You have finally found some peace you have started to live your life how you want to. Then you realize without your tribe or community of family and friends there is no way you would have made it out.

From victim to survivor to now thriver. You have survived and going through therapy and going to classes and doing the shadow work and self-care treatment. these are the things that have helped heal you and now you have been educated and learned all the vocabulary and terms with the abuse. You have a true tool kit known when dealing with narcissistic and abusive people and their behaviors. You have gotten really good at spotting toxic behavior and even cutting some people out of your life. Now is when you can THRIVE in life. This is when we discover the meaning and purpose of the suffering. Time to spread our wings and FLY!

You have left your abuser, now what do I do? This is intensive and scary time for you and your family. You are in true survival mode, like never before. The more you are able to understand what your next steps should be the more you will be able to ensure the safety of you and your family.

Now that you left your abuser the mental and physical toll is astronomical. Knowing what steps to take will give you a bit of a leg up from those who did not know where or how to turn once they left. The court systems are a scary place, but you must utilize the courts to get truly free from your abuser. Please be kind to yourself, take time to find your happy place once again.

Reactionary abuse is when the abuse victim has endured so much abuse, they simply have an innate reaction to it. This is I am mad as hell, and I am not going to take it anymore. Being locked in a cage with no way out and the abuser is your only form of freedom and that always comes at a cost. This is to shed some light on the real aspect of how abusers will manipulate reactionary abuse as a moment to prove they are being abused or that the victim is really a bad person.

Trigger warning for this episode - the story of how a 17 year old lost her life because of her abuser.

When we have to deal with the Abuser it narcissistic abuser. Be short, do not engage in their gaslighting and manipulation tactics.

This episode we discuss triggers, what they are and how and what to do with them. They actually are like a roadmap, helping with the guidance of where you need to lean in to heal,

In this episode we discuss what it takes to begin your healing journey. We have all been through some serious trauma by surviving the abuse. It is up to us to heal from the trauma in order for the impact of the abuse can start to leave us for good. I speak of techniques along with some ideas on how to implement these techniques.

You've been through so much. But you are stronger and braver for it all. Looking back and appreciating I am here instead of there. I have finalized my divorce and learning who I am once again

Intimate Terrorism is the abuse that victims endure especially during this time of lock down. This is the time when an abuser will utilize all of their abusing tactics that do not allow for any personal freedoms. This is actually what kidnappers use to keep their victims captive. Please remember if you talk about what is going on with anyone, this act is one of the most freeing things you can do for you and your children. This episode is here to help those in need of resources for the help they need in regards to domestic violence.                                                                                                                           e-mail: loveisnthurt.com

This is a discussion on breaking down what are some of the fears that any domestic violence victim is going through. This also includes some of the things that we as supporters  and advocates can do in order to watch for the patterns of behavior. Remember what is actually behind this abuse is a painful pit of despair filled with fear. e-mail: loveisnthurt@gmail.com

Forgiveness just like vengeance is a choice. As those abused must heal from the wounds that have been left behind, forgiveness is a huge part to the healing. Do we want our wounds to become infected with the yuck of the ooze from abuse which leaves us bitter wanting nothing but for them to pay for what they have done to you. This is an episode that starts the forgiveness discussion, remember forgiveness is not them getting away with anything. Matter of fact it is a choice....A choice to be truly free from the soul chains that abuse shackled you with. e-mail: loveisnthurt@gmail.com

Today's episode we are discussing the cycle of abuse. In this episode we get into the pattern that abuse manifests itself. First the abuse-then the excuses- followed up with normal behavior - the fantasy begins- concluded with the set up. Abuse always has a pattern and part of the recovery or even identifying the abuse happens as we educate our selves and gain the tools needed for our safety. National Domestic Hotline - www.thehotline.org - 1-800-799-7233 e-mail: loveisnthurt@gmail.com

Today we are discussing what financial and verbal abuse is. As we explore what this abuse looks like I open up about some of the tools and techniques I used to try to protect my household and myself from.

This episode we discuss a few other forms of abuse. We discuss the differences between property, animal and spiritual abuse. As well as a few more healing path journey tips to loving ourselves.

We are discussing the different aspects to physical and sexual abuse. This is a very important episode as we discuss the more obvious signs of abuse and the more behind closed door techniques used. As with every episode I give a little of of insight through my own personal story and struggle through being a victim and survivor of domestic abuse.  e-mail: loveisnthurt@gmail.com or support this podcast at anchor.fm/domesticabuse

In this episode we are discussing the 8 different types of domestic abuse and focusing on the aspect of psychological abuse as well as explaining the power and control that is a major part of abuse as a whole. e-mail: loveisnthurt@gmail.com

This episode is discussing the tools that are used during gaslighting. Which is found to be an essential technique used in most abuse situations. Thank you for joining me on this journey to self healing.

Now that I realize I am being abused, now what. In this crazy life of being abused it is hard to tell what to do after the light has gone on. This will give a few pointers on what to do.