Psychologists Off the Clock
About this podcast
A Psychology Podcast About the Science and Practice of Living Well
About this podcast
A Psychology Podcast About the Science and Practice of Living Well
Psychologists Off the Clock
Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman
Today’s world is more digitally-based than ever before, and in this digital world, brands are constantly marketing their products to you. This constant, often covert marketing can negatively impact vulnerable consumers. In fact, this has become such a problem that in recent years the Federal Trade Commission has cracked down on influencers and celebrities disclosing their relationship with brands. Now more than ever it is important that we as both consumers and marketers be conscientious and knowledgeable of our marketing practices. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman, founders of Pop Neuro and authors of Blindsight, talk with Diana about the neuroscience of marketing. Take a break from scrolling, and join us in this episode to learn more about the neuroscience of marketing and how it impacts you, today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on neuromarketing and how psychology influences our lives through mediaThe history behind Matt and Prince’s collaboration Why Matt and Prince chose to combine their knowledge of neuroscience and marketing and how they did itWhat a mental model is (and how marketing capitalizes on them!)Practical advice for making your marketing more memorable A sneak peak inside Matt and Prince’s bookHow Matt and Prince used principles from neuroscience in the creation of their book and why those principles keep you interested in reading itLife hacks on why some products more or less addictiveWhy Matt and Prince are passionate about educating consumers on marketing practices and how they put that passion into practice in their bookHow and why branding is impactfulWhat in marketing makes us like some things more than other thingsThe positive (and negative) ways we communicate through marketingWhat neural coupling is and how it affects you The future of marketing, where it’s going, and where it is right nowExpert-approved skills and strategies that Matt and Prince use as both consumers and marketers for their ‘digital well-being’ Resources: A 4-1-1 on what the Coke vs Pepsi Challenge was all about Take The Big Five Personality Test Check out Prince’s Ted Talk Make sure to grab a copy of Prince and Matt’s’ book, Blindsight: The (Mostly) Hidden Ways Marketing Reshapes Our BrainsInterested in becoming certified in neuromarketing? Sign up for their bootcamp!Read their blog to stay updated on all the recent news with neuromarketing Follow Pop Neuro on Twitter (@Pop_Neuro) and on Instagram (@Pop.Neuro) About Pop Nuero, Matt, and Prince: Pop Neuro reveals the deeper, neuroscientific, and psychological blueprint behind consumer behavior and neuromarketing. Based on 25+ years of combined experience, it’s the brainchild of consumer neuroscientist Matt Johnson, PhD, and neuromarketer Prince Ghuman. Matt Johnson, PhD is a professor at Hult International Business School, where his research focuses on the application of neuroscience and psychology to marketing. He received his BA from UC San Diego, and his PhD in Cognitive Psychology from Princeton University. A contributor to major news outlets including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Business Insider, and VICE and writer for Psychology Today, he regularly provides expert opinion and thought leadership on a range of topics related to the human side of business. He advises both start-ups and large brands in his native Bay Area, and has served as an expert-in-residence to Nike’s Innovation Team in Portland, Oregon. Along with co-author Prince Ghuman, Johnson founded PopNeuro.com for anyone interested in approachable consumer psychology. Follow Matt on Twitter (@MattJohnsonIsMe) or LinkedIn! Prince Ghuman’s journey into marketing started during his studies at the University of California at San Diego. His first startup, Potenza, was the first of its kind, a brand of caffeinated water. He went on to be the founding head of marketing at BAP, one of the first digital automotive platforms and current l...
195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen
Our mission at Psychologists Off the Clock is to bring evidence-based psychological treatments and practices to the public. One of our favorite treatments is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT, pronounced as one word). In this episode, ACT experts, authors, and POTC co-hosts Diana and Debbie discuss how you can use ACT to get unstuck and thrive! Diana and Debbie's new book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, breaks ACT processes and strategies down into simple, fun, and actionable steps. Yael chats with Debbie and Diana about how you can start implementing ACT strategies into your life starting today. Join the conversation to learn ACT as a beginner or to beef up your existing ACT toolbox! Listen and Learn: POTC’s resident Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) experts’ definition and break down of this therapeutic approach All about Diana and Debbie’s book and how it can help you thrive in your own life. here and nowDebbie and Diana’s personal experiences with ACT, writing, and the development of their bookPractical advice on fostering psychological flexibility and building value-based habits into your dayWhy this book is different than any other book you’ll find on ACTHow Diana and Debbie packed empirical, evidence-based information into digestible, bite-sized stories and exercises for the ultimate ACT-informed self-help book Practical advice for folks who feel they might lack the discipline to engage in self-help workWhy self-compassion is so important to building psychological flexibility Some examples of the six core ACT processes in actionWhy it’s so challenging to be present and expert-approved tips and tricks to engage in present-moment awarenessThe personal elements Debbie and Diana (including insider information on the egg-related stories that got cut)About some of the biggest challenges you might face when putting ACT processes into practicesA goodie for you! Diana and Debbie each read a vignette to give you a taste of what’s inside their book! Resources: Make sure to grab a copy of Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and join the Facebook group to get active in learning and discussing: https://www.facebook.com/ACTDailyJournal And if you’d like to win a free copy of their book, make sure to enter our book giveaway! To enter, write us a review on Apple Podcasts and send us an email (with "Book Giveaway" in the subject line) letting us know you did so at email@example.com. For more information about ongoing and upcoming giveaways, follow us on Instagram at @offtheclockpsych. About Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Debbie Sorensen: Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. In addition to private practice, Debbie works part-time as a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center and is a nationally-recognized VA trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Make sure to grab a copy of her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Diana Hill. Related Episodes: Episode 41. Kissing The Frog: How To Establish a Morning Routine with Diana and DebbieEpisode 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christophe GermerEpisode 77.
