The Radical Humanist
About this podcast
A podcast that believes in your right to live free of the social and emotional constraints that limit the human potential.
About this podcast
A podcast that believes in your right to live free of the social and emotional constraints that limit the human potential.
The Radical Humanist
What is Art and How Does it Heal?
Bay Area artist and longtime fiend Mike D'Amelio check in from the West Coast to discuss all things art. What sparks his artistic fire. What fuels his creative drive. And how art can inspire, influence, and ultimately heal. Learn more about Mike on his website: https://mikedamelio.com
Picking Up Where We Left Off- Part 2
Part 2 of me playing catch up with listener mail. Tune in and hear all about how to design your life, why Americans are, by and large, by and large, why I'm obsessed with male nudity and all kinds of other handy shit to make you a well rounded, grateful human being. Plus, maybe learn a thing or two about managing your expectations of others.
Picking Up Where We Left Off- Part 1
Hot Damn it's been a tick since I last recorded. And even longer since I caught up with the listeners. I sincerely apologize about that. Honestly I do. And I'm promising to do better. Been working out some kinks, some bugs, some glitches, some mishaps, some malfunctions, a few snags, one or two setbacks and a snafu. But I think I've gotten everything under control...for now...as much as any one person can actually control anything in this world....Chaos Theory...ammirite? Anyway, I spend the bulk of this episode catching up on listener mail. Everything from marriage advice to Bigfoot and all kinds of compelling conversations in-between. A veritable mishmash smorgasbord collection of questions, answers, suggestions, and ridiculously out of date cultural references. So do yourself a favor...and me as well, settle back, strap in, and hold on tight, because here's Catching Up With The Listeners ( that's you! ) Part 1. And thanks for your patience and continued support. It means the world - and then some - to me.
Trust Your Fucking Instincts!
For years, I chased things. Money, prestige, a fancy and respected job title. I was chasing other people to get ahead of them and be more “successful”. I fell in line with what others chased. I was in this big race to get ahead of everyone else no matter what. And it led me down a path to nowhere. Because no matter what I get or where I finish in the race, it means nothing. The prize is still death whether I’m leading or I’m in last. That’s how it ends. You don’t get a do-over, you don’t get to rewind parts you regret. It’s a one-shot deal. The problem was the entrance fee for this race was expensive. Because it cost me my happiness. This chase I was on led me down a path of being miserable with my life and myself. And all I could do was look forward to that death which was inevitable.
I'm a Passenger in My Own Life
Do you ever feel like life is passing you by? That you’re just sitting on the sidelines waiting for life to happen while other people live their lives to the fullest? No matter what you do, you feel as if you’re not in control, that someone else is in the “driver’s seat” maneuvering you through all of life’s most difficult situations. Life is full of adventure that is scary but also exciting; in order to fully enjoy life, you have to conquer your fears in order to find your way back to the “driver’s seat.” Sitting in the “passenger seat” of your own life for too long is a very dangerous game. Letting someone have control over every little aspect of your life gives the person in control too much power, creating strains on the foundations of your relationship with them. If you let someone, anyone, have power over you for too long, you begin to lose the most important thing in your life: your self-identity. So in order to get out of the “passenger seat” and back into the “driver’s seat” of your life, you need to recognize that you are no longer in control and make time for things that make you happy.
The Inconvenient Truth about Your “Authentic” Self
The Inconvenient Truth about Your “Authentic” Self To actually feel authentic, you might have to betray your true nature. Everyone wants to be authentic. You want to be true to yourself, not a slavish follower of social expectations. You want to “live your best life,” pursuing your particular desires, rather than falling in line with whatever everyone else thinks happiness requires. Studies have even shown that feelings of authenticity can go hand in hand with numerous psychological and social benefits: higher self-esteem, greater well-being, better romantic relationships and enhanced work performance. But authenticity is a slippery thing. Although most people would define authenticity as acting in accordance with your idiosyncratic set of values and qualities, research has shown that people feel most authentic when they conform to a particular set of socially approved qualities, such as being extroverted, emotionally stable, conscientious, intellectual and agreeable. This is the paradox of authenticity: In order to reap the many of the benefits of feeling authentic, you may have to betray your true nature.
Empathy is the ability to recognize, understand, and share the thoughts and feelings of another person, animal, or fictional character. Developing empathy is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. It involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, and enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced. Developing Empathy Empathy helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied. Humans begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence. Still, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for people like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race. Why is empathy important? Empathy helps us connect and help others, but like other traits, it may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a “social antenna” to help detect danger. From an evolutionary perspective, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving. Empathy is an enormous concept. Renowned psychologists Daniel Goleman and Paul Ekman have identified three components of empathy: Cognitive, Emotional and Compassionate. By learning how to empathize with your friends, coworkers, and those around you, using these three types of empathy, you build stronger relationships and trust. Cognitive: “Simply knowing how the other person feels and what they might be thinking. Sometimes called perspective-taking.” If you imagine yourself in your friend’s shoes, you know she is likely to be feeling sad, as well as anxious because she relies on that income to pay her student loans. However, having only cognitive empathy keeps you at a distance from your friend. To truly connect with your friend, you need to share their feelings. This is where emotional empathy comes in. Emotional: “When you feel physically along with the other person, as though their emotions were contagious.” This type of empathy can also extend to physical sensations, which is why we cringe when someone else stubs their toe. In this case, you would look inwards to identify a situation where you were similarly anxious about the future. The situation itself need not be identical, as each individual is different. What’s important is that the emotions resulting from the situation are the same. So, you’ve successfully understood what your friend is feeling, and put yourself in a similar emotional space. Now what? Well, you can use the insights gleaned from Cognitive and Emotional empathy to have Compassionate Empathy. Compassionate: “With this kind of empathy we not only understand a person’s predicament and feel with them, but are spontaneously moved to help, if needed.” It is the balance between Cognitive and Emotional Empathy that enables us to act without being overcome with feeling or jumping straight into a problem solving process. *source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/empathy *source: https://takecasper.com/2020/06/empathy-1/
What is Resilience? Life may not come with a map, but everyone will experience twists and turns, from everyday challenges to traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident, or a serious illness. Each change affects people differently, bringing a unique flood of thoughts, strong emotions and uncertainty. Yet people generally adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful situations—in part thanks to resilience. Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth. While these adverse events, much like rough river waters, are certainly painful and difficult, they don’t have to determine the outcome of your life. There are many aspects of your life you can control, modify, and grow with. That’s the role of resilience. Becoming more resilient not only helps you get through difficult circumstances, it also empowers you to grow and even improve your life along the way.
Finding Your Purpose is BULLSHIT
Ever see somebody online offering to help you "Find Your Purpose?" All for just the low low price of 3 easy payments of $89.95, you too can not only discover, but excel at the thing you were put on this Earth to do! Snake Oil my friends. New Age hucksterism. Flim Flam and Humbug. Wanna know why the whole idea of "Finding Your Purpose" is nothing more than a marketing gimmick meant to separate you from your cash? Tune in to this episode.
How well do you really know yourself? We are all aware of the things that society wants us to do, or the people our families want us to be. Sometimes, it's easy to get caught up in projections of who we are; losing touch with our core values, needs, and desires. And if you don't know yourself very well, it's difficult to choose a life path that makes you feel happy and fulfilled. You may also find yourself getting into relationships that don't really suit you, or you may feel lonely because no one really knows the “real” you. The Importance Of Self Awareness Increased self-awareness has wide-ranging positive ramifications. However, one of its most important consequences is increased emotional intelligence. When you're more emotionally intelligent, you're better able to identify and manage your feelings as they come up, neither repressing them nor being lost in them. Emotionally intelligent people are also more at peace with who they really are, focusing more on meeting their own standards than the standards set by others. Self-awareness and high emotional intelligence are also correlated with greater levels of success. For example, recent psychological studies indicate that many top business leaders have both of these traits, and that plays a key role in their continued achievements. So, whether you want to excel in your job, are looking to improve the most important relationships in your life or just want to feel more at peace with your own company, you have a lot to gain from working on self-awareness.
You Have to Keep Moving Forward
A special Mike-Ro episode. I answer a heart-wrenching email from a listener named "Jessica" ( no, not her real name ) and relate it back to my own personal experiences. To anyone that's struggling, to anyone that can only see the darkness, to anyone that feels like they can't go on any longer, please know there's more out there. Yes the world can seem like a cold and unjust place. It's not always easy and sometimes things happen without warning, explanation or reason. There is never a reason to give up. Never a reason to give in. We pick ourselves up. It's what we do. And if we fall, we fall. That's ok. But we stand up and try again. We take a small step. Forward. Always, always forward. I IMPLORE everyone..anyone that is struggling, please listen and share. If you are feeling suicidal, thinking about hurting yourself, or concerned that someone you know may be in danger of hurting himself or herself, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. It is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And is staffed by certified crisis professionals.
