I talk with Phil, the creator of the Master Slave Lifestyle website and podcast (masterslavelifestyle.com), about my journey into and out of Findom. This episode premiered on his podcast Jan 2024, recorded late 2023. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode, Michael shares his personal journey of deciding to stop being a sex worker. He talks about how he started in the industry, the enjoyment and challenges it brought, and why he chose to leave. Michael highlights the conflict between his online persona and his true self, the demands of the job, and its impact on his relationships and personal growth. He sees this change as a new beginning to explore his interests, form deeper connections, and live more in the moment. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

Amendment: Around 6 minutes, I state that shame is noted to be a motivator for persons who seek sex workers and persons who are involved with chemsex. This is untrue. This is only the case if the behaviour is ego syntonic/compulsive in the subjective experience of the individual; otherwise, enjoy! :) In this short yet deeply personal episode, we embark on a candid journey through Michael's latest therapeutic explorations, focusing on the intricate relationship between kink, shame, and mental health. Michael bravely shares his evolving understanding of how deeply-rooted shame, stemming from childhood, has shaped his perceptions of intimacy, sexuality, and self-worth. With raw honesty, he discusses the challenging process of his shame—recognising the harmful belief that he is fundamentally flawed. As Michael delves into the complexities of his kink and sexual desires, he confronts the internalised stigma and the daunting task of reconciling his interests with societal norms. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode, Michael updates us on his experiences with escorting. He expresses a desire to minimise digital engagement and return to simpler pleasures as part of a digital detox. He then delves into his kink journey, continuing to talk about working with his therapist to understand his needs in relationships, intimacy, and sex, highlighting his struggles with being submissive and the fear of narrowing his sexual desires. He explores the root of these issues through inner child work, addressing beliefs formed in childhood about submission and worthiness. Michael explores how his narrative touches on the conflict between his desire for dominance and submission, the influence of childhood experiences on his sexual behaviour, and his efforts to balance his kink interests with personal growth and self-understanding. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode Michael opens up about the complexities of navigating a recent breakup and how it has impacted his exploration of intimacy and kink. He also discusses the exciting yet challenging world of escorting, sharing insights into his new venture and the deeper motivations behind it. Michael also reflects on the difficulties of satisfying his own kinks and the emotional toll it takes. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode, Michael gives an update on his therapeutic work with his inner child. He talks about feeling a sense of confidence from a previous session with the therapist but also still finding it hard to identify his needs and wants in the bedroom. He also announces two new social accounts: one for his kink and one for possible sex work. He speaks about his fears around addiction and also wonders how to tell people he dates about... all this. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

To change things up, Michael gets intimate with the face of the fetish platform Recon. Antoin, also known as @ajfs71, opens up for a personal and revealing tell-all. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode of BDSM Reimagined, Michael speaks about his latest therapy session where he encounters his inner child. He talks about how he's been working on understanding the parts of him that make it tough to really connect or stay in the moment when things get sexual or intimate. He also shares a curious similarity he noticed with a recent submissive he met, and how at times, it reminded him of the therapy work he's been doing. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

In Part 1 of this episode, Michael explores the current conditions that are leading him to flirt with the idea, and at times enact, paying men for sex - in particular straight men. He speaks about why it is straight men that activate him, the difficulty of finding someone into the same kinks, the burden he feels he puts on others for wanting what he desires, and also explores how he is shocked that people actually want to be sexual with him at all. Originally released a week later, but now included as one, Part 2 explores a further dimension of this behaviour. Michael speaks about how a recent break up has lead him to have lower moods making him more inclined to do things he feels he would not normally do. He also speculates that the urge to pay men could be an indicator to his own needs not being met. The space he pays for is a place he could satisfy his needs without feeling guilt. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