Heal Unhealthy Striving
Throughout the past year, many of us have redefined what it means to “work hard” or “strive” in our own lives. The pandemic and the accompanying social distancing mandates have challenged us to work and live much differently than ever before. For many, this has meant striving more than ever to simultaneously be the perfect employee, parent, partner, or etc. Though striving can often be healthy, many times we engage in unhealthy striving that can leave us feeling exhausted and chronically burnt out. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Diana, co-author with Debbie of ACT Daily Journal, discuss healthy and unhealthy striving. They explain the neuroscience behind this behavior and provide some practical advice for noticing and changing unhealthy striving in your life. Reconnect with your values and take the first step toward healthy striving by listening to this episode right now! Listen and Learn: Why exploring healthy vs unhealthy components of striving is important to Yael and Diana How Diana and Yael started exploring the topic of strivingThe signs and symptoms of unhealthy vs. healthy striving The neuroscience behind strivingSome examples of what healthy striving might look like in your lifeDiana’s expert definition of effortless action and what it means to embody a balance of effort and surrenderPractical advice for moving from competition to collaborationWhat the striving cycle looks like as a process in many different domains of lifeHow values clarification can help break your striving cycle and orient you towards healthier strivingA few red flags that might indicate unhealthy striving patterns (and some resources for when you notice them)Engage in an experiential exercise with Diana and Yael, and start breaking your pattern of unhealthy striving today! Resources: Check out Diana's blog posts for her wisdom on ACT, mindfulness, and much, much more Make sure to pick up Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment TherapyJoin Diana for her free Tuesday Teachings for a live, online talk, movement, and meditation practice led by the master herself About Diana and Yael: Dr. Diana Hill Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen and coming in May 1, 2021! Dr. Yael Schonbrun Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a practicing clinical psychologist and a professor at Brown University. In her clinical practice and in her research, she brings effective treatments to those who are struggling with the transition to parenthood, with relationship problems, depression, anxiety, general unhappiness, substance use, and life stress. Related Episodes: Episode 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer Episode 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar Part #1 and Part #2 of our episodes on Neurodharma with Rick Hanson Episode 156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective with Helen Neville, Hector Adames, Bryana French, and Grace Chen Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg
Happier with Tal Ben-Shahar
Happiness is tricky. Poets, philosophers, and musicians have written about this emotion throughout history, yet most of us would struggle to define it if asked. In fact, psychologists and other mental health professionals often abandon the topic for pathology. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Tal Ben-Shahar, happiness expert and author of the best-selling book, Happier, discuss happiness and what it means to be happy in today’s world. Pause a moment and take inventory of your emotions. What shows up? What’s missing? Join us in this episode, and take a step toward embracing and making room for all of your emotions today! Listen and Learn: About how Debbie first came to know Tal Yael and Debbie’s happiness hacks and the practices they use to build happiness in their busy livesHappiness expert Tal’s definition of happinessThe differences between well-being and pleasureWhy it might be important to make room for all types of experiences (even the negative ones!)How Tal’s life experiences have informed his work in the field of happinessPractical advice for teaching your kids how to embrace and make room for uncomfortable emotionsTal’s wisdom for choosing your responses in uncomfortable situationsOn-the-ground practices you can use to build happiness into your busy lifeTal’s evidence-based thoughts on perfectionists, optimists, and performance-based happinessAbout the most influential books Tal has read in the past year Resources: It's Okay That Your’e Not Ok (Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand) by Megan Devine The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does by Sonja LyubomirskyTal’s personal book recommendations: Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden, and The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle About Tal Ben-Shahar: Tal Ben-Shahar is an author and lecturer. He taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University’s history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership. Today, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. The topics he lectures on include leadership, happiness, education, innovation, ethics, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, and mindfulness. His books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages, and have appeared on best-sellers lists around the world. Tal is a serial entrepreneur, and is the co-founder and chief learning officer of Happiness Studies Academy, Potentialife, Maytiv, and Happier.TV. An avid sportsman, Tal won the U.S. Intercollegiate and Israeli National squash championships. Today, for exercise, he swims, dances, and practices Yoga. He obtained his PhD in Organizational Behavior and BA in Philosophy and Psychology from Harvard Book Giveaway! POTC is doing another book giveaway, this on e accompanying Yael’s interview with happiness guru, Tal Ben-Shahar. You can enter the drawing for a free copy of his inspirational book, Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness, by: Going to iTunes and giving us an honest review,Screenshot the review, Send the screenshot of your review to firstname.lastname@example.org with the heading “Book Giveaway” Related Episodes Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy ConnectionEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia WestEpisode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKayEpisode 143. Happier Parenting with KJ Dell’AntoniaEpisode 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Conversations that Connect with AJ Harbinger
