source. 6:50: It meant so much to me when Ernest said this. 7:50: I have a deep connection to lighthouses, so this metaphor was perfect. 11:35: When someone tells me this, I immediately feel better. 13:45: Today’s conversation isn’t really a podcast episode because it’s way deeper. 14:20: We can’t get so caught up in the darkness that we forget this. 16:35: I love this, in particular, about lighthouses. 17:40: What exactly is your “light”? 20:20: When I’m feeling sad and overwhelmed, I make it a point to do this. 25:50: Cultivate this practice, even if you don’t have one now. 28:40: Let me tell you about the 10-5 Rule and why it works. 31:15: You need to keep the right balance of this to protect your mental health. 32:35: And please, reach out to these people because they need to hear from you. 34:08: We have an opportunity to feel power, even in times like these. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
In this episode, Dr. Thema Bryant gives you the tools to conquer overwhelm and unlock your inner peace. Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, teaches at Pepperdine University, has published multiple best-selling books, and has spent decades of her life researching how you can stay calm and centered in any situation. She calls this kind of peace “coming home” to yourself, and she will teach you how to do it, even if the world around you is in chaos. Dr. Thema is simply incredible. Just her presence alone will put you at ease. She has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trust. This is an encore episode with new insights from me at the top of the conversation. Given how overwhelming the world seems right now, I believe this profound and actionable conversation is exactly what you and I need to hear. With Dr. Thema's wisdom and tools, you can and will overcome the overwhelm, anxiety, and stress you are feeling right now. In this episode, you’ll learn: 3 ways to combat overwhelm and external stress. 6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself. What it means to be "psychologically wandering". How to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry. The surprising signs of "irritable depression". The 3 words to say to yourself before you can begin healing. Why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace. Why you need to stop talking about your partner and your boss in therapy. Where to find therapy when you can’t afford it. When the world feels dark, you and I must stay connected to our inner light. This episode will teach you how. Please share this with your loved ones because the world needs all of us to keep the light bright, and together we will. Xo, Mel In this episode: 2:15: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be. 4:00: This is what it looks like when you’re connected to your own compass. 6:30: The 6 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself and what that means. 9:05: Even if you’ve never felt it; you can learn to be “home” with yourself. 10:50: The West African fable that should be required reading for everyone. 16:11: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.” 21:45: Do people with a bad attitude actually have depression? 24:50: What is healing, anyway? 26:08: How do we handle people who are irritable, frustrated, and angry? 29:40: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing. 32:40: What does self-care actually mean? 34:10: Watching bedtime, high-crime TV? Then you need to hear this. 36:50: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality. 38:30: What is the definition of spirituality? 41:20: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy? 44:00: This is how you handle being in a toxic work environment. 47:30: You are more than an employee or a partner. 48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
In this important and special episode, you will hear the beautiful, profound, and comforting words that are needed in the world right now. When I woke up this morning, I did not expect to have this conversation. But, as I watched the news unfold, I felt overwhelmed and hopeless, seeing a world that feels like it’s spinning out of control. I thought to myself, "If I could talk to one person right now who could give you and me the love, support, and tools that help when you feel scared of the world around you, who would it be?" I knew exactly who I wanted to talk to: Dr. Thema Bryant. Dr. Thema Bryant is a scholar, minister, and tenured professor at Pepperdine University. A clinical psychologist who completed her postdoctoral studies at Harvard Medical Center’s Victims of Violence, Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association and has published multiple best-selling books. Every time I listen to her speak, she radiates so much love, perspective, and soft empowerment to help you face whatever is going on in your life. I seriously feel my soul exhale whenever she speaks, and that’s why I wanted her to talk to you and me through this difficult time. Whether you’re watching tragedy play out in the news or things are happening for you globally, nationally, locally, or even in your own living room, this is a conversation that will help you. You don’t have to be directly impacted by what is going on out there in the world to feel the uneasiness and overwhelm inside you. Please take 29 minutes and join me and Dr. Thema Bryant for this incredibly powerful message: Even when things seem so dark, there is still a light inside of you and me, and there are ways in which you can connect with it, no matter what is happening. This conversation is packed with meaning and simple things to do if you’re feeling overwhelmed or are in the middle of turmoil within your own community, relationships, or family. Dr. Thema will guide you in navigating your feelings. She’ll explain to you with reassurance and wisdom how exactly to process what is going on, while still staying connected with yourself. If you don’t feel like you have a soft or safe place to land or don’t know how to sort through overwhelming feelings, this conversation will feel like a gift. Thank you for being here for this and for sharing it with everyone you know and love. Because everyone is in it right now, and we all need some guidance. Xo, Mel In this episode: 0:25: Things feel scary right now; I want you to listen to this. 02:46: Even if you can’t feel it right now, there is light inside of you. 04:12: How we handle traumatic events unfolding in front of us. 05:18: The 3 physical signs you are feeling disconnected from yourself. 06:36: The powerful concept of “homecoming.” 09:34: Do this now to relieve your overwhelm. 11:32: When do we go from being informed to overexposed? 14:06: What is continuous traumatic stress, and are we experiencing it right now? 15:51: The 2 ways to nourish yourself when you’re in the middle of it all. 17:12: Do this to feel more hope. 21:39: How to navigate uncertainty and be a part of the solution. 24:27: Why you need to care in a way that works for you. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
