Join Indy and Michael in this Season 3 bonus episode. Here we both recap and explore some missing pieces of our desire for kink. We ask how unrelenting standards play a role in informing our need to submit or dominate. Originally we intended to release this as a videocast; however, due to various circumstances this can not be done as yet. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com   Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Listeners, in this season the focus is on... YOU!  If you would like to get in touch to deep dive into one of your fantasies, let Michael and Indy know. Or if you have a lingering question or need some advice, feel free to ask away and we will include it in our Q&A episodes.  Looking forward to hearing from you: main@bdsmreimagined.com   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Indy and Michael in this season finale. We ramble about the position we now find ourselves in relation to BDSM. Given the insights surrounding shame, where does this lead Michael and Indy respectively? We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com  Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join us this week as Indy and Michael look at how Michael ended up in the situation he finds himself today. Michael relates somewhat to Indy when she speaks about being in the BDSM scene as a result of feeling so defeated by dating apps. He also speaks about his time as a Buddhist and how the fall of this triggered his Instagram pathway leading him to becomen what he is today on the social app world. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join us this week as Indy and Michael laugh...and look at how Indy ended up here! Indy talks about being in the BDSM scene but feeling so defeated by dating apps, dating, vanilla and even kink. Indy describes her sexual revolution and disentangling of "the triangle" - sex, love and intimacy. This led for the door to open on her Domme side. However Indy now feels completely disillusioned by who she has become in the dating app scene. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael and Indy this week as they delve into Indy's cuckholding fantasy. Indy draws links between the symbols in her fantasy and how they relate to feelings of safety in her intimate connections with men - particularly within the lens of shame and defectiveness schemas. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode, Michael goes deep. And we mean deep! Michael and Indy explore an old submissive fantasy of Michael's that built up over years talking online with a dominant that lived across the world. Through text, Michael explored some of his most intimate ideas, only to now understand them on a whole new level under the lens of shame and defectiveness. In this revealing episode, we invite listeners to come along and unpack Michael's fantasy with him. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join us this week as we interview World Boss Alpha - a Dom with refreshing insight and self awareness in his exploration of kink. We were particularly fascinated when he was able to link feelings of shame to being Dom. Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this episode... Are you a dom because you think you are superior to others? Or are you deflecting from historical trauma - a way of avoiding deeper, more sinister truths about your life and the person you think you are? And if so, is this necessarily a bad thing? Could it be considered a healthy way to cope and work through our past? Join us as we weave together Indy's relationship and upbringing history to find out. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael and Indy this week as they delve into Indy's upbringing. Indy discusses patterns in her upbringing which fuelled the defectiveness and shame schema possibly leading to her interest in dominating men. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael and Indy this week as they delve into Indy's relationship history. Indy discusses patterns in relationships which fuelled the defectiveness and shame schema, in which she felt unattractive to men and not good enough. After her marriage breakdown a few years ago, Indy was drawn to BDSM and sees how being Domme is a form of self protection. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael and Indy as they ramble! Today we get straight into it. Michael describes a session with a sub who likes to be degraded for looking scruffy and wearing torn clothes. The session went into some unexpected directions, including pup play. Michael says he struggles with displays of affection and admiration as a Dom, which Indy can relate to. Indy has a confession to make. Whilst she loved the break from BDSM, now she's right back into it! Being almost 40, and at her sexual peak, she is back on the dating apps. However, it comes at an emotional price. The defectiveness schema can play out as can our deeper insecurities. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Indy and Michael this week as they interview RJ aka, Trackies For Life. RJ has become a sensation on Instagram in the kink community. His main intention is to be real, and show sides of his kink freely. This is worlds apart from his early life, when kink was more hidden. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Indy and Michael this week as they discuss the deeper reasons driving submission. There is an invisible part driving submission, the defectiveness schema. We bring together life history which shapes and drives this belief, and takes such forms as "I'm not good enough, I'm bad." This belief exists within the domain of sexual identity and not necessarily other sides of ourselves. In submission, the defectiveness schema is surrendered to. We truly believe on some level that we are not good enough, that we are inadequate. Michael bravely opens up to this possibility in himself, and we discuss the formative shape of this defectiveness in his kink.We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Michael and Indy this week as they go deeper into Michael's history with his family. Indy outlines how we develop a blue print in how we connect and love. We discuss Bowen family systems theory, which helps to describe dynamics in families. Seeing the family as a system, an interconnected network. If we have an attentive mother who is attuned, this has a formative impact. The architecture that forms in our neural pathways can feel secure or anxious, avoidant or disorganised. Michael was born into a family with two older siblings, born in South Africa when there was a lot of crime. Michael's Mum struggled when Michael was born, possibly experiencing post natal depression. Michael did recall that his Mum struggled with three children and to be able to get attention. This meant Michael's mother was preoccupied, maybe that she was not able to be there consistently. Michael recalls blaming himself, he wasn't looking for more connection but rather became more avoidant of attachment figures. He resolved things within himself. This was where he saw security and refuge - an avoidant attachment style. Michael has a tendency to want to resolve things within himself in intimate connection. Michael's predominant connection was with his brother, who often physically over powered him. Michael had to internalize a lot and on top of that had to disengage with his needs to connect. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

In this up-close and personal episode, the focus is on Michael. We go deep into his relationship history to help set the scene for how shame plays a role in his kink today (reference Episode 4, Season 3). Michael talks about his past relationships through the lens of a particular tendency - never feeling good enough. He takes on the view that he is unstable, concreted by his most influential relationship with Tom. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Indy and Michael kick off Season 3! It's been a while and we are so excited to be back. Both Indy and Michael had their interest in kink wax and wane over the past months. Indy was dealing with life and had her resources devoted elsewhere. Michael describes his constant presence on Instagram and a weird headspace he's in where he just wants to press the stop button. He also had a very nice vanilla encounter which makes him question how kink got so important and powerful. Indy talks about how Season 3 will unpack the deeper psychological side that drives our interest in BDSM. Playing the role of the dominant has arisen for Indy at a time when she has increasingly become disillusioned with relationships - what is really going on here? Michael is obsessed with youth and beauty whereas Indy loves men and women of vintage. Indy has set herself a challenge: to ask out a hot man. Indy describes a dynamic with a sub where she is exploring cuckolding. Indy took out her phone and started to show her sub the dick pics she'd been sent of other men and tell him how much better they were. Will Indy get a bull? She is exploring consentual non-monogamy and some new desires. Season 3 will look at different dynamics of shame and how this relates to BDSM. We'd love to hear from you: mail@bdsmreimagined.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Listeners, we are thrilled to announce the coming of Season 3. This time around, we will be putting shame and defectiveness under the microscope, seeing how they could be informing your relationship with sex. To do this, Michael and Indy will be the guinea pigs - delivering an intimate account of their relationships and family history to map out exactly how shame and defective narratives play a role under the surface of their kink. We are excited to announce that Season 3 of BDSM Reimagined will be released March 7th, 2022!! Music from Uppbeat:  License code 1: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ  License code 2: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Indy and Michael return to the question they were unpacking last season: can we ever go back to being purely vanilla? Do we need to be in a kink relationship? In this episode Indy and Michael get honest and really delve into the impacts of being in the kink world. Is it worth it? Join us to find out what they uncover in themselves this time around... Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message

Join Indy and Michael today as they ramble! We've decided to put our feet up, throw the script out the window and just talk... Indy admits to the extent of her current Dom frenzy. Sex, toys, numerous submissives and lots of fun. Meanwhile, Michael gives Indy some advice on how to train a new domestic slave. He is also feeling more and more like the jock persona he's been exploring in recent months.  Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code:  GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bdsm-reimagined/message