Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped? Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour? Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and your partner are just too different? In today's episode I'm exploring: How there are really only 4 responses we can get to any request we make How to spot which response you're getting How to navigate each one and determine what's a dealbreaker Mentioned in the episode: SIGN UP TO MASTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP MIND DRAMA Email me - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures. But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it? Have you been cheated on... Broken up with... Made a big mistake... Struggled in dating... These events could be long gone but the story you tell yourself about them could be shaping your reality today. Tune in to learn why rewriting the story you tell about the past is important and how to get started today! Mentioned in the episode: Sign up for the Breaking Free of Codependent Thinking masterclass Find out more about my 12-week group coaching programme Win a £100 Amazon voucher & provide some feedback!

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now? Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark... It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives. But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations. Ready? Mentioned in this episode: 12 week group coaching programme details and waitlist Email Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered? Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives? If so... I've got you! This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year. Mentioned in this episode: Group coaching details

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings. People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!' If your brain has offered a similar question... This episode is for YOU!

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach? Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy? And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve? If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful. Listen to find out: Why the idea of red flags fuels anxiety What we're really most afraid of How self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation Group coaching programme

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over? Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle? Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction... And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before? If so - it's time to break the cycle. And this episode will help you do just that! Mentioned in the episode: Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Link to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all! But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships. Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you? Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you? Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making? If so, this episode is for YOU! In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them. Mentioned in the episode: Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us... And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead. Mentioned in the episode: Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category? In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app. We're covering topics like: Why our brains worry Whether worry is ever productive Some of Emilie's favourite techniques for overcoming worry and anxiety And how to face any worrying situation with confidence and self-certainty Find out more about Emilie: Instagram Website

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently? If it's quite a lot... you're not alone! Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier. But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward. And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing. I'm covering: Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to be Why owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others) And how to step into that future version of YOU Mentioned in this episode: Information on my next round of group coaching and waitlist

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age? Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner... Buy a house... Get married... Have a child... Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are? In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia. And we'll be digging into: Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30 Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up in Societal pressures and how to handle them The expectation gap - and how to close it AND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxiety How to find Kate: Instagram Tik-Tok Her website

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you? Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned? If so - this episode is for YOU! I'm covering: Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space How to regulate your nervous system and create inner safety How to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fear Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself? Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want? Then this episode is for YOU! I'm discussing: The reason why we challenge our thinking When fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decision How the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought Interested in 1:1 coaching? Email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel? Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions? Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions? If so - this episode is for YOU! Don't forget to leave a review or a rating if you found this episode useful!

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded. Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!! Then this episode is for you. We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF.

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships. If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU. I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing. Ready? LISTEN NOW. Mentioned in this episode: MYFR - 8 week coaching programme - INFO MYFR - SIGN UP NOW

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts... - What if they break up with me? - What if they're mad at me? - What if they're lying to me? - What if they leave me? ... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions. In today's episode, I'm talking about: Why rejection seems so terrifying What we're actually afraid of How dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our suffering AND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secure Ready? LISTEN NOW. Mentioned in the episode: Sign up to the FREE master class: How to become rejection proof Information on the 8-week group coaching programme: Master Your Fear of Rejection

Do you tend to take things personally? Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable? Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts? Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good? If so - you likely have a fear of rejection. And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships. Mentioned in the episode: How to become rejection proof - FREE master class Master Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from) Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughts And the two key components to creating unshakable confidence Mentioned in this episode: Self Esteem Building Kit