In this episode, award-winning Harvard-educated journalist and researcher Jenny Wallace is here to discuss “toxic achievement” and the toxic pressure that makes you feel that no matter what you do or what level of success you achieve, it will never be enough. You feel toxic pressure at work, and you feel toxic pressure at home. Jenny Wallace, who just completed a major research study with over 6,000 kids and their parents, is here to tell you this unhealthy pressure is trickling down to your kids, who are buckling under the never-ending demands to measure up. Whether you are sick of spending every weekend racing from one sporting event or club team practice to another, or you are tired of the never-ending video calls that keep you working day and night, one thing is clear: something has to give. Your worth is not determined by the things you achieve. Jenny Wallace is here with the research and the findings that say all this pressure is backfiring because all anyone really wants is to feel like they matter. According to her research, there are seven changes you can make that will boost your kids’ confidence and resilience and get you off this hamster wheel that is leading nowhere. If you struggle with work-life balance and feel burned out, the research will empower you to: Learn the one question to ask your kid that shows you love them. Stop working yourself into the ground to prove your worth. Why you are your harshest critic and the simple things you need to do to become your biggest fan. Snip the tie between achievement and self-worth. Unplug yourself from the stress loop of other people and never get rattled again. The 3 things you can do to show people you love that they matter to you. Stop beating yourself up for not having the perfect home or getting A’s on every test, and prioritize what really matters instead. I want you to get off the hamster wheel and stop being obsessed with achieving, having, and winning. You hold the key to helping yourself and others feel like they matter in this world. It’s time to unlock it. Xo, Mel In this episode: 1:00: Not gonna lie; I started freaking out big time after this conversation. 5:30: What exactly is grind culture? 7:40: The opposite of toxic achievement is healthy achievement. 8:30: How did we get sucked into this way of thinking? 10:00: Harvard survey learned powerful information about parents. 14:00: Students who felt this were more likely to be healthy achievers. 17:25: What is social proof and why is that such a big deal? 18:40: Kids who feel they don’t matter will find ways to prove they do. 20:00: Do this when you don’t feel like you matter. 23:10: The one question you can ask to let your kids know they matter. 25:30: 80% of workers have not heard this from their bosses last year. 27:10: Many people don’t express their gratitude for others because of this. 28:00: Here is what to say to your kid when they get a bad grade. 28:30: A mantra to play on repeat with your family. 30:30: Why good enough is perfect. 32:00: The #1 intervention for any kid, and adult, in distress. 33:30: An incredible study of mothers who met to share their struggles. 37:30: How do we parents erode our kids’ self-confidence? 39:00: Keep this phrase in your head to let your kids know they matter. 40:40: How are household chores helpful for kids? 42:00: Say this to your kids to get them to do their chores. 46:00: Jennifer stopped doing this with her kids after reading the research. 48:20: Focus on these values at home instead. 49:05: Forget the grades and focus on what teachers say about your kids. 50:00: The one question to ask teachers at your next conference. 51:00: We all have a responsibility to do this and it will come back to us. Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer
In today’s episode, prepare to open your mind to larger possibilities and amazing capabilities that you already have. I am sitting down with intuitive psychic medium Kim Russo, who is here to share her gift and tell you how you can get in touch with your intuitive gift, too. I first learned about Kim from Oprah Winfrey and immediately knew I needed to get her on the talk show I hosted. What happened next changed my entire life. When Kim was just a child, she realized she could see people who’d passed away, and nobody else was seeing them. After years of denying it, she decided to lean into her incredible skill. A skill she says you have too. If you’ve ever sensed somebody’s with you, you’re right. Kim says we travel with two or three loved ones at all times. Have you ever had that little voice in your head or gut feeling about something? Kim says that your loved ones are trying to guide you. This episode is remarkable because you are not only going to learn how Kim tapped into her abilities, but you'll also learn how you can tap into yours. Kim has helped MILLIONS tune into their innate intuition by teaching them to quiet their minds and listen to their inner voice to figure out the next step. Are you skeptical? I was, too. Until she gave me a message from my dead father-in-law. It is the reason I sold my Boston home after 26 years and moved to southern Vermont. She changed my life forever. What Kim will teach you is invaluable; you will learn: What intuition is—and it’s not crazy woo-woo stuff. Why that little voice in your head is actually right—and you need to listen to it. The simple but powerful lessons she learned from those who have passed over will make your shoulders relax instantly. That every soul on this planet has a purpose, and how to find out what yours is. What the brain-heart connection is and how it instantly gives you the information you need right now. That you have souls supporting you from the other side, and how to connect with them. Kim will show you why and how we must open up our minds and hearts to new possibilities and use the guidance of our loved ones to navigate life. You just have to listen. Xo, Mel In this episode: 2:00: Hearing this might change your life. 4:30: The mind-blowing session with Kim Russo that still gives me chills. 6:40: Nobody knew we’d been discussing a move to Vermont. 8:50: Now we live in an entirely new state because I trusted in the guidance. 11:20: What is an intuitive psychic medium and why doesn’t Kim like that title? 16:15: Kim knew something was different about her from a young age. 22:50: This news Kim shared felt really comforting to me. 28:25: Kim was a “normal mortal” until she did this. 33:20: What should you do if you think you have a psychic gift? 39:00: You’ve had an experience where you were a “medium in the moment”. 41:15: How do you tap into this kind of energy? 45:25: What the heck is a ‘soul contract’? 47:40: A powerful question to ask yourself when making a big decision. 49:30: The three biggest life lessons Kim says you need to hear. 52:10: Two things people can do to develop their intuition. 57:20: Try this cool experiment on your own to prove how intuitive you are. 59:10: That night in the pouring rain with the owl was a spiritual experience. 1:04:20: Is being an empath a form of mediumship? 1:05:30: Do you get anxiety that comes out of nowhere? This might be why. 1:07:00: You have a field of energy around you. (Scientists call it a biofield.) 1:10:25: How do you “read” other people? Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast. Disclaimer