Since raising a daughter, I’ve become more sensitive to women’s experience in dating men. So I invited on my friends Reece and Efia to get a bit of female perspective. Reece and Efia are coaches who met in a women’s mystery school in Spain. We met in Mexico last year. We discuss dating, relationships, gender role culture, and the female version of Nice Guy Syndrome. [Video Excerpt] Two Kinds of Women? Nice Gal Syndrome in Dating (Full episode in audio only) Reece: mamanourish.co IG: @mamanourish_ Efia: yamayelore.com IG: @yamayelorecoaching Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Josh Hatcher of Manlihood and I connected earlier this summer to discuss about man stuff. But once I found out he was a father of four adults (and grandfather), I had to pick his brain on his role in his family. Here’s a video preview of our talk. (Full episode is in audio/podcast only) Check out his stuff at manlihood.com ruwando.com/archetype (Still includes coaching call with me) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I was raised both Buddhist and Catholic. Neither really stuck. I spent my twenties being “spiritual but not religious”. And otherwise prioritizing individuality over cultural constraints. However for the first time as an adult, I’m seeing the value of traditional religion. I don’t think I’m alone in that. Global culture is at an inflection point. After centuries of moving towards secularism, many seem to be returning to tradition. Especially for those interested in personal development, religion may be the next unexpected step. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Muslim and Christian families uniting in protest shows us a historical pattern of ideological conflict. Read article version at ruwando.substack.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Sexual desire is one of the few places where individual nature will hold out against collective culture. (Comedy being the other big one.) Most of my life I’ve been focused on the importance of individual expression over collective “oppression.” My explorations in sexuality have been a part of that. But lately (since having a family) I’ve been seeing the great value of the other side— there’s a lot to be gained from “belonging” to a greater framework, even at the expense of some individuality. So I was particularly interested in speaking with Yuval. Yuval is a sex educator who came from a Orthodox Jewish background. We speak about the tradeoff of sex and culture, taboos in human relating, and other interesting threads. His work: https://yuvalman.com/ Archetype Challenge: https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I’m joined by my friend Vicente, one of the psychotherapists who run Iboga Quest, an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. This conversation was shortly after I attended one of his retreats. We speak about mindfulness, plant medicine, psychotherapy, and how to change your mind. https://ibogaquest.com/ Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

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Religion seems to be making a comeback. Whereas most self help and pop psychology of the 90’s was more about blaming religious oppression, now it seems to be weaving back into personal development. I personally have become more interest in tradition lately. And I’ve been curious to speak with someone who knows both of these worlds. I met Issa a few months ago in a coaching program. He’s a YouTuber who covers similar topics to me. He’s also Muslim. He and I discuss culture, psychology, principles for creative entrepreneurs. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Relationships are expensive. And men with options have less reason to be in one than ever before. This episode is on 1) how women can reverse that trend, 2) how men can overcome the internal dilemma. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

My old friend Brian Begin, of TrueCourage (formerly Fearless Man), joins us in a pivotal moment of his life. He shares about recent grief and the lessons he learned from it. Also on recreating your self and your life. As always I got a ton of inspiration chatting with him. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I’ve done a lot of things in the world of men’s personal development. But there’s nothing that has positively impacted me as much as combat sports. Here’s how: References: The Hour Between Dog and Wolf (Coates) Arousal and Physiological Toughness (Dienstbier) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Culture encourages us to stay “young” (because then we make better consumers). This can be especially troublesome for men. And most men (including me) probably have some inner conflict related to that. Patrick and I discuss “Peter Pan Syndrome”— When a grown man is stuck in elements of “boy psychology”. Referencing Carl Jung, and Marie Louise von Franz's The Problem of the Puer Aeternus (1959) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Captain Sinbad is my favorite Youtuber in the personal development space. So I hired him as a coach. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Last month I noticed my mind was going in a bad direction. At moments I thought I was depressed, and maybe I was. But I realized there was a lot within my mental state that was well within my control. So I decided to do a little lifestyle challenge following the principles of one of my historical role models— the Miyamoto Musashi. This video covers the 21 principles of Dokkodo alongside my 3 week routine: Btw, I’m revamping the Archetype Challenge to include some new content along with a physical journal. Which means next month the price will increase. If you want to get it at the old price, sign up now :). Still comes with a free coaching session. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype (The old page will be replaced mid-June.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Alex Petkas is the host of The Cost of Glory Podcast— which I discovered while researching for History of Man episodes III and IV and thoroughly enjoy. He’s was formerly a Classics Professor. We speak about what we can learn from the great men of history and developing your ethos. Ancient Life Coach Substack Rome - Speak Lead Retreat Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

How “truthful” should you be in your relationship? In a committed relationship, that’s actually the wrong way to ask the question… This episode covers a man’s role in influencing the shared perceptions (viz: Magician Archetype). We’ll look at it through different lenses such as “controlling frame” (Red Pill) vs. shared meaning-making (nation-building). (This was recorded before my concussion and I literally forgot about it till now.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us. However if you’ve “inherited” undesirable patterns, or see them spreading in your family, you can be the one to interrupt them. Noelfry rejoins the podcast to share a recent experience of disrupting his familial patterns. Btw, I’m back on Youtube: Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis). Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure. Ruwando Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.) Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc. We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it. But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain practices. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up” Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation, I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest. Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship. If you’re a man with a history of unfulfilling relationships, choosing the wrong women, or general Nice Guy BS, listen to this one. We cover his roadmap of transformation the last 18 months, changing of archetypes, how to use your body to recognize truth, narcissistic PD, and what it really means to be King. Want to embark on a similar journey? Check out the Masculine Archetype Challenge, the 21 day program to summon the dormant parts of your masculinity: It still comes with a 1:1 coaching call with me. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe