Smashing Shame + Why You Don’t Need To Ask Yourself “Am I An Alcoholic?”

I was drawn to my guest today immediately because of a powerful post, she wrote about why she doesn't identify with the label of being an alcoholic. 
I don't identify as an alcoholic either. I don’t feel like that label serves me or explains my personal experience and unless they prefer it I don’t use that label to describe the women I work with.
 
Here’s what Beth wrote that spoke to me. 
✨WORDS MATTER✨
The other day, someone called me an “alcoholic.” They were just making conversation, talking about things I’m interested in (which I super appreciate!)…⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
... but I don’t identify as an alcoholic—it’s a label that doesn’t explain my personal experience with leaving behind the booze.
I don’t struggle with not-drinking anymore.
I don’t feel like I’m powerless over alcohol.
I don’t align with the 12-steps.
I don’t personally identify with the disease model of addiction.⠀⠀⠀
Even when I was still drinking, the black and white dichotomy of either being someone who drank or being an “alcoholic” kept me drinking longer than I should have. I thought those were my only choices
And then I discovered this beautiful corner of the internet full of people who don’t drink alcohol, who call themselves all sorts of things:
✨Teetotaler
✨Sober
✨Alcohol-free/AF
✨Non-drinker
✨Sober-curious⠀⠀⠀
Or… nothing at all.
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I’ve learned a few things from my experience:
1️⃣ Words matter, and labels can be a significant barrier for folks removing harmful habits from their lives. (And the mental health field needs an update on this. ☝🏻)⠀⠀⠀⠀
2️⃣ You are the author of your own story, and only YOU get to define yourself.
3️⃣ Figuring out what you align with, where your AF identity lives? It’s magic. ✨ It’s freedom, fulfillment, and all the good squishy feelings.
 
The beauty of deciding that alcohol is no longer working in your life is that YOU get to decide how to think about your decision to stop drinking and how you tell your story - with a label or without one.  
In this episode, Beth and I discuss how women can smash shame in sobriety.
And we dive into: 

Why you don’t need to ask yourself ‘Am I an alcoholic?’


How labels can stigmatize and shame people who have decided to live a healthy, happy, alcohol-free life instead of celebrating their decision to make a healthy life choice

How to find a beautiful supportive online community of people living life without alcohol on Instagram

Why old shame experiences might be keeping you stuck and how shame resilience work can help you heal

The 4 steps to working through shame 

Identifying shame

Contextualize it

Connection

Sharing the shame out loud

The freedom we’ve found since giving up alcohol

 
About Beth Bowen
Beth is a licensed social worker with three years of sobriety, who helps alcohol free women reclaim their power and build kick ass lives in sobriety. Beth is a mom of two, a wife and a sober women's coach who lives outside of Austin, Texas.
 
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To find out more information about Beth and read about her sobriety journey, check out her blog www.bethbowenblog.com
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