Coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this Ask a Coach question this week. In a world where we’ve been taught to shut down our emotions, you’re not alone if paying attention to your body feels challenging. However, if it often feels like your emotions are in control of you, learning how to truly feel your emotions is vital. Jessica explains the importance of gaining awareness of the physical manifestations of your emotions. Learn what it means to ‘feel’ it in your body and where to start if you’re struggling to feel your physical sensations. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-feeling-your-body

We’ve been Sara Brewer Coaching since day one, and we are now rebranding to The Center for Overcoming Pornography. This is an outward manifestation of all the internal changes that have been happening in me, my business, and my team, and I can’t wait to tell you all about it. Hear why this rebrand is happening, the big updates that are coming to the program, and how all of this affects you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rebrand-the-center-for-overcoming-pornography

The problem with trusting other people, whether that’s a specific leader, congregation, or organization, is that you’ll often get differing or contradicting opinions. This is an exhausting and defeating place to be, and it’s incredibly disempowering. Learn what it means to develop your personal spiritual authority and why it matters more than you might think. I show you what to do if you find yourself leaning on others to tell you what’s good or best for your life, examples of subtle spiritual abuse, and how to recognize the depth of your connection to your highest, most spiritual self. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/personal-spiritual-authority

It’s not your fault if you’ve been unable to quit your porn habit. Most people have been told to just stop, use more willpower, pray, or focus on connections in their lives. These approaches don’t get to the root cause of unwanted porn use and actually make it worse in most cases. Join me on this episode to learn how the quit porn industry is not addressing the root issue of porn use, and why you need to get underneath the surface to truly heal. You’ll hear how my approach addresses the drivers of unwanted porn use, and why it’s changing the lives of my clients. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/missing-from-quit-porn-industry

Have you ever found yourself wondering why you made a decision that you know wasn’t in your best interest? What do you do when you experience an urge and have difficulty moving through it? Why does it sometimes feel impossible to make conscious decisions from your higher brain? If you’ve ever found it challenging to think through your decisions, you’re not alone. Prioritizing nervous system healing in these moments is the secret to bringing your brain back online, but it can be difficult to practice. That’s why this week, I’m sharing some simple ideas for grounding and orienting yourself when nothing else seems to be working. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/prioritizing-nervous-system-healing

This week, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach for married couples, Dan Purcell. Dan is the founder of Get Your Marriage On: a step-by-step program designed for couples who want more closeness, deeper intimacy, honesty, and an exciting sex life. He’s also the creator of the Intimately Us app, host of the Get Your Marriage On podcast, and leads retreats, all with a Christian perspective. I invited Dan on to the show this week to dive into a specific scripture from The Sermon on the Mount where Christ says, “Whoever lusteth after a woman has committed adultery in his heart.” If this scripture has been something you’ve battled with on your porn journey, listen in this week as Dan and I explore its interpretations and how we can use it in a way that serves us better. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/interpreting-scripture-dan-purcell

If you’re a long-time listener of the show, you’ll understand the crucial role your beliefs play in your ability to overcome your pornography habit. That’s why helping you intentionally create new thoughts and beliefs is a foundational part of my work, and the magic lies in repetition. Join me this week to hear why there’s magic in repetition, how I incorporate the power of repetition into my daily life, and how using my Belief Plan guided meditation will help create new neural pathways in your brain so you can believe new thoughts that serve you on your journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/repetition-magic

In Jenga, you don’t want to be the person who pulls out the piece that brings the whole tower crashing down. It’s high pressure, high stakes, and one wrong move ends the game. This isn’t the mindset that will help you quit viewing porn. On the other hand, Super Mario Brothers involves dying over and over again, but you don’t start at the very beginning. You go again from your last checkpoint. This is the mindset that will help you use your slip-ups as growth opportunities, and I’m showing you how on this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/jenga-super-mario-brothers

Inner child work is a healing modality that centers around recognizing and healing childhood trauma. It addresses how we may have experienced hurt or pain during different periods of our lives, which we've moved past but continue to carry with us. Taking responsibility for healing your inner child can be a beautiful way to heal who you are today. I’m sharing some examples of inner child healing work from my program and what to expect as you begin healing those wounds. Discover how healing your inner child doesn’t just benefit you but can also heal ancestral or generational trauma and positively impact the lives of those around you too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/intro-inner-child

Konstantin is an expert at setting and achieving ambitious goals. He has no problem with endeavors that require a great deal of dedication, willpower, and routine. Although everything else in his life was flourishing, he was internally battling with his porn habit, and he decided it was time to look for support. Hear about Konstantin’s porn journey and what his unique path to healing looks like. He generously shares the struggles he faced in trying to quit his porn habit, the one thing that shifted his experience, and his advice for anyone who can resonate with his story and also wants a solution. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-konstantin