Happy New Year! ...sorry, I realize I'm a little late with this episode. Technical issues, health scares, political upheaval, social unrest, UFO sightings, Bigfoot encounters, bad shellfish, and night terrors got in the way of a timely release. By the way, "Timely Release" was the theme of my junior prom. Annnnnyway.... If you saw the video I posted last week ( as seen here: https://www.facebook.com/theradicalhumanist/videos/227320832344784 ) You know this week's episode deals with resolutions. Why we make them. How to keep them. Do we even really want to do them? On and on so forth so yadda yadda. So sit down, turn on, tune up and dig in. Lets get to it. Yer pal, Michael Vee
"Hey man...not cool. You need to get woke." "Look at them, trying to act all woke." "Get Woke - Go Broke." Like “politically correct” before it, the word “woke” has come to connote the opposite of what it means. Technically, going by the Merriam-Webster dictionary’s definition, woke means “aware of and actively attentive to important facts and issues (especially issues of racial and social justice)”, but today we are more likely to see it being used as a stick with which to beat people who aspire to such values, often wielded by those who don’t recognise how un-woke they are, or are proud of the fact. First used in the 1940s, the term “woke” has resurfaced in recent years as a concept that symbolises awareness of social issues and movement against injustice, inequality, and prejudice. But popularity has diluted its meaning and the idea has been cynically applied to everything from soft drink to razors, attracting criticism if too liberally applied. One recent stretch for this term is the New Yorker magazine’s headline for a story about a vegan chef’s output, which read: What’s in a Woke McRib? Being woke was originally associated with black Americans fighting racism, but has been appropriated by other activist groups – taking it from awareness and blackness to a colourless and timeless phenomenon. It's time to bury the word "Woke" once and for all.
Guess who's back??? That's right, it's Dr. Thomas Coleman - C.O.L.E.M.A.N. Straight off the operating table and into your hearts. You'll be happy to know that his/her gender reassignment surgery was a complete success. He's now 37% more masculine. Which is pretty goddamn impressive considering he used to cry tears of pure Sriracha before this. All meat, no potatoes, Tom is back in his co-hosting chair and we're catching up. Tune in and find out what's been going on. How we're both doing. And what the hell is up with the McRib sandwich anyway??
Habits man....fucking habits. We've all got em'. Some good...some bad...some you wanna hug and squeeze...some you wanna put in a sack and throw into the ocean. Let's talk about them all. Identify the positive habits while acknowledging the negative ones. Chose to accept or learn how to course correct. It's all up to you.
For the Listeners! THANK YOU!!!
Hello to all of you Radical Humanists We recently reached another milestone in terms of downloads with the last episode on goals. If you haven’t checked it out, now would be a good time. Well, not now….listen to this episode THEN go listen to that one....gotta stay on track here. So this week I thought I’d do something a little different. I decided to toss out the topic I was going to cover ( don't worry, we'll get to it next week ) and instead, dedicate an entire episode to you. The listeners. Because without you, I'm, just a madman screaming out into the air about motorcycles and breakfast cereal. I’m calling this my Listener Appreciation Special Extravaganza Hoedown Fun Time Jubilee Episode: Volume 1 I cover everything from anxiety and depression, to life-changing decisions, to UFO encounters. It's an emotional rollercoaster so strap yourselves in, hold on to the safety bar, keep your arms and legs inside the car at all times, and enjoy. A sincere and humble THANK YOU to everyone that's stuck with us. You all fucking rock.
Remember that one glorious night not too long ago when you were pumped full of booze and big ideas? You promised yourself you would accomplish <insert goal here>, and nothing was going to stop you. And then you shouted something inaudible above the crowd to your friends, kissed a random stranger and then danced the night away. Yep, that night. It’s now time for a pulse check. How are you doing on <insert goal here>? Have you accomplished it? Are you at least on your way to accomplishing it? Let’s hypothetically say that you gave up on the goal you set for yourself. Or maybe you’ve since set more goals (the less vetted versions of these are called dreams) and now you’re sitting there wasting away doing nothing about them. We set goals of all calibers for ourselves every single day. We’re not setting goals for our health (some of you are), we’re setting goals because we want to become better versions of ourselves or we want to upgrade our life experiences. We have personally selected these milestones as a way to make it happen. There’s a reason you want to accomplish these things, so respect that desire and do something about it. You can turn this train around if you commit yourself to doing it. Here are six tricks that may help.
Dissociation and Depersonalization
Dissociation is a disconnection between a person's sensory experience, thoughts, sense of self, or personal history. People may feel a sense of unreality and lose their connection to time, place, and identity. Dissociation can range from a mild sense of detachment to a more severe disconnection from reality.