The philosopher Baruch Spinoza, in his Tractatus de Intellectus Emendatione, wrote: "For as far as sensual pleasure is concerned, the mind is so caught up in it, as if at peace in a [true] good, that it is quite prevented from thinking of anything else. But after the enjoyment of sensual pleasure is passed, the greatest sadness follows. If this does not completely engross, still it thoroughly confuses and dulls the mind." Arthur Schopenhauer, writing later on the phenomenon, observed that "directly after copulation the devil's laughter is heard." In this episode, Michael aims to further explore aspects of his sexual life, documenting areas that can become obstacles. Here, he shares his experiences living with Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD). While he has previously discussed this topic in earlier seasons (S1E5 Extras), he goes into more detail here. Study: One study (1) reported that among a sample of 1208 male participants, 40% of them had experienced PCT at least once in their lifetime and 20% reported experiencing PCT in the four weeks preceding the study. This study also reports that 3–4% of the sample experienced PCT symptoms on a regular basis. (1) Maczkowiack, Joel; Schweitzer, Robert D. (July 2018). "Postcoital Dysphoria: Prevalence and Correlates among Males" (PDF). Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy. 45 (2): 128–140. doi:10.1080/0092623X.2018.1488326. PMID 30040588. S2CID 51717755. Reports are much higher for females. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael in a new chapter of BDSM Reimagined, where he delves into his personal exploration of sexual preferences and behaviours. With a fresh approach featuring short, introspective episodes, Michael seeks to uncover the layers of gay sexuality around the traditional labels. In this candid instalment, he confronts the expectations and pressures from dating apps to the roles of dominance and submission, sharing his internal battle with societal norms. 'Meeting Michael' is not just a podcast—it's a raw and intimate glimpse into the challenges of defining sex and identity in today's world, especially as one approaches their late 30s. This series is for anyone looking for solidarity, insight, or an open dialogue on the diverse spectrum of sexual experiences. Tune in to connect, reflect, and perhaps discover a part of yourself in 'Meeting Michael. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. In case some of you missed the episode myself and Indy did with Recon, one of the world's leading fetish platforms, here it is! In it, we talk about Kink Shame and the flip side of Erotic Humiliation. We also addressed issues around gay shame from friends, family and colleagues and the culture of Fem, Sex, Gender and Kink shaming that exists within our own LGBTQ+ community. Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. (08:46) How archetypes work. (09:39) What are archetypes? (12:26) What about shadow archetypes? (15:00) What is the 'call to the dark side'? (17:35) How is it helpful to use archetypal language? (18:40) Book Focus: The King/The Shadow King (25:27) Book Focus: The Warrior/The Shadow Warrior (30:36) Book Focus: What is 'The Beast'? (34:30) Book Focus: Aftercare. (38:30) Book Focus: The Magician/The Shadow Magician (47:05) Book Focus: Primary Emotions. (49:10) Book Focus: The Lover/The Shadow Lover. (54:27) Book Focus: Other things in the book. (56:15) Book Focus: Advice - Learning what you actually like. (01:00:05) Book Focus: Heart Centred Master and Heart Centred Slave. Of course, I'll adjust for British spelling and provide a bit more detail: In this remarkable episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Phil. Phil is the accomplished author of the new book titled "Light and Shadow: The Psychology of Master/slave Relationships". Drawing from his vast experience as a practitioner and coach in the realm of D/s dynamics, Phil delves deeply into his beliefs and the frameworks he advocates for, enriching these relationships. I would wholeheartedly recommend his book. It's not just a trove of insightful knowledge, but also offers tangible, practical methods for implementation. In addition to his book, Phil is the brains behind the website, masterslavelifestyle.com. For those who podcasts, he also hosts his own available under the same name. It's my sincere hope that this episode offers listeners a new refreshing way to enhance their understanding of kink. Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. (00:36): Who are Thicc Radio?! (03:38): What is Gainers and Feederism all about? (19:13): Upbringing (25:25): What does weight represent for you? (30:18): What are common misconceptions the community faces? (37:15): Has the internet helped the community? (50:12): What could a session look like? (55:05): Any tips for first timers? (59:00): More about Thicc Radio! In this episode, Michael explores the Feederism community by interviewing the two lovely hosts of the Thicc Podcast. If you want to know more about them, then here are their handles: James: Instagram, BeefyFrat, StuffNShow, OhMyNom: Stannum podpage.com/thiccradio Tim:Youtube, TikTok, Twitter, Beefyfrat, Stuffnshow, and Ohmynom: Thickey Mouse. Grommr: Orpheus Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. 00:37 - Season 4 Rambles, Part 1: Recorded August 2022 37:27 - Season 4 Rambles, Part 2: Recorded November 2022 01:14:12 -Season 4 Rambles, Part 3: Recorded April 2023 01:56:26 - Season 4 Rambles, Part 4: Recorded August 2023 Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. 00:48 - Season 3 Rambles, Part 1: Recorded Jan 2021 25:31 - Season 3 Rambles, Part 2: Recorded April 2021 54:45 - Season 3 Michael's 'How Did I End Up' here: Recorded May 2021 01:29:22 - Season 3 Indy's 'How Did I End Up' here: Recorded June 2021 01:57:00 - Season 3 Rambles, Part 3: Recorded May 2021. Part 1 - Indy and Michael kick off Season 3! It's been a while and we are so excited to be back. Both Indy and Michael had their interest in kink wax and wane over the past months. Indy was dealing with life and had her resources devoted elsewhere. Michael describes his constant presence on Instagram and a weird headspace he's in where he just wants to press the stop button. He also had a very nice vanilla encounter which makes him question how kink got so important and powerful. Indy talks about how Season 3 will unpack the deeper psychological side that drives our interest in BDSM. Playing the role of the dominant has arisen for Indy at a time when she has increasingly become disillusioned with relationships - what is really going on here? Michael is obsessed with youth and beauty whereas Indy loves men and women of vintage. Indy has set herself a challenge: to ask out a hot man. Indy describes a dynamic with a sub where she is exploring cuckolding. Indy took out her phone and started to show her sub the dick pics she'd been sent of other men and tell him how much better they were. Will Indy get a bull? She is exploring consentual non-monogamy and some new desires. Season 3 will look at different dynamics of shame and how this relates to BDSM. Part 2 - Join Michael and Indy as they ramble! Today we get straight into it. Michael describes a session with a sub who likes to be degraded for looking scruffy and wearing torn clothes. The session went into some unexpected directions, including pup play. Michael says he struggles with displays of affection and admiration as a Dom, which Indy can relate to. Indy has a confession to make. Whilst she loved the break from BDSM, now she's right back into it! Being almost 40, and at her sexual peak, she is back on the dating apps. However, it comes at an emotional price. The defectiveness schema can play out as can our deeper insecurities. Indy's Episode - Join us this week as Indy and Michael laugh...and look at how Indy ended up here! Indy talks about being in the BDSM scene but feeling so defeated by dating apps, dating, vanilla and even kink. Indy describes her sexual revolution and disentangling of "the triangle" - sex, love and intimacy. This led for the door to open on her Domme side. However Indy now feels completely disillusioned by who she has become in the dating app scene. Michael's Episode - Join us this week as Indy and Michael look at how Michael ended up in the situation he finds himself today. Michael relates somewhat to Indy when she speaks about being in the BDSM scene as a result of feeling so defeated by dating apps. He also speaks about his time as a Buddhist and how the fall of this triggered his Instagram pathway leading him to becomen what he is today on the social app world. Part 3 - Join Indy and Michael in this season finale. We ramble about the position we now find ourselves in relation to BDSM. Given the insights surrounding shame, where does this lead Michael and Indy respectively? Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

