We meet someone, fall in love, and develop a relationship, but then something happens, and your partner hurts, manipulates or frightens you. Perhaps you address it, but it's denied, or it's somehow your fault, or they apologise and promise it won't happen again. And we all make mistakes, so you trust this person who has hitherto loved you to redeem themselves. But what happens when this becomes a pattern, and you slowly realise you are walking on eggshells and embroiled in a volatile or destructive relationship?
The host, Beth Armstrong, guides an in-depth discussion between three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their domestic violence stories with an intimate partner, how they escaped, and how it has affected their lives.
Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Topics include:
impact of domestic violence / overt and covert abuse
emotional, physical and sexual abuse
stereotypes / cross-cultural and class
family law court
alcoholism
online connections
charming, manipulative and deceitful
frog in boiling water analogy
abusive childhood
control - creating dependence/ jealousy
preference for a boy baby / obsessed with perfection - “mini-me” child
perpetrator playing the victim - accusations of affairs and deceit
relationship models from childhood
compassion - women brought up to fix things
emotional investment for love, wanting the dream
their hurt, wronged by past partners, comparisons
friends who call out abusive behaviour as enemies, perpetrator criticising them
isolation / managing safety for children
guardian angel friends
cycle of violence
psychological abuse and coercive control/ physical intimidation
perpetrators in the police force
image-based abuse - fake profile - publishing intimate photos online
navigating escape
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Contact Beth at: beth@curveballmedia.com.au
Sound production: Unison Sound.
Producer: Luke Mynott, Beth Armstrong
Host: Beth Armstrong
Editor: Tom Herdman, Mija Healey.
Sound Engineer: Micayla Laurence, Cihan Siral.
Composer: Biddy Connor
Artwork: wisebrownfox
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