The Connected Life
The Connected Life
About The Connected Life
The Connected Life is a thought-provoking conversation about all the beautiful and messy ups and downs of life. Join Life Consultants Justin & Abi Stumvoll as they share vulnerable stories and practical wisdom that will lead you on a journey of connecting with yourself, others, and the world right in front of you. Their authentic, no-BS style will make you laugh, challenge you to dig deep, face your fears, and inspire you to love yourself and others more.
For most of us, communicating our emotional experiences with those closest to us can be challenging, for them and for us. Often times when sadness or pain is communicated the message sent or received is that someone is bad. It’s common to find ourselves trying to assign blame, as most of us believe that someone had to be bad in order for pain to have been experienced. But, what if no one has to be bad in order for someone to be sad? In this episode Justin and Abi sit down with their friends Aaron and Jenna Zint to discuss the power of accepting that someone doesn’t have to be bad just because someone else is sad. Jenna shares how a simple, yet powerful parenting moment initiated a change in the dynamics of their entire family. Aaron vulnerably opens up about how this perspective has even impacted their sex life. In a world riddled with barrier-building blame and accusation, this episode will have you rethinking how you approach yourself and others, while giving you practical advice on how to extend bridges to the ones you care about the most. You won’t want to miss a second of it!
For many people friendship can be as anxiety educing as it is enjoyable and fulfilling. Every friendship comes with its ebbs and flows. For some of us, friendship is sacred and the expectations for a long term commitment are set high. For others, friendship is fluid with light attachment. Regardless, friendship has the power to leave a long lasting impact to our benefit or detriment, making each relationship potentially high-stakes. But are we powerless to decide the outcome, or is it possible to dictate our experiences? In this episode Justin sits down with his close friend and fellow Life Consultant Marcus Miller. Marcus and Justin discuss the seasonal changes that friendships go through. They explore the ways some friends are short term, while others last a lifetime, and how each friendship, no matter how messy it gets, has the potential to leave the impact of an important lesson or love that is worth holding on to. If you’re wanting to learn how get the most out of friendships, this episode will leave you with important ideas on how to process the best and worst of each relationship, while holding boundaries and keeping an open mind. Also, check out The Compassion Project at https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-compassion-project/ to learn how to love yourself and others through the power of compassion!
It’s easy to view the world at large as a place filled with monstrous villains out to cause us harm. However, woven into the fabric of each of our beings is the nature of love, regardless of how broken we seem. From the moment we exit the womb we find ourselves yearning for a direct connection to the comfort and safety of a loving and nurturing experience. Through the years we all find ourselves acting in ways that contradict this nature of love. But is this contradiction who we really are? In this episode Justin is joined by his dear friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes. Rachel vulnerably opens up about the anxiety she’s feeling in the conversation and humbly allows Justin to get curious about her experience. She shares about the profound impacts her awareness of love has had on her healing. Together they dive into the ways loving experiences not only impact us, but how they have the potential to reveal the truth of who we are. If you’re needing a gentle reminder that the sum total of your messiness isn’t the truth of who you are, this episode will leave you feeling a sense of compassion for your story and hope for what’s truly inside of you.
Whether it’s friendships, marriage, parenting, business, health goals, finances, or faith, we all have areas where our subconscious beliefs are affecting the way we’re experiencing life. It’s easy to feel like life is happening to us, but what if we’re always getting what we really want? In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by their close friend Ruth who shares about the “ah-ha’s” she had moving back to England to live with her mom during the pandemic. Through a series of meltdowns and repeated attempts to control her mom’s experience she began to realize that the world wasn’t just “happening to” either of them. Digging deep, Ruth came to terms with a well of conflicting intentions that held her back from many of her desires. Through a mirror reflecting Ruth’s intentions she realized that her desire for her mom’s well being was merely control disguised as love, with hopes of getting her needs met. Understanding the subconscious sabotaging, through her conflicting beliefs, Ruth began to change the course of her life, and so can you! If you’ve ever experienced problematic cycles that you’d be happy to do without, this episode will leave you with clarity and inspiration necessary to begin repairing the things that seem to be broken!
Disorders like ADHD are prevalent all around us and often go undiagnosed. These disorders not only affect those that have them, but the people around them as well. If left undiagnosed, these kinds of disorders can be crippling and create devastating affects on relationships. Getting clarity on these disorders can be a massive game changer for spouses, parents, children, friends, and bosses! In this episode Abi is joined by her good friend Jenna, a Health, Life, and Habit Coach, to talk about their battle with ADHD and its impact on their lives. Together they share their stories of being diagnosed, how it affects people’s day to day tasks, relationships, and sex lives, and the life-hacks they’ve created that have made them successful regardless of the disorder. With so many people affected by ADHD, chances are this will create unexpected ah-ha’s and give validation to those that have struggled for years living in the dark about something they didn’t even know was impacting their well being. You won’t want to miss this episode!
Sadly, there are many people that have childhood stories littered with cruel experiences. Those that are entrusted to care for the most innocent sometimes have ways of neglecting their duty to the point of deliberate and outright abuse. For the children suffering in these conditions it can often feel hopeless and impossible to bounce back from. But what if there are answers of radical love and care waiting to redeem and repair even the most broken situations? In this deeply vulnerable episode Justin sits down with Annika, a Connected Life listener, who shares about her abusive childhood, her time in the foster care system, and the radical love that has played a pivotal role in her repair. Together they tackle the simple, yet plentiful and powerful ways others can participate in a system with almost a half million children each year. This messy, yet miraculous story will remind you that no circumstance is too broken that a redemptive genius of a God can’t touch it with the help of a few humble and loving hearts.
The idea of making changes to our lives can easily paralyze even the best of us. Getting traction and creating momentum can especially feel overwhelming and confusing if we don’t know where to start. The steps to change can seem cluttered with enormous hurdles too big to tackle. But what if the smallest of changes could impact our entire lives? In this episode Abi is joined by her good friend, Jenna a Health, Life, and Habit Coach. Jenna shares about the power of celebrating small wins, how finding the little things that have a high impact were a game changer for her, and the brain science of how to change your life. Together they explore how transforming your beliefs that are keeping you stuck is vital to living an abundant life. If you’re feeling busy or overwhelmed and want to feel like you’re in the driver seat of your life, this practical, yet insightful episode is just what you’re looking for!
Long-term, romantic relationships are filled with many ups and downs. As humans, it’s easy to unintentionally hurt the people we love the most. When the difficulties become too much it’s only a matter of time before someone gets help or walks away. But what happens when one person chooses the path to wholeness while the other one wants to stay the same? In this episode Justin is joined by his close friend and brother Jeremy Morris. Jeremy shares the single most pivotal advice Justin ever gave him and how that advice saved his marriage and changed the course of his life. Together they explore possible reasons as to why one partner seemingly resists growth, what to do when you’re changing and your partner isn’t, and how to approach radical personal ownership with pure intensions that don’t put a demand on someone else to change. If you’re wanting to develop an abundant life, regardless of your partners approach, this episode will empower you with the knowledge necessary to adjust limiting perspectives that can keep you from your desires!
For many, it’s easy to find ourselves living through cycles of life where we feel crippled not only by experiences, but also by emotions that are seemingly driving our lives. Navigating some of the most difficult things we face can feel impossible, and along the way we can seem to lose who we once were. But, what if we could fight back and not only restore what had been lost, but be better off than we’ve ever been? In part two of this two-part episode Justin’s friend Jason returns to share about his battle with crippling anxiety. He discusses his process of building mental fortitude through seeing his difficulties through an empowering perspective where he learned that he’s agile, not fragile. He addresses the need for creating an ecosystem of help within our personal environment and how rewiring our lives is possible, and an inevitable outcome if we continue to put in the time, energy, and effort. If you’re looking for inspiration to face even the most difficult circumstances, Jason’s story will remind you that you’re not alone, you can change your experience, and there is light at the end of the tunnel!
Every human has a story of tragedy. Whether it’s the death of a parent, the loss of a best friend, or a divorce that left them devastated, the examples are endless. Though not ideal, these tragedies are unavoidable. Rather than trying to escape them, what if we learned how to face them head on? In part one of this two part episode, Justin is joined by his good friend Jason. In Jason’s return to the podcast he shares candidly about how the phrase “I never loved you.” began the unraveling of his marriage. Jason opens up about being a single father of three and his attempts to find a life after divorce. He breaks down his process for facing his pain and the role forgiveness and justice played in all of it. Whether you’ve been through a tragedy in the past, you’re going through it right now, or you’re simply fearful of what could come, this episode is for you. This episode will remind you that there are solutions to the pain you’ve been through, you’re not alone, and that you’re powerful beyond measure to face whatever might happen.
