21. Refining Love

Love without Consciousness leaves space for other attributes that can make any relationship dysfunctional.  Our old understanding of romantic love was filled with expectations, dependency and fear.  When we bring Consciousness into the romantic relationship, we stand in our own knowing and inner strength, we are able to communicate authentically and give our partner an opportunity to do the same.  This makes a lot of space for growth and expansion in our relationships.  Similarly relationship between parents and children can be a source of struggle or harmony depending on how we view our children.  Without Consciousness, our traumas and wounds become our filters and get passed on to our children where we begin to see them as extension of ourselves, and attaching our Self Worth to their success or lack of in their lives.  Our children suffer is they can’t hear their own voices and have enough space of grow into their own individual authentic selves.  The task is to guide and support them ( if they ask for it, especially adult kids, who may want to do it on their own) to be the best version of who they are instead of becoming who we want them to become.  Again, Consciousness is the key that can help transform and heal our relationships and those around us.