In today’s episode of the Keep It Simple series, we discuss how identities are sometimes imposed upon us. They are like seeds planted by others, blooming in our minds until they become the beliefs we have about ourselves. I’m showing you how to uncover some beliefs that are not true to you and how to unlearn them. Learn the necessity of knowing the difference between beliefs and facts, how to pinpoint the beliefs that are keeping you from quitting porn, and how to create awareness about what you believe is a fact. Discover three steps to change your beliefs about yourself and discover why you need to be aware of things in order to change them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/beliefs-identity

Andrea Giles is an infidelity coach who primarily works with women trying to heal after infidelity, and she’s here to explore the question, “Is porn use infidelity?” Hear Andrea’s definition of infidelity and whether she believes unwanted porn use constitutes cheating in a relationship. We’re exploring how to gain an objective view of your situation, why independent healing matters, and her top tips for rebuilding a loving relationship with a shared vision moving forward. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/porn-use-infidelity-andrea-giles

On this Keep It Simple episode, we’re exploring the topics of emotions and buffering. I'm walking you through how to process emotions, the role of buffering in your porn habit, and how to generate the emotions that will help you achieve your goals. Learn the importance of identifying how buffering shows up for you, why processing your emotions is a crucial step in overcoming your porn habit, why the shame cycle keeps you stuck, and how to heal those stories. Discover how to create the emotional fuel that will help you reach your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/emotions-buffering

Dan started viewing porn at 15 by accident with his friends and has been battling it for over four decades. From various programs to tools like phone filters, he tried and failed at everything he thought would help him “be good,” until he found Overcome Pornography for Good. Join us on this episode as Dan shares his pornography journey with us and how a shame-free approach changed his outlook on his habit. He’s offering the podcast episodes and concepts that had the biggest impact on him, and he discusses the transformations he’s witnessed in the last year and a half of doing this work. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-dan

If you want to quit porn, the best way to reach your goal is to keep the process simple. We make things unnecessarily complicated and confusing, so to continue our Keep It Simple series, we’re talking this week about step two: commitment. Discover a new perspective on commitment to quitting porn. I’m discussing the problem with coming at your commitment from a place of fear and shame, and you'll learn how to reframe your thoughts around why you want to quit porn, increasing your chances of being successful in the process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/commitment

Jill Freestone is an anxiety coach for teens and adults who specializes in helping them explore and understand life’s big emotions. She’s also an expert on the topic of OCD, and she’s here this week to highlight how OCD relates to people who want to quit porn and why understanding scrupulous tendencies can help steer you toward the path to healing. Join us on this episode as Jill offers her insights on the basic characteristics of scrupulous OCD, why it becomes a problem, and how to identify if it may be present for you. We’re also diving into how scrupulous OCD keeps us stuck, why it feels like an obsession, and her top tips for beginning to question and heal these tendencies. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ocd-jill-freestone

There are six milestones I cover in the Overcome Pornography for Good program. The first thing I have my clients work on is Learn and Move On, where we work on avoiding all-or-nothing thinking and turn your slip-ups into stepping stones to successfully quitting porn. Tune in this week to learn how to keep it simple when you’re quitting pornography. I’m showing you why you don’t need to give up every time you slip up, and you can use every challenge you encounter as an opportunity to Learn and Move On. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/learn-and-move-on

We are on the cusp of the New Year, which for many people often means thinking about all the changes we want to make and the new habits we want to create. We tend to focus on the negatives, but I’m proposing that we need to pay just as much attention, if not more, to all the wins you’ve experienced. Join me this week as I take you through my Year in Review exercise and explain why this is going to set you up with the right energy as you enter 2024. Hear the value of acknowledging all your wins so far and imagining 2024 ahead of time, and questions that will guide you along this visualization process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/year-review-visualizing-2024

“I’m feeling stuck, what do I do?” The thought, “I’m stuck,” is one all of us indulge in when the path ahead feels uncertain and unknown, but the truth is you’re not stuck and Coach Kat is here to show you why. Listen in this week to discover why we default to saying we’re stuck even when we’re not, what it actually means to feel stuck, and Coach Kat’s top tips for getting unstuck no matter what you’re navigating right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/why-youre-stuck

This week’s Ask a Coach is from someone who found that if they view pornography early in the day, they don’t bother trying to avoid pornography until they get a fresh start the next day. This is common when people are trying to quit porn, it’s a product of all-or-nothing thinking, and it isn’t helping you find peace and ease in quitting porn. Tune in this week to discover how to make sure a slip-up doesn’t ruin your day. I’m discussing how to measure your progress on your journey of quitting pornography, and showing you why slipping up isn’t a problem. Learn how to keep making progress toward your goal of quitting porn even if you’ve slipped up in the morning. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/slip-up