It’s easy to believe that luck or hard work is the reason behind desires becoming a reality. However, the truth is much more complex and nuanced. In the pursuit of wanting something that is meaningful, many of us can find ourselves feeling powerless, exhausted, overwhelmed, and hopeless. Sometimes all we need to keep going is direction on how to continue and inspiring stories from others that have seen fulfillment. In this episode Abi and Justin take a deeper look into the practical journey of creating vision for their lives. They discuss both the amazing fulfillments and the arduous process of surrendering the need to experience specific outcomes in order to be happy. They share stories that will leave you in awe of the goodness and grace that life has to offer, while helping you to adjust your expectations of how everything has to look. If you’re wanting to build momentum towards a life of endless possibilities, this episode will help awaken the dreamer within, or fuel the dreamer already running. Don’t miss out! Also, it’s the FINAL week to sign up for Living Fully Alive 2023. Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to get enrolled now!
As a New Year begins, reflecting on the past and thinking about our future is normal. For many people, it’s become popular to start the year off with vision boards, detailing many of our hopes and desires. However, vision and inspiration for life often revolve around what we “do” rather than “who” we are. But what if vision began with “who” we are becoming and the rest of the dreams and desires followed? In this first episode of 2023 Justin and Abi take a look at their own process of getting vision for who they’re becoming and how they approach what they want to do. They explore the power of following their own intuition, connecting to something bigger than themselves, and learning how to be at peace in the process of not knowing how things will play out. Sometimes peoples can feel defeated or overwhelmed when looking at the future, but getting vision and living inspired IS possible! Stop what you’re doing and start the year off with this MUST listen to episode. Also, it’s the FINAL week to sign up for Living Fully Alive 2023. Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to get enrolled now!
The world we live in can easily seem grim. For many of us, perceiving the cup as half empty is called being a realist, while viewing those that see goodness as nothing more than living in denial. But, what if seeing the cup as half full leads to life becoming full, without sacrificing an awareness of the very real pain in the world? In this post Christmas episode, Abi and Justin explore the affects of becoming aware of the goodness life has to offer. They share a key moment in their own journey that changed their outlook and approach forever. Without sacrificing their connection to reality, the two describe how their connection to gratitude has rewired their connection to love and redefined their experience of life. Together they reflect on intimate details of the goodness that has impacted them over the last year as they prepare for another new year. If you’re wanting to experience a better life in the coming year, this episode is the perfect foundation to build from! Get ready to have some laughs and be moved by the possibilities of what your life can truly be! Also Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment is happening now! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
Pursuing the desires and dreams we have requires that we’re active participants in our story, while understanding that we’re wildly out of control. The balance necessary to walk this process out leaves many of us tapping out and giving up, often times before we’ve even begun. But what could happen if our greatest losses became an anchor of determination? In part two of this two part episode Justin and Abi are joined once again by their long-time friends Lauren and Jason. After a devastating miscarriage of a miracle that shouldn’t have happened in the first place, Lauren and Jason decide to pursue IVF as an alternative to having a child. Through a long and arduous process the two find themselves getting much more than they bargained for. Feeling relief, yet faced with a new dilemma, the two are shocked by a twist they never could have seen coming. A lesson on faith, hope, and love, this episode will help you build resilience towards everything life throws at you and leave you inspired at the possibilities of what can happen when you don’t give up. You won’t want to miss the epic finale of this two part story! Also Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment is happening now! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
Life is filled with unwanted and unforeseen circumstances that can either bury us alive or catapult us into a destiny we never dreamed of. To those that say yes to the process, a life fully lived isn’t the absence of difficulties, but rather the embracing and facing of those difficulties wholeheartedly. In part one of this two part episode Abi and Justin are joined by their long time friends Jason and Lauren. Jason opens up about the impact of his divorce, his struggle as a single father of three, and the vulnerable process of finding love again. Lauren shares about her experience as a younger single woman faced with the challenging decision of becoming a mother of three over night with a desire to have her own birth children that may never happen. Together they share about the tragedy that struck them, but didn’t break them, and a decision that will leave you on edge waiting to hear what happened. Come join us for a laughter filled episode that will move you to tears and leave you believing that there’s life on the other side of even the greatest of tragedies. Also Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment is happening now! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
