Part 2 episode - In this week’s episode of Real Talk, we talk about a very real and relatable experience many of us (if not all) have encountered at some point in the gym - feeling intimidated. It might surprise you to know that even health and fitness professionals and those who have spent 10s of 1000s of hours still find themselves feeling this way at times.
There’s something about it which can lend itself to both nerves, excitement and a sense of “Holy hell, do I belong here?!” The grungy music, the clanging of the cast iron plates, the grunting, the sweat, the swearing, the rawness of a space such as a gym can be very off-putting and I can totally understand why. As intense as an environment of this nature can be, it’s important to realise that we all have a common denominator which is that we come to the gym to better ourselves in our own way and that’s hugely powerful.
Initially, a fitness space can seem overwhelming and foreign but please, do not let that put you off returning. You can work to overcome the initial emotion and find your place and even your tribe in such a space. People are most often friendlier than their resting gym face - that for sure is true for me!
Remember that people are usually more preoccupied with their phone or their own insecurities to notice you and if you’re unsure of how to use a piece of equipment, the best people to learn from are probably those super experienced people to your left and to your right. Health and fitness professionals such as Aiden and myself are ALWAYS more than happy to help people in fact, we love it when people ask questions and when we can be of service. It’s never an inconvenience and if it makes it easier for you to return to them gym tomorrow or the next day then by all means, ask away.
Though the initial hurdle can feel like climbing Everest, it is well worth working through when you consider the benefits on the other side not just physically but mentally, emotionally and from a social and community health standpoint too. The spotlight effect will trick you into thinking that people are looking at you, again, if that person is me, I’m most likely staring into the distance considering what my next meal will be; and if you want the gym to be less ‘scary’ start by creating that change and smile at someone or even say ‘hello’. You get to influence how you experience difference environments and the simplest way to overcome that initial hurdle is to introduce yourself to those around you and while you’re at it, you might as well learn from them because they got to where they are by doing it for a long time. The only difference between them and you is time. It’s hardly fair to compare your day 1 to their 10th, 15th, 20th year of training - it’s a totally different chapter and remember, we have all had our first day in the gym, we have all had to start from somewhere and very rarely is that every with a super low body fat %’ and a 6 pack with an enormous amount of confidence.
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