The Sunday Soother

162: A small trick to begin recovering from people-pleasing

What's up my fellow people-pleasers, this one goes out to you. Codependency and people-pleasing stem from, at their core, a lack of identity. One of the primary ways a codependent struggles is because we never had the chance to develop a sense of identity that is independent of what others think of us. As we recover from people-pleasing and codependency, one small but effective shift is to start a daily practice of noticing when you're asking externally motivated questions ("What do they want, what do they need, what are they thinking about me?") and shift them to questions that are centered on the self. Have you asked yourself what you need today? What you'd like today? What would feel good today? Start there, and let the path unfold in front of you. That's what today's episode is all about and how to start building these questions into your life. The waitlist for Secretly Ambitious, the 12-week business course for highly sensitive people who want to start their own business but don't know how, is now open! By signing up for the waitlist you'll get $100 off the course when it opens in July. The Sunday Soother is a spin-off of The Sunday Soother, a weekly newsletter that creates conversations around compassionate personal development and helps readers access their spirituality and mindfulness in practical, actionable ways. You can find Catherine @candrews on Twitter and Instagram @catherineandrews, and her coaching website is catherinedandrews.com.