Growing up children generally have an intense desire to be close to their parents. Even in some of the most difficult situations children long to be attached to the ones that created them. As children grow older however, an adjustment naturally begins and the attachment looks much different. Without understanding this change can be jarring and painful for parents and kids. But what if the transition could be smooth and create new styles of connection? In this episode Abi and Justin dive into aspects of attachment theory and the affects of attachment between parents and children. They discuss the kinds of adjustments that may be necessary to adapt to the change while repairing the messes that happen along the way. If you want to get a better understanding of your relational development as a human and get insights into the growing journey with your parents or your children, this episode is a must. This week only (12/4/22 to 12/12/22 sign up for our mailing list and get a coupon code for a FREE Father Series Course ($200) when you enroll in Living Fully Alive 2023. Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
People can often seem confusing and leave us feeling baffled at many of their decisions. We can find ourselves defensive and angry with behavior that feels radically illogical and painful. But what if every person actually makes sense? In this episode Abi and Justin help to restore compassion to the human condition as they explore why people do what they do. Being in the middle of the holiday season can be especially triggering as we find ourselves and others acting in ways that create messes and are a recipe for disaster. Putting an end to the madness doesn’t necessarily begin with avoidance as much as it does understanding the madness. Getting connected to yours and others’ stories just might be the light you need to illuminate the best way to relate to yourself and the world around you. If you’re wanting to live a more connected lifestyle this holiday season, and in the year to come, this is a MUST listen to episode. Also Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment is happening now! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
Many of us have learned through our experiences that sharing the depth of our stories leads to pain, disconnection, and betrayal. Because of this there are portions of ourselves that we bury deep within, determined to go to the grave with our secrets. But what would happen if we could bare it all without fear of punishment? In this episode Justin is joined by his step-brother, and founding member of Wild Courage, Jeremy Morris. Together they discuss one of the most impactful weekends of their lives. Gathered together with 40+ men over a weekend of sharing the most vulnerable parts of their stories, the two dialogue about the intimate and life altering moments that left them speechless. Through tears, authenticity, and radical risk-taking, a group of the most manly men encountered an unrelenting love, changing their lives forever. If you want to stop running and start living, this episode will give you the courage and perspective needed to let down your walls and be who you were designed to be! Also now through November 28th, 2023 save $100 on Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment when you use the code: greatfriday2023 at checkout. Can not be combined with other codes. Good only during purchases made during this promotion. Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
It’s that time of the year again! Family, food, and festivities. If you you’re like most people, the holiday season is a mixed bag. The past and present are a rollercoaster of emotions, especially during a time of the year that represents belonging and connection. Sometimes it can feel like the holidays happen to us but, what if we can happen to the holidays while giving ourselves grace for the journey? In this episode Justin sits down with one of his closest friends Katrina to discuss her joys and difficulties with the season. She shares her painful experiences with growing up and losing that childhood normalcy. Katrina also goes into the ways she’s purposely woven community and tradition into her adult life, while having compassion on her unstable emotions that have resurfaced during her latest life transition. If you’re wanting a loving yet empowering approach to your process during the holidays, this episode will help you to feel understand and practically inspire you to take back the reigns to your life! Also Living Fully Alive 2023 enrollment is happening now! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/living-fully-alive/ to learn more!
For many of us, the good and the bad of the holidays seem to happen to us. Emotional rollercoasters are common as we’re flooded with memories and faced with creating new ones. But do we really want some of the most important times of the year to be left up to chance? On the heels of the last episode, addressing emotional resource, Abi and Justin’s close friend Marcus Miller joins the conversation. Marcus shares practical ways that he develops emotional resource from the amazing moments happening right in front of him. He talks about his history of pulling the best moments out of his past holidays and how he practically applies them to the holiday season at hand. Together they discuss how to practically create and apply goodness to the holidays right now. If you’re wanting to get empowered and learn how to make the holiday seasons amazing, this episode will equip you with the tool necessary to change the holiday game forever!
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