Meaningful social connection does not always come naturally. And during the pandemic, it has been extra challenging to learn how to connect while at a distance. AJ Harbinger offers strategies to relate in deeper ways, on and off the screen. Many of us have felt isolated during the pandemic, and yet, it’s anxiety-provoking to re-open again! In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and AJ Harbinger, co-founder of The Art of Charm, Inc, provide expert insights on connecting with people through vulnerable, authentic conversation. Together they discuss the importance of sitting with silence, how to let your values guide your behavior in relationships, and much, much more. Take some pressure off yourself, step into a more meaningful connection, and listen to this episode today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie apply AJ’s wisdom to reopening and reconnecting with people after the pandemic Practical advice for building more comfortable, relaxed connections with others How to captivate people using conversational skillsRules, recommendations, and practical tips for being a more captivating presenter on non-traditional presentation platforms (looking at you, Zoom!)AJ’s ultimate tips and tricks for getting your audience to remember your materialHow to engage in meaningful connection with people onlineWhat it means to ‘filter people’ in or out How to use emotion as a way to connectAJ’s personal background with connecting to people and the history behind how his values guided him to this point in his careerPractical advice from the current AJ to the past AJ (and for all of us struggling with major decisions)About John Gottman’s work and how it has influenced AJThe four horsemen of relationships and how they might be impacting your relationships with others and with yourselfThree types of captivating questions that can help you explore another person more meaningfullyWhy it’s so important to sit with awkward silencesSome emotional avoidance strategies that can be problematic in building meaningful connectionHow AJ implements these strategies with his teamOn a scale from 0-10 how awesome is Michael HeroldAJ’s answers to all of your questions including ones about tone and conflict in relationships, mirroring as a communication tool, and much more! Resources: Check out AJ’s podcast, The Art of Charm on iTunes or Google PodastsMore information on John Gottman and The Gottman Institute Make sure to take a listen to The Art of Charm’s episode with our very own, Jill Stoddard, and their episode with Michael Herold on making deeper connections as well Pre-order your copy of ACT Daily Journal today!Sign up for Diana and Debbie’s webinar with Praxis Continuing EducationJoin Diana’s April events to help you bring ACT into your daily life About AJ Harbinger: AJ Harbinger AJ Harbinger is a relationship expert, podcaster, public speaker, Fortune 100 executive consultant, and co-Founder of The Art of Charm, Inc. Over the last 13 years, AJ has trained thousands of people on how to unlock and channel their inner charisma to effortlessly connect with others, and harness the power and opportunities that come with building high-value relationships. Related Episodes: Episode 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael HeroldEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff
ACT for Suicide Prevention with Sean Barnes
Those of us who care about alleviating human suffering, including mental health clinicians, want to do what we can to help prevent suicide. And yet, like many stigmatized topics, suicide is often avoided in conversations - including clinical conversations. Basic behavioral science tells us that we humans tend to avoid painful stimuli, and thanks to the double-edged sword of verbal behavior, painful stimuli (like conversations about suicide and suffering) can be both physical and psychological. Suicide stigmatization, as well as uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, can keep even the most experienced clinicians and providers from thoroughly helping their clients who are experiencing suicidal thoughts and behaviors. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Sean Barnes, clinical research psychologist and principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, discuss suicidal behavior, the ways it’s stigmatized, and how to effectively engage with clients who have thoughts and feelings related to suicide. As clinicians, we often have limited behavioral repertoires around suicidality in our clients. We often tend to focus on helping clients ‘not die.’ However, there is more to life than ‘not dying,’ and suicide prevention is only the first, albeit vital, step in recovery. Join us in this episode to learn how to help your client build a life worth living today! Workshop for Therapists: Join Sean, Debbie, and their colleagues for ACT for Life: Experiential training on a Contextual Behavioral Approach to Suicidal Ideation and Behavior at the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science’s virtual pre-conference workshop, June 12-13, 2021. Listen and Learn: Why it’s important to talk more openly about suicideThe plethora of resources available for suicide prevention, postvention, and safety planningSome of the challenges for therapists in managing suicide risk and working effectively with suicide (and some insight as to why it can be so challenging)Sean and Debbie’s expert, experienced-backed opinions on how to best assess your client for suicide riskAn Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) conceptualization of suicide and why this approach to conceptualizing suicide is unique compared to more traditional approachesThe functions of suicidal behavior and why it’s important to explore those functions as a clinicianAbout Sean’s intervention, ACT for Life, and how he is targeting suicidal behavior from a contextual behavioral approachWhat creative hopelessness is, how to use it, and why it can often feel scary for cliniciansHow to implement mindfulness and acceptance into your clinical work with suicidal clientsWhat it means to expand someone’s behavioral repertoire in the presence of suicidal thoughts and feelings About Sean Barnes: Sean M. Barnes, Ph.D. is a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Mental Illness Research, Education, and Clinical Center (MIRECC) for Veteran Suicide Prevention and an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. Sean is a consultant for the Department of Veterans Affairs Suicide Risk Management Consultation Program and an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for Depression provider and training consultant. He is also the principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, testing a brief ACT protocol for maximizing recovery after suicidal crises. Other aspects of Sean's research focus on the use of contextual behavioral interventions for moral injury, and the study of suicide risk assessment, but all his projects share a common goal of alleviating suffering and helping others build vital meaningful lives. MIRECC Webpage: https://www.mirecc.va.gov/visn19/staff/barnes.asp ResearchGate Page: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Sean-Barnes-2 Twitter: @Sean_M_Barnes National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 Prevention Resources for People at Risk of Suicide & Those Who ...
