On this episode Paul is joined by Rubria Mendoza to talk about why it is that children should fail. This might sound a bit disturbing, but Rubria explains her thought process and why she thinks it’s important for parents to think this way.
I was trying to make everybody happy but I wanted for my kids, I’m happy for them to be anything as long as they’re happy.
We want to allow our kids to fail and allow ourselves to be there to support them through that. It’s hard, but through allow our kids to make mistakes we’re providing them with tools and support that will result in them becoming problem solvers and being better at handling difficult situations in their lives.
My mom was an elementary teacher and was really tough on my brothers and me, she wanted us to study hard. But I found it hard to deal with failure later in life.
If kids are punished for breaking something, they’ll have learned fear. ‘What if I do something wrong?’ And that will be with you all your life. Not making a big deal about it and asking what happened will change their perspectives.
‘Moms have to face pressures every day and we can be too hard on ourselves trying to be a good mom.’
‘We don’t want them to get perfect grades at school.’
‘We learn from our experiences otherwise we keep going round and round until we do, or unless we’re happy.’
‘You haven’t failed, you’ve learned more.’
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
World Game-Changers Group
ABOUT THE GUEST
Rubria is based in St. Louis, MO, where she lives with her family. She has over 20 years of experience in a variety of areas such as accounting, organizing events and expos, and process management. The variety of industries she has been involved, has given her the opportunity to learn that one of the most valuable resource we all have is each other.
She believes in the power of teamwork and that in order to accomplish that, people have to form partnerships with the ones we interact in our day-to-day activities. To build strong circles, that then become strong communities. She likes to put that idea into action whenever she has the opportunity to contribute helping friends, family, co-workers to expand their potential, and achieve the common and personal goals.
ABOUT THE HOST
Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.
From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.
Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:
Developing World Game-Changers…
He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.
This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring. He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.
Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.
Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.