<p><strong>This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps.</p> 00:49 - Season 2 Rambles, Part 1: Recorded May 2021. 45:18 - Season 2 Rambles, Part 2: Recorded July 2021. 01:21:07 - Season 2 Rambles, Part 3: Recorded August 2021. Part 1 - Join Indy and Michael as they talk about recent struggles and achievements they are having in the BDSM world. Part 2 - Indy admits to the extent of her current Dom frenzy. Sex, toys, numerous submissives and lots of fun. Meanwhile, Michael gives Indy some advice on how to train a new domestic slave. He is also feeling more and more like the jock persona he's been exploring in recent months. Part 3 - Indy and Michael return to the question they were unpacking last season: can we ever go back to being purely vanilla? Do we need to be in a kink relationship? In this episode Indy and Michael get honest and really delve into the impacts of being in the kink world. Is it worth it? Join us to find out what they uncover in themselves this time around... <p>Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com</p> Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. We apologies for the sound quality of Season 1. As everyday people, we were still trying to find the best equipment to use. This does improve over the episodes. 00:00 - Introduction 00:48 - Season 1 Rambles, Part 1: Recorded June 2020 38:34 - Season 1 Rambles, Part 2: Recorded October 2020 01:20:25 - Season 1 Rambles, Part 1: Recorded Jan 2021 In our first ever rambles, we join Michael and Indy as they talk-the-talk! This episode we discuss Michael’s sudden fixation with worshipping straight men and links to the restrictions from COVID. We look at being in and out of BDSM, experiencing Dom drop, Indy’s decision to apply for a job as a phonesex operator and accessing some of the more obscure fetishes. Then, Indy and Michael debate the merits and pitfalls of being in a relationship. Part 2 of the Rambles, join Michael and Indy as Michael laments on his kinky life taking a turn down during lockdown in London. Meanwhile, Indy describes attending her first Swinger's event in Australia. In Part 3 of the rambles, Michael and Indy discuss the question: can we ever go back to just vanilla relationships? Indy discusses discovering her kinky side this past year, otherwise having been very vanilla in her sex life. Michael has been activated by power dynamics from a young age and has been exploring kink for several years. Together, they ponder what it means to engage in kink and yet be drawn to vanilla relationships - particularly in current times where kink is so much more accessible. Michael is increasingly drawn to vanilla relationships whilst Indy is increasingly disillusioned, having been through a recent separation. She is more interested in consensual non-monogamy. Is a relationship a false refuge? We ultimately decide where we stand on this question of whether we can ever go back to just vanilla... Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. (02:07) Admin-shmadmin (03:24) Michael's Update (20:11) Indy's Update In this episode of BDSM Reimagined, the hosts Indy and Michael conclude Season 4. They take the opportunity to share personal reflections on their respective journeys. Michael discusses his experiences with relationships, shedding light on the role of social media platforms like Twitter and Instagram in shaping connections and communication. Additionally, he opens up about his identity as a submissive within the BDSM community, exploring how it has impacted his life and relationships. On the other hand, Indy delves into her own journey with intimacy, discussing the various aspects she has encountered and navigated throughout her experiences. She also addresses her exploration of gender identity, revealing how this aspect of her life has evolved over time. Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message

This podcast is only suitable for adults. Please rate our podcast! It really helps. In this episode of BDSM Reimagined, hosts Indy and Michael delve into the question: "Do I Need Therapy?" They explore the topic within the context of kinks and fetish lifestyles, aiming to determine whether therapy is necessary and beneficial for individuals embracing their unique sexual preferences. Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bdsm-reimagined/message