Imposter Syndrome with Jill and Debbie
Imposter syndrome involves doubting your abilities or skills, and can often leave high-achieving people feeling fraudulent or undeserving of their achievements. In fact, this syndrome has affected some of the most renowned celebrities (e.g., Lady Gaga), CEO’s (e.g., Howard Schultz), and a few of our favorite podcast co-hosts. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, two of our high-achieving co-hosts, Jill and Debbie, rely on both their personal experiences and empirical evidence in their discussion of imposter syndrome. Fellow imposters and frauds, please join us to learn more about imposter syndrome, and get some practical advice for dealing with it! Listen and Learn: About the ACBS panel that inspired Debbie and Jill to do this episode on imposter syndrome togetherSome of Jill and Debbie’s personal experiences with imposter syndromeTheir empirically-backed, expert definition of imposter syndromeCommon thoughts and emotions that show up with imposter syndromeWhen, why, and how imposter syndrome currently shows up for Debbie and JillPractical advice on what to do instead of “comparing and despairing” and information on how that behavior impacts imposter syndromeEmpirical evidence on why marginalized groups are disproportionately affected by imposter syndrome Actual statistics on imposter syndrome and who it affectsThe evolutionary, social implications behind imposter syndromeAbout the subtypes of imposter syndrome (and how to find yours!)Some practical advice from our co-hosts for dealing with imposter syndrome Resources: The Art of Charm Podcast’s episode with Jill on Imposter Syndrome Suzanne Imes and Pauline Clance’s paper on The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women More information on David Barlow and his Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders Valerie Young's book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful WomenAlicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Eve Rodsky's book, Fair Play Jill's book, Be Mighty and her Imposter Syndrome Subtype quiz More information on Janet Helms and her work on WHMPS Dr. Bessima Tewfik - MIT professor who researches Imposter Syndrome About Jill Stoddard and Debbie Sorensen: Total Imposter, Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast. Complete Fraud, Debbie Sorensen Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She is also a co-founder of ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals. She is a nationally-recognized trainer and training consultant in ACT for the VA. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rocki...
Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer
Anxiety can be an exhausting cycle. When you worry, you have a false sense of control and a feeling that you are “doing something” about what you fear, but it only leads to more anxiety and stress in the long term. In this episode Diana sits down with Dr. Jud Brewer, neuroscientist and author of Unwinding Anxiety, for a second time! They explore a fresh, science-backed perspective on anxiety. According to Dr. Jud, anxiety is a habit loop, and there are simple strategies to break the cycle. Listen in for some practical advice on how to unwind your anxiety today! Listen and Learn: How Diana and Debbie approach anxiety from an ACT perspectiveSome of the intricacies of exposure-based therapy with ACTWhy Dr. Jud dedicated his book to the “Amazon addict” About Dr. Jud’s model of anxiety as a habit loopThe three gears to shift out of anxiety and how it is linked to reward-based learning What to do when all you can think about are your worriesHow to identify the point of diminishing return and form new habit loops (and what both of those things are!)Practical advice on working with curiosity amidst anxietyJud’s research-backed wisdom on when (and if) anxiety improves your performanceDr. Jud’s personal experience with anxiety Jud’s hopes for the future in helping people with anxiety Resources: Jud’s book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind Don't Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor To find out more about Jud’s Unwinding Anxiety App, look here Jud’s programs, TED talks and videos, and clinician resources Pre-Order Diana and Debbie’s new book: ACT Daily Journal and get some freebies! About Jud Brewer: Dr. Jud Brewer is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. Dr. Jud is the director of research and innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare. His most recent book is Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind. Related POTC Episodes: Episode 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer Episode 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1)Episode 140. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 2)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges
Raising a Child with ADHD
Parenting is challenging. Some of the challenges—like effective disciplining and present moment awareness—are ubiquitous to parenting. No matter who you or your kids are, moments and experiences will test your patience and your wisdom. But while no parent has it easy, parenting children with special needs, neurodiversity, or mental or physical health issues comes with unique, extraordinarily trying experiences, and big questions to which it can be hard to find reliable answers. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael talks with Dr. Russell Barkley, an international authority on ADHD. Russ is also author of many books, including the bestselling Taking Charge of ADHD and his recently released 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD. Using principles from his books and decades of research, Russ takes on questions Yael collected from friends, family, and peers about parenting children with ADHD. Join us to hear in-depth and reliable answers to our most pressing questions about how to raise neurodiverse children! Listen and Learn: The seven executive functions and how they’re impacted by ADHD Russ’ expert, in-depth answers to your questions about parenting and loving people with ADHD! What ADHD is and why the label can be misleading About some misconceptions parents often have about ADHD How to better parent a child with ADHD How to be compassionate towards yourself and your child as you parent Key differences in behavioral markers of ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) About the long-term data on medication for children How to find, appreciate, and reinforce strengths that show up in neurodiverse children Effective parenting and discipline strategies for children with ADHD Russ’ hopes for his legacy, and the future of ADHD Resources Discussed on this Podcast Episode: Dr. Barkley’s book, 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD Find some of Dr. Barkley’s lectures on his website Find other interviews with and lectures by Dr. Barkley on YouTube Emily Perl Kingsley’s poem, Welcome to Holland Jon Kabat Zinn’s book, Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting Alison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter About Dr. Russell Barkley: Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) in children and adults who has dedicated his career to widely disseminating science-based information about ADHD. Dr. Barkley retired as a Professor of Psychiatry and Neurology from the University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1985-2002) and subsequently worked as a Professor of Psychiatry and Health Sciences at the Medical University of South Carolina (2003-2016). He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University Medical Center (2016-present). In semi-retirement, he continues to lecture widely and develop continuing education courses for professionals on ADHD and related disorders, as well as consult on research projects, edit The ADHD Report, and write books, reviews, and research articles. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 14. Mindful Parenting Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Dr. Barry Schwartz Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg Episode 149. How Not To Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla Naumburg Episode 161: The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey
Set Boundaries, Find Peace
Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on the importance of boundary setting Nedra’s expert definition of boundaries and explanation of how they impact mental healthThe science behind how setting healthy boundaries can provide peace and freedom from anxietyPractical advice on how to set boundaries with toxic individuals, narcissists, your parents, your in-laws, your children, and yourself!Barriers that might be affecting your ability to set a healthy boundaryWhat to do with the feeling of guilt when it shows up during the boundary-setting processNedra’s practical advice on how to be a clear communicator and set effective boundaries in particularly toxic dynamicsThe differences between a soft boundary and a rigid boundary (and when to be flexible with them!)What clear boundaries sound likeThe subtle differences between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passivityNedra’s take on setting ultimatums (and why they aren’t always a bad thing)Why it’s important to set boundaries with your kids and how to teach them to set their own Nedra’s personal experience with boundaries and how setting them has changed her life Resources: Nedra’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra’s website which has TONS of FREE resources including worksheets, a relationship quiz, a boundaries quiz, and Nedra's book recommendationsCheck out co-host Diana’s workshop, An Introduction to ACT: Growing Psychological Flexibility through Acceptance, Caring, and Tiny Daily Practices on February 28th from 2pm to 5pm Pacific Standard Time About Nedra Tawwab: NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do the Thing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. Connect with Nedra Tawwab on Instagram @nedratawwab. Find out more about her book, here. Related Episodes: Episode 98. Narcissism with Dr. Avigail Lev and Dr. Robyn Walser Episode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine
Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace
Show Notes Being an ally in the workplace involves a willingness and personal commitment to take action in pursuit of justice and equality for the disenfranchised. Too often, the burden of attaining equality is placed on marginalized individuals. A good ally takes on that burden instead. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill is joined by Brad Johnson and David Smith, co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace, to discuss how men can be better allies to women in the workplace. Together, they discuss good ally behavior including educating oneself about different identities or experiences, challenging one’s assumptions and beliefs, and learning and practicing the skills necessary to make lasting change. Engage in some good ally behavior right now, and listen in to this episode to learn how to be a better ally today! Listen and Learn: -Brad and David’s take on the problem of gender equality and whose job it is to solve it -How to practice situational awareness and make invisible workplace issues more visible -What the zero sum bias is and how to use the most current research on it to inform your behavior -All about EQ, IQ, and how they can work for you (or against you) in the workplace -How to be a ‘good guy’ in the workplace and how to inspire other ‘good guys’ to take action -What a likeability penalty is, who it affects, and why -Expert-approved steps you can take to be a more proactive ally at home and at work -Why the global economic benefits to eliminating the gender pay gap aren’t more of a concern and who to hold accountable for eliminating that gap -Brad and David’s views on the pandemic and gender in the workforce Resources: Brad and David’s books, Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace Alicia Menendez’ book, The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are Eve Rodsky’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) Brad and David’s most recent article on Harvard Business Review about male allyship Kimberle Crenshaw’s article, Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory and Antiracist Politics About Brad and David: Dr. Brad Johnson is Professor of psychology in the Department of Leadership, Ethics and Law at the U.S. Naval Academy, and a Faculty Associate in the Graduate School of Education at Johns Hopkins University. Dr. Johnson is the author of more than 130 journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of mentoring—and 14 books, in the areas of mentoring, gender in the workplace, and professional ethics. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. Dr. David Smith is Associate Professor of sociology in the College of Leadership and Ethics at the U.S. Naval War College. As a sociologist trained in military sociology and social psychology, he focuses his research in gender, work, and family issues including bias in performance evaluations, retention of women, dual career families, military families, and women in the military. Dr. Smith is the author of numerous journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of gender and the workplace—and 2 books in the area of gender in the workplace and inclusive mentoring relationships. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. They are co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace. Learn more about being a workplace ally, here at workplaceallies.com. Related Episodes: Episode 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Episode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Episode 165.
Getting Past Affairs and Other Relationship Betrayals with Kristina Coop Gordon
Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But this holiday can be challenging for anyone that’s been stung in their relationships. And it's especially difficult for individuals who’ve experienced an affair or other significant relationship betrayal. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon, co-author of Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair, discuss affairs, major relationship betrayals, and how you CAN (contrary to a common cultural message) heal and get past them. So grab your a box of Valentine’s candy and join us to learn about using emotions for good, effective listening, forgiveness, and much more! And speaking of celebrating those we love, we at POTC want to celebrate you, our listeners! We’re giving away Dr. Gordon’s book Getting Past the Affair to a few lucky listeners! If you, someone you care about, or those you treat are dealing with an affair, you'll want this book in your arsenal of tools. This book teaches an assortment of crucial strategies for coping, healing, and moving forward that have been proven to work. For details on how to enter our #bookgiveaway, check out our Instagram, @offtheclockpsych. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on anger and other emotions and when and how they’re useful (and when and how they’re not!) How Kristina's research on forgiveness helps couples Dr. Gordon’s expert definition of forgiveness and how to grant it Why affairs are so common and how couples can recover from them If there are times to not tell your partner about an affair and how to decide if it’s one of those times About the three stages of healing from an affair What might be happening psychologically for each member of a couple after an affair Practical (game-changing!) advice on how to effectively listen to your partner during tough conversations The difference in how guilt and shame impact relationships Dr. Gordon-approved tips on working through big emotions in ways that serve your values Exercises for communicating more effectively with your partner, even in the face of painful feelings How to talk about the details of an affair Common reasons that partnerships become vulnerable to affairs Examples of how Dr. Gordon would approach therapy with couples at various stages of healing How Dr. Gordon guides couples through the decision to stay together or not Resources of Mentioned in this Podcast Episode: Dr. Gordon’s books, Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair Yael and Dr. Gordon’s paper from 2007, Predicting sexual infidelity in population-based sample of married individuals. Dr. Gordon’s paper investigating forgiveness in women who were in domestic abuse situations, Predicting the intentions of women in domestic violence shelters to return to partners: Does forgiveness play a role? About Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon: Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor and Associate Director of Clinical Training in the clinical psychology program at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple’s therapy. In Knoxville, she maintains a private practice specializing in couple’s therapy. She is coauthor of the self-help resource Getting Past the Affair and of the related book for professionals, Helping Couples Get Past the Affair. Related Episodes: Episode 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After Difficulty Episode 28. Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael Schonbrun Episode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Episode 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie Episode 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Emotional Intelligence is not really about feeling better but, rather, it’s about getting better at feeling. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel, discuss practical skills you can use to better understand your emotions, and respond to them effectively. Emotional intelligence is often neglected in pursuit of what some refer to as “rational thinking.” However, emotional intelligence skills can actually help with thinking - and might even save you time and money. Find out how in this episode, and learn more about naming, understanding, and expressing your emotions in healthy ways! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie’s break down of “stress” and “overwhelm” and how they practice emotional intelligence skills in their own livesPractical skills you can use to get better at feeling right now!A real-time example of Marc Brackett and Debbie naming their emotionsWhy children and adults struggle to understand and express their emotions in a healthy way (and how problematic that can be)How Marc is working to make sure everyone receives an “emotion education”The emotion expert’s explanation of how emotional intelligence actually helps with “rational” thinking An overview of the RULER emotional skill set, and the contexts where those skills show upHow learning some emotional skills might save you time and money in the futureWhat a “Meta-Moment” is, and how to do it in four stepsWhether the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence thinks children will be okay after the pandemicMarc’s practical words of wisdom for parents, teachers, caregivers, and anyone else invested in helping kids make it through tough times like the pandemic Resources: Marc’s book, Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive Find out more about Marc at his website, www.marcbrackett.comGet access to the recorded version of POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit here, https://www.accelevents.com/e/POTCSummit#about About Marc Brackett: Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL that has been adopted by over 2,000 schools across the United States and in other countries. He has published 125 scholarly articles and received numerous awards. Marc consults regularly with corporations like Facebook, Microsoft, and Google on integrating emotional intelligence principles into employee training and product design and is co-founder of Oji Life Lab, a digital emotional intelligence learning system for business. His research has been featured in popular media outlets such as the New York Times, USA Today, Good Morning America, and NPR. He is the author of Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive, published by Celadon Books, a division of Macmillan. Find out more about Marc on his website, www.marcbrackett.com. Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes: Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West Episode 69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman Episode 9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings
Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein
There's a common belief that to be more successful we need more resources — that we should earn more money, acquire more resources, accomplish more, spend more time, and expand our network of people. But when we focus on chasing down additional resources rather than using those already at our disposal, we are rarely satisfied with our work, and may in fact be less successful in the long run. Instead, could it be possible to do more with less? In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Scott Sonenshein, author of Stretch and coauthor with Marie Kondo of Joy at Work, discuss the ideas of "chasing" and "stretching." Scott shares some practical wisdom for how to stretch in work and life. The conversation adds a whole new meaning to TLC’s lyric “don’t go chasing waterfalls!” Listen and Learn: How Debbie and Jill’s are trying to stretch in their lives How Scott Sonenshein, an expert in organizational psychology, applies principles from organizational psychology to other domains of life About a potential silver lining of the pandemic and our "new normal" (and Scott’s practical advice for creating your own silver lining anytime!) Debbie’s delicious example of constraint leading to resourcefulness in her own life Scott’s breakdown of the two mindsets that can help or hinder our efforts to be flexible Scott’s personal experience with the chase mindset in Silicon Valley and the lessons he learned in the dot com era The benefits of the stretch mindset — and practical advice on how to get into that mindset today The ultimate question for starting your growth journey Why it’s okay to not be an expert and how dabbling in many areas can be useful Practical examples of how to move from a chasing mindset to a stretching mindset The most important thing Scott learned from collaborating with Marie Kondo What ‘activity clutter’ is, how it might be impacting you, and three questions you can use to prioritize Resources Scott Sonenshein’s book, Stretch: Unlock the Power of Less and Achieve More than You Ever Imagined. Scott’s and Marie Kondo’s book, Joy at Work: Organizing Your Professional Life Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times Dr. Scott Sonenshein Scott Sonenshein, Ph.D. is the Henry Gardiner Symonds Professor of Management at Rice University and New York Times best-selling author whose books have been translated into over 20 languages. His award winning research, teaching, and speaking has helped Fortune 500 executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals in industries such as technology, energy, healthcare, retail, education, banking, manufacturing, and nonprofits. He holds a PhD in organizational behavior from the University of Michigan, an MPhil from the University of Cambridge, and a BA from the University of Virginia. His research appears in the very top academic journals and has contributed to several topics in management and psychology, including change, creativity, personal growth, social issues, decision making, and influence. Scott sits on five distinguished editorial boards and is a former associate editor of his field’s top publication, the Academy of Management Journal. Scott also worked as a strategy consultant for companies such as Microsoft and AT&T and lived the rise and fall of the dotcom boom while working for a Silicon Valley startup. He serves on the External Advisory Board of McKinsey & Company’s implementation practice. Scott has written for the New York Times, Time Magazine, Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. He has been interviewed on national and local television, NPR stations throughout the country, and has been featured in most major newspapers. To find out more about Scott’s work, visit his website, https://www.scottsonenshein.com/. You can also view Scott’s academic biography or Rice University page. Check Scott out on Twitter at @ScottSonenshein or on Instagram at scott.sonenshein.
Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone
Show notes: In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Listen and Learn: Jill and Debbie’s personal encounters with “doom scrolling” and other behaviors that feel good in the moment but cost us in the long-run Matt’s breakdown of what his book, Stop Avoiding Stuff, is about and how you can benefit from it Why Matt decided to write about avoidance in a digestible (bathroom-book) format About Matt’s professional understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Other places where Matt can train you in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy How to effectively use your understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to practice the skills in Matt's book Why Matt’s accessible explanations of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are particularly useful right now The inside-scoop on what’s inside Matt's book Practical advice on how to identify and become more mindful of your own avoidant behaviors Exercises for practicing awareness and willingness right now! How Matt came to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and what role it plays in his personal life Resources: Matt’s book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work Jill’s books, Be Mighty and The Big Book of ACT Metaphors Matt’s webinar on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Matt Boone: Matt Boone is a social worker, psychotherapist, and public speaker who specializes in translating mental health concepts for the general public. He is the co-author, with Jennifer Gregg and Lisa Coyne, of Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work. He is the director of programming and outreach at the student mental health services of the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where he’s an instructor in psychiatry. At Lyra Health, a mental health tech startup, he led the clinical development of Lyra’s mental health coaching program and gave talks on subjects like stress and stigma to audiences at Facebook, Uber, and Genentech. At Cornell University, he oversaw the development of Let's Talk, an outreach program to underserved students that has since been replicated at nearly 100 colleges and universities. He is an Association of Contextual Behavioral Science peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and a former consultant for the VA ACT for Depression training rollout. He regularly provides ACT trainings for professionals and the general public. He lives in Little Rock with his wife, cat, and guitars, and he loves talking about mental health with people who think psychotherapy and self-help are a bit cringy. Find out more about Matt on his website, matthewsboone.com. Related Episodes: Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff Episode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Episode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Episode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran
Choosing to Live Your Values
It’s only the second week of the New Year, and many of us have already failed at (or given up on) achieving our New Year’s Resolutions. We often rely on sheer willpower to achieve these types of goals. However, willpower simply isn’t enough. On this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Benjamin Schoendorff, co-author of The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion, discuss the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) matrix. The matrix is a complex therapeutic tool used to help clients contact experiences which keep them from living in ways that serve their values. In this episode, Benjamin breaks down the ACT matrix in a way that is accessible for all. Grab a cup of coffee, and join us to learn, practice, and grow today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Yael’s take on the ACT matrix, what it is, and how it’s helped them to live in ways that serve their values Benji’s expert definition of psychological flexibility Some practical exercises you can use to become more psychologically flexible right now Benji’s breakdown of each quadrant in the matrix and what they represent About Diana’s personal experience working through the matrix How the ACT matrix can be helpful for couples, parents, organizations, achieving New Years Resolutions, and much more! What the “Dead Man Rule” is and how it might be impacting your mental health Why values are often more important than willpower when it comes to achieving your goals What ‘loops’ and ‘hooks’ are and how we get stuck in them (and how to behave in service of your values instead!) Benji’s personal explanation of how moving through the ACT matrix influenced his spiritual practice Resources: Books Benji co-authored, The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix : A Step-by-Step Approach to Using the Act Matrix Model in Clinical Practice and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion: Tools for Fostering Psychological Flexibility Paperback – Illustrated, December 1, 2014 Connect with The Contextual Psychology Institute Read more on what the ACT matrix is (and see what it looks like) here: https://contextualscience.org/act_matrix Register for Diana’s free, weekly meditation course here: https://drdianahill.com/tuesday-teachings/ Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Benjamin Schoendorff: Benji Schoendorff Benjamin Schoendorff is a licensed psychologist and international trainer living near Montreal. Benji has a passion for helping people get unstuck and move toward valued living and travels the world over to train clinicians from all backgrounds in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP). In addition to his clinical and training practice, he currently researches ACT in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as part of the Montreal university mental health institute. As an author and trainer, Benji is renowned for his down-to-earth, authentic, relationship-centered and deeply compassionate style. He believes effective science-based methods to get unstuck are too precious to remain confined to academia and has made it his life mission to disseminate them in an engaging and easily accessible way. Simple, but not simplistic. Benji dreams of a scientific psychology in the service of spreading love, peace and understanding. He has written books and chapters in French and English including co-authoring The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion. Episode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Episode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Episode 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Dr. Judson Brewer Episode 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard
How to Be an Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo
Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. These five words (Richo's "Five A’s") are necessary ingredients to any healthy relationship, but many of us don’t start off with them in our relationship pantry. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Yael is joined by Dr. Dave Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Join us as Yael and Dave discuss the power of the Five A’s. You'll learn how fulfilling these needs affects both our personal growth and our behavior in relationships. So grab your partner (and your ingredients!), and join Yael and Dave today to learn more about how to be an adult in your relationship. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s real life hacks to meeting “The Five A’s” What makes Dave's, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, so enduringly helpful for people Dave’s expert breakdown of the ideal goals for adults in relationships Professional, evidence-based advice for how to (healthily) orient around “The Five A’s” in your relationship How your childhood experiences may be impacting your relationship The way mindfulness applies to relationships Dave's approach to productively reframing and working with blame and feelings of rage towards your partner About avoiding landslides of grief in relationships when years-old mountains of ill will loom nearby (and why it’s important to fully experience that grief instead!) Practical exercises for reframing your orientation in unhealthy relationships How Dave and Yael might apply “The Five A’s” and some of Dave’s tools in therapy with a couple (READ: free thought-exercise for therapists listening in!) What to do when you’re feeling unloved or unlovable Resources: Dave’s book, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving Dave's book, Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh The New York Times breakdown of Harry Potter, So You Know Nothing About ‘Harry Potter’? Let’s Catch You Up About Dave Richo: David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. One of his best sellers, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, is going to be coming into its 20th anniversary this fall. Find out more about Dr. Richo on his website, davericho.com. Related Episodes: Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKay Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky
Slowing Down, Timeshifting and Reflecting
Ending a tumultuous year like 2020 calls for slowing down and reflecting. In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a pause to answer some end of year questions. Then they share their hopes for the New Year. Afterwards, Diana chats with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen who is the author of Timeshifting. He is a co-founder of the Omega Institute and Blue Spirit Costa Rica. During the conversation, we explore slowing down, finding intention, and trusting the process. Happy holidays and blessings for a healthy New Year in 2021 from all of us at Psychologists Off the Clock! Resources for Slowing Down and Reflecting: Check out Diana’s 20 Journal Prompts to Close 2020 on Instagram @drdianahillTimeshifting by Stephan RechtschaffenHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. KendiThe Brave Learner by Julie BogartNeurodharma by Rick HansonSlow by Brooke McAlaryAnne Lamott on business and how to find timeResearch on time perception and the pandemicNPR story on how the pandemic has changed our sense of time Stephan Rechtschaffen M.D. About Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D.: Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D. founded Blue Spirit Costa Rica and co-founded the renowned Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. He is a nationally recognized holistic physician who lectures on health, wellness, nutrition, longevity, and time. For decades, he has been involved in developing communities that model sustainable and spiritual dimensions of living a more wholesome and authentic lifestyle. He is a coauthor of Vitality and Wellness and author of Timeshifting, a book that focuses on one’s relationship to time and stress amidst the quickening pace of modern life. These interests have drawn him to living and working in the more mindful and slower paced environment of Blue Spirit in Costa Rica. 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam139. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart
Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne
We humans are pretty good at learning from experience, and it turns out, it’s not all in our heads — it’s in our bodies too! In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Rebekkah LaDyne explains how both our minds and our bodies learn from stressful experiences. Rebekkah talks with our co-host, Debbie, about how undersupported, overwhelming, and unwanted life events can dictate how we respond to future stress and overwhelm. The learning that takes place in those events can get in the way of effective responding for years to come. Bring your mind and your body, and join us in this episode to learn some body-based practices to help you more effectively respond to stress and overwhelm! In this Podcast You'll Learn: About Rebekkah, Diana, and Debbie’s personal experiences with stress and overwhelm How day-to-day stress is different from overwhelm About the process of becoming overwhelmed and what to do when/if you’re thereRebekkah’s expert breakdown of hyper-activation, hypo-activation, and functional activationWhat’s actually happening and what to do when it feels like you’re spinning out The important differences between freeze, fight, and flight mode and how they affect you physiologicallyWhy “thinking your way out” of overwhelm doesn’t work and a few (expert-approved) methods that doRebekkah’s empirically-based approach to dealing with stress and overwhelm Practical exercises for returning to a felt sense of ease and well-being Resources Rebekkah’s book, The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-BeingCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit for all sorts of self-care goodness! Rebekkah LaDyne About Rebekkah LaDyne Rebekkah has spent twenty-five years in the field of embodied well-being. After working in therapeutic mindfulness for 15 years, she studied Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University and conducted clinical research in somatic self-regulation. Based on her research in mind-body medicine, her comprehensive training with the Somatic Experiencing Institute, and her decades of professional experience, she authored The Mind-Body Stress Reset, with a foreword by Kathy Kain and endorsed by Peter Levine. In addition to her book, she has recorded several wellness CDs, appears on the radio, and YouTube. As a somatic wellness specialist, she meets with clients online from all over the globe in her. Rebekkah lives with her husband, two daughters, and their puppy-dog in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can learn more about Rebekkah on her website. Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert Episode 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnisEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges